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About RAY333
NOTE: 2013 Why does this sight have so many flakes, fakes, and bots.. Why isn't there any type of moderation on this site.. This sight is worse than Craig's List. ===================================================================== I AM LOOKING FOR A GAL THAT I CAN TRAIN IN GORDEAN LIFESTYLE, SO ANYONE INTERESTED,?????????????? I am a Dominate male in the east valley seeking a submissive, willing, spontaneous, close somewhere around it. over 18, single, divorced or a cheating slut. Tell me about you and stats, if you have a pic please send to get mine. I am hiv neg, std free and high hygiene clean. The photo online aren't all mine, but these are things im into and willing to put you into... So when I find the submissive that I can use and abuse then I will have some new photos online..... Im going to add this I feel that I'm a easy going fun loving person. Love to be outdoors when it is not to hot, but also sitting by the pool. (if I had one) Like to go to the movies, hang out by a pool, BBQ with my friends. At this time in my life I am looking to share it with someone whether it be going to the movies, or just hang out at home, (playing) sharing a good meal or watching a movie or just enjoy each other!( You should know where that is going).... I am very articulate and desire open honest communication. I am seeking a relationship or something near it is okey. Here is a list of things im into, enjoy, willing to do etc. It is taken from another sight that im on.. So what does it take to find a submissive women that likes a good hard bare ass whipping, caning, fisting, breast bondage, or anything in the lists below.??? Into: https://.com/fetishes/136358 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/71399 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/2 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/2713 (giving) https://.com/fetishes/5 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/599 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/290 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/2317 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/20058 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/47349 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/2158 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/10 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/2054 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/12 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/1615 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/2128 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/613 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/1343 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/214 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/34 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/36 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/441 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/74 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/43 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/190108 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/4013 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/85929 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/91052 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/844 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/66 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/1210 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/69 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/841 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/71 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/72 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/202835 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/133113 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/118 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/89 (receiving), https://.com/fetishes/2426 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/40 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/3582 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/96 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/35 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/2236 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/653 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/100 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/103 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/105 (giving). Curious about: https://.com/fetishes/38 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/57 (everything to do with it), https://.com/fetishes/837 (giving), https://.com/fetishes/904 (giving). You Scored as Bondage Your turn on is bondage... all out. You don't have a specific part of kinky sex that turns you on more than any other... everything working together turns you on. And why shouldn't it? Sex isn't sex without all the trimmings.
You Scored as Dominant (((Note: This quiz doesn't cover all aspects of BDSM due to the length that such a comprehensive quiz would be. I chose to keep it sex-based because the psychological reasons behind fetishes are complex and different for everyone to some degree.))) Sex is about power and you like to be powerful. It's nice to be in charge and get what you want. And being in a position where people will do what you say is exciting. Sadist 100% Dominant 100% Experimental 96% Exhibitionist / Voyeur 79%
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JULY 27, 2013....... There is so much spam, fakes, and flakes on this sight. Its like a site for scammers, hookers and just garbage. I wish this site would be for "REAL" people and not scammers like it is now. Someone need to look over peoples profiles, and contact them to see if they are for real.
This site is a major disappointment in this lifestyle. Just wanted to update my thoughts and finding on here, its getting worse than Craigslist which is all scammers and hookers or just guys getting off seeing all the idiots that will send out photos of their women or them selves to them.
