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Male Submissive, 51, Shanghai
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Female Submissive, 44, Detroit, Michigan
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Male Submissive, 49, burlington, Vermont
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About shangie
I hate writing these introductions LOL
I tend to be very shy until I get to know a person....then watch out ;) I am a bbw, I like to be up front about that. Did you catch that? A BBW! That means I am a bigger girl. You would be surprised at how many Doms contact me and say they want to be with a BBW, only to find out they think a girl that wears a size 8 is a BBW lol
Let me quite frank - I am not actively looking for a Dominant at this time. The end of my last relationship has left me quite raw and without alot of trust. Many have told me to "get over it", to "move on" as they wish to "own" me. One its not just that easy, until I feel comfortable in myself and in my judgement, then I couldn't possibly get involved with someone. It wouldn't especially be fair to the Dominant. Two, I could never become involved with someone without talking to them extensively beforehand. In order for me to submit to someone I must "know" them, not just sexually, but really know them. It is the rare Dominant that is patient and can really get to know a submissive in all ways, thus earning their trust.
Ask a question and I'll do my best to answer.....
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I just don't understand it - My profile states that I am not looking for a Dominant at this time. Yet, Dominates are always asking me what I am looking for as far as a Dominant. Yes, I admit it I can be a bit bratty - so when I politely ask if they have read my profile, they get all bent out of shape. I politely tell them in my profile it states that I am not currently looking, they again get bent out of shape. "I am a waste of their time and I should have been upfront", I am sorry you feel I am a waste of your time, but if you had read my profile you would have known I was not looking right now and why.
Then I get the emails - "wanna fuck", "on your knees cunt" or "I am going to own your ass" as a first message, and when I politely decline again they get all bent out of shape. Some even sending message after message of insults.
I will be polite to you to a degree. If you start to go down a path where you insult me, then my politeness will no longer happen. I don't know you, I don't owe you anything. Just because I am a submissive does not me that I am a doormat, and you can disrespect me.
I have been in this lifestyle for 30 years (yes, that's right I was introduced to the lifestyle when I was 16). Perhaps I am getting too old for this. I was taught there should always be mutual respect. If you can't respect me, then how can I respect and trust in you?
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