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| I’m a mature male in my early 60s, in a vanilla relationship, and in recent times I’ve been quietly exploring my hitherto undiscovered submissive side, both in real-life encounters and online (latterly more online than anything else). I still regard myself as a novice, but I feel I have learned from my various experiences and now have a clearer understanding of my leanings and where I might “fit in” in the BDSM environment.
Firstly, I’ve come to realise that for me it’s the D/s aspect of BDSM that is the big incentive. I am drawn to the psychological dynamic of power exchange, which does not mean I’m unresponsive to physical domination (far from it), but simply that I’m happiest when in the company of an assertive and powerful woman who will put me in my place and keep me there. I have learned that the dynamic is about Her and her desires, whatever they may be, and that my role is to try to please in whatever way I can. I have discovered the personal pleasure I can experience simply by the uncomplaining giving of myself.
So for me it is not so much about leather, whips, chains and having someone shouting in anger. Rather, it’s a strong-willed woman with a sense of her own power and the intelligence which emanates from her and transmits itself to me. It’s the ability to use a word or a phrase which instantly puts me in my place or humiliates me. It’s an ability to communicate her disdain for me without words. If these factors are there I will be drawn to comply with her wishes – she may be dressed in ordinary everyday clothes and be very softly spoken (in fact, softly spoken is a plus!)
I recognise that, as a submissive man, I’m in a hopelessly overcrowded category, but I’m hopeful that by registering with this site I might meet and have some intelligent online talk with a woman who may find amusement in me. There really doesn’t have to be a sexual element to it – I feel I still have a lot to learn and I will be grateful for anything I may be offered.
I’m happy to answer any questions you may have as honestly as I can – please just ask. Thank you for taking the time to read this profile.
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