I really wish this site had a moderator that could weed out the flakes and fakes and only keep the people that are for real on here. I know the site in Arizona is such a total joke. It would be nice to actually meet someone on here that is real and is really looking to enjoy the lifestyle. But I think Im asking for a miracle or two.. |
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WORTH AND VALUE OF A SLAVE (author unknown) (Aspect of a slave to their Owner) I am VERY much into things like dehumanization, animalization, and objectification. Why? Because when dominant people create a huge separation in worth and value between myself and themselves it draws out my naturally submissive instincts and makes me feel more willing to behave in a docile and compliant manner. In other words, make it perfectly clear to me, in no uncertain terms, that you view me as nothing more than the lowest and most insignificant creature that ever crawled out from under a rock and you will make me feel as though I should behave like just that very thing. Being told that I’m a creature of utterly no worth or value, and that my very existence is meaningless, makes me feel inside as if my sense of pride, dignity, and self worth are slowly evaporating out of my brain. Tell me over and over again that I’m a filthy piece of subhuman trash that deserves to be ground into the dirt under the heel of your boot like an insect, that I’m a naked animal born to be dragged about at the end of your leash like a whipped dog, that I’m a stinking and disgusting pile of dung not worth the effort to spit on and you will put me in the mood to accept and tolerate almost any indignity, any perversion, and any torture you feel like inflicting on me. I like being kept animalistically stark naked before the eyes of dominant people who maintain their own modesty and dignity by remaining fully clothed. I like dominant people to behave as if they feel that they are living deities (an omnipotent Goddess and almighty God) who rule the universe and who view me as just an animal to be sacrificed on the altar stone of the temple dedicated to their adoration. I like being made to crawl on my belly, and drag my own nakedness through the dirt, behind dominant people so I can kiss every inch of hallowed ground that they bless with the touch of their sacred feet. I like it when dominants view themselves as divine beings while they look down their noses at me and see me as an inferior life form wallowing in the mud and muck of the earth while they sit upon golden thrones of power in the clouds. I like it when dominants order me to kowtow self debasingly before them and lavish their holy feet with worshipful licks and kisses while they lash away at me raised butt with a crop, cane, or a whip. I like being told that I’m just a piece of brainless meat for them to devour, consume, chew up, and spit out into the garbage pale with the rest of the waste. I like being told by dominants that I’m a disgusting and revolting thing in their eyes, that the sight of me makes them sick, that I’m as repulsive as a puddle of puke, and that my very existence is a grotesque abomination of nature. I like it when dominants flaunt their supremacy and superiority in my face, cram it down my throat, and never pass up an opportunity to step on me and push my head into the slimey swamp waters of abject inferiority. That is what arouses my submissiveness and makes it bubble up to the surface where you can almost see it coating my trembling flesh. If you want me to kneel for you, crawl for you, bend over for you, and obey you like a mindless pet then humiliate me, whip me, fuck me, stretch every hole open with your fist, make me beg, make me scream, make me service you till i gag, degrade me, devalue me, and debase me in the extreme and subject me to excessive dehumanization, animalization, and objectification. Those are the keys to unlocking my submissive masochism and the triggers that ignite my sexual desires. Strip me of every last vestige of my pride, dignity, self esteem, self respect, and humanity and what will be left of me will be something You, my Master can mold into exactly what you want. |
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THE TIMELESS ART OF VAGINAL LIP ELONGATION FOR WOMEN.
Labia stretching, a female practice dated back in ancient tribal times and women practice it, in our modern era, where women take vaginal lip elongation to the limits of your imagination. When female labial size takes centre stage, it becomes a stunning image that it will rattle your inner being, a sighting that you are not soon forgotten about it. Labia Stretching is an ancient practice, which they performed in parts of Africa, the Caroline Islands and other parts of the World. Its primary function was to elongate the labia minora that were to be used to attract attention to the female body by exposing her long inner vaginal lips to the males of the tribes. Imagine yourself staring directly at the vulva of a young female blossoming out of puberty, and seeing an amazing sight, which you have never experienced before. Her excessively long inner vaginal lips fully stretched by her tight grasp but yet in a feminine manner You watch her labia minora reaching the lower part of her shapely thighs almost reaching her knees. Then to the delight of your being, she turns around slowly exposing her silky long labia with her back exposed to you. You see a new delight as you get a glimpse of her labia minora and her buttocks, indulging yourself in the wonders of Labia Stretching. The size of the labia minora varies greatly between females. Some women will have tiny near to non-existent labia minora; while on the other hand, there might be a woman with extremely long inner vaginal lips. The labia minora range can go from a couple millimetres in length up to 25 centimetres or more, if properly elongated. Women in remote tribes would take it into their own hands to increase the length of their labia minora to incredible lengths. By accounts of Europeans who saw women with long labia dangling between the legs of the females. Women would join in groups elongating their labia or the labia of an other female. It was an individual or shared activity, as also would tribal