1. if you say something, mean it, don't back down or give in. Once you start doing that the sub will begin to become dominant. She expects to be told off or punished.

2. She will test you on purpose to see how soft you are and what she can get away with.

3. Be verbal, we thrive on it, we like to be treated as a sex object.

4.Always explain things properly. for eg. If you want your sub upstairs, bent over, knickers round her ankles, explain just that before hand or during. It lets us know whos boss.

5. Pull the sub up if she doesn't say Sir or Master at appropriate times, punish her it will soon make her learn to say it properly.

6 Your the Dom, the sub is there to be used at anytime, anywhere and by anyone you want, don't be afraid to use that power. You own her , especially her body. However, limits of the sub should have been discussed before you embark on a relationship.

7 Communicate with your sub often, she can get frustrated and not have the guts to tell you, you may be doing something she really dislikes, pick a day a week and talk to her as man and woman.

8. Set tasks, tease and mental stimulation will have her aching to see you.

9. Use your imagination, any kind of sex can become dull so a good imagination is essential to keep it alive and for the sub to not know whats coming next.

10. If in vanilla mode with her, in company etc, and she annoys you, pull her up later about it. Don't let her get away with it.

11 Set rules and regulations you want her to adhere too, permanently eg..... how to behave in private with you, asking permission for toilet , to sit down etc.

12 Don't forget this is what a sub wants, thats why you met her, don't be afraid to get what you want, she loves it.

13 Find out her body, how she cums, best gspots etc and reward her with it when good, deny it when bad.