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Male Dominant, 52, North Las Vegas, Nevada
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Male Submissive, 23, London
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About Shadowsgirl
THIS GIRL IS OWNED NOT LOOKING FOR ANYTHING OTHER THAN TO MAKE FRIENDS!!!! If i have not met Y/you in person or have not talked with Y/you in an exchange of messages then i will not accept a friend request from you. ? ? "I am perfect in my imperfections, secure in my insecurities, happy in my pain, strong in my weaknesses, and beautiful in my own way... i am me"
ME
In my everyday life i wear different hats at different times. At any given time i am a mother, a student, a tutor, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a submissive/slave, a masochist and i also have two little personalities. But in all of this i am ME. i have loved deeply, i have been cut to the bone, i have bled for others, i have bled for my own pain. i have grown and i have regressed. i have scars; some of those scars come from a horrible past. i have been abused, molested, used and raped. These scars have taught me a thing or two. i have lived through hell and i have always come out on top. One hat i do not wear is the hat of a victim. Am i a victim? Yes i am. But it does not cripple me it makes me stronger. My past has in part made me who i am today, and the me i am today, i am proud of. ? Because of my past and because of my choice of lifestyle, i have chosen a career path that will help others who have been in situations like me and don?t know where to turn. For those who like me thought there was something wrong with them because they could not function in a vanilla relationship. When i am done with school i will have my bachelors in Psychology and my Masters in Criminal Justice with a focus in Forensic Psychology. i may eventually have my P.H.D in psychology some day but for now i just want to have a degree that legally allows me to help others in this lifestyle as well as the LGBT community. (and any other community i may not be aware of) ? i am a service oriented submissive with a slave?s heart. i enjoy serving. i enjoy giving authority over myself to another whom i feel deserves it. But please understand having authority over me is earned not freely given. ? i may not have always admitted it but i am a masochist (just because i admit i am a masochist that doesn?t mean i like or enjoy all forms of pain). i am still learning what i like and don?t like. i will try things at least once maybe twice to be sure. i enjoy flogging, whips, crops, paddles, canes and other things used in impact play. i enjoy needle play, even though i can?t watch them being done. On the other hand i also enjoy the more sensual side of play. i enjoy fire play and knives. (yes i know knives can be used to cut and can be very sadistic in the right hands).PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT THIS SIDE OF ME IS NOT SEXUAL. IT DOES NOT TURN ME ON.i DO NOT LIKE TO MIX SEX AND PLAY, THEY ARE SEPARATE!!!!! ? "Touch a woman's heart,you get her love.Touch a woman's mind,you get her interest.Touch a woman's soul and you will get passion beyond your wildest dreams!" author unknown
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Into: bitting (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/24692 (receiving), blindfolds (receiving), blood play, breast torture (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/14 (everything to do with it), http://.com/fetishes/132 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/42 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/111 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/46 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/47 (wearing), http://.com/fetishes/49 (wearing), http://.com/fetishes/247 (everything to do with it), http://.com/fetishes/54 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/356 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/55 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/75 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/1698 (wearing), http://.com/fetishes/1202 (everything to do with it), ??whips (receiving).
Curious about:? http://.com/fetishes/36 (receiving), http://.com/fetishes/81 (everything to do with it), http://.com/fetishes/1020 (wearing), http://.com/fetishes/94 (receiving).
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11:11 by In This Moment.
Baby, baby, baby, baby
It's been a long, long road
It's been a long, long dream
Baby, baby, baby, baby
God knows I gave them Hell
God knows I've tried
But at least I can say, at least I can say I loved
At least I can say, at least I can say, I loved
When I lie down and die, when I lie down and die...
...I can say I loved.
Baby, baby, baby, baby. baby
There's not a thing I would change
My heart's still in the flames
Baby. baby, baby, baby, baby
There's been a beautiful tragedy
But at least I can say
AT LEAST I CAN SAY I LOVED
AT LEAST I CAN SAY, AT LEAST I CAN SAY I LOVED
When I lie down and die, when I lie down and die, when I lie down and die, when I lie down.