elders would join in stretching the labia of the young girls. The elongated labia are considered a delicacy in various parts of the world as well as individual preferences between men and women. Where they find an attraction to labia that hangs far down from the vagina and is considered ideal for sexual gratification of the individual or the couple. It is not hard to imagine that a woman, in some place of the world is stretching her inner labia at this moment. Stretching, pulling and manipulating her vaginal lips far down from her vagina noting the maximum length she can obtain. Labia stretching will always be performed by somebody in some remote or urban area, its common for women to touch, pull, and manipulate the vaginal lips, it is just that some women will go further and take it to extremes. The female labia minora can easily be manipulated in various shapes and forms when it has been properly elongated to its maximum length potential. Just think of it as labial origami, when you have long labia minora, you can create diverse forms or shapes that mimic insects, animals, structures, botanicals, etc. Origami of the female genitals can be quite an attraction for spectators. Women have been creating shapes and forms with their labia through out centuries. What young girl has not tried to mimic a flower with her labia or the wings of a butterfly? In the past or in the present women have always put on shows to their audience when in a group setting or their mates using their inner vaginal lips. It is not far fetched to believe or not believe the amazing and fantastic things women can accomplish with their genitalia. Vaginal lips can be used to create incredible eye opening figures mimicking common things we all have come to know through the passage of our lifetime.Female genitalia are by no means dull or boring as some people would have you believe. A little thought and imagination is all that is needed when performing labial origami. With experience women can easily shape their vaginal lips into curtains, leaves, flowers, bats, dragons, you name it, it can be done and you will never look at labia the same way again. Increasing the size of your labia mayora to its maximum potential where each vaginal lip is big and round like you where aroused all the time. New methods allow for vulva augmenting making it easier to accomplish then what was done in the past and the results are quite remarkable as the vulva doubles, triples in size.With age the shape of the vulva tends to diminish, where the labia majora decrease in size becoming less apparent to the point where its no longer noticeable. Some vulvas will go flat and others will take a look of a caved in vulva which is not very attractive and its a sign of vulva decay, and the vulva will loose its power of attraction and lure. Loss of the vulva shape can also occur in young women by regular acts of sitting and low physical activity will take a look of a flat labia. Excessive changes in weight will also alter the shape of the labia as fatty tissue is added and removed.There are ways to augment the size of the vulva without requiring cosmetic surgery. All you need is a few minutes per day of your time following one of various guides that we have developed which can be used to maintain the shape of the vulva at your current stage. This is perfect for younger women to avoid the loss of your curvy vaginal lips and more mature women can fully augment any loss How does Labia Stretching work, these activities were performed in ancient times, what we’ve done was to bring it up to date. We modernized the procedures as well as pioneered and developed new methods for labial elongation and it all can be done in the privacy of your home, alone or with the aid of your partner. For more information, and also some interesting historical facts, visit www.labiastretching.com .
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1. Get her ready. Make sure your partner is relaxed, turned on, and comfortable. When a woman becomes aroused, her vagina relaxes, expands, and lengthens—all very important for accommodating a fist. Also, make sure your hand is very clean and your nails closely trimmed. 2. Use lube. Even the wettest snatch can use some extra juice during fisting—the more, the better. Two lubes I recommend are Astroglide and Liquid Silk. A latex glove can also reduce friction and is a good idea for safer sex purposes. 3. Start slow. Start with one or two fingers and work your way up to three and then four. Most women need some time to further relax the muscles of their vagina, and some may require several “stretching” sessions, over weeks or even months, before you can actually get your whole hand in. 4. Duck inside. As you add more fingers to your partner’s cunt, squeeze them together so your index and pinkie fingers are under your middle and ring fingers. As you push further inside, tuck your thumb under your fingers. (Imagine you’re making shadow puppets and trying to do a duck.) This makes your hand into a wedge shape that allows you to gradually stretch her open as you press on. Apply steady but slow pressure. 5. Let her lead. Listen to your partner and let her tell you when to push, when to back off, when to add more fingers, and when it’s too much. Fisting can cause vaginal muscle and tissue injuries if you go too fast or too hard. Some pain during fisting is normal, but you have to take her word on the difference between a “good” hurt and a “bad” hurt. 6. All the way in. The knuckles are the widest part of the hand and the most difficult part to get past the opening of the vagina. You’ll probably run into resistance at that point. Wait until your partner is ready before making the big push. She may be able to help by “bearing down” as if giving birth. Once your knuckles slip past the ring of muscles around the vaginal entrance, you’ll find your whole hand enveloped in warm, wet pussy. Now roll your hand into a fist. 7. Voila! At this point, your partner may or may not want you to make gentle fucking movements with your hand inside her, or stimulate her clit. Fisting produces extremely intense sensations for women, so ask her what feels good. When you’re done, make your hand into the “wedge” shape again, and gently slide out.
