Need to update my profile. My sub KP has moved out of of state to pursue her career elsewhere and we are no longer together. Am looking looking for someone of quality to get to know online first then see where it leads. Pictures of my previous sub can be found here www.collarspace.compersonalsv1178335details.htm More to come later. Old Friends are always welcome to drop by and say hello.
Old profile
Im a dominant male looking for a short to long term relationship with a submissively oriented woman. A woman who recognizes submission as her correct and natural state and a role she was born to play. Dominance is not getting someone to do what they dont wish to do but giving them permission to do what they already desired. I recently ended a long term relationship after both of us reached the conclusion that my dominant personality is best complemented by a woman of a more submissive nature. Her natural state was dominant as well, though she didnt realize it at the time, and it caused friction and frustration for both of us.
What am I looking for? You should first and foremost know what you want to be out of life, have a submissive nature and your weight and height should be proportionate to each other. Note I am not looking to change anyone! I tried changing someone before and it never works because inherently people deep down inside are who they are meant to be. I want a woman that is comfortable with her sexuality and calling in life. She knows deep down who she is as a person, a lover, a friend.
What can you expect from me? Im a bit of a loner, fancy my own company sometimes a bit too much for my liking and dont suffer fools gladly. I prefer to live deep and suck all the marrow out of life and to march to the beat of a different drum to borrow a well-turned phrase or two from Thoreau. Being dominant isnt about capriciously ordering someone around. Intrinsically, its about realizing your mates submissive potential and growing together in thought and deed. Respect is a two way street and rules established should always be honored. Im more vanilla in public preferring to my dominant side to come alive in the bedroom so I wouldnt intentionally humiliate someone in public and wouldnt tolerate it from others. I own my house and am fiscally responsible with money. I live within my means and think this is a good way to live life.
Im more into the mental aspects of dominantsubmissive play, although Ive enjoyed employing a firm hand when the situation called for it, LOL. I always respect a womans limits although Id prefer someone willing to explore her limits with me and push beyond them.
Although educated at different schools around the world, my heart will always bleed Blue and White. I always make the yearly pilgrimage to State College, Pa. (Penn State Mecca) for grilled stickies, Creamery ice cream (alumni swirl is my personal favorite) and hard-hitting college football. Though it does kind of suck I cant sneak out at half-time for a burger and beer anymore and come back to watch the second half. Damn you, 911! I love to philosophize so those who share this interest please feel free to email. I am an avid collector old books reading everything from English and American literature to FantasySciFi. My collection is pretty big so I never run out of things to read. Im a strange amalgam of elitist and working class values.
Note I do have pictures but because of the sensitive nature of my job am hesitant to post them publicly. If you are a sincere woman with a desire to serve between the ages of 25-42 please contact me and well continue from there. Or if youd just like to chat, I like that, too.
The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes "Awww!" - From Jack Kerouac's On the Road
The smell of old books..
Its wonderful see from reading so many profiles that people still love to read. I do love to read as well, and have a fairly decent collection of books. There's something so warm and inviting about an old book; it's smell, heft and texture, the lovely old musty armona of its yellowed pages, so warm and endearing. Reading a new book is like the anticipation of meeting a person for the first time; rereading an old book is like sitting down and visiting with an old friend whom you haven't seen in ages but longed to see again. I wonder, will folks in the future feel the same about their favorite books when they are all regulated to a Kindle or Nook ebook reader? A world without books isn't a world I wish to be apart of. May we never see the day!
I built a library room to house my collection and use use it to help sequester myself from the distractions of the outside world. I really do like having my own library to use at my beck and call. When I was a kid and we would visit friends of my parents', the husband - he was a lawyer - had this beautiful library with solid cherry bookshelves replete with row upon row of hard bound leather books, big comfy leather chair with the brass buttons, and a roaring fireplace. It was love at first sight; and I thought to myself that a real man - a man of substance and means - should have a room dedicated to the finer pleasures of scholarly pursuit. It is definitely the calmest room in my house and several friends of mine have remarked that when they entered the space that they felt a general sense of peace and well-being. I have a theory on this that when anyone who holds or fondles a book, a little bit of psychic energy is left behind slowly building up as it is tenderly passed from reader to reader. And if you have a whole room of these books, the feeling is cumulative and palpable even to the uninitiated.
