thewhiteowl

it is easy to see why it is so difficult to meet anyone on this site. from a male Dom's perspective, here's how it goes...

for every 200, personally written (obviously over time), non cut and paste messages you send out (adding up the sum of all the parts, this is alot of time and care put into just trying for first contact) you may receive one or 2 responses. of say about every 5 of these  responses...

3 might be complete frauds that get angry when asked for mutual verification. calling you names then banning you so that you cannot even respond

1 will be someone that you talk to for a while, put genuine effort into attempting to feel the person out and gauge if they are a match for you (seems a reasonable endeavor to attempt to asses the mental state of someone and gauge the overall compatibility of someone who you may at some point want to meet in real life or even actually have come live in your home), only to be accused in the end of not being a real Dom because you have tried to get to know a little about them.

the last one is likely to simply say thanks but no thanks or something similar.

a ton of time and effort for nothing, especially considering there are so many subs on here stating that they are looking for a genuine situation...

meanwhile, a majority of the subs/slaves out there have descriptions that talk in depth about how hard it is to find a real, genuine Dom that will take time and get to know them before jumping into anything serious, and who will treat them with respect.

and at the same time, those same submissive's have a page a mile long about everything that THEY want done for THEM, on top of another mile long page about things that piss them off.

(all of this is confusing to say the least)

throw in all the vitriol and name calling and you have a very interesting cocktail

now this being said, I am in no way saying that I will give up my own personal search, or that anyone else give up theirs. I am simply saying that its no wonder why most of the Dom's on this site put no effort into their attempts of contact, or why they seem bitter and angry.

Lastly, I do firmly believe in old guard tenets. one of which is that the submissive or slave, usually petitions the Dom to be in service to him/her not the other way around. but in the 2+ years that I have been on CM I have yet to receive so much as even one unsolicited hello from anyone of the submissive persuasion. probably a product of the ratio of aggressive males vs submissive females on here but still an interestingly disappointing factoid.

ahh well...just my 2 cents. happy hunting everyone!

She looked up at me through her eyelashes, coyly kneeling naked on the bed. "Master, what are you planning for me tonight" I do not answer but note the hesitation on her breath. she is worried I am in a sadistic mood and probably feeling that I will push her through something she does not want to do. I still say nothing. I turn and rummage through our gear for a moment, then a grating sound as I pull a chain lead through the metal hitching ring above the headboard. "Master?" I say nothing. I clip the lead onto her collar, knowing that the lead is short and will tighten her collar with even minimal movement, because it is a choker. I hand her a vibrator, the little U shaped kind that hits the g spot inside and the clitoris outside. "put this in turn it on and leave it" I say firmly and with a coldness. she shivers, looks at me again and inserts the toy. "yes master" I proceed to sit down where I can see if I like, but I ignore her anyway. I am waiting for the moment when she begins to squirm. it takes a while because I have left her alone, not touching her, or speaking to her but she finally begins to show signs of an orgasm building. "Do not cum under any circumstances" I order, again firmly, and again coldly. a small whimper issues forth and I repeat "I mean it" in a stern voice. another whimper and teeth clenched in defiant struggle with the orgasm building inside of her. I strip, taking my time, and climb into bed just out of reach of the lead and I touch her lightly. her whole body shudders, and I can see her hard nipples and her breasts heaving as she tries to keep from cumming. I slide closer and firmly grab her by the hair and order her onto her knees, thighs apart like an Eiffel tower made of flesh. another whimper. reaching up I put my hand firmly around her neck and guide her head down to my waiting cock. I remind her again not to cum and order her to open her mouth. I force her head down so the head of my cock is in her mouth but I tell her I do not wish to feel her mouth or tongue on me at all. I do this knowing that she wants to suck me but I will not let her have it. her body begins quaking with the effort of holding back the orgasm as her collar tightens because of where I am positioned and she is almost crying because she wants to suck me. I tease her by stroking myself and allowing the head to softly bump her bottom lip, chastising her every time she tries to touch it with her tongue and every time she begs me to let her have it. after I feel she is sufficiently frenzied I finally tell her to put my cock all the way down her throat so we can cum together. as her mouth engulfs me I order her to cum, telling her that I want to hear her squirt. just as I begin to cum into her greedy mouth I hear her squirting down her leg and onto the bed. her orgasm starts to subside so I order her to keep cumming. every time I say "come now!" her body visibly bucks and more sticky quim squirts from her pussy until our bed is soaked with a giant puddle of her cum. dazedly she looks up at me, clearly in subspace, then looks to her hand. the one she had been using to hold the toy in, that is now covered in her own cum all the way up to her elbow. I tell her that she is alright and order her to clean the bed and herself. dutifully she wipes herself down, changes all the covers and climbs back into bed. "now go to sleep" that was my last order for the night.

really great bdsm info here

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/generalbdsm.htm

collared and under consideration in no time flat, it boggles the mind the things that happen online. I would like to quote someone whose opinion I respect very much Mistress Steel"

