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| ***Yes, that is me in the picture. It is not some random internet pic.*** There is room in my life for many different dynamics: friends, family, kinkies, and vanillas all have their place. But, even with a myriad of bonds and a wonderful support structure, I find myself continuing to seek the type of man I crave. That man exists, a loving dominant with a dark, beautiful mind and the balance required to manage the requirements of our vanilla world. A man that is willing to show, and thrive on, love, respect, and companionship within the chains and bonds of our kinky life. In short, I need a man, a dominant, a partner: all combined to be my missing piece. The other side of the puzzle is just as complex. I am a submissive at heart, I live and breath to take care of others, even at my own expense. In the same way that I need to take care of others, I need that man I seek to take care of me, to keep me on balance. I am a softy, love to laugh, tease, joke, and play around. I'm always looking on the bright side, with a bit of whiney and a huge dose of smart ass attitude. =) I am a strong, single mother. My children and my job will always be my highest priority. That man needs not only to accept that, but supports that as well. Despite having children that I love and a full time job, I desire a balanced 24:7 relationship even if that balance is more near 1950s. I am not fully mono, but I am not poly. I am flexible and looking to form those guidelines based on the partner I am with and the dynamic that we seek. That man that I seek isn't going to be the first dominant that gives me the look, or pulls my hair. He will be the one that takes the time to learn me, strives to understand me, and pays the price to earn my respect, love, and submission. He will be the one that finds his way past my walls, and allows me to truly open up to be taken care of. He will be that strong Dominant with a sweet caring side mixed with a consistently controlling attitude, and who won't stand for my bratty bullshit. Being a part of my life means accepting every part of it.. I am protected by caring and loving friends that you must like, and they must like you. I nurture and raise my kids away from this lifestyle and that must be respected. I won't play with kids or animals, do disgusting things, play with whips, electricity, or wear high heels due to a past ankle injury. I'm not looking to join your poly family, or uproot my family to move away from home. I won't settle for less than I deserve. This is me, holding out for the man that pushes me further in my submission. The one whose respect I can earn because he has earned mine. -Pru
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The one I seek:
#Positive outlook: not a Debbie downer. Will put positive spins on the crummiest of days
#Funny: makes me laugh
#Strong physically and mentally: doesn't easily freak out and wimpy. Is dominant.
#Smart: can carry a grown up conversation
#Experienced: has real life experiences in d/s as a dominant man and in general life
#Knowledgable: has opinions and good sound advice on many subjects
#Single: no wife, or gf or significant other
#Open minded: can think outside the box and accept people and events outside his own self. Isn't easily dismissive on everything
#Likes kids: enjoys talking and interacting with them. Can be their friend and a positive role model
#Consistent: means what he says and can be counted on
#Sadistic: enjoys giving pain. Will punish when necessary
#Sociable: enjoys being around others and can carry conversations easily with friends and strangers
#Hardworking: isn't lazy. Will get what needs to be done done
#Clean: isn't a slob.
#Smells good: makes me swoon when I smell him
#Helpful: lends a hand or advice when needed.
#Giving: isn't selfish and greedy
#Friendly: approachable
#Romantic: offers cuddles, kisses, his love, woos me with dates, makes time for me, can't get enough of me, stays in constant contact, buys flowers occasionally, treats me like I'm his most treasured possession.
#Good kisser: I want to love kissing him
#Honest: isn't shady. Doesn't hide
#Protective: looks out for me. Cares for me.
#Sees through bullshit: someone who can read me and get in my head and get me out of my head
#Persistent: doesn't easily give up or cave
#Likes rough sex: hair pulling, choking, kinky, devours me, pushes my limits
#Accepts me for me and loves me flaws and beauty and all. |
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Limits?
*Heels
*Electricity
*Suspension
*Needles
*Blood
*Poop
*Golden showers
*Vomit
*Animals
*Kids
*Extreme pain
*Ignoring
*Public humiliation
*Ass (giving)
*Water boarding
*I'm sure there is more but all I can think of right now |
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1.) I need the structure and rules in order to feel fulfilled
2.) I need to have someone to care for and be valuable to
3.) I crave the intensity of D/s interactions
4.) The feeling of ownership makes me feel safe and free
5.) Having someone in my life who is willing to push my boundaries has made me a better person
6.) I need someone who craves me and wants me just as much as I do them and I have not found that in the vanilla world
7.) I need to be held accountable for my actions in a way that only a D/s relationship can provide
8.) I love having a person who will take me down dark paths of desire
9.) I have desires that require absolute trust in order to be fulfilled
10.) I crave that moment when I can finally let go and fully submit and my mind finally quiets
11.) Sometimes I just need the feelings of hands on my throat or buried in my hair and the whisper of "You are Mine" in my ear
12.) Pain can be an incredible turn on and I have yet to meet a vanilla who understands why I want it. |
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Daddys/little girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. In my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no we need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy, and does not engage in age play specifically and the relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children.
