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Hello there, kinksters.
I'm updating my profile to reflect a few changes. Please read the whole thing, it isn't long.
What I'm looking for:
Primarily I am looking for friends. I like talking to people. Even when I don't get along with them, the experience is still sometimes pretty entertaining! Secondarily, I'm seeking non-sexual play partners, especially dominants and switches. Gender, age, and race don't much matter to me, it's all about the personality. I'm looking for somebody whose company I can enjoy outside of a scene as well as in. I enjoy a wide variety of BDSM activities including shibari, flogging, caning, and electro-play, and I am always willing to try something new. I am usually on the submissive side of things, but I have a little bit of a switchy/dominant streak from time to time.
My current biggest interest is in takedown scenes, wrestling, and other such primal-type play. I am especially interested if you're a switch looking to have a takedown scene where it's anybody's guess who will win! I am not particularly large or strong, but I do fight dirty. (I bite.)
I also am interested in blood play, but that's definitely not a first date activity, that would only be on the table quite a ways down the line.
About me:
I like cats, snakes, and books, not necessarily in that order. I'm a geek. My current favorite fandom is My Little Pony, but I've been interested in everything from Star Trek to Harry Potter to obscure-ish stuff like Ian M. Bank's Culture setting. I sew for a living. I love good food. I've been in the kink scene for well over a decade now, and had dabbled a bit in kinky things without knowing what I was doing long before that. I've been owned by my awesome Master since 2005, but he's nice enough to let me play with other people.
If you're serious about play with me, please drop me a message. However, I NEVER play immediately. Play requires trust, and trust requires time. You need to be willing to invest the time in building a relationship of mutual understanding and trust before we can do anything.
You can also drop me a line just to chat.
Either way, though, I should mention that I sometimes take long breaks from this site. So if I don't respond to you it's not personal, it just means I haven't logged in to see your message.
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Today I am bored. Boredyboredbored. I should probably do something productive, I have a ton of work, but it's my one and only day off, so screw that. :D I will post random stuff on the net instead. As demonstrated here. |
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Decided not to go out to the local play party tonight. I think I 'm spoiled by having one near me every single week, I actually get bored of going, sometimes. :D Anyhow, I'm pretty busy right now, and I don't really have any scenes I'm itching to do, other than someday the takedown one, but I'm increasingly convinced that I don't want to do that with a stranger, I'd rather do it with somebody I've gotten to know. The strangers I get who are interested have been giving me some really weird vibes. |
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Man, I almost want to post the text of this PM exchange I just had, it is pretty darn hilarious. (Not as hilarious as the time a self-professed Dom started begging at my feet, without me ever asking him to, but close!) I probably shouldn't, though. Still, it's probably a good thing I'm mostly on this site for entertainment, and not seriously seeking somebody, because entertainment is what tends to turn up in my inbox the most often. |
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Oh boy, hell hasn't frozen over after all. There's the creepy internet doms I know and loathe, coming out of the woodwork all at once today! :D (Question for you guys. Has "Kneel now" and "Be my slave!" ever worked for anyone in the history of the world?) |
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I sometimes wonder... I used to get messages from horny "doms" here all the flipping time, wanting to cyber, wanting me to get on cam, wanting me to obey them, yadda, yadda, yadda. I haven't gotten one in AGES. Have guys actually learned how to read, and are reading my profile and realizing I'm not here for sex? Has hell somehow frozen over? :D |
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Well, I did indeed get to do some scenes at the open house last night. It was fun but also exhausting! Did some electroplay, and a spanking scene, and used my claws on a friend of mine. Probably going to go again next week too. It's nice to live in a town with an active scene. |
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I am seriously looking forward to tomorrow. I'm going out to a kink open house (basically the same thing as a play party) and looking to have some fun. I haven't got a specific top or scene lined up, so I may just hang around, chat, and watch, but I have a fair number of toppy friends and acquaintances there, so I might end up doing a little playing too. I will be bringing my toy bag. :D |
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So here I am, back on this site. Last time I used it, it had a different name, but my account seems to be the same, and I suspect that pretty much nothing has changed. The one actual difference this time is that I'm looking for something other than just friends, since I really would love to find a platonic play partner. I'm putting the odds of meeting somebody compatible at about a million to one, given that I am looking for somebody who's willing to invest time to develop a friendship and doesn't want to get sex out of it! But I was bored, so I figured I have nothing to lose. :D |
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Shall I hold forth on some pet peeve today? I think I shall! (Yes, I know my journal is almost entirely me snarking and bitching. That's what journals are for! That and personal confessions, but I'm not going to write anything really personal here, so all that's left is for me to bitch.)
Anyway! My current amusement is people who think that a D/s relationship is somehow fundamentally different from a vanilla relationship. News for you: it's not! And that's part of why so many of you fail. You're approaching somebody as a dom, or a sub, or a mistress or a slave, or whatever, and not noticing that they are also a human being, looking for a human connection.
