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Female Dominant, Beverly Hills, California
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Female Submissive, 30, Roanoke, Virginia
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About MissAlexFox
:::: UPDATE -MORE CHANGES - I am no longer actively seeking boys. I have enough taking My attention at this time. If you're still seeking and care to approach, you may but do not be surprised if I say no. I have stretched My attentions thin enough. My boys deserve the best and those in My service or on active approach at this time are all I require. I still have room for one or two girls, but I do seek bisexual girls so though I appreciate the attention, lesbian ladies, thank you, but no...::::::
I am a caring, experienced Dominant seeking girls who are serious about their submission, have no problem with being honest and preferably, have a strong maso streak to their needs. I am definitely caring - but I'm also a Sadist. Don't mistake a heartfelt desire to improve My property with "easy to manipulate" - the two are NOT synonymous.
I am as capable of a loving D/s based relationship as I am treating slave property as chattel for those that are incapable of connecting on an emotional level. I am also a professional woman that deals with government contracts, so no - I don't put My face up in public for things that have to do with My PRIVATE life.
I have mentored and trained on both sides of the whip and have no issue simply talking about and discussing matters of the Lifestyle, challenges others might have or developing friendships with anyone of any orientation or position within the Lifestyle - Dom, Domme, sub, slave, male, female, trans or gender queer.
I have over 25 yrs experience and was trained Old School (NOT Old Guard - if you don't know the difference, ask!) I adore high protocol and ritual, but am not so stayed that I can't have a decent conversation. What others do with their Lifestyle expression and what I do may be two very different things, but I respect their right to have their Lifestyle their way.
I am a Caucasian, redheaded, blue-eyed BBW Domme with quite alot of skin art. If this doesn't appeal to you, don't bother wasting My time or yours with derogatory commentary. you will be deleted for your trouble.
I look forward to making friends and perhaps finding more! If you wish to know my fetish list - READ the one on My profile! If what you're looking for isn't listed there, that doesn't mean I'm not into that - it means CM didn't see fit to include it!
What must you be to have a successful M/s relationship with Me? * Honesty * Integrity * Obedience * Loyalty * Be gainfully employed (I'm not a Sugar Mama) * Be able to function in the vanilla world but have your roots firmly planted in D/s M/s soil * Be into this Lifestyle for more than the fetish play * Realize up front it isn't about YOUR desires, YOUR cock/pussy or YOUR masturbation material
I tend to start all My relationships on a horizontal ground and quickly establish the vertical D/s dynamic as it presents naturally. If being "forced" into the submission role is your kink, pass Me by. I'm far more interested in people that already know themselves to be PROFOUNDLY submissive and need control and structure.
I have a strong background in performance, music, theatre and so I do enjoy a variety of RP. However, I'm not a "Mommy Domme" so those that are into 24/7 AB play are not going to fit well in My Household. I AM Poly - so if you're monogamously wired, great! However, again, we won't be a good fit. Envy and Jealous drama crap have no place in My world.
If you haven't seen something in this profile about something you're interested in, by all means contact Me directly. I can be found on Skype and Googletalk. I DO NOT USE YAHOO OR CM CHAT -- I've received viruses from both and find them unstable. Don't ask.
I look forward to getting to know you!
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I am continually amazed at the number of male sub/slaves that feel their search has been harder than any Dominant can understand. LOL Oh dear, little boys, are you incorrect! The search for the right P/person to have in one's life is hard on both sides of the leash. Trust Me when I tell you with the number of fakes, wannabes and just plain immature folk out here trying on this Lifestyle for kicks it makes those of U/us that are real feel like Unicorns.
I hope everyone has a safe, blessed, happy and healthy holiday season!
Keep the faith! |
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*Looks for the place in Her profile or journals where it says, "P/players - sign up right here."* Wherever it is, I will annihilate that phrase! Casual experiences of this Lifestyle work for some P/people. They don't work for Me. If you're not willing to work at My pace, learn quickly, apply yourself to yourself and to Me... then simply pass by this profile and keep right on going to the next meet-n-beat "mistress" interested in your brand of "service."
DEEP end of the ocean ... not the kiddy pool. |
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It has been a hellish two weeks away from My home and My boys. I look forward to things normalizing again so that I can once more get back to being Myself and not just a working woman.
