smokyb42

Hello, I'm a friendly Dom, large, 44 years old, a good guy who's sometimes great.

I'm loyal, open, a good listener and communicator. I'm observant and can gently guide others or at least make suggestions that most often are appreciated.

I'm a playful RomDom (a romatic top), brown hair, brown eyes with sparkling flecks of gold. I have a full but neatly cropped beard and stache (red highlights, a touch of gray).

I put a great deal of emphasis on communication ... to me it's the key to unlocking so many doors to this lifestyle, to building trust and showing each other respect for our individual roles. And, while I value the written and spoken word, I know there are many ways two people "talk." Great communication engages all senses: sight, sound, touch, even smell and taste.

I like to fully explore fantasies and desires ... knowing that, as Einstein said, creativity is more important than intelligence. You have to be able to dream something up before you can make it real. Conceive then realize. I also know the difference between the perfection of fantasy and the arduous but rewarding work of real life.

Little shocks me when it comes to discussion and I have many friends who I respect even though we don't see eye-to-eye on some issues.

I've been discovering my true nature and delving into the online world of BDSM for too many years, but only recently began the step of joining the active community through munches and educational classes.

I'm currently in the early stages of closing the door on a longterm 12-plus year vanilla relationship while looking for the door that may be unlocked or cracked open to a special one's heart, a submissive's heart. Patience, optimism, conversation and friendship are important foundational building blocks for the life I want to build with another at my feet, by my side and in my heart.

I'm very much a serial monogamist, knowing that -- for me -- the deepest emotional, physical and spiritual connection you make is with ONE other. I'm not polyamorous, nor interested in becoming a harem master. I want to become Master to one and a friend to others in a tight-knit group. Keeping the most significant, cherished and intimate relationship healthy and free from the weeds that can choke the garden of love is enjoyable but difficult enough work. I seek honesty and a commitment at least equal to my own.

I respect those who can live a polyamorous lifestyle but I know that's just not who I am.

Playfulness is great ... and I'm sure there will be educational situations that may require a third party or play in a slightly more public setting. Your comfort level will be considered as well as my own ... but ultimately I want to make the decision that is best for US. Sometimes that might be a selfish decision ... sometimes it will be quite unselfish, something that illustrates just how important you are in my life, that you are valued and treasured for simply being you, a beautiful piece of clay willing to be molded by a Master's hand. You'll never be denied your voice or your imput ... I simply want to make the decisions. Whatever path I choose, you'll know that you've been heard and that you are loved deeply.

I'm truly a special Dom, a GENTLEman who can quickly transform into a grizzly to protect my possessions, including your heart if it's been given to me freely or naturally because that is what you desire and who you are. Your submission will be HONORED, rewarded and RESPECTED. I'm worthy and will prove that to you. I'm not perfect as I still have lessons to learn -- still, I'm pretty damn special.

Although I'm constantly on one diet or another, I am a big guy not afraid of a BBW or a submissive capable of being manhandled in only the best ways. My sub will assist me in all of my goals where appropriate as I hope to assist her along her path.

Many of my fantasies involve curvy women in bondage, teasing them unmercifully with any and all means at my disposal (Toys-R-Us). I'm not interested in an obsessed pain slut ... a little ache, sting or blush is good, but I'm not into bloodsports or edge play. I want someone who feels good about herself, but even better when with me.

Some things We desire may requre classes or education so that they can be more safely done in a real-life setting. Other things will simply take time and the "let's be smart but that sounds like something worth TRYING attitude." So let's go on a sexploration ...

I'm very oral, enjoy arse play, tickle torture and teasing unmercifully before allowing a sub/slave her heavenly rush and mind-blowing mulitple orgasms. If you like OTK treatment, an occasional spanking or flogging slowly building in intensity, I'll gladly oblige. It will certainly be MY PLEASURE as well as yours. The height of my pleasure might just lie in the depths of your submission, not in your ability to endure pain. I'll learn everything I can about you -- access to the owner's manual might be helpful -- to take you on enjoyable sexplorations of subspace and bring you back safely.

All things are subject to negotiation, especially at the beginning of a relationship. As two people grow and become more comfortable with each other ... the trust blossoms and then bears fruit. Still, I'm smart enough to know we both have needs. But, I don't view a submissive's needs as any more or less important than my own.

Actually, if there is a bond ... I think the needs become complementary for I'm considerate and take good care of my possessions. I will employ restraints, ropes, clamps, use toys and learn as much as I can about what your needs are to make sure those are fulfilled as you fulfill mine -- yes, I have favorite activities and desires to try this or that. Communication is key so I will insist on a safeword ... although, it's something I hope is never necessary ... but until I can read you, your body and your reactions ... safe, sane and CONSENSUAL or Risk Aware Consensual Kink are the rules of the day.

I see no reason two people can't keep a relationship vibrant, alive, interesting especially if there is a bond, great communication, a playful spirit and the power exchange has been negotiated.

Are you ready to do as I please if I make sure you're rewarded and cherished for doing so?

Feel free to contact me if my profile sparks an interest in you. I do think that I am a cut above the typical and what I seek to create is EXTRAordinary.