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Step-by-Step How-To and Safety Tips Ahhh...enemas. One of these 'love it or leave it' subjects when it comes to erotic power exchanges. Still, something you should know about and understand before even thinking about using them. So here is most of the basic info. However - as always - be aware of the following: everything below is information, not individual or general medical advice. Individual situations may be different from the average. When in doubt, always consult your doctor. Why Do We Use Enemas? To start with, enemas are used for different purposes - to clean out before entering into fisting for example, as a punishment, as a form of training, as a humiliation (especially in connection with Japanese bondage and other oriental techniques), an extra "incentive" to a bondage or for plain (sexual) enjoyment. No matter what purpose, one objective is common: making your partner refrain from expelling the content of their bowels Some General Issues In principle - and of course when done with proper care and knowledge - enemas as such are not dangerous. Having said that, there are some dangers. As always, you must be careful when you're interfering with any of the body's routines. Cautions exist for people with heart diseases, cara-related diseases (asthma and such), diabetics, people with epilepsy, any woman during or just after pregnancy and in general for people who are not feeling well. In this case all stomach, intestinal and metabolism related diseases should be added to this list as well of course. Also, enemas may have a devastating impact on people with an alcohol or drug addiction. "Optimistic" quantities of fluid used and a high frequency of use may also cause all sorts of problems, the most important one being the fact that the bacteria in the intestines and the muscles around them may "get lazy" and the metabolism may become less effective. Keep your quantity and frequency reasonable Kinds of Enemas In general there are two different enemas: the ones based on filling the bowels with fluid and the "chemical" ones that you can buy over the counter in your local drugstore or pharmacy. The latter just bring out the content quickly; the former - especially when used several times during one session - really clean and therefore are the favorite for pre-fisting use. The "chemical" enema is a lot more difficult to hold and you probably will have only three to five minutes before the designated process starts and can not be stopped again. Fluid Quantities When it comes to the quantities of fluid: anything between half a liter and a liter (1/8 to 1/4 of a gallon) is safe, depending on the size of the body. However, especially for those just starting out - or if you are planning more than one enema in a session - a mug full is more than enough. Some Fringe Benefits of Enemas When administered with knowledge and care, a few water-only enemas in one day will boost the cleaning capabilities of your body. Most of the water is absorbed and works in the same way drinking water does, only faster. This is generally a good thing, particularly since most people don't drink enough water to start with. Pro Tip If you add some glucose to your second enema (after the first one to deal with the big "clean out") you will "feed" your partner automatically and give them enough extra energy to deal with the entire session.
Administering an Enema
You need three things: a bag, a tube and a nozzle. The nozzle is what goes inside the rectum. NOTHING ELSE. To administer an enema, best go by a step-by-step routine. Step 1 In various settings (such as when the enema is used in "nursing games" or as a punishment or form of training, the sight of the bag being filled forms an important part of the session as such - "the promise" of what is going to go inside soon, the fear, often is an essential element. If the enema is not part of the game but a preparation for something else, like a fisting session, you may want to go about this differently, in a more casual, efficient way. Either way, fill the bag and use a medical clamp on the tube to hold the fluid in. Step 2 If you haven't done so before, thoroughly clean the nozzle by washing it with hot water and anti-bacterial soap - rinse with lots of clean water afterwards to get rid of any soap residue. Next, connect the nozzle to the tube (or the tube and nozzle to the bag if nozzle and tube form one piece) and make sure the connection is properly sealed, will not leak and will not come off easily. Now make sure there is no air in the bag. Step 3 Put on your latex gloves and rub the prepared nozzle (now connected to the tube) and your partner's anus with LOTS of lubricant to facilitate the receiving of the nozzle and prevent accidental injuries - let a bit of fluid run through the tube and nozzle to remove all air - and SLOWLY insert the nozzle into the anus. Never insert the entire nozzle, but leave enough of it out to be able to remove it again without any trouble. Note: Keep the bag at the same level as the nozzle to prevent an early start of the flow. Step 4 Keep the bag at the same level as the nozzle and unclamp the tube or open the tab (depending on your type of bag). Now SLOWLY lift the bag a little to start the fluid moving inward. You need to be careful here. You want the fluid to go in slowly and with as little pressure as possible. Only lift the bag higher if more pressure is required (i.e. as the fluid stops flowing). Very slowly raise it bit by bit until the bag is completely empty. Step 5 Remove the nozzle and (especially for novices) best replace it with a (previously