How I love to have my sub sit near me or have her put her head on my lap whilst maybe I read to her whispering passages from Jane Austen or perhaps a nice piece from Shakespeare. I'm gratified that the woman dedicated to me has taken to learning my customs and habits in order that she could adaquately anticipate my needs.
Yes, books possess the ability to transport us into our own little world where we can assume the hero or even the damsel in distress waiting for her prince to come to her rescue. The power of the written word: What is it about the written word? What makes it so powerful? Little words on a printed page; yes, but so much more: The power of words isn't just how we communicate, it is how we share our past and our present. Shaping and molding our minds into that which we aspire to be, to live vicariously through the eyes of the author and dream of possiblilities.; for we are what we read.
Would love to share thoughts with like-minded people.
Saw this quote and it resonated with me so I thought I'd share it: The best locks cannot be opened because they use no bolts or bars. The best knots cannot be untied because they use no ropes or cord. When force is not used, people do not resist. What is not resisted, cannot be opposed. When living and dying are no longer different, The nourishing female is discovered. -Lao Tsu
Well, my London trip is over visiting 'The Big Smoke' or should I say 'Londonistan' concerning how much the city's demographics have changed. When a friend canceled at the last minute I thought the quality of my trip would suffer. But, often, when one door closes, another opens wide and welcoming. To Robert Frost, I say, you are more right than you know when you spoke the words:
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth.
Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear; Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same.
And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-- I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.
My trip was a chaotic maelstrom. It was the best of times. It was the worst of times. It was a glorious homage to 'Men at Work' and the wisdom they brought to bear.
Traveling in a Masonic combie A widow's son, stayed shooting zombies I met a strange lady, she made me nervous She took me in and gave me breakfast
Serendipity, thy name be the Morningstar, shining brightly in the heavens, leading those who seeks it's wisdom to follow its path to enlightenment. All I ever asked was a tall ship, and a star to steer her by. My muse, my raison d'etre; oh, to be a man in that desert given but a brief taste of its life-giving waters, only to be denied a second draught. Oh, how I wished again to drink deeply of that sweet honey from the rock, tasting its sweetness on my fingers and lips yet again.
"What is sweeter than honey and what is stronger than a lion?" Samson said to them, "If you had not plowed with my heifer, you would not have solved my riddle."
Would, that I had had the strength of a Sampson, and with the jawbone of an ass, slew all my petty prejudices, shortcomings and moments of indecision and distrust.
But the road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom as they say; for we never know what is enough until we know what is more than enough. And only those who are willing to risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. For we shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. I have traversed T. S. Eliot's Wasteland and found solace in the solitude.
'My nerves are bad to-night. Yes, bad. Stay with me.' Speak to me. Why do you never speak? Speak. 'What are you thinking of? What thinking? What? 'I never know what you are thinking. Think.'
What are you thinking about now that I am no longer there entwined in your sweet embrace? I hunger to know. It gnaws at me. I say, Come, Muse, Let us sing of rats!
Confusion will be my epitaph as I walk a cracked and broken path If we make it we can all sit back and laugh but I fear that tomorrow we'll be crying.
And now that tomorrow has come, I still feel the bitter sting of lachrymal tears upon my cheek.
27/5 Finally made it to London!!
After having to switch planes because of faulty cargo locks and taking an additional 6 1/2 hours waiting in the airport terminal, I am now situated in my hotel at Covent Garden on Monmouth Street. Anyone who contacted me before or had a change of heart about sharing a tasty meal and good conversation, should write me here.
