RedAnhedonia


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	About RedAnhedonia **** June 6, 2011 --- At this time I am not seeking any type of relationship. **** Heard about Collar Me from another site ... Check my journal for more info. Though I prefer Daddy types between 33-47. I don't mind chatting online but I don't understand online D/s. I'm very curious about lots of things and prefer discussion and trust building before agreeing to any activity. Mostly open to explore anything. Though I have a few limits. :-)

Was just looking at some profiles and noticed quite a few with photos of guys with nicely developed chests and arms. But when my eyes panned down ... there were scrawny, stick legs. If you are going to go through the trouble to lift weights... how about remembering that you have muscles in your legs too!

I've been doing a terrible job replying to my emails .... naughty!!!

DaddyM47 is a presumptuous jerkoff, who insults you, then blocks you. He must be compensating .... poor, sad, lonely man.

I'd like someone to give me a new car.... no strings attached. Just give it to me. Preferably, 2010 something, maybe a hybrid .... but my current POS is in the shop every other month!! Maybe I should just play the lottery and cross my fingers...

I was just thinking.... I really wish CM journals had a "like" button.... there are some I'd like to agree to, but I don't feel necessary to reach out with an email, guess I'm gonna have to start... :-)

I know my issue today is nothing compared to what you're going through.... but I could really use a hug...

So sensitive, stressing....sleeping may be difficult. Need validation.

Nurture vs. Nature. How did you know or develop your chosen role? Were you a dominant infant? Did you know in second grade that you were submissive to others? Leader? Follower? Were you abused? Were you an abuser? Driven? Lazy? Unable to make decisions? How did you know? Do you know for sure? Have you been tested? Just curious.... :-)

Things that amuse me about CM journals. #1- People that write about being "under consideration for a collar" from Dom /Domme so and so. Who cares? Really? Do people care? Or is it a way for people to view your profile so as to determine what makes said sub/slave to 'valuable' as to be considered? #2 - People that broadcast how many emails they've received. This comes from all sides. Men, women, trans, bi, straight, gay, Dom/Domme, sub, slave, or whatever. Seriously shows the need to brag about how amazing they are.... probably prompts others to email said braggarts out of curiosity or to be a part of the "in" crowd. #3 - People who constantly complain about fakes, liars, being lonely, blah blah blah. If your current process isn't working.... switch it up. Talk to someone maybe you wouldn't normally. Perhaps you'll learn something about yourself. ###################### I read the journals nearly everyday, and find these three topics are repeated ad nauseum. How about being positive and writing about joyful things without putting others down. Just a thought.

Been looking at lots of profiles lately, with more than one photo. Wondering if people think about the pics they post and consider what their pics say about them. Some makes sense, some are just terrible, some make me wonder why ? I mean yeah you're dominant, so you're into sadism, but does every pic need to be if your scowling for the camera? What are you proving by having six pics in the same dirty T-shirt, sunglasses, hat, or any combination therein? Is your preferred gender/Dom/sub/slave attracted to those pics? How's that working for you? Or the genital shots.... is that all you have to offer? Ass, cock, cunt, tits? That is even if the pics are even of you... I get people want to maintain some level of privacy due to work or whatever, but those who aren't, what do your pics say about you?

I thought I had something to say... Then I realized that I don't ... hate when that happens.

To all Dominants: Ask not what your submissive can do for you; Ask what you can do for your submissive. These relationships we are forging (the collective "we" of the CM community ) are a two way street. No matter what your natural tendency or chosen role, we have a responsibility to one another to care for and tend to the needs and desires of our chosen partners. As you journey through these experiences, remember that you can't be a Dom without a sub. Nor can a sub be successful without a Dom. :-)

Been having some new and different experiences lately. When you spend most of your life giving, or asking for what you want/need, never getting.... its so confusing when someone sees something in you that motivates them to give. I'm becoming more in touch with my desires as a result. Which can only be good!

At work. On break. People talking about BDSM, toys, etc. I'm sitting mouth shut, with an evil grin on my face!! Lol!

So, I just read a news article about a guy who calls of places of business asking about pantyhose ... I've spoken to him through work ... and wonder if he knows about CollarMe ... if not, someone should tell him lol!!