lubricated) butt plug. Step 6 Now it all depends on what you're planning. Have your partner sit and wait if this is a cleaning operation - if this is training or punishment you may want to wait for the first cramps to start. Especially if your partner is new to this, make sure you give them sufficient mental support and encouragement. Health Hint Make sure your partner drinks water or a Gatorade type liquid after one or more enemas to avoid dehydration. And, if you're not using the "feeding technique" (see above and the next article), make sure they eat something as well. Glucose, sugar, sweets, chocolate or dextrose are the best ideas. There is a lot to know about enemas before you can safely enter into any enema play. The information below covers the technical aspects of enemas. As always, it's a very good idea to make sure both partners are fully aware of what they're entering into Solutions When we are talking about fluid-based enemas, "solutions" are THE topic. If you're inexperienced, start with using lukewarm (hand warm) milk or a mixture of half milk/half water. Plain (lukewarm) water is a good idea too, although less effective. The most effective solution is soapy water and the pro will add glycerin (50/50 soap/glycerin - about one teaspoon of each will do nicely) to the second and next enema which will both boost the effect and protect the intestines. Soaps Ivory bar soap works well. Just let the water flow over the soap bar when filling the bag and you'll have enough soap. A few drops of glycerine, vegetable oil and/or a bit of camomile will improve the effects. For a stronger soapy solution, use a container and swish the water around to dissolve more soap. Castile Enema soap (or other brands in other countries - usually available from your local pharmacy) in premeasured packets. Standard packet is 2/3 oz of soap. Instructions on packet usually say something like: "Dilute contents of packet with 1 or 2 quarts of lukewarm water" ... but for our purposes about half that strength usually is more than enough. Adding a few drops of peppermint oil (do NOT use Eucalyptus oil for this) will have a cooling - surprising - effect. It is a good idea to always end with a plain water enema to deal with any possible soap residue. Non-soap solutions Plain tap water can be used, but be warned that the colon will absorb quite a bit of the water, which will dilute the blood electrolytes. Then the various tissues of the body absorb the excess water and swell. Your brain swells, too, and there isn't any place for it to expand into. This is called cerebral edema. A few 2 quart plain water enemas won't do any harm (in fact will have a positive effect as described above), but if you plan to use large or many enemas, use salt water. Salt Water enema (Saline Enema) is just warm water with one tablespoon of salt to the quart. The salt is used to prevent absorption of the water by the colon. Baking soda enema (which can also have salt added as above) has one or two tablespoons of baking soda dissolved in each quart of water. Beer (usually warm) can be used. It is pretty irritating and - obviously - at least one of you will get drunk. Oil Retention enema is an injection of about 4-8 fl. oz. of mineral oil, vegetable oil or olive oil. It is held in the colon for an hour or more before a soapy water enema is given. The soapy water enema can be very strong because the oil will protect the colon from irritation. The oil coats the lining of the colon, and also softens the bowel contents, making for a spectacularly powerful evacuation. When the oil is in the colon, do not be fooled by what feels like the urge to expel gas. If you do, you will expel a blast of dirty oil with it, and it will be a mess. If you absolutely must pass the gas, get into the knee-chest position (see below) for one minute, and then hold a piece of toilet paper over the anus, to prevent the release of the oil. Do not expel the oil before taking the soapy water enema. You will need to take at least three soapy enemas to remove all trace of the oil, or dirty oil will leak out of the anus for about 12 hours. Urine is sometimes used. It can be used safely provided the person donating the urine is disease free and the general advice is to use water-diluted urine. Temperature Most people find that a warm water enema can be held more easily than a cold one. Here's some information on ranges of temperatures: Cool water is 30 - 35 degrees C (86 - 95 degrees F) - this is lukewarm and the most frequently used temperature that most people are comfortable with. Warm water is 40 - 42 degrees C (104 - 108 degrees F) - slightly warmer and as such more effective if you want something more difficult to hold. Hot water is 43 - 45 degrees C (110 - 113 degrees F) - the "pro" temperature - still safe to use provided it is followed by one or two cooler ones. Don't use solutions over 45 C or 113 F or you can scald the colon. Water between 15 and 30 degrees C will improve the general condition of the intestines if you have a problem there, but do not use it too often and most people can't stand a solution that has a temperature below their average body temperature. Anatomy of the Colon The anus (a muscular ring) is the external sphincter which closes off the rectum from the outside of the body. It can easily stretch to about 1 inch diameter, and - with care - can be stretched wider. The rectum is a powerful muscular organ about 5 inches long, with a sphincter at each end. The sigmoid colon is a looped section of the bowel just above the rectum. Its shape resembles a question mark. The loop occurs at about a depth of ten inches, as can be felt