Visiting London 5/27- 5/31, looking for dinner partner
Hello Everyone, I will be visiting London and am looking for some company, women only please. Dinner to start with and if we click, maybe something more. Please respond if interested and you know where Seven Dials' Hotel in London is. I have recent pictures if you are interested in seeing me.
Someone just sent me a chat request, but I don't know whom it was from. If you still wish to chat, send me a quick message letting me know who you are.
I just received the cutest message from a friend of mine who doesn't think Freemasons are "icky" at all, so I thought I would share it on here. Doesn't she sound absolutely adorable? :-)?
After speaking with a friend of mine, I decided to attend a local munch on Saturday. I just wanted to say how open and respectful all the folks were, and what a pleasure it was to converse with like-minded people irrespective of personal orientation. I wasn't really sure what to expect, but I was immediately set at ease by their calm demeanor and enjoyed several engaging conversations before heading home - definitely some "food for thought" discussions and insights were had by all.
I want to thank all the folks who took the time to write me in support of my work in Freemasonry; it was much appreciated.
Yet another disappointment that started out with such promise. :( To the person this is intended: yes, you're gorgeous and you know it. Men wait in line for a chance to fall down at your feet to drink in your beauty and fawn all over you with pretty little prattlings of all they will do to elevate your station in life; but it's nothing more than tales told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing, and then is heard no more. Someday when you're old and wizened and your breasts hang down to your knees, maybe then you'll realize that that kind of life you seek is not a true life at all, just a pale imitation of what you think life should be. So, let him use you as he sees fit until your succulent flesh dries up like so much putrid meat left out to rot in the hot sun and then is unceremoniously discarded in the trash like Thanksgiving Day leftovers.
The beauty of a woman is only skin-deep. If men could only see what is beneath the flesh and penetrate below the surface with eyes like the Boetian lynx, they would be nauseated just to look at women, for all this feminine charm is nothing but phlegm, blood, humours, gall. Just imagine all that is hidden in nostrils, throat and stomach? We are all repelled to touch vomit and ordure even with our fingertips. How then can we ever want to embrace what is merely a sack of rottenness? ?Abbot Odo of Cluny, 10th Century, as found in Marina Warner?s Phantasmagoria
Had a really strange experience here tonight: I casually mention that I had a Freemasonry meeting to attend and she freaked out blocking me before I could make a rebuttal.
Here is what she said: Masonic? Icky No more talk please .. or chat .. or phone .. do not care for Masons.. be well.ooxoxo
Here is my response since I haven't blocked her from reading my profile.
What do you have got against Masons?? Do you personally know any Masons? We're good honest folk trying to make good men better and the world a better place to live. George Washington, John Hancock, Paul Revere, Ben Franklin among other were all upstanding Masons. Not sure what you've read, but if you admire these people, you have to admire what they stand for.
So, I guess fair warning is in order. I am a Mason and intend to stay one. I enjoy the fraternity nature of the organization and helping folks through our charitable events. We're not some wacked out religious group, nor do we sacrifice animals for Satanic ritual. Although we do occasionally sacrifice ourselves on the alter of gluttony and have a pig roast and drink a few beers. Wow, I had no idea my membership was so unpalatable and repugnant so some folks, especailly after reading some some of the bazaar folks are into. Drop me a line if you agree or think I'm just plain nuts.
Games People Play
Oh the games people play now Every night and every day now Never meaning what they say now Never saying what they mean
And they wile away the hours In their ivory towers Till they're covered up with flowers In the back of a black limousine
[Chorus:] La-da da da da da da da La-da da da da da de Talking 'bout you and me And the games people play
Oh we make one another cry Break a heart then we say goodbye Cross our hearts and we hope to die That the other was to blame
Neither one will give in So we gaze at our eight by ten Thinking 'bout the things that might have been It's a dirty rotten shame
[Chorus]
People walking up to you Singing glory hallelulia And they're tryin to sock it to you In the name of the Lord
They're gonna teach you how to meditate Read your horoscope, cheat your faith And further more to hell with hate Come on and get on board
[Chorus]
Look around tell me what you see What's happening to you and me God grant me the serenity To remember who I am
Cause you've given up your sanity For your pride and your vanity Turns you sad on humanity And you don't give a da da da da da
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
Everything we do is based on agreements we have made - agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life. But the most important agreements are the ones we make with ourselves. In these agreements we tell ourselves who we are, how to behave, what is possible, what is impossible. One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that come from fear, deplete our energy, and diminish our self-worth.