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Just a note... it is intensely rude for one who has been told repeatedly to leave Another alone for them not to do so. Furthermore it legally constitutes harassment and borders on stalking when one changes profiles - but is idiotic enough not to change their pictures - and come back yet again to "peek". Cyber peeping toms are weak, disturbed individuals. It doesn't show "devotion".... it doesn't show "that one is drawn" to Another in a way that would be good for T/them both - it shows a rude lack of caring for the human wishes of Another.
you know who you are.... STOP bothering to even look. The answer is STILL No! |
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My Household is nearly complete. I have only to find My girl(s) and I will have to seek no further. I am pleased to have two slave boys collared and two others that I am either working with or hope to soon.
Where oh where is My girl.... |
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A word about the financial realities of this Lifestyle when it comes to first meetings:
I am a business woman. I work hard every single day. I have a life, people that rely on My presence - both Lifestyle and on-Lifestyle. I DO NOT HAVE TIME, ENERGY OR MONEY to travel to every single place on the planet where boys and girls exist that want to serve.
I do realize that others also have jobs, lives, families. I do not expect every tom, dick, harry or sally who wants to serve to drop everything and come to Me every single time there is a consideration to be made. HOWEVER - I have this rule: If you aren't capable of making a long weekend to travel to My area, get a private room to stay in and at the very least, buy Me dinner - W/we have nothing to discuss. I am NOT a "sugar Mommy Domme" and My business's needs take priority over your need to see Me face to face.
Further, if for whatever reason, you need or wish Me to come to you for consideration, this can be arranged. I work from home for most of what I do and can travel with it easily. HOWEVER - if you're interrupting My usual life to ask Me to come to you (and I get about 6-12 requests PER WEEK for visitations) you can expect to pay for My round trip airfare, pay for My room (or make one available to Me in your home) and provide My meals while I'm there. I will NOT waste My time, livelihood or take resources out of My already established household to meet your first-time meeting wishes.
Understand, an FLR is exactly that... FEMALE lead - that would be Me. If this is all too much for you to understand and accommodate W/we have nothing further to discuss. Thank you for your attention. |
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Goodness, doesn't anyone READ?! I have stated quite clearly that I am *not* seeking anymore boys at this time, yet males still continue to write Me. Are quality Mistresses so few and far between, truly?? How sad!
However, boys, please realize that your desperation doesn't make you more desirable. I know there are Mistresses out here that enjoy having every little morsel of attention begged for, but I am not One of Those. Desperation smells like an old gym locker room - NOT SEXY! So, by all means, use your BIG head and THINK about what you're putting across as you approach.
Approach with intelligence, wit, thoughtfulness and something other than a dick pic, ass pic or simple one liner begging to be allowed to submit. A quality Lady has a mind that wishes to be stimulated, not just an ass or boots that wish to be licked so appeal to ALL of Her sensibilities and you're far more likely to get a positive response.
This being said, I'm still here for those that wish to make friends. But desire does not a friendship make - so be prepared NOT to start out with a laundry list of your wishes, fetishes and other personal me me me bs. I'm not interested.
Good luck finding what you seek! |
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I have had it asked what I seek in a girl, specifically. Therefore, I felt it would be a good topic to Journal on today. My requirements don't seem to be very difficult, to My mind, but finding one that truly fits the bill seems illusive at best and nigh unto impossible at worst.
she must be ready, willing and able to uphold the four pillars of My household. Honor, Integrity, Obedience and Loyalty. she must, preferably, be slave or deep-needs sub. she must be bisexual, bi-friendly or at the very least, a not be an "all males must DIE!" kind of lesbian. I am open to seeking more than one girl if a lesbian who has a limit on male usage seeks Me out, however I ultimately seek a girl that is open to working beside and interacting with My boys.
she may be either a usury slut or seeking a treasured position with an emotional bond attached, but either way she must be ready to obey without being a S.A.M. or topping from the bottom. she must have a clear understanding that slaves - being SLAVES - have only the limits, truly speaking, that are set by their Owner and will therefore, often have their own personal preferences tested within My realm and their boundaries pushed.
she must have a strong need for My guidance and a hunger for My presence, as well as an intense desire to please, to serve and to uphold her own end of the M/s bargain. I seem full lifetime Ownership - so she must be prepared for the fact that I will Own every aspect of her life, period. I am not a "sugar Mommy Domme" so she will be required to either bring with her the funds for her own upkeep or be ready to work outside the home to provide for the burden of her upkeep on My overall Household financial outline. A slave seeks to improve the life of their Owner on every level they are capable of and this aspect, though not the primary consideration, is a factor.