during anal fisting (known as "the second barrier"). The size of the sigmoid is different for different people. There is the long sigmoid and the short sigmoid, and a few people are born with one in between. Those who have the big sigmoid can take about a full quart of water more than those with the short one. The descending colon is on the left side of the lower abdomen, and can easily be felt any time the abdominal muscles are fully relaxed. It hugs the left wall of the pelvis, and reaches up to the splenic flexure, which is just under the left rib cage. The transverse colon extends from the splenic flexure to the hepatic flexure, right across the abdomen on the right. It follows a sagging course across, and in many people sags about 3/4 of the way down in the middle. The ascending colon is on the right side of the pelvis, and the lowest part of it is called the cecum, the part of the colon where the small intestine expels its contents in a liquid form. It is the part of the colon with the largest diameter, and is most effective in absorbing water. After taking a large enema, stand in front of a mirror, with the light from a ceiling lamp falling across the abdomen, and the shadows will make many of these structures readily apparent. The transverse should show up as a shadow about 2-3 inches below the belly button When lying face down on a bed, the cecum will expand to an enormous size, then lift the body a few inches with the hands and knees and the right side of the belly will clearly show the shape and position of this part of the colon. The colon narrows gradually from the cecum (about 2-1/2 to 3 inches when distended) to the sigmoid, about 1 to 1-1/4 inches diameter. Positions There are many positions in which an enema can be taken. Two of the most widely known are the "Sims" position and the "Knee-Chest" position. The "Sims" position - the position generally advised to nurses - has the recipient laying on the left side, with the right knee brought up near the chest. The "Knee-Chest" position has the recipient in a kneeling position, supported by the knees and the shoulders, with the chest sagging down, so that the chest almost touches the floor. This places the abdomen nearly upside down, so that the water can flow down from the rectum to the transverse colon by gravity. In hospitals this position is sometimes used as an alternative to the "high enema" (a "high enema" is something you should NOT try and administer yourself unless you're a trained nurse - the "Knee-Chest" position is the safe alternative) in cases of deep-seated constipation, this position will help the water reach way up into the colon for a good cleaning out. Tip: It is also useful as a technique for floating air or gas in the colon above the water so that the air can be expelled (discussed in more detail in Enemas 3). Standing upright requires you to hold the tube in the anus unless you use a nozzle that can be held in, but it makes it possible to accept more water than any other position. Lying on the back is a favorite position, especially for the first enema of a session. In this position the recipient can watch the bag slowly deflate, and can also watch the abdomen expand as the water enters the colon. The best is to lie down so that you can prop your head against a wall, like a pillow. Raising the knees increases the comfort in this position. Lying face down can be used, but pressing the belly on the floor restricts the abdomen's need to expand. Lying face down and arching the back by raising the upper body on the elbows is a very stimulating position, and lifts the belly up from the floor. This presses the genital area against the floor, and leaves the breasts and nipples free for other stimulation. Lying on the right side is the opposite of the "Sims" position, and causes the water to flow down into the cecum. When you do this, feel the ballooning out of the cecum, the part of the colon with the largest diameter. Sitting on the floor allows a person to tense certain skeletal muscles, and can lead to a powerful orgasm. The floor helps hold the nozzle in. This may not be the greatest position for filling and cleaning the bowel, however. Reclining is similar to sitting, but you lean back against something. Reclining in the bathtub is quite comfortable, except that the tub may be cold. You don't have to worry about leakage here. Leaning over the edge of the bathtub is similar to getting on your hands and knees, but it leaves your hands and arms free, and is a little easier to stay in that position for a while. Sitting on the edge of the bathtub is comfortable, and is the way to do a faucet enema, described in the equipment section in Enemas 3. A FIRM "DO NOT" - Never ever try administering an enema to someone who is positioned or suspended upside down. Apart from the fact that expelling will cause all sorts of problems, this position is both extremely painful and dangerous. For good reasons this method was used as one of the most effective torture technique in the Middle Ages. Filling the intestines with water in this position causes extreme pressure on some of the more tender organs such as the liver, kidneys and stomach, which is where the pain, the almost instantaneous nausea AND the damage comes from. This method was (and in some countries still is) frequently used for torture since the method does not leave any external markings, hence there is no obvious external evidence of torture. Combining it with a water-filled stomach leaves the victim almost without the ability to breath as well (the combination of both methods was known as the "Water Torture" during the Middle Ages).
