Strictyetnice


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	About Strictyetnice Younger Dom with some experience, I enjoy the 'gentler' side of the lifestyle. Whilst I delve into other activities sometimes, my main desire is to have a submissive whom I can help look after, protect, and to help her explore her submissiveness. I do enough rougher play though, spanking is high up on my list, whether it be used as a punishment or something enjoyable. I haven't had a chance to try out bondage as much as I would like, but I love restraints, whips and chains are hot too. In my vanilla life, I am rather active, I am no longer studying now, and I have a full time job. I have plans to travel some more, and at some stage get married and start a family. I also have plans to some day own and live on a small farm. So what type of submissive girl do I seek? Someone who is for the most part, well behaved. I would prefer someone who can speak her mind to me, but know that at times I will have the final say. Basically someone who is ready to explore her beautiful gift as corny as that sounds. (as in me looking after and discipline when necessary, more than the 'pain cause I can' thing). Ideally someone who knows what she wants long term. Always a bonus (but not a necessity) if you are into collars/leashes/cuffs, PRIVATE photography, orgasm control, discipline, clothing choices etc, since I am :P. Plenty of pics available once I am talking to you, as well as a cam (non dodgy).

I just read my journal for the first time in ages, and wow, some of that stuff I forgot I had even written, and a little bit wouldn't even apply anymore!

I find it interesting how all my friends are still on my profile, even after deleting it. I also changed my password ages ago and its still the same. Apparently the site doesn't like change.

Anyway a quick update, I haven't been active in the lifestyle since my ex, I decided to take a break from the ladies for a while, I was still active online for about a year though, but for the last 2 I have been in hiatus.

Not sure what the next step is. I have put the England move on hold for now, which means I have not been sure whether to pursue a relationship of any kind in NZ until that happens. But I think I will and if it happened I would reconsider the move. But then again I have 2 very good plans for my career for if and when I get there, so I will be seriously considering things before jumping into any relationship for now.

I just read a thread on another site, and was rather annoyed at a few of the first answers the sub got.

Her question was along the lines of, what happens when your Dom/Master gets you REALLY angry?

Some of the terrible advice (from other subs) included "hold it in and remember your place" "and shut up and kneel"

NO!

Maybe hold it in until you calm down, but then, for the sake of your relationship, you MUST discuss it.

Not discussing it is probably the worst thing you can do! And just because he is a Master/Dom doesnt make him a god, and therefore he can make mistakes too. And if he doesn't know he is making them, then he NEEDS to know, and if he was a good Dom he will welcome it.

To me, the best Dom's are not the ones who have the most control with their sub's, they are the ones who can balance Dominance with truly looking after whats theirs. Making sure she is healthy, safe and HAPPY. And a sub will never me happy if you irritate her and she can't express her feelings. And to me as a Dom, I won't be happy if you don't tell me whats on your mind. Thats what happened to me 2 years ago, she never told me when there was a problem, then suddenly left me and I had no idea why. WE NEED TO KNOW!

Moving to the UK in 2012 :D

Well, I am thinking that here in NZ, the lifestyle is too small to pursue, if you want a serious commitment with someone still quite young.

Therefore, I am going to give it a week to think it through, no rash decisions. But if I still feel the same I will be deleting my account. Why? Because I am potentially wasting time trying to find girls who are just not interested, when I could be finding a nice vanilla girl who at least IS interested.

I have met a few nice people on here, I had met the girl who was to be my first BDSM partner, within 24 hours of joining. Unfortunitly she screwed me over, and I haven't seen many positives since.

I love the lifestyle and I know it will make me truly happy, but then again I will never be happy if I am forever single.

Will see how I feel in a week!

I am wondering why it is that everytime I show any interest with a girl, she goes and finds someone better. Maybe I am cupid and I just dont know it?