I do not have any requirements on age, body shape, weight or any other physical factors. I am perfectly willing to give BBW slaves an opportunity to prove themselves. I do enjoy suspension, so smaller girls are also welcome to apply or I will adjust My equipment accordingly to handle the needs of the one that arrives, however I also do not seek to cause any permanent damage to the one that serves Me, so it will be discussed in depth before a final determination is made.
There is a starting point.... now I have cast the line and I shall await to see who bites! :) |
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I am continually amazed by the amount of assumption that goes on in the world and in this modern set of expressions of this Lifestyle.
* It is assumed that if O/one doesn't have a picture of T/themselves on T/their profile that there is something to hide - it is never considered that having a professional career might have something to do with it, that endangerment of O/one's livelihood might be at stake or that that's even important to consider.
* It is assumed that if O/one is not the HWP standard in today's medical profession - which has been proven by more than one study to be inaccurate is a standard of actual HEALTH - that O/one is somehow less appropriate to express T/themselves through the auspices of this Lifestyle. * It is assumed that if O/one has something on T/their profile's fetish lists that isn't something the O/one looking at said profile would find enjoyable, that this is somehow a "kicker" to not even consider speaking to that P/person.
* It is assumed that if O/one has never considered T/themselves to be any other role than the O/one T/they are advertising for in T/their profile that those seeing more in T/them than T/they immediately see that the O/one doing the looking is immediately and completely WRONG!
Perhaps P/people in general should stop assuming and actually give some TIME to the process of getting to know P/people. It can be a wonderful adventure. I have yet to meet sincere, real practitioners of this Lifestyle that weren't willing to share pics, information, discussion and more in private - even when T/they didn't care to publish them to the public eye. So how about giving friendship a chance and see what grows instead of losing myriad opportunities for personal growth all in the name of O/one's right to make incorrect assumptions. |
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I will not pursue you …
I have nothing to prove to you...
It is you who have something to prove to Me in this beginning place.
I am a Strong Woman and Know Myself far too well to doubt Myself simply because you doubt that you might be what is right for Me... don't let it shake your resolve, be brave, write well and thoughtfully from your heart – now hit send.
I will not assure you that you're what I need in life...
I know what I need and want in life, it is your job to find out what that is, anticipate it, provide it, be it.
I will not give you My thoughts, My dreams, My passions, My pleasures or displeasure...
Not until you earn My interest enough to actually pay attention to you.
Does this seem cold? Does this seem distant? Does this seem inapproachable?
Only if you do not know yourself to be enough of a person who can respect My boundaries and still be respectfully eager enough to seek more... more information, more time, more attention, more Me.
Do I want you?
I won't know that until there is a spark.
Do I need you?
Never – this isn't about needing you. Its about wanting you enough to make the effort required for a bond.
Do I eagerly anticipate your contact, your content, your fetishes and vanilla interests?
I won't know that until there is an interest established.
Do I want you as a friend?
Maybe.
Do I want you for My own?
Maybe.
Do I need you and only you?
Never. Live with that reality.
I am a Dominant.
You know this or you wouldn't be here. |
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Alright, I've given My viewpoints on submission itself. Now its time to discuss something very close to My heart that I have seen changing in recent years in the Lifestyle and not necessarily for the better. The role of “slave” is what I am speaking of here.
The role of slave is unique in its depth. This is a human being (even if they need, desire or have developed within them a more animalistic expression) that has chosen to spend the rest of their lives bending their own Will to that of a trusted Owner. Whether they have been trained and conditioned to live this way or whether they are hardwired for it from birth, these are the people in this Lifestyle that plumb some of the deepest depths to serve the every need and wish of their Dominant, finding their own greatest joy in the pleasure, satisfaction and fulfillment of their Owner's wishes.
Even the strictest of usury slaves – those that seek absolutely NO emotional bond or commitment within the M/s relationship – are in many ways some of the strongest practitioners within this Lifestyle. The smart ones protect themselves vigorously during the search process, but the need to give themselves up often becomes so great that they lose themselves in the first strong Hand that presents itself, whether or not the One attached to that hand has their best interests at heart. This is a huge problem, for it can lead to mental, emotional, financial and physical ruin or worse.