Hell, plenty of vanilla relationships have an alpha partner that calls the shots more often, just in D/s it's explicitly named who that is, and so things are a little more clear-cut, but there's still very little real difference. |
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Profile pic is now KITTY. :3 Much better than the old one. I want to caption it something like "Halp! I'm being eated by faux fur!" because that's kind of what it looks like. I do still have a couple of face pics, but I'm not trying to lure anybody in with my hot body or anything, so a kitty is just as good, really. Maybe I'll upload more cat pics. I have dozens and dozens of them. Then everyone will think I'm a crazy cat lady. |
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Color me bored again. Quite a lot of the profiles on here make me lol. They also make me feel a little sorry for anybody who wants to meet their lifemate on here. This is probably a great site for hookups, but not so great for dating. |
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I am in a kind of bitchy mood tonight. Send messages at your own risk, I guess! |
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Man, why do I even bother coming back here? It's such a meat market. Nobody but straight male doms ever contacts me, and pretty much all of them want to get into my pants, or get wank material out of me. (I mean really. When you ask me to describe my fantasies, and I say no, I'm not going to write porn, and that's the last I hear of you... I know exactly why you contacted me, and I'm not impressed.) |
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Sooooooooooooooo booooooooooooooooored today. :P I should be working, but I really don't want to. Bleh. |
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Wow. I guess it never rains but it pours! I have five people messaging me tonight, usually I get zero. XD I feel loved. Actually mostly I feel hit on, not loved. You should SEE some of what I've been sent tonight, see below about some people really not respecting boundaries! Also people not having profiles. Smacks of dishonesty to me. I guess saying nothing is better than lying, but saying nothing means that you can say anything, if you see what I mean. A chameleon who says what he thinks you want to hear is not a trustworthy person, in my book. |
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Respect for other people's boundaries ought to be a common thing. Sadly it is not. |
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I am moody and pissy today. Contact me at your own risk. :P Not that anybody contacts me anyhow. I get lots of profile views but few messages. I guess I should be glad, at least people are reading and realizing I'm not the quick screw/slave for life they're looking for and not bothering me, but it still leaves me pretty bored. Heck, I'd take one of those idiots who can't be bothered to read today, I could take out some of my frustration mocking them! |
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Browsing this site a bit while also watching a documentary on courtship behavior in birds. Certain amusing parallels can be drawn between the two. :D |
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If you think you know what sort of person I am, based solely on posts I make on a site I don't give a damn about, when I'm bored out of my mind, I've got news for you, brother. |
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Man, the things I do when I'm bored. Here I am, looking at this site again. Still getting about a 10 to 1 "trying to get into my pants" to "wants to be friends" ratio here. |
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Here's another fun one: people who flip out over having their profile viewed! Made me laugh so hard! He hates it when men, t-girls and dominant woman view his profile, he says. He's only interested in sub girls, he says!
Of all the things to flip out over, that somebody you're not interested *looked* at you! I bet he pitches a fit if a gay guy checks him out at the bar too.
I'm LOLin' some more. I seldom get the intellectual stimulation I came here for originally, but sometimes the laughs are even better!
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I gotta say, that the best LOLs always come from people who don't read my profile. I've had some nice chats with folks who managed to find the "friends only" and still wanted to talk to me, but I've had a lot more fun with mocking the failures who can't read. What can I say? They're entertaining!
And it's really quite ironic that the fellow who said he didn't want to waste his time reading my short little profile has now wasted a LOT more time than that arguing with me about it! :D
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For FRICK'S SAKE do not say you're looking for friendship/check the "friends only" box and then also say that messages from a specific gender get binned unread. What kind of TWIT wouldn't be friends with somebody they wouldn't fuck? Man if anybody with something that moronic in their profile ever messages me I am going to be SO sarcastic at them. (This drives me crazy. Probably my biggest pet peeve on this site. I don't give a damn what kind of silly fantasies people have, or if they're "real" or not, but I really hate hypocrites!)
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I'm LOLin! The people with those paranoid notices about how universities don't have permission to use your info... Well, a. YOU put it up on a PUBLIC site, where anybody at all can see it. If you want to to be kept private, you're not exactly going about it the right way! And b. why do you even care? So they're going to do some study that shows X percent of collarme users like Y fetish. So? That doesn't affect you in any way! They don't even HAVE your real name to release, IF they released the names of those whose data they used, but they DON'T! So who cares?! Srsly, this is such a lot of fuss over nothing at all, and it makes me laugh my head off every time I see somebody who has that posted on their profile.
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*sigh* Once again somebody who has barely spoken to me, who knows nothing about me, who has never bothered to try to get to know me in any way, has called me his "friend." Sorry, no. You're not my friend.
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I keep getting told I don't have much information in my profile.
DUH.
Why should I write out everything about me, bare my heart and soul to the uncaring world, just to get 90% of those who come by ignoring all that and hitting on me.
