This is what I have figured out and why I am blowing this popsicle stand.
Pun intended.
Conscious or not, each and every person here is just futilely trying to avoid heartache. What you are really seeking is elusive and uncontrollable, yet you seek to contain and control it to prevent its inevitable loss. And this is an illusion.
Nothing is actually controllable.
Everyone wants to be loved.
Love will always change.
The dom/sub dynamic creates the biggest illusion available that a relationship can be controlled by a pre-determined contract or agreement. Something that will protect the hearts within it. Alas, if that were true, no one would be here.
The "dom" seems to be most vulnerable of all to a broken heart because he (or she) is hiding without vulnerability behind, well, a dominant persona.
So I bid you all a fond adieu and futile or not, I hope that you find what you think you are looking for. The illusion of control and the predetermined dynamics you think you are securing are really all wild cards that will jump you when you least expect it, because that's what humans do.
And to the guy that thinks keeping a woman in a dungeon below his house will keep his heart safe; you need to get out more.