Article posted here : http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory?id=12929904

What's the deal with the nicknames? Sir Demon Shoes, Lord Spankaslut, Master Bingo Lover.... Seriously guys, your dominant, we get it. But having a pseudo mysterious Nick name for yourself seems silly, trite even. Like you are trying too hard. Instead of closing your profile "You will submit to your one true Sir Whipsnchains" how about showing a shred of acknowledgment that you really and truly understand the dynamic.

Been spending a lot of time lately reading profiles. I not that new here... but still newly exploring this site and BDSM & D/s in general. Curious about lactation so if you have interest in that and its on your profile, that's probably why I spied. I feel like I should also mention, I am not interested in jumping into anything. I will not call you sir, master, daddy etc until after we've met and gotten to know each other. I do not believe there us anything casual about D/s and my submission is a gift contingent upon mutual trust, adoration, and respect. Just because I am submissive doesn't mean I do not deserve those things.

I wrote this when a friend asked me what my ideal relationship would be.

When I think about the ideal relationship, I think of a kind man, someone tall, and handsome. I think about someone who physically compliments me, in other words, we look good together, it makes sense asthetically.

That aside, he will want to shower me with his affection, cuddle, snuggle, kiss, touch, stroke my hair, freely give his time and attention to me. Shower me with compliments and gifts, not just gifts, but meaningful well thought gifts. Gifts that he made himself, or purchased, but always from the heart. Gifts of letters of devotion, gifts of time, gifts of anything and everything. Tangible things as well as intangible. I usually have a hard time asking for those things, and I realize that others cannot read my mind. So this ... this is good!!

Ideally, this fantastic relationship, will be obvious to others, I want everyone to know that he is in love with me, and only me; and that I am equally in love with him. His adoration will be apparent in every move he makes; together or not.

He will share with me anything and everything, his thoughts and feelings, without being a pussy about it. He will be strong physically,and emotionally; but able to break down and cry in front of me. He will be my shoulder to lean to when I've had a bad day, as I will be his. He will pretend to enjoy American Idol, even if he would rather watch basketball. He will compliment my cooking, he will help me make descions. He will play my 'Devil's Advocate'. He will allow me to be myself at all times, even if I am being a bitch because I really want a piece of chocolate and there isn't any around. He will go to the store to satisfy my chocolate cravings ... even if it is 11pm at night and he has to go to work early in the morning. He will demand my time and attention when he needs me, and he won't be afraid to need me. He will understand that I will never ask of him anything that I wouldn't do for him. He will want to 'show me off' to his friends and family. He won't be ashamed of me. He will think I am beautiful on my worst day, and remind me when I am most insecure.

He will be intense in his passion for me. He will be my protector, and my backbone when mine feels weak. He will encourage me to stand on my own two feet and speak up for myself, when I feel like I can't.

He will listen to me ramble on about some nonsensical thing or another, tell the same stories over and over, and cry about some distant wrong in the world. He will be silly with me ... and laugh like an idiot over the most idiotic thing. He will be clear when he isn't in the mood for my shennanigans.

He will make love to me.... and really be IN LOVE with me. He will be soft, and gentle. He will take his time, caressing and enjoying my body. He will know he has my heart and mind. He will accept that I am outgoing and flirtatious, and that it means nothing because my heart his his.

He will kiss me long and soft, or hard and rough.

He will come in after a long day at work ... grab me by the Hmmm due to the no vulgarity rule this section has been edited.because it's good customer service, because paying customers want me to want them, even if I actually do not.

He will remind me at all time that I am his. And I will know that he is mine. He will understand that trust is a big deal to me... he will understand if my trust fails in him .. that it is actually my own insecurity and he will be patient and help me to restore that by whatever means neccessary. When we are not together, he will call me frequently, leave voice mail messages, to let me know he has been thinking about me. He will miss me when I am not around. He will be crative in finding new ways to take me to the next level. He will push my limits .... and know that when I give into a limit, I am trusting him more and more. He will trust me. He will push me to confess my darkest thoughts and kinks, things I have never shared with anyone.

He will ultimately take care of me, in everyway. He will not disallow me to work, if I choose. He will take me on dates, even after we have moved past the dating phase and into the relationship phase. He will encourage me to try new things even if I am afraid. He will be respectful

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I feel like I am rambling. Well I guess I am.... but when I started thinking about it... it just started coming out. I am sure there is more. But I'll let you chew on that for a while!!

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