The growing boom in Pro and Fin Domme populations around the world has left a very bad taste in the mouth of those slaves and Owners both that seek the full TPE situation. So many slaves have come to feel that the only thing a Dominant Female wishes from them is for them to be Her ATM. That is so not the case for those of Us that thrive on providing full Ownership. However, it has left Us with some stumbling blocks to overcome.
Is it true that a Dominant enjoys gifts and having the ability to live more fully from a financial perspective? What human being doesn't? But that doesn't mean it is the slave's responsibility to provide that unless they WANT to be whored out as a part of their service. It is also the Owner's job to make certain that if and when They do come into control of financial aspects of a slave's life, They do so with a responsible mind to that slave's eds. Is the slave going to school? Do they have children? Do they have health requirements that need regular doctor's care? Do they have bills to pay either in the long or short term that require monitoring? If any or all of these questions is yes, the Owner then has the responsibility to see to THOSE needs far before They go out and get a new corset or register for the next fetish event on the slave's earnings.
The true Owner seeks to control every single aspect of a slave's life. From their mental workings to their emotional health, from their physical health to the expression of their service, from the way they eat, dress, play and think to how they spend their earnings – if they work outside the M/s Household. Especially in this situations where the TPE exists but the Owner and slave do not live in a 24/7 circumstance, the aspect of controlling the more vanilla parts of a slave's life gain a bit more complicated expression, but they are no less important. If a slave is truly and completely the Owner's property, then all that the slave has becomes the responsibility of the Owner along with the slave itself. This means if the slave has children, the well-being of those children becomes another aspect of responsibility for the Owner – They aren't expected to parent, persay, but They must have the consideration to know that a child's needs comes before playtime. Further, the Owner has a responsibility to see to it that a durable power of attorney is in place in case of medical emergencies with the slave and in many cases, holds actual legal Guardianship over the slave's affairs.
TPE means TOTAL Power exchange. This doesn't mean a playtime, scening contract where the “slave” is just meat for a weekend or whatever length the contract states. What I'm talking about is a LIFETIME M/s agreement and collaring. This is a place where the slave understands and knows that the potential Owner has the honor, integrity, ability and skill to keep them truly Owned, safe, appropriately given the expression they seek to live with – whether that's as a caged meatsock that is taken out only for service, play and scenes and is otherwise left alone or is cared for as a precious treasure. Regardless of the actual EXPRESSION of the relationship, both aspects above are true. The slave is definitely for the use of the Owner, within the limits the Owner sets – usually in agreement with those of the potential slave when T/they are in negotiations for Ownership – but the slave is also a precious commodity. Even if they are treated in a purely object style of Ownership – objects still have value and must be cared for appropriately if they are to last. So, a potential Owner must realize there are “operating expenses” to slave Ownership and be ready to see to those needs accordingly.
I have often heard P/people state that it is impossible to have a TPE relationship as an LDR. This is utterly ridiculous, but it does take additional care than the one that exists in the same living space or is, at the very least, rooted in a Household setting. Since many slaves and Owners both have jobs that require travel in this day and age, it isn't an unforeseeable need that the Owner will have to retain controls at a distance on occasion. Frankly, an effective Owner doesn't have a problem with this at all. Mental conditioning, developing the pride in being Owned in a slave, giving them the security of realizing all their needs – from the most vanilla to the most depraved of Lifestyle fetishes – is taken care of by their Owner are all ways that the roots of LDR obedience and behavior are begun. Then, when gear such as chastity devices, timed orgasmic release, vocal command training and more are added to those roots, a slave can grow and flourish in their slavery without fear. This is the state most of the most effective long term Owners I know seek to create, for it is a beautiful thing to the eye of a truly good Owner to see Their property perform at their highest peak of personal perfections in service and in life.
