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Male Submissive, 25, uk uk
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About OneDecadentDom
Let's just cut to the chase, shall we? I am a 40 year old male seeking companionship, preferably with a woman who is comfortable in her sexuality, enjoys mental domination, and the occassional sadistic acts of kindness.
I am not a night owl, nor have any peircings.
I am a sensualist who enjoys sex, fetish play, erotic photography, ALL types of music, working with my hands, and reading sci-fi/ fantasy novels. Other things I enjoy I have listed below.
I do have a brain, too. Try talking sometime.
One
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I find myself browsing through the different posts, or even the profiles... make a comment, whether benign or otherwise, and get absolutle no responses to over 90% my comments. I am not making one or two word responses, either. So what gives people? Has this place gotten to the point where not even a "thanks, but no thanks" is just TOO MUCH RESPECT to give another human being? |
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As I find myself roaming the internet this fine Wednesday afternoon, I have come across a series of Mark Twain quotes I felt needed to be posted here. Comments are welcome, so long as no finger pointing occurs (where I can see it.)
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"I have been studying the traits and dispositions of the lower animals (so called) and contrasting them with the traits and dispositions of man. I find the result humiliating to me."
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"It is by the goodness of God that in our country we have those three unspeakably precious things: freedom of speech, freedom of conscience, and the prudence never to practice either of them." |
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Commentary: I see people every day, whilst travelling around the Philadelphia area, and often wonder why so many people are unwilling to open their minds. Meeting people day in and day out with different jobs, one can see the ignorance and the stupidity of others who are unwilling to understand the D/s dynamic.
It is not a question of respect but one of integrity. Shakespeare once wrote, "This above all, to thine own self be true." It makes you wonder why so many correlate D/s with whips and servitude. And for that matter, why so many are blindly following pre-conceived notions of what BDSM is.
For some, it is a release, for others a need for captivity. While still others see it as a calling, most feel it to be a trait. But then, we speak of those who have opened their minds to the possibility of "what if."
In closing the cold hard truth is much simpler to understand. Everyone in the world today be it man, woman, or child, interacts on some level of the D/s dynamics. Many of them never realize it. |
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I think it may be about time for me to post a new story. I've been known to write ocassionally. let's see how its received...
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Given all we do, and all we accomplish, be them the "right" thing or not, ultimately, everything is based on choices we make, whether it be a clear decision, or a flip of a coin.
(just a random thought on the first of July.)
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Are women really that shallow?
I have tried on numerous ocassions just to "talk" to others on here. Whether it's something innocuous, music for instance; or something intimate, such as sensuality within a scenario... I either get no response, or a "thanks but no thanks."
Whatever happened to just talking? Or discussing ideas with someone you (possibly) are not interested in?
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FAIR WARNING: MEANDERING THOUGHT AHEAD
I was just on the quotations page website, and came across a nice quote by Abraham Lincoln. It has absolutely nothing to do with the Lifestyle, but then again... maybe it does...
"If I only had an hour to chop down a tree, I would spend the first 45 minutes sharpening my axe. " |
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recently hacked... now corrected. Thanks to the person who decided to try me.
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Acronym of the Day
ASLTW
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
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someone asked me recently what is it I seek? Truth be known, I do not "seek" anyone... yet do entertain thoughts of finding someone with whom I can talk about anything with. Perhaps someone whom I can hang out with, sharing a common interest or three, be it photography, fishing, karaoke, or whatever. Submissiveness need not be a requirement of the budding friendship between us, either. Although yes, there is a certain appeal to the mysterious encounters of the flesh, with nary a thought of tomorrow, I'm the type of guy who prefers to get to know the person slightly before anything beyond the realms of friendship occur. And one last point: I'm also the type of guy who believes one must earn my disrepect. And yes, common courtesy is still a form of respect, even if it is in its basest form. A simple "thanks, but no thanks," goes a lot further with me than simply no response,(as if those who do not respond simply think, "she/he's not even worth my time," I say "don't judge a book by its cover.")
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how does one make "daytime" friends? I'm not looking for "partners," nor am I one of those dirty old men (actively) seeking a fling or a tryst of some sort... I've lived in Tampa for over 3 years now... dated a few locally, dated more from out of town, had friends of the "night" come and go (acquaintances who tend to only be available as a "friend" in the evenings, no matter the day.)
Ahh well, Guess everybody is striving to survive just now... |
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A year and a half later, I've found myself in a totally different place than I was. I've rebuilt my life, finances, surroundings, hell, even my job has changed. I've become a daddy. I don't go out anymore. I still cook from time to time.
My life has become one of patience, one of understanding, and yes, just like everyone else, one of struggling to keep up. 50+ (hour) work weeks aside...
