Spacebird

I am a 47 -year old divorced male. Top, Dominant, hopeful/hopeless romantic or otherwise depends on the individual's definitions. I don’t self anoint myself Master of anything.

I'm generally calm, stable, and controlled even when my life spirals out of control. For long-term interests, I need a deeply submissive woman who possesses and uses first class intelligence (NOT necessarily a degree) and can talk to me, not simply yes sir me to death.

I am working towards finding a stable partnership, be she submissive, slave, maid, or pain puppet. Person first, kinks second.

I don’t view submission as a gift, or Dominance as a right. Both are an inherent part of the person, just being straight or gay or bi. . If I am convinced the best thing is for slave to go take a hot bath, I will have her sit and wait while I draw one and place her in it. I will also take a cane to her if I feel it is appropriate, or tie her to a tree in a secluded area. Or (GASP!) sit quietly and hold hands while watching a video, since there *is* a wider life out there.

I am not a brilliant extrovert, but I am a caring and warm person after my reserve is breached. I don't see that or manners as conflicting with being a sadist. I am not obsessively controlling or given to micromanagement and focusing on every detail of a submissive's daily life. I can definitely be a sensual and sexual sadist with an ability to fulfill both my own and my partner's needs.

I have interests that range from SCUBA diving to auto racing to Japanese  animation. I have participated in the lifestyle since 1996, and would rank myself as mid-level for actual experience