So please, potential slaves, consider carefully whether or not a potential Owner has the skills AND the caring needed to take fullest advantage of your gifts. And potential Owners – get Your head out of Your fetish drive asses and understand that these are LIVES You're seeking to take hold of, not just fetish meat. The fullest expression ostyle can only be found in the true vertical balance between O/ones that have found true growing compatibility and work to make it continue to grow throughout the years to come. |
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submission, what is it about? When W/we break it down, submission comes down to one thing - service. What form that service takes is as myriad as the types of P/practitioners of this Lifestyle. But when you take away all the fetishes, all the fancy clothes, all the attitude on either side of the whip, submission boils down to service. DO you have what it takes to truly submit to the Will of Another?
I have, for years, counseled so many submissives - both male and female - about being what I have fondly come to call "do me" subs. Signs of a "do me" sub range from a first approach note that includes THEIR fetish list, THEIR limits list, THEIR fantasies, THEIR idea of the perfect Dominant for them... in short, the are more interested in what their Dominant is going to do to and for them than they are in how they can serve their Dominant's wishes for them.
Trust is an essential component to true submission at its deepest levels. The submissive or slave must be able to clearly see in how their potential Dominant lives Their life, what Their personal priorities are in life, whether or not They give service within Their vanilla and Lifestyle community and more the fact that this Dominant will always have the best interests of Their sub or slave at heart - even when at Their most Sadistic, if that is a factor that lies within that particular Dominant.
Even those slaves that seek pure usuary without visible emotional content must know that the One that owns them will see to any health issues that arise, will use them according to the contract they agree to and will keep Their word to all They have promised. slaves, especially, must take special care to choose their Owner wisely - for unlike a submissive who as the ability to say "no" on a fairly regular basis and still stick with their Dominant, in many cases, a slave has only one "no" in their vocabulary and that "no" is what will end their slavery. To give over that kind of power is, indeed, a heady think filled with deep fantasy and even deeper trust.
But irregardless of the rules set out between Dominant and sub or slave, the ONE truth that remains is that submission isn't about the fetishes. It isn't about the structure. It isn't even about the dynamic which inspires a sub or slave to wish to give up their submission. submission is about S-E-R-V-I-C-E.
If you're a sub that only submits in the bedroom, that's fine. you're a sexual submissive. No problem. you still SERVE in the bedroom. If you're a housework sub - sissy maid - pure work horse, you still SERVE. If you're a masochist who can take the deepest, longest workout a Sadistic Dominant can perform - you SERVE with your ability to take what you take from Them!
Is it about pleasure? Certainly - when its done right on both sides. Is it about kinks? Well, yes, this IS BDSM afterall. Is it about what you get out of it on a mental, emotional, physical and even spiritual level? Certainly - W/we must all be balanced within O/our own experience or life simply isn't satisfying. However, at its roots, its deepest, purest form.... submission is about SERVING.
If you don't get that from the beginning - it will be a long, painful row to hoe for you and I wish you all the best in your struggle. Good luck to A/all finding Y/your best and deepest Lifestyle expression! |
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We give clues to ourselves in these journal entries. Isn't it amazing how few actually read them? I can always tell when someone invites Me to chat here on CM or on yahoo that they haven't even fully read My profile - much less noted My journal entries and what they can learn there.
Laziness - it is a HUGE pet peeve with Me. I'm an extremely hard working Woman and those that are simply the "do me" sorts of sub or slave (or even Dominants) just irk the crap outta Me! I EARN the respect of those that serve Me, I don't need to demand it. I INSPIRE My subs to sink down into slavery without effort - there is no need for a type of force that can bounce back and bite One in the ass or worse, damage the sub in question. I REQUIRE three things in those that serve Me and it continually amazes Me how few can actually manifest them in visible ways - Honor, Obedience & Loyalty - are these qualities really so rare today? If so, W/we've lost something substantial in O/our world.
My own slave boy is growing by leaps and bounds. It seems every day he finds new ways to surprise Me with the ways he is sinking, growing, expanding into his role to make himself a better man and a better slave. It is with great pride I call Myself his Owner and know to My depths that I will never have to worry about him knowing where he belongs or whether or not he'll seek to stay there. he is utterly Mine in every way! Thank you, pet, for your devotion and the joy you give Me daily by bending your will to My own in all you do. |
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Alright, seriously, boys and girls. When you meet Someone on the street every day that you seek to have respect you - do you point your ass, cock, pussy or other private bits at Them first? Or do you shake Their hand and at least ATTEMPT to look Them in the eye?!