I jumped on facebook today to find lots of my female friends changing their status to the colour of their bra for breast cancer awareness. Great idea, but all the statuses werent even discussing breast cancer...wasn't that the point?

one of my friends did something much better and posted a link explaining how to detect early. So getting into the spirit thats meant to be getting into, I strongly advise any females reading this, to go to this site if you dont know how to, and to check regurley. And If I know you, do it! If you are a sub and will only ever listen to one thing I have to say, let it be this! Check girls. The colour of your bra wont save your life, but this might!

http://www.cancer.org/docroot/cri/content/cri_2_6x_how_to_perform_a_breast_self_exam_5.asp

note about the last entry: I am not looking for a fling or just sex. If I meet someone it will have to be for a friendship or for something a little more long term. I rarely do the casual play thing, and when it is, its with a really good friend only.

England in 2010!!! Might be able to meet up with someone if I find the right person :P

So I am sure I know what I want in my next relationship. As I mentioned earlier in a previous post, its all about taking care of the girl, and I am 100% positive thats the path I want to take.

HOWEVER, in saying all that, I am very keen to try many other things. Could I change the firm but fair, nice guy Dom for a night of rough intense play? Yes. Would I be comfortable with age/puppy play? Sure. Would I be able to humiliate the girl if she was into that? Within reason, of course.

My point is, unless its a limit, I intend to at least try it. And if that involves switching up the roles from a Dom/sub or Master/slave to something else to accomidate it, then sure lets do it! But I want the main 'theme' to remain the same. More often than not, its gotta be me being the nice caring Dominant who looks after, yet keeps his girl in her place.

Everything else (besides limits) is a sometimes food :P

ARGH! I say it again, I will talk to anyone but if the message is pre-written and wants to chat immediatly elsewhere, I will not! Its a huge sign that you are a fake, bugger off!

I think I am all but ready to get back into relationships again now :)

Just a few thoughts though:

I mentioned to someone the other day that I am really keen to make a sub/slave girl happy. They didn't understand this, thinking that the opposite should be true. And yes it should! But it DOES go both ways. I mean, to make a submissive happy, you cant just compliment her and so romantic things (though I do that too). A REAL submissive needs to submit to be happy. So you need to get her kneeling before you frequently, you need to do things to her for your benefit, but at the same time, its in her best interests because she is where she needs to be.

So, when I say I want to make a girl happy, I mean that I want to be helping her submit to a decent guy. I want her to look up at me from kneeling on the fllor, and just smile because she is so happy that she is mine, and cannot wait to do whatever is coming next for her. Nice thought huh?

Second thing, I am open to meeting people from anywhere. I plan to travel sometime within the next couple of years, so I will be meeting anyone in the lifestyle who is decent. If you can relocate, great! For the next two years I can't, while I get my double degree. I will gladly help out financially with anyone who moves across new zealand or from Australia. So Australian girls I will be keen too hear from too!. But like I say, will meet anyone from the states or britain as I plan to go to both soon.

Thats all for now

Well my girl and I have been split up for a month now, and we wont be getting back together im afraid!

I have forgotton to put that in one of my previous journal entries, I listed my turn offs. One of those was age play. I have since tried it, and its not so bad, and I can be a Daddy Dom to someone.

And another one....

Ok here is the thing people. Recently here in New Zealand there was a documentary on internet fraudsters who use dating sites (and these such sites) to scam money out of us. I know that a lot of them come from africa (Nigeria, Senagal etc). I have also had someone try and scam me and my girl via a property search site. But do you know what I did, I wasted his time by going along with his little game, short of sending him money.

WE ARE AWARE OF YOU FRAUDSTERS!

So scammers, you are so full of yourselves to think we will fall for it. Your profile is half the time some model that you have stolen from some other sites, and the automated messages are dead giveaways. So from the next automated message, I will lead you on and waste YOUR time like you waste mine for coming on to check my messages. Believe me, its quite fun.

ARGH

As I type out the previous journal entry I get another one??? At least if you are going to make a fake profile, get your location right!

Sigh...

NO automated messages and/or fake profiles. Its SO obvious that you are not real, and you cannot tell me you type a HUGE message just to me, when it makes no reference to my profile.