"First I want to state clearly that in my opinion collaring is done ONLY in real life, between live people, ceremonially, joyously and celebrated. One does not get married online or on the phone and one does not collar online or on the phone. "

and

"The Dominant by offering this collar to the submissive is expressing an interest in pursuing a potential furthering of a relationship with that submissive beyond the range of a casual acquaintance or even the relationship between a Top and bottom. This collar is offered seriously and with intent. The submissive in accepting this collar from the Dominant is equally serious in their understanding that their relationship has moved into a different stage. The existence of the Collar of Consideration indicates to other Dominant's and submissives that the Dominant and submissive are forming a potentially serious relationship. It's existance acts to openly present to other Dominant's that this submissive is 'off-limits' for the duration of the 'consideration' period and that honorable Dominant's should not pursue this submissive in any manner. It is understood that new relationships are fragile and vulnerable to both parties involved. Respect for new relationships is shown by adhering to the presence of collars and their underlying meanings. The 'Collar of Consideration' does not indicate a lifelong commitment between the Dominant and submissive but might be better considered to be similar to a pre-engagement
ring."

I hope I don't get in trouble for pulling an exerp but I thought it was relevant and will take it down if you ask me Mistress Steel but something tells me youd appreciate me quoting you here...lol

so now directly from my mouth...period of consideration implies time.

i recommend just looking up mistress steel in open search her articles are really insightful for Doms and subs alike and also heres a link to the full article

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/steelformalcollar.htm

I love ordering my girl not to wear panties, then touching her lightly throughout her clothing from time to time, just to remind her that she is bare for me.

the night started off just how I intended. I had allowed my submissive to get playful with me, wrestling and such. I had a plan in mind from the start though (as I usually do) I had my ropes tucked under the edge of the bed. just as she made a grab for me, I whipped out a loop of rope and slung it round her wrists. a few quick loops and a hasty knot to the headboard and I no longer had her hands to think of. on to the wriggling body. I admit, I did take my time here, tickling and pinching, touching then withdrawing, but something just had to be done about her ability to squirm. a loop around the back of her knee, then around the headboard, a stout tug and all the sudden her knee is up by her ear. I repeated this process on the other side  to spread her open to me. now seemingly immobile i began to lick and tease my girl, but, no good. there was still too much mobility in her legs. I tie around an ankle, then under the bed to the other ankle, and now she can go no where. I opened up what I affectionately call my "kink arsenal" a large suitcase stuffed with hundreds of exciting toys paddles, floggers, chain, ect... and proceed to take my time choosing her pleasure. all the while, immobile, she lays just out of viewing range of my choosing, squirming in anticipation. this entire time she has not been allowed to speak or make noise, so i listen to her shortened gasps and tiny squeaks coming from the headboard as I make my choice. a very large multi function vibrator complete with rotating beads (its the one she says she thinks is too large for her) I slick it up with her own juices then proceed to push slowly but firmly into her pussy, watching her lips stretch to accommodate the massive toy. then a whimper in the darkness. I push further, all the while her hips try to buck away, and her arms and legs strain against the ropes. I reach a point where the toy is almost completely inside and can go no further. at this point I turn on the vibe first. slow. then work up through the levels of speed until she cries out unintentionally, cumming. i pick up my paddle and punish her for making noise that I had not approved, then turn on the rotating beads. fucking her hard with the vibrating rotating pulsating monster until I see droplets of her cum dribbling slowly from around the toy and onto her ass. I felt like my girl could take even more so I slowly began to push my cock into her pussy also just below the toy, small cries of i cant, i cant but I was too excited to punish her, and kept pushing forth. burying myself all the way with the toy. pushing faster and harder until I began to orgasm. her pussy filled with the massive toy, my cock, and what seemed gallons of my cum, I lay atop her trussed body until I had regained enough strength to untie her.

last night I whipped my submissive so hard that I broke 2 small whips. it was interesting to see her so far into subspace. I wanted to give her pleasure with her pain so I ordered her to begin cumming, then I would not allow her to stop. I made her lay there orgasming for roughly 5 minutes before I would touch her. by the time this was finished she was incoherent, eyes rolled into her head, so I began inflicting a bit more pain to her breasts. I paddled her with the broken whip handles until she began squirting, then I made her beg me to stop. I held her shaking form closely for the rest of the night, whispering how good she had been and how she had met my every expectation, and how proud i was over her dry sobs.  I would say it was a powerful scene.

I understand that a submissive still needs to know more than one line of info in an introductory email, but honestly when I see 200 angry ads that say "one liners wont be responded to" and "don't just call me a slut and tell me to call you sir before we have had more than one email"or some of the same such kind of thing, and then I write a heart felt introductions to not even receive a quick "read your mail, not interested" back. I am not exactly (nor is anyone else for that matter) enticed to waste  time on niceties. I guess it just seems to me to be obvious. If you want a Dom to give you his/her time and be respectful, charming, and full of information... maybe you should be too.

There are no freaks of nature, only people who find malicious labels.

I keep hearing about "tributes" I would like to think I have a fair bit of experience in the bdsm culture but I have no idea what these are, or why anyone would require  them...enlighten me please.