At least I can say, At least I can say, at least I can say - I loved
these are lyrics to a song. i wish i could find a way to link the actual song with these lyrics but there are no youtube videos or anything like that. this song just really spoke to me. everything i have been going through, yes it hurts but i wouldn't change anything. i love him and in a way always will. He will always hold a place in my heart. i wouldn't change a thing. i learned a lot from him and i have learned a great deal and have grown so much more since W/we ended things. so i say yes it hurts but in the end it was and is worth it.
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What do you bring to the table that would interest me besides being a fucktoy? Skills? Deeds? Income? Security? Stability? Character? Charisma? Are you willing to learn or do you think you already know what you need to know? Will you study hard? Are you a princess girl that competes with everything for Daddy, or are you independent and self maintaining? Do you add to his life in a positive way or are you more work for him?
i can't answer this in exact. but i will try my best to give You an insight.
i am a submissive (slave at heart)
i enjoy cleaning and cooking, making things easier for Him so when He comes home He can sit and relax. i will admit i hate yard work but if asked to i would do my best with the exception i am not able to use a push mower. i cannot start one, it is one thing i know i cannot do. i have tried and it makes me feel week to even attempt it any more. but i can do the gardening and landscaping. i have plenty experience in that area of yard work.
i am attending school in order to become a therapist so maybe not right now but in a few years (hopefully not to much longer) i will be able to provide financially as well. i do not want to be the sole provider but i would love to be able to cover half of the financial responsibilities.
i do not believe i know everything as such i am willing to learn. i enjoy learning what makes You happy. i enjoy learning new things in general. if i am given a task to learn something i will learn everything i can about it.
i can be a princess at times. i can be bratty at times.and there are times i will question You. please know it will not be out of disrespect but sometimes i need to know why. and there are times i want/need to be center of attention, but that is not all the time. i also enjoy alone time to recenter myself and am self sufficient in taking care of myself. i do enjoy being pampered at times but it is not a necessity. and there will be times i will need to sit at Your feet and have You pet my head in order to ground myself and find my center.
i do not need to be at Your side 24/7 i am sure there will be days or nights You will want to just go out with Your friends and there will be times where i need girl time with my friends.
i would like to think i would add to Your life in a positive way but i will be honest and say there will be times W/we will most likely butt heads and or disagree on things. so at times there will be work to be done to keep the relationship flowing but i believe that is true in all relationships. i believe as long as there is the possibility to discuss things then things will work and i will enrich Your life not stifle it.
there will be days i just do not feel like serving but on those days i will still do so it will just be a bit harder than normal. and there will be days i just want to just go out and have fun as a family not Dominant/submissive. i do have a child and she is very important to me. so family time is very important.
i think this is a good starting point in what i can offer. but this can and may change over time.
i should also add i do enjoy Topping. i have a sadistic side.
i am also a masochist
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Relationship i want
(this is not set in stone, it is more just a starting point)
i have been putting a lot of thought into this and i refuse to settle for anything less then what i want and need.
i want One Dominant in my life, i only crave to serve one person. This Dominant must be able to accept me as i am, He must be able to handle my littles. He needs to be able to interact with my littles, Brea and Layla. i am playful and can be bratty at times and i don't want a Dominant who cannot handle this. yes i need structure and rules. there should be punishment for breaking the rules. i crave Total Power Exchange (if You do not understand T.P.E than ask me i will explain). i want to find a Dominant who wants to own all of me not just parts of me. so a Dominant with a Daddy side is close to ideal.
i need a Dominant who enjoys the types of play i enjoy, like knives and impact play and the list could go on
I want a relationship that is sexually monogamous. i do not want and WILL NOT share my Dominant sexually with another i want a relationship with a Dominant who does not like to share His girl. After time this could change if W/we both mutually agree that W/we want to add another to O/our family but only if W/we agree that it will benefit O/our family.
how ever when it comes to play that is a different story. i would not mind if my Dominant played with others NON-SEXUALLY as a matter of fact i would enjoy watching Him play with others. yes i understand there is a level of intimacy that is involved with play and that is acceptable but there is a huge difference between intimacy and sexually. He needs to be open to me playing with others as long as it is NON-SEXUALLY as there are a few Dominants i have grown quite attached to and love playing with.
my Dominant needs to be ok with me being a switch. I do have a Dominant side. even though i am not really sure it is prominent enough to want a submissive of my own i do like to exert it at times but mostly in scenes when i top.
i am sure i will find more to add to this as i continue to grow and explore. but for now i hope this gives an idea of what i want.