Bugger off fakers, stop wasting my time and yours.

I cannot believe how people rush into things, in and out of the lifestyle.

Just saw a profile where the girl joined 8 days ago, and she is now 'Owned' by someone she just met on here.

You need to take your time for your own sanity and safety, especially in this lifestyle.

2 Long running friends have recently gotten married just months after meeting their respective partners. And suprise suprise one mariage is already on the rocks by the sounds of it.

The speed that people do these things are crazy, you need to get to know people PROPERLY before you take such big leaps. And they say it can take as much as 2 years to know someone properly, not 2 months!

Just took some pics of my girl in her cuffs. she looks so cute and innocent. Will share them with the right people.

We are looking for a new flatmate! We are in a lovely home in Dunedin, and we are soon to have a room available for someone else. It is $90, big enough for 1 or 2 people, and the house is 20mins to uni, 30 to town. Less than 5 mins to the Gardens. Phone and power is about $30 a month. Let us know if you are interested!

ok now no longer looking because I have found a sweet subbie of my own. :D. I didn't jinx it, woohoo!

Ok this is new....

Males, unless you want to discuss the lifestyle or be friends, please dont message me. Where does it say I am looking for males, hook ups with males, Dominent males, or males from california?

So yeah, I am NOT looking for a hookup with a male from california, especially a Dominant!.

(Sorry this is directed at one person who messaged me, and to any other guys who try it too)

I knew there would be something left out of my turn offs.
*Puppy/Pony Play - Ok granted I know very little about this and I am still open minded about it. But I cant see me getting off to a girl acting like a dog or horse.

Oh thats what I was going to do. Since this thing has something for all the kinks, and that I haven't really put my dislikes, here they are, the things that DON'T get me off:
*Knifeplay (as I have already put in the interests bit)
*Blood - I have a weak stomach and blood makes me want to throw up.
*Diapers/Age play - Ok, I have nothing against friends who are into age play, and I dont mind going along with it if it stays non sexual. Nothing wrong with having a girl all dressed up all cute like, and school uniforms ARE hot. But I could never be a 'Daddy Dom', unless I was much older and the girl acted her age still. And Diapers....nothing sexy there sorry.
*Breath play - unless my subbie REALLY wanted to try it, but even then I would be concerned I would hurt her.
*Permanent markings
*Foot worship
*Scat, Kids, Animals (the givens)
And I am sure there are a few more that I cant think of right now.

While thinking of turn offs, I remember one thing a 'Master' said in a chatroom. Yes I agree and understand that slaves have less rights and whatever than subs. I am cool with that, if the slave agrees to it. But this idiot said something like "If I wanted to break my slaves arm then she would gladly present her arm to me". Ok what the hell??? I am sure this is not what trhe lifestyle is about! This guy acted like that was completly ok. If you really have any feelings for for the person you are sharing the lifestyle and experience with, then you would not do something stupid like that to them!! Sure pain can be something we want to try but on that level? I seriously think people like that guy should NOT be in the lifestyle, and I would have happily took his girl off him. He was not in a fit state of mind to be involved in the lifestyle and if she thought that was ok, then neither is she. Its sad that the few idiots out there can often brainwash the vulnerable into thinking crap like that is ok. Because us Tops MUST remember that these submissives ARE vulnerable and we need to look after their NEEDS as well as wants. and NO-ONE needs a broken arm.

K I am a little bored, and was browsing profiles, just for entertainment purposes, wondering what I should add in my journal (for some reason other peoples journals help me think of things.

Anyway found one girls one mentionting how the whole capitals in words like 'Your' 'O/ours', and how it can be annoying etc. Ok, I think capping 'Dom' or 'Sir' is cool. But why oh why do we have to have sayings like 'hello A/all' I am sorry but its rather annoying.