When the ONLY THING in my profile is that I'm not looking and the ONLY THING I've got checked is "friends only" and I STILL get people trying to sex me up... why on EARTH would I want to put up anything else?
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I really don't understand people at all. You make no sense whatsoever.
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Apparently the line "let's be friends and then see what develops from there" is the current popular pick up line among Doms. I've gotten quite a few lately. It beats fulsome descriptions of throbbing manhood and commands to obey instantly or I'm not a "real" sub hands down, but it still makes me snicker because so far every single time when I inform them that nothing will develop from there, I really am just after friends, that's the last I hear from them.
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I am chatty tonight. :D I just was thinking that it is a wonderful thing to not be depressed and emotionally unstable. And yet so many people have no idea that this is the case, they think it's normal. It's amazing, is what it is.
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O.o
When did they change the "no penis in your profile pic" rule here? Because MAN today I have seen a lot more cock than I had meant to see.
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I think this obsession with "fakes" is interesting. What exactly constitutes a fake? People talk about them constantly on this site, but so far nobody has actually defined it adequately.
I don't particularly care about fakes. Fakes can feel quite welcome to contact me! They'll get the same treatment as "real" people do. :) Unless we've suddenly been invaded by spam bots, everyone contacting me is a real, genuine, actual human being, after all. (And nobody on this site is somebody I would screw, so I will turn down the real people and the fakes alike.)
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When a dom suddenly stops talking to me after I reveal that I do not have a webcam, I have to wonder... did it just so happen that after I sent that message something came up and he needed to leave the computer, or was his offer of "friendship" dependent on seeing me on cam? Funny sort of friendship, if that's the case. :D As always, this site continues to provide me with entertainment.
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How odd. I can't seem to use the chat feature anymore. *pokes at it*
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Man, they're really coming out of the woodwork today.
What kind of submissive goes around asking fellow subs to top him? Seriously what? How the flip is that supposed to get you anywhere?
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*sigh* Saw another "just looking for friends, I'm a lesbian so I will block all males who message me" profile today.
As if I'd want to be friends with a girl who won't talk to anybody she wouldn't fuck.
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:D Got a guy who said I was getting in the way of the serious people here.
He called me a bitch merely for being present on this site when I'm not the sort he's looking for.
I kind of suspect that I have nothing whatsoever to do with the reason why he can't get any. People do amuse me so!
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Friendship is a funny thing. A lot of people seem to think that "friend" is somebody who is willing to socialize with you. I socialize with many people who are not my friends. Friendship goes deeper, into realms of mutual respect and understanding. You cannot be friends with somebody you met just yesterday.
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Funny how some people choose to take things personally when I wasn't talking about them at all. It says something, I think, what kind of things you assume are aimed at you.
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Since I can no longer get e-mail notifications of new messages here, and I hate coming back after a week to find somebody said hi, and then removed their message, probably thinking I was ignoring them, I shall take a little risk and offer up my yahoo id here. It's spark_purple_dragon
Don't abuse it folks! And know that I have NO qualms about using the block feature. Remember, just like it says in my profile in gigantic letters, I'm here for FRIENDS ONLY.
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Dang it. I'm no longer getting notified when I get messages here. I'm not logged in often enough to check. :P
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Ugh. People who try to draw me into their little fantasies, who try to manipulate me into giving them what they're after... bleah. Whether it's the ones who assert their "rank" and try to convince me to call them by it, or the ones who work the conversation around to try and get me to give them wank material, or the recent oddball experience of having somebody deliberately try to get me to insult them so that they could feel humiliated (WTF anyhow? I'm a sub! Go pester a dom or something!) they just bother me. I didn't give my consent to be a part of your little conversational cyber-scene, so quit trying to pull me into it!
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I don't really ask for much. I'm here just to talk, after all. But if you can't respect my very explicitly stated wishes, I'm not going to talk to you.
Yes this is directed to YOU, mr. "I'm going to call you sweetie even though I know you hate it" and especially to YOU mr. "I never would have hit on you if I knew you had a boyfriend."
I really can't believe how rude and how dense both of those guys were. Honestly! You say you want to build a friendship with me, but you insist that my stated wishes are wrong and you won't honor them? There's a thing called "respect" that's the foundation of any friendship. Get a dictionary, look it up.
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What is up with people who call strangers by pet names? "Baby" "sweetie" "honey" and all that? You call animals and small children by sappy names. Or people you know very well, who actually ARE your baby/sweetie/honey. Calling a stranger by a pet name seems to either insult them (ie. you are lumping them in with animals and small children) or to be really creepy (ie. you are acting as though they are an intimate relation when they're a total stranger.) So why do it?
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Ah ha ha ha! I had totally forgotten how hilarious the form letters on here are. Awesome!
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I've seen a lot of profiles, male, female, dom, sub, couples too, that say "no males." Haven't seen a single one yet that says "no females."
Interesting, isn't it?
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You've read all the way through my journals, congrats. Here, have a cookie.
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| Age: 35 |
| Richmond,
Virginia |
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