Capacity Every individual has his or her own capacity, and it will change from each enema to the next. The cleanliness of the colon and the amount of gas present will have a great effect on the volume of water that can be taken. Medical researchers have determined that the average adult human colon has a capacity of 7 quarts. However, this measurement has been made using colons removed from cadavers, who wouldn't complain about the pressure. You may want to experiment with this by taking the largest enema that is comfortable, and then rolling from side to side very slowly and seeing if the water runs downhill to distend the lower side more. You probably will find that the lower part of the colon will be noticeably more swollen, indicating that it is your abdomen that is unable to expand to allow the colon to accept any more fluid. The general advice however is not to exceed the quantities mentioned here. As always, it's not a contest and you're not setting out to break the world record on holding fluid in your intestines.
Retention Most people will find it difficult to retain an enema for more than five minutes. If the bowel is not clean, then the peristaltic action of the colon will push against the fecal masses and produce intense pressure. This will frequently happen with the first enema in a series. If you are planning more sessions, you may try a "chemical" enema first to cope with this and change the method for the next session(s). If your get a strong cramp and an urge to expel, getting up is the worst thing to do. Making the descending colon vertical adds gravity to the force pushing out. This is how to have an accident. If you can, wait while lying down. The pressure will pass in 10-15 seconds as the wave of peristalsis passes the sigmoid colon and reaches the end. Then get up and expel without straining to hold it in. Whenever the pressure is building, or you can feel a big bulge with your hands, massage around that area until the pressure relaxes. Some people recommend rolling from one side to the other every minute or so. The idea is that the water will flow repeatedly downhill, alternately filling the descending and sigmoid colon and then running down to the cecum. This is supposed to break up any masses in the transverse. A butt plug is a great tool to help (or force) to hold the water in but will not completely stop any expulsion. Make sure the plug you use is not too big - the power of the expulsion may be big enough to push the plug out and that may cause damage. So always make sure the plug can be pushed out with relative ease.
Expulsion Obviously, most people expel their enemas while seated on the toilet. This is probably not the best position for expelling water from the colon because of the need for the wide cecum to push the water up hill to the transverse, and then for the transverse to pump it back up its sag to get it to the descending. A large volume in the descending will cause the descending colon to slide down the left side and kink where it meets the sigmoid. This can get you stuck! If you can feel lots of water bulging on the left side, but can't get it out, you need to change positions. Get up and lie down for a moment, or get into the knee-chest position, or just turn around as if you're looking over your shoulders. These techniques can un-kink the descending, and get the water passing out again. Some people prefer to expel in the bathtub, which is much easier, because the colon does not need to lift water to get it out. This is extremely messy, however, so don't do it unless you don't mind cleaning up. If the colon becomes severely blocked while holding an enema, you may prefer to do this rather than call the paramedics. In the hospital, patients are usually given a bedpan when expelling enemas, to get the same benefit of the position, so this is a technique you may turn to as well because it allows for maximum comfort and saves the trouble of having to run to the bathroom. Especially in combination with bondage or restraints the use of a bedpan is a must since you may not always have the time to free someone (or get free) in time. If there is substantial gas in the colon, it may be very difficult for the colon to lift water when large air bubbles are present. These like to collect at the hepatic flexure, high on the right side, and can be detected by a rumbling sound when you press there. If you want to get the gas out, sit on the floor and make sure the gas is at the hepatic. Roll slowly onto the right side, then massage the transverse, following its course with your hands. You will know that you're moving that gas by the rumbling. When you have the gas moved to the splenic flexure, move quickly to the knee-chest position. Now massage the descending colon upward, from the ribs to the groin on the left side (you're "upside down", remember) until the gas has moved to the sigmoid. Use heavy massage in the groin area, to move water out of the sigmoid, and move the gas in. When this is done, get on the toilet quickly, and it should be possible to expel a prodigious gas blast. You may have to repeat this procedure several times, but when all the gas is out of the colon you should be able to expel the water quickly. Don't sit on the toilet for more that a few minutes if there's no water coming out. Sitting too long and straining are the chief causes of hemorrhoids. Those will certainly ruin your enema pleasure. If nothing is coming out, lie down either face down or up, or lie on your left side, or get into the knee-chest position. These will help the water move, and soon you can go back to the pot.
