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For quite a long time (and by "long time" I mean years!) I've wanted to "try my hand" at being the Dom in a spanking/discipline scene.? For most of my adult life I wanted to receive erotic spankings, but the opportunities did not present themselves.? I found the greatest hurdle to be that of finding somebody I felt that I could trust, with the secondary issue of finding somebody who was available at the same time I was and also able to host? when I could not.?? This was all further complicated by the fact that I was not interested in receiving painful, bruising discipline sessions.? I was looking instead for the embarrassing/humiliating sort of spanking, which I've been told by affecionados is defined as "erotic spanking".?? When I did find myself in contact with a potential spanker, it seemed they were more interested in delivering true discipline and not merely erotic spanking.?

I also felt that being a man in my 40's made it exceedingly difficult to find a Dominant who wanted to spank me instead of a younger, cuter, more muscled sub.? Since I have always been somewhat versatile in my BDSM and fetish interests, I thought that perhaps it would be easier to find a sub who was interested in a forty-something Dominant.? I started to create some profiles on various sites and groups that expressed interest in finding a sub that I could enjoy spanking.?

Of course this was not without it's own set of challenges.? While I could picture myself being spanked by a wide variety of ages and types of men, when it comes to being the spanker, I knew that I would only enjoy the scene if I found a man who was very sexy and preferably younger than myself.? I guess I enjoy being spanked so much that it doesn't matter who does it, but when I'm doing the spanking, there has to be more.....sexual attraction to the spankee.?

Prior to a recent business trip to Tallahassee, I decided to scan through the posts of a Yahoo group devoted to this interest, and found a post by a sub who was in North Florida.? I contacted him via e-mail, and we began a rapid exchange of e-mail and instant messages.? We decided to meet at a small neighborhood bar and grill, and have a couple of beers together just to meet and establish rapport with each other.? We followed up with some more e-mails in the weeks that followed, and agreed that a little role-playing that involved spanking might be fun.? I promised to let him know the next time I was traveling for business so that we might meet at my hotel.?

We finally got together for our first "encounter" last Wednesday night.? I adopted the role of the angry and frustrated sports team coach dealing with a poorly performing player.? It was a good choice and we both got into character almost immediately.? I was concerned about beingeither too soft or too hard for the sub's liking.? It was difficult to be the novice in the Dom role with a much more-experienced sub, and I actually could have been tougher and?more aggressive than I was.? Due to my inexperience in the scene, I thought?I should err on the side of being too light and not cause any bruising, which he did not want.? I did tell him that he could let me know if you want to be a darker shade of Red the next?time we meet, as I can certainly deliver that!?

The only aspect of this that made it a little awkward for me was that he was married, and I'm Gay.?? I didn't quiz him a lot about his sexual orientation, but I had advised him that I would like to jerk him off after the discipline, to which he gave his prior consent.? He must have liked it, because he shot his load rather quickly.