Greetings to the Community,
Allow me to share a bit about myself...
Personality & Physicality:
Morals & integrity are priceless, yet undervalued. They say nice guys finish last, but somehow I'm both kind & successful; though I respectfully give credit to my parents & mentor for teaching both. Oh, and I guess looks-wise, I would be considered to be handsome, with Mediterranean hair, skin, & facial features.
I enjoy Spirituality in all variations, regardless of how esoteric. Science, from the quantum level to the cosmic. I'm a film buff & prefer to play my sports than watch a game on TV. I have etiquette when called for, but find it far more comfortable to just be polite & ruffled around the edges ;)
Perception & Perspective:
I'm a believer in Loving D/s... It really is the ultimate to experience the crashing waves of that shared Love, with the thunderous excitement of Dominance or submission ripples through your body & nervous system in anticipation of the lightning strikes touching down on your behind when that crop, whip, or paddle acts as a conduit ;)
I am not a believer in bowing and scrapping to anyone simply because they have a self appointed title of Mistress... Personally it feels disrespectful to the One I will commit to. To me the connection is the catalyst... it's everything; & all the toys, paddles, chastity devices (sigh).... are all symbolic expressions & extensions of that connection.
Smaller Goals on Collarspace:
Firstly, I would love to get to know new friends, and sometimes having opposite interests, perspectives, or proclivities can develop a far more interesting dynamic for each to learn, grow, or become open minded on... so Domme, Dom, Trans, sub, slave.... all are welcome, big or small, young or old, to friend me or say hello.
If you are a Dominant Woman & see D/s in a very different way that is more evolved than what I've shared, or in your experience if you learned a technique or toy that I should look up; please feel free to share without worry of it being taken as anything other than a polite gesture... We are all guiding one another on this journey, and experience so much more with an open mind. A respectful, educated discussion of D/s is always welcome!
If you are a Dominant Woman capable of Loving Your sub (in due time of course, & only speaking in potentiality of being the right person); then please, please do say hello!! ;)
Attractive Qualities in a Woman & Domme:
Internal Qualities I Admire:
I have diverse tastes, but long term attraction from has always stemmed from something unique about the person... A kind heart, a strength of character, a presence, a laugh, sexy voice, confidence, confidence, confidence, enchanting eyes... I see beauty in a myriad of expressions.
External Physical Qualities I Admire:
To describe purely physical traits I am smitten by, would be plump lips, eyes that have that sparkle in them, Womanly Curves.... I find an abundant figure alluring, regardless of whether hourglass shaped or apple or pear; from average weight to very plus sized or more. The only deal breakers to me physically are two:
Girls in their early 20's to me have not yet developed a physical maturity to their bodies, which looks "girlie" & that's exactly what a lot of men do like; where as my attraction is to more Womanly features & attributes (for example after having a child I find most Women to be more beautiful than before they carried; plus a greater respect for bringing forth life in the world).
.....And the other is model thin women, as they look sickly & unhealthy to me...a fragility; so I never saw the allure or felt that sense of passion.
Domme Qualities I Admire:
Intelligence, Boldness, Confidence (again), Bossiness (so hot lol), Honesty, Protective, Maternal, Nurturing, Possessive, Fair but unquestionably Firm, Unwavering, Strict, Funny, Playful, Loving, Loving, Loving, Decisive, Evolving, Demanding, Self Loving, Thorough, Thoughtful, Appreciative, Encouraging, Regal, Kind, Complimentary, Strategic with Guiding, Goal Oriented, Strong (could be either in mind body or heart), Persuasive, Gentle, Passionate, Compassionate
Expressive (in feelings & emotions so sub doesn't feel shut out or alone & in time he can get himself worked up or sick with worry of you ignoring him because he did something not to your standard and how he let you down and is going to be punished then wonders how you will punish him.....when really you're just thinking of this annoying meeting at work earlier today)
Communicative (so that the power exchange doesn't make the two drift in opposite directions... always express the reasons behind why he needs to do X chore or Y duty or Z errand for you, instead of meeting with old friends, even if the reason is you have simply decided to exercise your right as the decision maker for him; & why that is a valuable lesson to learn now even if it hurts for a little bit... not knowing the why could feel simply mean to a loyal sub & chip away at the trust, which is one of the few things in a FemDom or TPE marriage to be shared equally)
Playfulness (don't act the role of what you think a Domme should be doing if in charge... just know that you, whether smiling or frowning, are always in complete control...now enjoy & revel in it if you feel like!)
Seductiveness...but not wearing it like a coat all the time out in the open for the world to see...more like a pendent on a necklace under her shirt that can be taken out and tinkered with to draw her man's attention when desired, or soothe, lure, cajole, or encourage him (depending on the tone and mannerism used) to do something he may not like; or perhaps something that he has been having a hard time succeeding with at work or at home...
and then of course that forever allusive special something... or je ne se quoi!
Big Picture Goal on Collarspace:
To find a curvy to plus size or more life partner who shares similar views & values to build a dynamic union based on a solid foundation of Love on which to build a TPE FLR that if desired by Her would lead to a true marriage (a lifelong permanent union), to a a good hearted, attractive, & successful alpha submissive man who yearns to be wed to a strict but nurturing Wife & Domme making Her proud & happy daily; as Her Love & approval are what he wouldn't know how to live without.
Exploring both the D/s world & the world at large together; intertwining both elements of Love & Dominance to create something truly wonderful...a universe of our own, twice as connected as a vanilla or a D/s relationship because the Love will enhance the D/s & the D/s will reinforce the Love... the goal being for Domme Wife & sub hubby to spend many, many years filled with joy, passion, adventure, & D/s, that is built on a solid foundation of Love...
I hold no trait of a doormat sub. I have self respect, but will have greater respect for Her. I have self love, but will have greater Love for Her. The outer "conquer the world" side is a very real part of me that will most thrive when I can lay the world at the tips of Her shoes... And so much more rewarding to be wearing Her day old panties when setting out to do it ;)
I revel in the balance She brings to my life as Her champion outside & Her perfectly trained domestic sub-hubby inside. Friends are surprised I tolerate coming across as Henpecked; but I know it makes Her proud of me & that's what matters most...
Though they would be shocked to see me nightly doing laundry, cleaning, & serving my Wife Queen & more so at the cathartic joy it brings me knowing I do all the duties of a traditional wife at home so that She doesn't ever need to lift a finger... And even more wonderful when I earn a kiss on the forehead while being told I'm such a good boy...or husband...or bitch for Her... since nothing in the world is really a greater accomplishment than earning Her praise.
I'm starting to smile already ;)
I am friendly so ask me all you like.
Note: I invested a stretch of time in self nurturing after a heart lesson... Now I'm feeling replenished, centered, & playfully daring ;)