Equipment Standard safety advice for doing this with others: wear latex gloves at all times during an enema session and have a good quantity available so you can change gloves every time they get dirty. In general, you can never have enough of them. Since they are cheap this is an investment you don't have to worry about. The other thing to invest in is lubricant. Lots of it. Buy water-based lubricant so your latex gloves and other latex or rubber equipment will not be damaged and buy a dispenser instead of the little sachets or tubes. Easier to handle, especially if larger amounts of lubricant are needed -- and they always are with ANY form of anal play. If you're planning to do any enema play outside the bathroom - as in bed or in your dungeon - buy a large quantity of plastic foil and cover the bed, bondage table, floor or whatever with LARGE quantities of it because there is a serious risk things may become messy. Even trained enema users can never exactly predict how long they can hold the enema and the expulsion may come instantly. For this reason: never run for the toilet if you feels the expulsion starting. Usually you won't make it. Instead expel on the foil -- it's easy to fold and remove instantly afterwards (and seriously, all other attempts will probably fail). Enema Bags and Tubes The standard enema apparatus available in the drugstore can be divided into several types. There is the open-top fountain syringe, usable for enemas and douches. There is the closed-top type bag, which can also be used as a hot-water bottle. There is the four-way type, which also is intended to be used as an ice bag. Most of these units offer 2 quart capacity. If that is the limit of your capacity, the open-top fountain syringe is the best type to use, because it is very convenient. The enema and douche nozzles that come with these units leave much to be desired however. There are also discreet type units sold primarily for feminine hygiene use, but some come with enema tips also. In many European countries it is usually a lot easier to obtain your enema bags and tubes from your local erotic boutique. "Princess" is the most common brand for this and their equipment (usually found in the "nursing" corner of your boutique) is reliable although a bit more expensive compared to what you can buy over the counter at a pharmacy or drugstore. Another brand/type is the "Shy" - an expandable syringe which is filled by pressing the mouth of the bag against the sink faucet. This bag will hold 4 quarts. The big drawback is that it has no way to shut off the flow except to remove the bag from the tube, which will cause the water to flow from the rectum. What you need to do is to attach a hose with a clamp to the nozzle, which is inserted into the bag. You can pour liquid soap into the bag before filling with water. Even though there is some information around on building your own equipment the general advice is NOT to do that. Pressure is everything when it comes to enemas. The pressure comes from the influx of the fluid and too much pressure is painful and dangerous, hence the combination of bag, tube, nozzle and position is paramount and is best left to the professional producers of this equipment. There are small rubber ball type pumps around, used for children in hospitals. Do not buy these. The risks of pumping air into the colon or building up too much pressure are too high and the quantity is not enough for an adult anyway so you would need to pump in fluid several times, thus only increasing the risks. The same goes for - very antique - enema pumps. Don't use them, but they may be nice to add some atmosphere, especially for those into "nursing" games. Oh, and another DON'T - never ever try anything that is directly connected to a water tap (like the shower or a hose). There is no way you can control the quantity of fluid, the temperature and the pressure this way. Also, forget about any plans to use a funnel.
Nozzles and Tubes There are many different types of nozzles and tubes available for inserting into the rectum. What you want is either a colon tube (a rubber tube from 1/4" to 1/2" diameter and anywhere from 10" to 3 feet long) or a nozzle with a bulb on the end, to help hold it in. These are called "N-Tips". Some of the best drug stores carry these items, but usually you'll have to ask for them. Some USA drug stores also carry the fleet high-volume bag enema or an equivalent brand, these are made of plastic and will not deteriorate when oils are used, as a rubber bag will. The "high-volume bag" usually holds 2500 CC (over 2 quarts) but in the same series, the manufacturers make a barium enema container which can be ordered, and it has 3500 cc capacity (almost 4 quarts). Medical and ostomy stores carry many of these items. These are considered disposable, but with a little care they will last a long time. The Colon Tube is a straight tube with a rounded end, and usually a small hole in the side near the tip. They come in many sizes, and are usually measured in "French" sizes. 28 French is a small tube, and 36 is fairly large. The N-Tip is really made to help patients hold a barium enema (not for use at home - barium enemas are used as "contrast fluid" during X-ray photography in hospitals), but many people use them for other enemas. It's made of molded plastic.
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