SirPhantom


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	About SirPhantom I am a professional businessman working on the Eastside of Seattle. I have been in the lifestyle for the past several years and think about bdsm regularly. I love to spend my free time planning out new erotic and kinky scenes. I am looking for a sub who needs training and ongoing discreet play times to explore her wild, sensual self. I want a woman who can laugh, chat and tease when it's time for that, yet understands the meaning of submission and gives her self completely in scene. I take safety very seriously and have spent much time learning the proper ways to use my toys. I always play safe, sane and consensual. As for my pleasure while we are together, I want to own you, care for you, use you and work you out hot and nasty. I will blindfold you, tie you up and tantalize all your senses with different touches and licks and spanks and toys -- bringing you anticipated and unexpected pleasure -- sometimes making you wait and begging to cum; othertime never letting you stop. I am into bondage with silk scarves, ropes, cuffs and wraps and will gladly dole out light to medium pain via spanking, paddling, flogging, cropping and other spectacular toys. Sex is and will be a major port of any scene. I enjoy masturbation, oral, intercourse, anal, stretching and am open to most activities. I will not cut or hurt you in any way and will always ensure that your boundaries are respected.

A Dominant's Creed

Above all else he cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own pleasure.

To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust his direction.

He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and depend on.

He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in those differences.

When it comes time to teach his submissive lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. Never does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

He is a careful guide, with safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.

He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they.

He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to him out of the want of pleasing him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him.

He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.

A Submissive's Bill of Rights You have the right to be treated with respect. Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being. You have the right to respect yourself as well. You have the right to be proud of what you are. Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness. You have the right to feel safe. Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation you should feel safe or there can never be true surrender. You have the right to your emotions and feelings. Your emotions and feelings come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else's. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and suppressing them will only bring unhappiness later. You have the right to express your negative feelings. Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your concerns are real and you have every right to express them. If something doesn't feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don't like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable. You have the right to say NO. Being submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes or negative feelings about things. If something is happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, it's your duty to speak up. Remember, failing to communicate the word NO is the same as saying YES. You have the right to expect happiness in life. Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair. Your submission should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong. You have the right to have input in a relationship. You are an active partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it. You are submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships. You have the right to belong. Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive nature that they felt as through they "belonged" for the first time in their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to the One. It's in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last. You have the right to be loved and to love. Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for less. You have the right to be healthy. Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally, beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you to make sure those lines are not crossed. Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you are the one who has to make them aware before they can help. You have the right to practice safe sex. Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you may come into contact with at a later date. Sexually transmitted diseases have reached epidemic proportions and must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests at heart.

Trust
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Trust not that your partner will never make a mistake or never hurt you.

Trust instead in their commitment to you, that they will do their best *not* to hurt you,

and that if and when hurt occurs they will do their best to help you heal.

Woman under Master's hand

Under My hand...
your lessons are taught,
your heart soars,
your tears are brushed aside,
your soul deepens,
your mind grows,
your submission flourishes,
your serenity exists...
Under My hand...
the woman in you is discovered.

Hello everyone! Sir Phantom here. I live on the Eastside of Seattle and have been in the BDSM scene for the past 3 years although it has been lurking in my innermost thoughts most of my life. I primarily play in private and don't typically venture into the Wet Spot or other public forums. I am strictly a Dom although I had sub'd briefly to the Domme of a lesbian D/s couple to learn and experience the submmissive side.?

I am very much into rope bondage and am trying to learn more of the advanced shibari techniques. If you are interested in being my rope bondage model, please let me know. We can set whatever boundaries you want.?

I love tactile play and have recently picked up several new toys including fur-lined leather wrist and ankle cuffs to quickly subdue my sub when I don't want to wait to tie my knots. I have a beautiful new whip -- but need to continue practicing more before using it on my sub.?

I have taught four new subs over the past three years and am looking for others interested in exploring their dark and erotic side. I am not looking to play the field, rather I am still trying to find the "one" sub who can truly hold my interest and desire. I want a woman who can laugh, chat and tease when it's time for that, yet understands her submission and gives herself to her Dom fully and completely.??

I have read many books on the subject and tend to follow the philosophy of Jay Wiseman in S&M 101. I always play safe, sane and consensual. And in our first sessions, I will start "softer than soft; and proceed slower than slow". I want us to leave our initial play times together craving more rather than pushing it too far, too early and possibly regretting the results.??

Finally, sex and sensuality will be an integral part of each and every scene -- for me, it's not just about control.

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