I also can't understand why Tops get all upset if a sub doesn't cap their name or a word assouciated with them. So what? As long as they respect you as a Top then who cares? Does it make them less of a submissive if they don't? Of course not. That and some are new to the lifestyle and don't know that many Tops expect this.

It drives me crazy to hear how some Tops (usually my age or younger) slam subs for minor issues like this, in particular if the sub is not theirs. A Top has no right to control a sub in such a manner unless they have some kind of D/s relationship, whether the sub is owned by the Top, being considered or even just a D/s friendship. Outside of this, the Top should have little or no expectations of a sub. You cant just go round ordering about subs you just met. If so, I am sorry but you have the lifestyle all wrong, or better suited to a slave.

RANT OVER!

At the risk of putting a jinx on (I try not to mention any potential dates cause it always seems to turn out bad when I do, haha) I am not looking at this stage. For one, I am waiting to meet a subbie who I have known for a long time now, to see if we can try a proper D/s relationship in the new year. And two, I am in a busy, yet rough year, so I gotta try and take it easy til november, when I get a 7 week break. Which I will be offline for most of that time anyway. Friends are always good too thought!

Okay that lounge I mentioned would have to be tiny....the room seemed so huge the first time haha.

Anyway was just browsing through profiles on here and came across this, which had been pinched by some guy, so I shall pinch it from him:

(Dom/mes) You Might Be A Wannabe

If you ever use the phrase "A real sub wouldn't have a problem doing that"...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think the word "submissive" means the same thing as "easy"...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think leading your sub around by a leash in the supermarket is appropriate
entertainment for everyone...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think it's perfectly acceptable to address all submissives as "slut"...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think SSC stands for "See Submissives Cower"...
you might be a Wannabe

If your vanity plate reads "MSTR-2-U"...
you might be a Wannabe

If you enter a chat room and command all the subs to call you Sir...
you might be a Wannabe

If you're trying to book a flight to GOR...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think all subs put out on the first date...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think the only purpose for nipple piercing is to have a place to hang your car keys..
you might be a Wannabe

If you think the GOR novels are based in fact...
you might be a Wannabe

If you can't understand why a sub refuses to meet you for the first time alone at your
place... you might be a Wannabe

If you think limits are nothing you need to consider seriously...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think safewords are for sissies...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think placing a "Sir" or "Master" in front of your nick name automatically
makes you a Dom... you might be a Wannabe

If you think R/L is just like cyber... you might be a Wannabe

If you think using lube for fisting or anal play is too kind...
you might be a Wannabe (or a really mean sadist)

If you have to constantly refer to the owner's manual to use your toys...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think Dom's can't show their feelings and need to be cold and aloof...
you might be a Wannabe

If you have any reason to fear ATF Agents could confiscate your toys...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think the KGB Interrogation Manual is the definitive "how to" book for BDSM...
you might be a Wannabe.

If you think sterile needles for play piercing are too expensive to only use once...
you might be a Wannabe

If household items don't inspire you (wooden spoons, clothespins, etc.)...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think electricity play consists of plug in socket/exposed wires touching sub...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think a bullwhip is the best choice for a warm up tool...
you might be a Wannabe

(subs)

You Might Be A Wannabe

If you don't know what "R/L" means... you might be a Wannabe

If you think it's not necessary to communicate what you need or want to your Dom
because what you want is not important... you might be a Wannabe

If you've never considered the possibility that your online Master is really a 14-year-old named Jason...
you might be a Wannabe.

If you think being collared and spanked online qualifies you as an experienced sub...
you might be a Wannabe.

