MountainLady

I have often been asked about my interest or involvement in the ?real community? and some inquire about my stance on Dom?s.  Back in pre-internet days (yes, I?m THAT old), the community was necessary.  You had to go out or you had a very hard time finding any kind of information or others of like mind.  I lived in a small community and that didn?t help.  There was a public community in the city two hours away and I was happy to have them. Anyways ? with the great invention of the internet ? I got to leave the hellish thought of taking my inner most personal activities out and telling everyone in public about them.  Mother always said never let a picture of yourself be taken that you wouldn?t want printing in a newspaper (yes ? newspaper ? that?s how old SHE is). 

To top it off, I don?t get along with ?Dom?s?.  I don?t understand them.  To me domination is about power ? and there is no power in dominating someone smaller and weaker then yourself. 

** Important Note - That?s my opinion ? I don?t care about yours ? don?t write me and try and explain ? I don?t care.  Don?t write me and tell me not all dom?s are like that ? I know they can?t POSSIBLEY all be like that ? but you know what ? I don?t feel like weed through the 100?s that are to get to the one that?s NOT.  It?s not worth my time and once I got there ? we would have nothing to talk about anyways because I don?t like taking my personal life out in public and we have nothing in common on a personal level.

I?m not saying I don?t absolutely love Men.  I?m not saying that in some of my vanilla relationships I haven?t had a guy spank my ass ? its fun it?s cute ? it?s not domination and he would never call himself a Dom? he?s just a man having fun.  Everyone has tried the tie down and tickle or tease stuff, again ? that?s keeping spice in your relationship ? NOT domination.  Some men like it a little harder and rougher than others ? we all know there is a huge difference from a really hard wild ?you pissed me off last night and we just made up? face in a pillow ass up sex and domination. Some men hold your hands or like pressing you down ? yes, I?m sure on some level this is a dominate stance for sex ? but it?s not taken by any rational women as domination and again ? he?s not running around telling everyone how he?s a ?Dom? and so very proud of it.  In my head and in my personal relationships ? men don?t get off on hurt women.  I?m sure that seems a little hypocritical, and I?m sure it is on several levels ? but never the less that?s how I feel about it.

I feel Dom?s have an attitude with all women ? and I?m not saying it?s necessarily disrespectful ? It?s just there.  It changes ? it?s a little different each time, sometimes it takes longer to come out ? but it?s there.  I have gotten yet another perfect example of it for those who just don?t understand what I?m saying:

I received an email ? a very polite and welcoming email from a member of the D/s community where I?m looking to move to.  It was very pleasant and open.  Not insulting in any way ? it was a genuine polite offer to participate in the local community.  I felt it was very nice, and I took it as such.  However, knowing that I don?t get along with Dom?s and we all now understand my views on community? this was my reply unedited:

?Thank You, but I?m not really a group joiner.

I don?t like to be publically recognized and my tastes are so narrow it?s easy to fulfill without becoming active in the community.  Got to love living in the internet age ? how easy life has become for us.?

I felt that was appropriate.  Thank you but no thank you with a little humor on the end in appreciation for the invitation even though I wasn?t interested.  This was the unedited reply:

?hi you seem very cynical, on life in general, good luck to you k?

People who have brains don?t rely on luck.

I rest my case.

After changing my profile I realize I lost some very specific points that I really should restate.

Willing to relocate ? I find males willing to relocate over an internet chat scary.  I mean really scary.  Secondly I feel you have not read any of my profile, or you would understand; that is the exact opposite of what I?m looking for.  I ignore message like this.

Race preference ? I prefer white boys.  This is not really a conscious decision, it?s just sexual preference.  Like being gay ? if your gay you?re just gay ? you don?t need to try being gay to know if you?re going to like it.

Married boys need not apply.  I?m sorry that you?re not happy in the world you choose to live in ? not my fault, not my interest.

I have gotten some very useful and pleasant Welcomes ? Thank You all for your help!

I have chosen the corporate world once again.

 A few thoughts on some of the emails I have received –

Thanks for the support.  Many men wrote who were out of work also; a few actually had good suggestions.  Hang in guys – it’ll get better.

I’m not a dress you up, call you names to hurt youre little feelings type woman.  From the majority of emails I received this seems to be the expected norm.  This seems sad to me – but, have hope! There are women out there interested in nothing more than good oral service, some basic bondage and a nice hard ass fucking, some pain and humiliation, treat you like your opinions are irrelevant and you have only one purpose in life, send you home when she’s done with you without being allowed to cum, types left in the world.

A man should look like a man.  I mean common, if I wanted to fuck another women, I would be.  There is no power in fucking a woman for me.

No bi guys.  An ass fucking for a bi guy is a normal Saturday night.  I want it to be humiliating and hurt – you just can’t get humiliation factor and pain with a bi guy.

I don’t know what aftercare is – but if you mention it to me in an email you will be blocked without response.

If you plan on bitching at me about something I have said, a run on sentence, a moral objection – you will be blocked and consider this – “fuck off – if you don’t like what you're reading – don’t read it, but believe me no one cares about your opinion” – your response, it’s the only one you will be getting.

For the polite comments – Thank You.  Some of you perverts are pretty damn funny. 

Never stop looking – luck favors the prepared mind.

After 4 years I felt it was time to add a little update.

Almost all of the emails I have gotten are polite, I appreciate that.

I have mellowed a little over the last few years on here and would like to expand on my original rule set:

I have moved my age limit up to 48 if your in good shape.
No, I am not bi - in any fashion.
No animals
No, I will never pee on you... and don't even THINK of anything else along those lines.
Yes, I will dress up for you IF you have good taste and think of my comfort...  I'm not wearing leather in anything over 74 degrees, I'm not wearing a string up my ass, and I'm DEFIANTLY NOT wearing anything that reminds you of your mother, sister or a 12 year old.
Yes, i can walk in 4" spike heals..  but they crush my toes, and lets face it - that will irritate me, and the thing irritating me is a 4" spiked weapon.  Is that shoe fetish really worth it?
I have also found I have expanded my location criteria for particularly interesting or strange kinks or offers.  Still, it has to be reasonable distance wise - and something really interesting or unusual.    DON'T write me email and ask me "like what" ...  if your not bright enough to come up with it yourself...  your not interesting enough to respond to and frankly - trying to steal another males creativity - tisk tisk.

Happy Hunting... Play carefully - accidents cause ER bills.