Wow, I just don't understand some folks on this site. If you profess yourself to be a certain way in your profile, you should live up to that expectation. Otherwise, change your profile to reflect your new world-view. For the person to whom this is intended; I know you read my journal notes, so here is my answer for you:
If you wish to have any other kind of relationship with me other than a casual friendship, then your attitude needs to change. If this is your desire, then expect me to be involved in your life guiding your actions and helping you realize your full potential. This will not change because I WILL impose my lifestyle on you. I do not wish to be involved romantically with someone that doesn't share those goals. If you don't share them, then I am not the right man for you and you should look elsewhere.
You have a right to express yourself and convey your opinions, no one is arguing that point. As I tried to explain before, only the mediocre person is always at his or her best. I think you are too reluctant to take constructive criticism in the spirit it is intended. I am not used to people questioning everything I say or do. I am accustomed to people obeying my recommendations because they see it is in their best interest to so. Usually I am thanked for my efforts by people, not chided with childish choleric outbursts. Your truculent speeches only serve to reinforce my opinion that you are unwilling to be open minded.
Right now, I see you are like the petulant child, who, when doesn't want to listen to reason, may need to stand in the corner for a 'time out' to reflect on her actions. Or in more severe cases, needs to be put over a parental knee and properly spanked. Then afterward upon further reflection, she realizes the error of her ways and repents happily that this service was rendered on her behalf.
I know you don't like to be ordered around, but I think you do need some order and have someone instill some needed discipline in your life. I think if you reflect on this, you would see that you would be a much happier person for it. As I said before, I think you need more structure in your life and was trying to lead - not force - you to take that direction. When I say you lack structure, I don't necessary mean the capacity to perform a task but the desire to do so without external command or argument. Sometimes it can be hard to accept unpalatable truths about ourselves, it is never easy. Living up to our full potential in life is the great challenge. We must never be afraid to pick up the gauntlet thrown down and challenge ourselves to be better.
If you are happy with the way you are and don't feel need for improvement, then by all means you should seek a man looking for those same qualities. Maybe you and this other gentleman can work things out.
So, if you disagree with me, take solace in the comfort of your friends and commiserate about how unfair life is. And enjoy the company of other undisciplined gentlemen who you want you for a short term fix but nothing more. If you have an open mind to what I've said, then you may contact me by phone or letter otherwise I wish you well.
All the rivers run into the sea, yet the sea is not full. My journey began as a single drop of rain in an empty Cosmos. Alone and bereft from others of my kind, I sought solace in the solitude of my own being, purifying my essence in the fiery furnace of the sun, Waiting patiently for other droplets soon a-borning Who would travel life?s journey with me to mold the world in our image and our likeness. A cataract of force upon the Earth made to strike granite into dust By ourselves, we are small, insignificant, weak; unworthy of notice or respect; but, together we are: LEGION. We are unstoppable; invincible: for when united in one great purpose and common cause; we are a mighty torrent of change. Like an idea whose time has come, Like a storm cloud ready to burst forth its bounty and drench the timid unwashed masses yearning to be free, I say: Veritas Vos Liberabit: The Truth Will Set You Free And, I ask you. Once firmly united: Who?ll stop the rain?
Just a poem that amused me:?
It's only human nature, after all, For a boy to take a girl against the wall, And increase the population Of the rising generation,? By rubbing embrocation? Into her communication-? It's only human nature, after all. class="WMmessagebody" style="font-family: verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif;">- Anonymous
class="WMmessagebody"> Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go. We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time. T. S. Eliot
