So I am Darren, just turned 50 (2025). Blimey where does time go. I live in Tewkesbury in a nice place and area. I have been trying to figure how many years I have been on here and it seems like forever. Am i the only person that thinks meeting someone should be easy. Message and see if there is potential, move to another form of messaging and chatting, if things go well have a vanilla meet and then go from there.

What am I looking for? Well that's the question. Vanilla definitely not - is BDSM in the genes - it certainly feels like it is. I work from home in the main which does give flexibility - if things were to go well I may not be averse to moving and certainly in the interim longer visits would be definitely possible and of course I am more than happy to accommodate - live in would definitely be an option.

So in terms of kinks. I go into a relationship open and I think mutual kinks are important so this isnt a Must Like list, just things I enjoy or have experience with. Definitely bondage - tighter and restrictive or prolonged would be the ideal. Big fan of restraints and definitely would like to invest in some furniture - cage and such like. Chastity would be ideal. Impact fan - canes, crops, paddles, floggers and vampire paddles. I can have a sadistic/cruel streak but also caring and loving at the same time. TPE/Ms would also be an ambition.

Other than that I guess I'm your "average" type. Though whilst I do want a LTR I would rather be single than in a vanilla relationship so BDSM would be a larger part of a relationship. I don't muck people around - it's like wading through treacle here but I am ever hopeful "she" arrives.