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please feel free to message me and start a conversation. how else will you get to know someone if you don't... |
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i topped for my first time the other night and i must say it was a great feeling. i still have a lot to learn and i am looking forward to learning more and gaining new experiences..?
Brea was able to have fun she was able to let go of some things. things she had been holding in and on to for some time now. she was able to let go of some hurt and pain she was holding onto.?
i am grateful and very honored that a very close friend trusted me with Her pet. it was truly an honor to be trusted. specially for the first time i topped.?
i know the only way to gain experience is to try but i was so nervous that i was going to do something wrong and hurt him. or do something wrong.?
i wish my Mentor could have been there, and i hope she doesn't get pissed off at me for doing my first time without her there. ?i ended the scene before he was ready i wasn't sure if i should have continued. i started to feel really really hyper with a side of guilt when i saw the bruises that were forming.?so i made the choice to end the scene there. not sure if i could have handled the overwhelming feelings i was starting to get.
i am looking forward to learning and experiencing a lot more.? |
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so finally something to look forward and to be excited about. i will have my Bachelors in Psychology by next summer. i am about done with classes than on to my Masters in social work.... and as an added bonus i am taking a class called "Psych and Personality of Serial Killers" so super excited about this class |
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Journal 4/23/2012
i feel lost and unsure about what to do. i know what everyone keeps telling me but i can't get this feeling of wanting to walk away out of my mind. i don't know what to do. everything i know pretty much revolves around one person and without Him i don't know what or how to do this. i don't know. i know everyone will tell me this is when i need everyone the most but in all honesty the only person i want and need right now made the choice He felt was best for me. He is right He did make the best choice He felt was right for me and i am not mad at Him i don't hate Him. i will always love Him but without Him i don't feel right i don't feel real. i am not sure if i will walk away but i am seriously considering it. everything and every one remind me so much of what i no longer have. and am not allowed to have. i will heal and i will get through this one day at a time but right now i don't have the strength to be here not sure if i can or will ever be what anyone wants or needs i was so sure i was at one point but now all i feel is guilt, like a failure, a disappointment, like i did something wrong that i am not good enough. and before anyone says that i am not any of these things only one person can make me believe that and this is how i feel. i am sorry for any pain i have caused Him i am sorry for being the disappointment that i feel i have been. i don't know what to do or where to go i just know that i haven't felt so lost and confused in my life. and i miss Him so much it kills me. it kills me not to be able to text and hear "hi baby" its so hard to let go of something that for me was everything.? |
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I CANNOT ACCEPT CHAT REQUESTS. IF YOU WANT TO TALK TO ME FEEL FREE TO EMAIL ME |
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A little girl lost and alone wondering around hoping maybe she will one day be found
Not an idea who she is not an idea who she was no clues to be found
A little girl lost and alone wondering around hoping maybe she will one day be found
Her past lost in a sea of blurred memories her present pale and bleak her future not looking bright
A little girl lost and alone wondering around hoping maybe she will one day be found
left helpless left scared left beat down and broken
A little girl lost and alone wondering around hoping maybe she will one day be found
She wears a mask a mask so no one can see the true insecurities of her identity
A little girl lost and alone wondering around hoping maybe she will one day be found
She hides how she feels hides her imperfections hides so the world don't see
A little girl lost and alone wondering around hoping maybe she will one day be found
Then one day it happens He finds her all alone He finds the little girl ands shows her the way home
She is no longer lost and wondering she is no longer alone He will be there to guide her
He helps her to remember all that she has lost and shows her there is no need to fear
She is no longer lost and wondering she is no longer alone He will be there to guide her
To show her it is safe He will hold her and protect her and keep the world at bay
She is no longer lost and wondering she is no longer alone He will be there to guide her
She has found peace in her past her present no longer bleak her future looking brighter with each new coming week
She is no longer lost and wondering she is no longer alone He will be there to guide her
He found her and fixed her He continues to help her grow
She is no longer lost and wondering no longer alone He is there to help and guide her, keep her safe and watch her grow. |
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i think if someone takes the time to write you then they could at least respond with a not interested or something instead of nothing at all i truly think that that is rude and uncalled for
just sayin |
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