Personally, I prefer the latter. Seeing someone's gaping asshole is something I far prefer to see in person when they're in My collar than as a first "taste" of what they are. Don't potential subs/slaves understand they're ADVERTISING themselves - quite literally - as an asshole and nothing more when they do this?!
Get some MANNERS, people! Approach a Dominant - especially a Lady - with RESPECT and DECORUM! There is all the time in the world to prove what a nudist/slut/ass you can be! Take the plug out of your HEAD and THINK! |
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Let's discuss slavery. slavery makes Me happy. A true slave is inspired to know his/her place is below My feet when they arrive at My door. A true slave who is seeking a bonded LTR of TPE already knows when they arrive at My door that they seek to be controlled, structured and Dominated utterly. Does that mean I NEED them to be an open wallet? No. It means they require Someone capable of taking their power - not just the control over their finances (NO I don't mean STRIPPING their finances, I mean controlling it with their best interests at heart) - but more importantly over their desires, their mind, their body and their soul. A slave is a responsibility, like a four-footed animal pet. they require care, good food, vet bills, training, a regular routine, scheduling for work, self improvement, their particular balance. Chores, yes. Self-improvement exercises, yes. Clean My catbox, yard, car, floors - yes. Be mindless, idiotic followers with no choice? - NO! The strength of a true slave lies in their willingness to CHOOSE to bend their will to Mine every day for the rest of their natural lives. Doing it because they feel they have no choice is a weakness. I prefer My slaves STRONG -- and Inspired to choose My Way, not the Highway.
Contrary to some Dominant belief, I feel being an Owner bears with it a great and sacred responsibility. To have the ultimate trust of an intelligent (I can't stand stupid... dumb is a natural occurrence, but stupid is something One can't fix) beings, One must EARN IT! Earn its respect, earn its trust, inspire its loving devotion. That is My Way.
Each slave is different. Thus, they require different things to thrive. One with experience wouldn't expect a dog to live on Tiger food or vice versa. Likewise, not every pet is an animal - some are more like plants. Still others are uniquely spiritual beings that require a strong foundation and basis in spiritual well-being to thrive. That is the joy of having multiple slaves - like Baskin - Robbins, One can always sate Their many desires within the flavors of Their own House. Finding their balance along with the one W/we share is the joy of this Lifestyle's growth.
This is how things are in My House. |
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OUT OF TOWN until Mid week! Talk to you all when I get back! |
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I added a bit more to My profile today. I felt, after all the multitudes of contacts I'd had that it was time to clarify a few things about what I am and what I'm not "into." Its really good to see this Lifestyle come out of the closet in many ways but it is also amazing to Me how many players, fakes, wannabes and just plain liars are out here! Doesn't anyone have a sense of honor anymore?
On the other side of things -- My boy, bibliophile, is amazing! It has been a very long time since I saw a boy capable of the depths he has and becoming so comfortable in them as quickly as he has. It is profound and gorgeous to watch and be the guiding Hand that places him there. How much more beautiful can someone be than when their deepest soul is shining through their eyes and their smile reaches every pore of their skin? Even when he's not smiling, he is - to put it mildly - at total peace. I'm a lucky Mistress!
I have also been blessed to have contact with a few more boys and girls that peak My interest. Though they are not as inclined to sink as fast as My bibliophile, they are likewise proving themselves to be ones I would proudly call Mine, place within My household and use wickedly for the rest of their days. Soon, My Household will be complete once more! I'm SO excited!!! |
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Let's examine what makes Me happy. I am asked nearly every day - even with a full list of My fetishes available (at least as far as CM lists allow) on My profile, boys and girls still ask "what are You looking for, Miss?"
I am looking for the three principles that govern My Life - both in the Lifestyle and out. Honor, Obedience and Loyalty. All the aspects of this Lifestyle fall under those three headings for Me, as they should for those that seek to serve Me. All the rest is simply preference, not imperative.
Do I think any ONE pet can serve every single need I have? No. That's why I'm a Poly Mistress/Owner. Further, I'm bisexual and no amount of boy in a dress is going to do a damn thing for Me when its a girl I seek - and vice versa.