He does have the ability to make feel like a little girl, however, a much cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.
Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created. A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.
So, what are these qualities?
What is a Daddy Dom?
A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created. To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline. His love for his little girl goes without saying. He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the tenderest part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him. This love would not be possible without respect.
A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his little girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase its value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him. He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says. If his little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect. This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.
A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful.
Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive. Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive's masochism. This balance is necessary to many little girls because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.
In addition to these practically mandatory characteristics, some couples add their own sadism and masochism to the mix, and may use the concept of the wolf or lion and little lamb to describe the way in which the Daddy simultaneously protects his little girl from the world, and yet wants to dominate and devour her sexually. As a sadist, he may create the very tears that he will later kiss away. Sounds sweet, and yet terrifying, if you are not accustomed to the world of sadomasochism in which these participants operate. But to a Daddy and his girl who are into BDSM, this is the most perfect of scenarios they can imagine to act out their fetish I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them; taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive?s life and using their power to enrich that life. Daddy/baby girl verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that its participants crave. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a baby girl can understand. |
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Because people have made her promises in the past and they?ve broken them. Because no matter how hard she works or how good of a person she is, she doesn?t believe she is worthy of love. Because she?s had too many people leave her ? both intentionally and unintentionally ? and she doesn?t want to give you the chance to leave too. There are a million reasons she might not be able to believe that you love her. And there will be a million more in the future.
She?s been through so much. So much. She?s had moments where she didn?t know how she was going to keep going. Moments where she didn?t think she could get out of bed, and worse moments where she did get out of bed and she felt like an empty shell while she was walking around. At some points, she was so lost and so torn up that she wasn?t even sure if she was real.
Sometimes she can?t believe that you love her, but other times she doesn?t want to believe that you love her, because that would just be too good, and good is not what she?s used to. She doesn?t want to love you and then lose you. She?s scared, because having someone and then not suddenly not having them is a lot scarier than being alone.
She might be extremely secure with herself, or she might think she is nothing. She might be somewhere right down the middle. Regardless, she can?t believe she will find love with someone like you, because she hasn?t seen enough of it yet. She?s seen some beautiful love, but she has a hard time remembering that kind of love when she?s watching the sadder stories unfold. She?s seen her friends get hurt, and she?s seen her friends hurt other people. She knows that breaking someone?s heart doesn?t always mean you?re a jerk or a heartless monster. She knows good people hurt other good people. Sometimes one person just doesn?t love another in the same way. Sometimes they did love that person and then they fall out of it. Either way, they have to be honest with themselves, and they have to be fair to the other person. In the end, someone always gets crushed.
Maybe she?s afraid to love you because she?s been the person that?s broken someone else?s heart. Being hurt doesn?t always have to mean you were on the receiving end. You can hurt yourself by hurting someone else, to the point where you can?t even breathe and you hate waking up in your own body, knowing what you did and how you made someone else feel. Maybe she loved someone but knew they weren?t the right person for her, so she had to leave them. And now she?s worried that you?re going to do the same thing to her. That, even though you love her and you are kindhearted and you have the purest intentions, you still might have to walk away. She knows there are so many reasons why this might not work, so instead of paying attention to the one reason why it will, she focuses on the ways it won?t. It?s called self-preservation, and it?s all she knows.
She listens to love songs and she lets them pass through her and she wants them to be her life. But she can?t. She wants to be that sickeningly happy. To be so in love that you laugh at things that aren?t that funny and so in love that you aren?t fazed by rude people or stressful situations. But she won?t let herself give into the fantasy of leaning her head against the train window and listening to that song and wearing a dizzying smile as she thinks about you. She?d rather stay on the cautious side. This side of things is not thrilling or exhilarating. You don?t get goosebumps, and you don?t feel as if you need to go outside and run a mile in order to get rid of the boundless energy you feel just from thinking about someone else. This side isn?t living. But it?s safe and secure and she has a grip on her head and her heart. She doesn?t feel shaky or unstable. She?s in control.
Maybe, technically, she does believe that you love her. Somewhere inside of her, once you get past all of the defense mechanisms, she is soft and she feels things and she believes that you love her. But this is also the part of her that is the most vulnerable. She knows that if she?s going to let herself feel what you?re telling her and if she?s going to believe that you love her, she?s going to have to expose her soft side, her vulnerable side ? the side she works the hardest to keep safe.
She wants to trust you. She wants to believe that you?re different. She wants to give you the chance to break her into a million pieces. But you?ve got to meet her halfway. You?ve got to let her know that you?re scared too. You?ve got to remind her that you?re just as much at risk, because she can break you into a million pieces too. If she can?t believe that you love her, tell her anyway. Every day. Show her. Make her understand that you?re not going anywhere. Because at the end of the day, you want her to be staring out that train window, thinking only of you. |
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| Age: 62 |
| Lebanon,
Pennsylvania |
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