MizterPeanut

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Many are confused about the difference between a “sub” & “slave” and likewise between “Dominant” & “Master” so below I have decided to describe it in detail for you to help you understand who I am, and what I seek. Also to help you know who you are, and what you seek if you may be confused. And don't worry, it's ok to be confused. I'm 36, I've been a Master for 18 years, and I still get confused! Not about BDSM, but about almost every other damn thing at some point, lol. Well, such is life. Anyway...

The true definition of a “submissive” and a “slave” is that if, during their relationship with a Dominant, a person desires to have choices on how they are dominated, what rules are to be set, and what forms of play, and punishment are allowed, including the use of safewords etc, then they are a “submissive”. I like to think of “submissives” being “slaves” that are not ready to completely trust, and surrender to their Master yet. Whereas a “slave”, prior to “Collaring” and usually a contract signing, IS allowed to define what limits they have with regards to punishments/play, what rules or requirements they insist upon such as career/education issues, parenting issues involving existing children, polyamorous play, etc. However, once they receive their, collar, and sign a contract, for the duration of the relationship/contract, they must surrender themselves completely to their Master, and are not allowed to to make any decisions, have any choices, or any rights or freedoms that they decide upon themselves. All choices, freedoms, decisions etc are their Master's. They must obey without question, and submit to any punishments/play etc as well without the use of safewords. However, if a Master is practicing ethically, safety will never be an issue anyway. Likewise, if a Dominant was not worth trusting, he would not listen, and you should not be with him anyway. Obviously! So as a slave, you surrender completely during the relationship allowing your Master to own you completely as property making a slave no longer a person, but now owned property, and thus the Master will make all decisions of every aspect of your life with exception to anything discussed prior to your enslavement, and written in a contract. Take note that a Master can delegate any decisions or freedoms he wants to a slave. Such as allowing a slave to make decisions about certain things, giving her whatever freedoms he chooses etc. The only thing is that it is always the Master's choice, not the slaves. Now a Master is someone who is experienced, capable, and willing to accept this great responsibility of owning a slave, and being responsible for the slave completely. Making all decisions etc. What idiot would agree to that right!?! Lol!!! Kidding, I love being a Master! Likewise, a “Dominant” is a dominant person unwilling to accept the full responsibility of another person completely. A note to Dominants wanting to become a Master, and “submissives” wanting to become a “slave”. Becoming an experienced Master happens over time with much practice. when a “Dominant” decides to accept the desire of a submissive that desires to surrender completely and become his “slave” the “Dominant” should seek out an experienced “Master” to mentor, and train him. My situation is rare as that, from birth, I grew up in a Master/slave household with a mom that was a slave, and a step-dad that was her Master(My bio-dad left before I was born). So I learned early on how to be a Master. But again, for most others wanting to be a Master, I suggest finding a mentor. Well, I hope all that helps...