If you think you have no limits...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think using your safeword means you're not a "real" sub...
you might be a Wannabe

If you consent to wearing a Dom/Domme's brand at your first R/L session with Him or Her...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think bruises and broken limbs are standard bdsm play....
you might be a Wannabe

If you think you must have total respect for anyone who calls himself/herself Dom/Domme...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think the best sub is the one who can stand the most pain...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think R/L is just like cyber...
you might be a Wannabe

If you consent your first live meet with a Dom/me without using a safety net...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think being a sub is all about being abused...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think CBT means "Come and Bring Toys"...
you might be a Wannabe

If you have to remove your collar so your Master can walk his dog...
you might be a Wannabe (and your Dom is really cheap)

If you think sub-space is the cage a Dom keeps His or Her sub in...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think enemas are only given for medicinal purposes...
you might be a Wannabe

If you think submission means never saying "no"...
you might be a Wannabe

If you have to spit out your chewing tobacco before you can be gagged...
you might be a redneck as well as a Wannabe

A Little correction on my post from 20/7. I wont have a place to myself next year after all, due to lack of them in my city. But although the place I will be living in will be shared with 1, maybe 2 others, my room will be the size of your average lounge (from what I remember. So its not as if I, and any partner will be short of space.
That is all for now :P

Argh enough of the pre written messages!

I am discovering what I am looking for at last, and that is a full time commited D/s relationship. But this of course varies from person to person, so this is exactly what I am seeking:
* Full time relationship or friendship, but 24/7 of Dominance and submission is unrealistic, in my situation anyway. So probably more along the lines of a D/s relationship and a vanilla relationship mixed together.
* A female in her twenties who is of course my type and we have compatible personalities and needs, and in my area who is able to stay with me frequently (from january when I have my own place)
* Someone who is seeking something serious and long term, and is submissive and eager to please. This gets rewarded. And of course we would have to develop trust and a friendship FIRST.

Hmmm second new entry of the day :P. I just remember why I avoid message boards. (not referring to this one). No matter what you start a thread about, half the responses are full of criticism. I don't mind some criticism but not when people have to attack others.

Prime example, I started a thread on my dating site I go to, about what people thought about lengths of time before you meet someone off of there. With adding that I usually wait a while, but do they think its a good idea or not.

I got called that I was afraid of people, I had no idea what I am doing (and obviously they were right, I was wrong) and to top it all off, some guy came up with 7 reasons to decribe why I was messed up. One being my user name, which I might add is a joke and has no significance to me (its to do with Finding Nemo but he was too dense to work it out) And to finish his post of gobbledegook he told me its time to see a Doctor? What the hell are todays society on???

Seriously. Half of the world is just intent on hurtling insults while hiding behind a computer screen (and some in day to day life) I know most people will have no idea what I am on about but look closer and you will see what I mean.

I dislike most people. I will not hide that fact. But at the risk of sounding like a hippy (or Justin Timberlake) where the hell is the love? New Zealand is a great country people, but if you want to live with good people don't move here, seriously, because a lot of them are assholes. I have said it for years and these days It is coming more apparent to me. Anyway thats my rant, as you were people...haha

Ok I have found a BEAUTIFUL collar online, so next week I think I will buy it. I have asked around how people thought about a collar thats been bought while single, and the general consensous seems to be that if I like it then I should get it ad see what happens when I find who I am looking for. She would have to earn my collar of course but this collar is beautiful ad well worth it.

While on the subject, I will mention my preference for wearing of collars. And that is around the home only, and any events if we went to any. For in public I prefer and piece of jewellry to be worn that only myself and ay girl I have knows of. Maybe a pretty ankle bracelet with letter beads spelling out something? Feel free to message me with your thoughts.

Ok maybe I haven't found who I am looking for.So back to the drawing board I go. I would just like to say that for me to have confidence in a relationship, you will have to live in my city (and I live in 2) That or within an hours drive. So that means, If you wanted something offline with me, you would have to relocate, because for the next few years I am unable to. However I cn assure you that it would be worth it for you, and if you ever changed your mind I would help you return to your previous home. After that I have not ruled out a move overseas to get my carreer kickstarted.Also I am not oppsosed to something just online, but you would have to understand that if either of us found something offline, that I would be forced to end it. Its not fair to anyone, having people committed to someone they will never meet.

I have found a wonderful sub to call my own and I care for her a lot. So not looking anymore.

I have had to take my picture down, for a good reason. But I will still give it out to those who ask.

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