Tinman1960


Tinmancny Male Dominant, 55, Rochester, New York	tinmans63 Male Dominant, 42, Appleton, Wisconsin	tinman22 Male Dominant, 36, Budapest

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	About Tinman1960 Ohio Dominate male(widower) , seeks female sub/slave for real time, long term committment and possibly more for the right submissive/slave. No Games or Bull. I am the REAL DEAL and seek the same - I WANT IT ALL - do you ? 20+ yrs in the life and not interested in a vanilla relationship by itself, but vanilla aspects in any relationship is expected and acceptable to a degree. know your limits and know what you want - I do. You can search forever and not find what you truely want unless you are first and foremost honest with yourself. Know what you want and need - then search and not settle for less. If you are tired of the fakes, liers and wannabes like I am - maybe we should get together....do what you have always done and the results will always be the same - if you want change - start at the beginning and make some changes. There are roses amoung the thorns...find the passion. While it is good to have a hobby, it is much better if that hobby is also your lifestyle...No lies, no head games, no bs. I am real and expect you to be as well. I am firm but fair - if that is not what you are looking for - please keep going - you will not change who and what I am. When I say "I want it all" I mean exactly that. I do not believe in loveless relationships or meaningless sex and one night stands. I am a romantic at heart and sincerely believe it does not make me any the less dominate. I can be firm, strict and demanding yet fair at the same time - I also believe that any good Dominate will "listen" to what his sub/slave has to say as well as what they do not say or do... While all subs and slaves have much in common it must be understood that no two are the same - each are unique individuals with very unique and different needs, wants and desires. As such, each must be delt with according to their individuaity.While some things may work for all, it would be a serious mistake to believe that the individual uniqueness can be ignored and a generic method of treatment or training can be applied to all submissives or slaves. I recogonize and celebrate the uniqueness of the individual. To learn more about me, my opinions/beliefs etc. please feel free to read my journal enteries. Tinman120860(at yahoo.com)

For what it is worth...while I am somewhat old school, I will not usually initiate contact with a new submissive except to say hello or something equally similiar. While many feel that the Dominate should be the one making the first move - I believe it should be just the opposite. If the submissive makes their choice - relating that they are interested in submitting to the Dominate - the Dom in turn can accept that submission or take the submissive under consideration...or politely decline. This is my compromise to Women's Lib... Also,and more importantly, as the father of 2 (adult) submissive daughters, I understand how overwhelming it can be for women to fend off the unbelievable number of so called Dominates that come foreward demanding they submit sight unseen. Women have choices until they choose to give them up - I respect that and refuse to act like a dog chasing a bitch in heat. My mother was a submissive, my wife was a submissive then slave, and I have grown daughters that are submissives - every female submissive is someone's daughter and possibly mother - and should be treated with the respect due them - IMHO.

SPECIAL NOTE: It is not, never has been and never will be my goal to intentionally offend anyone with my journal writings, therefore, I will not apologize to anyone for anything I have written. If you are offended I can only say this: "Shame on you for giving me that power"...

Loyality is but a part of what makes D/s so remarkable...In truth, I believe it is the heart and sincere committment of the submissive which inspires the Dominate to loyality; coupled with the understanding of each other's true and natural roles within the dynamics of the relationship - thus, we know who and what we are and accept ourselves in those roles. Often-times, in a typical vanilla relationship, the individual is at odds with their partner because the roles are not as clearly defined and, many times, not in tuned with one's true nature. O/one will never know true happiness or contentment being something or someone they are not.Well, thats my opinion anyway and if you disagree, that is your right.

Old School vs New Age - no comparison ! I grew up in the lifestyle as my parents were "OLD SCHOOL D/s" my concern is that the old ways are becoming lost, sanatized and bastardized with New Age Protocols and Vanilla Frosting in order to draw in New Blood. I am not against change when the changes are an improvement or when changes are needed - but what I am seeing are changes for the sake of social acceptance, political correctness and to be fashionably cool; the modern D/s relationships suffer like their vanilla counterparts because the basic premise for a committed D/s relationship with traditional roles become confused with ultra liberal ideals and values. While I agree that this is a free society and we are all entitled to live our lives according to the way we see fit, I do not agree that what we are seeing fits my definition or idea of "D/s"... nor those claiming to be Doms or submissives are what I know those terms to be or mean...this new age D/s seems strangely vanilla to me...and the new D/s relationships just vanilla with kink. Maybe I am just old fashion - but thats me - and I will never appologize for being me or voicing my opinion; its a free country with free speech - so they say

GUNS DO NOT KILL PEOPLE, BUT HUSBANDS THAT COME HOME EARLY DO AND WIVES THAT WANT TO SPEND YOUR LIFE INSURANCE HIRE LOVERS TO DO IT FOR THEM....sad but true....

Respectful pms always welcome - regardless of room rules.

Unfortunately, in this lifestyle as well as others, some people are desperate and stupid - a serious and possibly dangerious combination...think before you jump into a relationship with anyone - ANYONE regardless of how great they look or sound - caution first - lust later...

All too often many in this lifestyle become followers - believing what someone else tells them is right or wrong - or as a Dom or sub they should do this or feel that way...Bravo to all those not easily lead by others - Dom or sub !!!! Being a sub does not mean you need to forget how to think for yourself.

"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."

Age means little after 40 but the ability of ones heart to love means everything - at any age.

I have been asked if I would care to train a sub/slave for somebody else....While this practice may be acceptable in many LIFESTYLE circles, I have no desire to train another for anyone else. Each Dom or Master has their own desires and/or wants and needs from a sub/slave - my opinion is one should train according to one's own desires/wants/needs. If you are incapable of training then perhaps you should be trained first. It is the Old School way - the way I learned and fully endorse... Even a plumber has to serve a apprentiship - they don't become plumbers by rite of birth or passage; the school of hard knocks can be too dangerious for whomever falls prey to the inexperienced trainer. Serve an apprentiship or be mentored - for safety sake...

There is a proverb - and what splendid things proverbs are - there is one, I say, which maintains that the appetite is restored by eating. This proverb, coarse, nay, vulgar though it be, has none the less a very extensive significance: to wit, that, by dint of performing horrors, one's desire to commit additional ones is whetted, and that the more of them one commits, the more of them one desires.

Anybody that says this isn't about sex isn't being real - to some extent it is always about sex - or sexual pleasure... but it is not "just about sex". I enjoy being me - and if my submissive enjoys being who she is - all the better - but eventually it does come down to sex - the icing on the cake of life and/ or a committed, loving relationship - yes, for me, love does enter into the picture - otherwise even the sex is meaningless - but thats my opinion of course - with your story tell it anyway you want.

I want it all - anything wrong with that ? if you can't serve on your knees - keep walking,, I know what I want and you should too - or at least explore the many possibilities .... try it you may like it but don't say you hate something you have never tried...and if you don't know your hard limits - you need lots of help - and luck. NO PROFILE, NO CHAT. Be real - I am.

Be respectful of others and and most of all,be honest - why play games if you are not really interested in someone ?
So many players and games in the world - this lifestyle doesn't need more.

We are what and who we are - to deny that is to deny the facts of life. Be happy in who you are and others will accept you. If they do not, they were not worth knowing anyway; make it there loss - it is not yours.

If you are not in N.E. Ohio save us both a lot of time - I am only interested in becoming involved with locals within 50-60 miles of the Warren/Youngstown area.. thanks.

I am open to respectful private messages and e-mails - anytime.

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