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Real D/s is NOT spelled out in black and white, nor is it about the submissive maintaining control and only submitting as she wishes. Real D/s requires that the submissive actually submit. She must give up control, and allow herself the pleasure of doing so at the direction of her Dominant partner. She must respect him, trust him, and allow him to lead and guide her to new experiences.

 

If "sessions" are basically the same with a few variations, they become just as routine and boring as any other traditional relationship. You would find your mind thinking, "ok, here's the part where he ties me up", "now he's going to spank me", "I hope he gets through this part, it's not my favorite", and of course, "finally time to fuck."

 

That's NOT D/s, and it really will NOT ever provide you with what a true submissive is looking for and needs. True D/s will explode your comfort zone and make you face new ever changing and exciting new challenges and adventures. Instead of "knowing" what is coming next, you will enjoy the knowledge of NOT having any idea what lies ahead. You're forced to trust, experience and enjoy. 

 

In most cases what most offer are  "sessions" with the center focus on sexual performance. Sure there was or would be some bondage, some force, demands of compliance and use of toys on occasion. But those short bursts of "play" only lead to the main event, purely sexual in nature. And while sex is an important element in D/s, it is NOT the only element of D/s. In fact, the sexual aspect should NOT always be the "main event." instead, if practiced properly, the sexual aspect should never be expected. The submissive never knowing if it comes at the beginning, middle or end.

I would venture to guess many have experienced the Dominants sexual satisfaction followed soon thereafter by his departure or yours with a simple, "thanks, we'll have to do that again." Wasn't too fulfilling or satisfying was it? Didn't provide you with the result or feeling you hoped for. But instead left thinking, well at least one of us got off.  But who is to blame? The Dominant for respecting your "box" and limiting himself to your control, or you the submissive for not placing your control into his hands? Only you know.

 

But know this, all I can only offer is the real thing, and I don't perform within a box. I teach, I lead, I Dominate. I offer only true D/s, to the submissive that understands that is what she both wants and needs.