...We all do what we have to do to continue onward in this journey called life. |
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Another day to raise questions within ones self... Why seek friendship? Why seek "fishing buddies" or "models" or hell, anyone else who shares similiar hobbies? Answers are simple... I'm not a social butterfly, nor do I wish to be one. I like fishing, and movies, and classical music, and Jazz... I could care one way or the other if you are submissive, Dominant, male, female, hermaphrodite, whatever. I would prefer someone trustworthy, but as I already know, trust has to be gained. I'm not the type to whine, or bitch, or moan. I've had several ask. I hope this post offers some insight.
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I see posts of women (because thats what I have my prefernces set to...) who say they are "new" to this lifestyle, and are seeking guidance, and/or that special Dominant figure to take them into a new world. Then I think back on when I first got into this lifestyle, some 17 years ago, or so. I realized early on there were a LOT of things I did before, that just need an open minded perspective to view as fetish play. Exploration is not strictly about trying something new; its about exploring something from a different perspective. Prime example: using a feather to tantalize the flesh of a woman was enticing, and playful... now its enticing, playful, arousing, sensual, and (with a smile) torturous.
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Happy Mother's Day, all...
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what ever happened to the days before skyrocketing oil prices, and massive foreclosure rates? Why does your average person (in the states) have basically sh*t for credit, yet still can't buy a house in today's failing market? Why do all automobiles come in silver now? what makes the color silver so special? why not canary yellow, or fuschia? How is it I work 60 hours a week and still can't seem to find cruise control? what's it like to sit behind a desk for hours on end? is passion something that can be taught? Why do I sit here and type out these questions? This one I'll answer... Because sometimes asking questions, whether a response is deserved or not, is the key to determining whether we are alive and aware, or not...
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I had a comment one of my pictures made me look older than I am... to which I replied, "I'd rather let whomever might be interested in me see me from different sides. Sometimes we look/feel 20, other times 50, (even if we secretly wish to stay 20...)"
As the stairwell shot was posted, I will be posting more pictures I've taken, artistically...
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well, new pictures are up... let's see how long it takes cm to approve em.
Also, if it posts, there is a picture of a stairwell amongst the new ones... an artistic photograph I took in my spare time.
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There are times when we find ourselves at crossroads, trying to decide which way to go. The decisions we make determine the path we follow; the path we follow determines the life we lead; the life we lead determines the friends we make; the friends we make come and go as they come to crossroads of their own...
Last week I had the crud that's been going around. You know, the 101 fever, still coughing, still sniffling, "I-hate-being-sick-in-the-spring" stuff... well, some good has come of it. I quit smoking on the 11th of April. Its been tough, considering I don't do caffiene (quit that back in 1999,) I don't drink (never really picked it up as a habit, or enjoyment,) don't do drugs, (now don't even do nicotine, argh!) |
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and thus, the search begins anew...
ATTENTION: Ladies, gentlemen, Dominants, submissives, switches, and anything in between... I am seeking models, muses, actions and poses. I am focusing more upon the erotic art of photography (with the use of a digital camera.) ***Emphasis on art, not dirty old/young man***
I seek any and all for artistic impressionism through the lens of a camera. Must be able to take direction, as well as be able to stop (even mid stroke if need be) for a second or three. I am not a professional, nor do I seek to be your personal camera man. Indoor, outdoor, in privacy or public; nudity, fully clothed, blindfolded, tortured, caged, bound,... it matters not.
Details will be expressed within emails if interested.
I have done several photo shoots with people on this site already, and with their permission, can give their nicknames to anyone interested in viewing some of my work, until such a time as I make an online album for viewing purposes.
I also feel a need to point this out: I do not have a laptop at this time, thus cannot download pictures at the time of the shoot. I will, however, mail/email/send all original photos, as well as any edited versions to said model(s); nor will I use any of said photos without written consent from said model(s) for my own portfolio. |
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On thursday, march 27th, I am joining a research study on smoking cessation. Yes, I will be a guinea pig. On weekends, I'm still trying to shoot photos, spend time actualy doing something "relaxing," but lately it just has not worked out too well. Ahh well... cest la vie'. |
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Moving day has come and gone, with a surprising success. I now live in a house, wif four walls, and a roof, and ev'ry-ting... seriously now, I realized early on I dislike apartment life. Too many rules of having to be quiet, or finding a parking place, not to mention the inability to properly swing a flogger in the limited space allowable by apartment size restraints. |
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Moving day is coming soon... |
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...Changes in life; changes in lifestyle habits and habitats. There was a time when I thought everything would work itself out. Sometimes those things need a nudge in the right direction, while other times, its best to just take one step at a time, and make sure.
I'm not perfect, nor do I ever expect to be. All we can do is strive for perfection in some parts of our lives...
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