I work far better with those of a deep needs sub or slave mentality - but a casual play slave is NOT a slave to Me. slaves, in their truest and deepest expression REQUIRE an Owner's hand and structure on their lives 24/7/365 to feel secure, whole and appropriate in their skin. It isn't a matter of whether or not you can present yourself for a weekend, be stripped and submit well all weekend and get back up and go back to your vanilla world and be ok with just the memories to carry you through until your fetish desires get the better of you again. scene slaves are fine - but that's role play. It isn't a WAY OF BEING. It isn't a personality type.
I'm not a play Domme. I don't do casual meet and beats. Now have I assisted submissive and slave friends with scenes to feed their needs while seeking a permanent home or to teach them more about their own skill base? Yes. But I don't meet strangers and just whack away. That isn't who I am. Go find a Pro-Domme if that level of casual is all you need.
Do I allow those I Own to play with others? Under the right circumstances and structure agreements, yes. Do I consider it a bond breaking offense if they do it without discussion with Me and permission to play? HELL YES! Are My rules negotiable? For a sub, to a point, yes. I respect stated limits - though I have been known to test them. However, I am also One that believes that one of the most significant differences between a sub and slave is that a submissive always has an opportunity to say "No!" within certain circumstances, as long as its done with respect. A slave has only ONE opportunity to say "No!" ... think about it... you'll understand.
If you haven't seen your question answered here, by all means, write Me and ask. I'm always happy to have conversation and discussions to help those new or old to this Lifestyle to sort, learn and grow. Good luck finding your level and what you need! |
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The boy that lights My world right now is so very special. What a lucky would-be Owner I am that one who first thought himself a deep sub now begins to find his inner slave in My care and finds contentment with that role. he takes every instruction without argument, seeks instruction when he needs it to help him find his level (as instructed), he participates with as full and willing a heart, mind, body and soul as I have seen in a very long time. he refreshes My spirit and gives Me peace in the face of the hurtful cowardice of others.
I am a very blessed Mistress indeed. |
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OK boys and girls... let's see who pays actual attention. I DO NOT use CM chat - its unstable and opens too much to viruses. I have experienced it personally thus, I do not use it. I also do not use Yahoo for similar reasons. I have Skype and Googletalk - neither of which bother My firewalls. So... either ASK for THOSE IDs... or desist wanting to speak with Me. I won't change My mind on the services I use to suit your requests. That isn't how this Lifestyle works.
Good luck finding what you need! |
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boy who decided to bolt... stop looking. stop reaching. stop thinking of Me. I hear you and you know it. you chose to bolt over a misunderstanding instead of working through it like an adult. I won't have you dangled in front of My perceptions when you won't even talk. Stop. Just stop. I am respecting your wishes and not even attempting to be in touch on any wavelength. I would appreciate the same respect. you already know I'm not what you assumed. Either get past your fear and come talk to Me - or simply fade back into the darkness of "alone." |
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Rare connections are exactly that... rare and to be cherished. I had two, now I have one... I am still blessed, but will miss the one that chose another path. It is a painful shame when a single word misunderstood can lead to the loss of a lifetime. you are still felt... you will be missed.... your choice will be respected.
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The First thread is tied... consideration has been made formal. The little string of My choice and his agreement has been bound. Now, we shall make a journey and see where the path leads. Ever winding, down the road of life, this is a trip neither of us will soon forget. So quickly, the soul bond is formed. The soul sings a siren song and is answered - in harmony.
And then another voice is added... how did My life become so blessed so quickly!? Nevermind... the how is not important. That it simply *is* is now key. Here we go... fasten your seatbelts... Its going to be a bumpy night. ;) |
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Oh... the joy of watching a boy grow... grow in mind, grow in body, grow deeper with every second, every word passed between U/us... he grows closer to the day I simply TAKE what is already Mine! So strange to be so long with no connections and only the shallows and now this little one craves to dive into Me & this Lifestyle with his whole being. So new he does not even realize how precious he is... I will take great pleasure in showing him....cherishing him...Soon. |
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What an amazing day! :) I do believe I may just have found the one for Me... we shall see. |
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Where, I wonder, are the subs and slaves that enjoy the deep end of the BDSM Ocean, as I do? Where are the ones that crave hypnosis and wish to grow into the craving for discipline and pain? Where are the little ones that want to grow and expand in themselves through their service to One they can trust implicitly with every aspect of themselves? Is it only the players that will find Me here? I so hope not. Come out, Come out, wherever you are - deep swimming fishes, your favorite bait awaits.... hungry yet? |
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