I was going to write a lovely piece here outlining my thoughts, feelings, and philosophies about this lifestyle and baring my soul, but then I thought, “Hey, I know what everyone really wants…large, graphic, close-up photos of my genitalia!”
(Kidding.)
ABOUT ME
I am a very sub-leaning switch, to the point where I am hesitant to even call myself a switch anymore. If the right sub came along with whom I felt the right power dynamic, perhaps I would try being a Dom again, but it’s not something I’m actively seeking right now. Privately I have over 16 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle and have been active in the BDSM community for a decade. I am quite immersed in the sex-positive culture, and the vast majority of my friends are, as well.
PHILOSOPHY
I love toys, but they are merely extensions of a power dynamic that is already there between two or more people. The best scenes I have participated in happened mostly on the mental level, augmented by restraints or some other toys.
BONDAGE
I love rope. A lot. Most restraints are nice, but there’s something special about rope. Bondage triggers something in me that puts me in a very submissive headspace. I love the feeling that someone wants me so much that they will restrain me to keep me from getting away. That is bliss. The more restricted I am, the better. Mummification is heaven.
MENTAL MASOCHISM
I do not consider myself a masochist in the physical sense, although things like body punching, trampling, and being beaten with a heavy, thuddy flogger are nice. (Unfortunately for me, not being masochistic in this sense makes me more appealing to sadists, as I have discovered.) However, when it comes to verbal abuse, there is nothing I cannot take in the context of a private scene. Insults, threats, and degradation all make me very hard.
OTHER KINKS
I adore beautiful feet and legs and love being touched by them. I am told I give excellent foot massages, and I own a bubbling, vibrating foot sauna and a paraffin bath for additional foot care. Being trampled barefoot or in hose is one of my favorite things in the world. I love the sensation of being touched by a beautiful female sole.
DUNGEON
A byproduct of having been in the scene for so long is that I have accumulated a lot of stuff for our in-home dungeon. At the moment I have two cages (one human-sized, one dog-sized), a bondage table, a bondage chair, a pillory with stocks, a spanking bench, a violet wand set, and more floggers, paddles, nipples clamps, canes, rope, shackles, chains, and other things than I know what to do with. Yes, we throw nice play parties here.
BDSM COMMUNITY
I have been involved in a number of kink groups, including Headspace (a Bloomington, Indiana, group for which I served on the steering committee), GWNN (member since 2001), and Austin Voyagers (member since its formation). I’ve been a member or affiliated with other groups, but GWNN and Voyagers are the primary ones I frequent. If you would like a reference before playing with me, feel free to contact others in these groups who know me, especially the leaders of Voyagers. I will provide emails for them upon request.
WHAT I’M LOOKING FOR
I seek a confident, strong-willed, aggressive Domme who wants to track me, hunt me down, capture me, and drag me back to her lair to do what she pleases with me. Most of all, I want to be wanted. Possessed by her.
I try to take care of my body, or at least not abuse it with excessive eating, smoking, etc., and I will only submit to a Domme who takes some pride in her body and is reasonably well groomed (especially where the feet are concerned).
As I said earlier, I seek both casual play partners and serious D/S relationships. For the latter, my criteria are a bit stricter, of course. I want someone who has a reasonable amount of time to devote to our relationship. Someone who will challenge me but also cherish me and make me feel like her prized possession.
