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NOTE DUE TO VAST AMOUNT OF SPAM MAIL TO THE EMAIL ACCOUNT ASSOS. WITH THIS PROFILE? SITE I WILL NOT BE CHECKING INTO THIS SITE OFTEN. THIS IS NOT THE 1st TIME THIS HAS HAPPENED.... WILL CHECK IN OCCASIONALLY AFTER 0707. Will occasionally do so to see if issue has been resolved worked last time............. Looking for friends, but...
May have some interest in you . Respect can show real need for Strong Femme Authority? I am seeking a chaste slave for my poly household who is genuinely interested in long term submission slavery, live-in .No switches or pain sluts need apply.
Continue reading.
I expect a respectful message from you telling me about yourself. Dont just ask me how I am.I do not want a string of email one after the other to be sent to me.
I am not interested in your pic or webcam. No pic of mine offered at this time. Dont ask.
I dont have time to conduct conversations on Yahoo or CM IM. I consider IM time to be my private time.
Dont want your tribute nor gift. I am not a fin- domme.
Not offering sex to you - serving is the biggest part of a true slaves life. Duties will include personal care,cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. Always putting me first - make yourself useful to me - your role is to please me to make my life better for having you around.
you dont need to have lots of previous experience, but think it through first so that you know you want it its not just a wet dream. I am not into kinks, I dont play in gear and I dont wear fancy dress mistress costumes. For me it is a way of living not a dress up or role play game.
Be a legal resident of the USA.
Note to the stupid I will not send you air-fare or car fare to relocate from Nigeria, anywhere in USA, or elsewhere on this planet or Mars - I wasnt born yesterday.
I will reply when I want and can.
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To save my time, and yes, yours in your search for your Domina, read my journal. It will answer many questions you have and encourage thought. Get yourself a cup of coffee,soft drink or glass of milk and cookies and be comfortable as you read my thoughts. I warn you, the journal is long. The journey begins.....
About Me
Who am I ?
Maybe better to start with what I am not. Not a findomme, humiliatrix, not an extreme sadist, let alone a sadist in the 'usual' definition of one. I remember reading a term somewhere that struck me as a good deion of a character type. I am not a 'bitchy ice queen'. I am not a Lesbian, am bi.
Actually some would not consider me a mistress, a dominate for I believe that one can get more with honey than vinegar. I am not into hard punishment, and I do prefer that my servant, my sub, knows what I expect of her. I will remake and remold you to my personal tastes, not yours. I am a loving person and to some degree, the kindness and care I receive will be returned to you. I am somewhat strict when appropriate with you, my sub, at the end of a chain.
That being said, I'm not a pushover, because people know it when I mean business or am unhappy about something. Neither am I a drama queen, though I am a very good, award winning actress. When I am happy and content, so are you. I realize that a sub can only be happy when I am happy and content.
First.My style - a sensual Dominant, not extreme sadist. I wish I knew where I saw this deion : a Sapiosexual. A person that finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.The mind is the most powerful sexual organ. I want to get to know you .Stimulate my mind and I will engage in conversation. If you try to stimulate what is in between my legs when we first meet, I will look right past you and not acknowledge you at all.
I prefer sensual control and the use of words to help guide and train my sub over harsh sadistic use.
Second. I am a Yankee transplant that moved to the mid-south mainly for the weather (a gentler winter) and am living in a small-to me-town east of Memphis in northern MS.
Third. I am disabled due to a car trauma about 15 years ago. That left me with some nerve damage to left leg where I have trouble walking without support such as a rolling walker, especially on uneven ground like grass, and climbing up/down stairs with no handrails and walking distances. Wheelchair at times, yes in 'long' walk situations Yes, actually wheelchair usage when done is the perfect protocol place for sub, behind me or to the side when with walker. I do walk with one or cane. In big box stores - yeah I use their scooters. Otherwise, I'm usually good to go. A few years ago suffered a brain aneurysm, a stroke, which left me with a 'mushy' left hand making it difficult to type, without typos, two-handed. and horrors, the inability to mentally make my hands tie knots, fold clothes. Nothing else went wrong.
If that doesn't scare you off, continue reading.
Pictures
Yes, I have pictures and they will be made available to those with a pertinent need for them. I am not here to win any beauty contests, and have found that looks often muddy the waters, making people focus on their ideal of Me, rather than the Me that I am. A few have said they use the picture as a focal point when they masturbate. And who gave them that right? Oh yes, must have been me tacitly when I had actual facial picture. Yes, I have a picture of me and it (they) will be made available to those with a need as determined by me. There is also a need for privacy due to the nature of this site. Likewise, would not insist on pics or webcam from you.
I believe that matches between a dominate and a submissive should be based on common interests, for looks fade and perceptions of beauty change as time marches on. And realize that I or another person might have need of privacy from plastering their face on the internet so I do not demand to see photos before we meet in real time. Attraction to another is not based solely on looks. There is the aspect of intelligent conversation, the finding out of likes and dislikes. I don't really care what you look like , even if you think you look like Sasquatch, that's OK for no one is ugly. The rest you'll find out later if we connect.
Many ask me what I look like, so will keyboard this: I know many are tired of meeting Dommes that lie about themselves, thus the disclosure that follows. Looks: I am a plus size woman- liking to wear loose clothing so size 18-20, 5'6", formerly dark blond hair short-cut now salt-pepperish, green eyed, nice smile. The rest you'll find out later if we connect.
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Household
Be aware that if you are expecting to be the only adult living with me 24/7, read no further. I live with my Significant Other, a former male sub of mine, now a vanilla type of relationship with me as room mates.
You would be my live-in service orientated ,personal service chaste slave.Thus it would be a 3 person, female led household.There are also two fur family members, a rescued small Toy Fox Terrier who now thinks she's a Rottweiler in a little body, and her new puppy companion, a German Spitz.
You're welcome to stop reading if you wouldn't care to be part of my household as it is now.... go separately on your own journey.
If what you have read so far doesn't scare you off, continue reading.
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Protocols and Contracts
Protocols help in the growth of a relationship, giving a clear outline of what is expected and even when something will occur. Protocol is a way of doing things.
They simplify life for all parties. The rules and expectations and understanding of them makes life easier, makes it less gray. Protocols are in place to make things run smoothly. They make it easier for the sub because sometimes the subs expectations of herself are higher than my expectations of her in her search to be appreciated for the gift of servitude she gives me, happy, and comfortable in her submission.
It is almost a certainty that's not to say that one "Master or Mistress" won't do something one way and another quite differently. from me. One may line up "slave protocols" ad nauseum and Another may quite firmly demand that everything be loose and laid back. That's more like I am more a like a 'young' Guard.
To me the lifestyle is not about Old Guard, Victorian, or Gorean or someone elses protocols. It's about honesty, respect, trust, honor, respect, and integrity. That's all you have to remember with me.
I am not into hard, harsh punishment, and I do prefer that my servant knows what I expect of her. I am a loving person and to some degree, the kindness and care I receive will be returned to you.
Protocol
I do have some. They simplify life for all parties. . Protocol makes it easier for you, the submissive, to please me, The Domme without always asking me if you can do something you know you have my permission to do.
I am listing some of mine.
I dislike being called or referred to as "Mistress". To me it smacks of the "other" woman. So, address me as Ma'am unless in a vanilla situation where my legal name would be more appropriate.
It's not a requirement that a sub always refer to herself in the third person, thus never using the word "I"
It would not be a requirement that the sub sit or kneel ,sleep for long periods of time on the floor or be locked in a cage. When receiving orders, the sub will be near me.
In a vanilla setting, my sub still does some subtle protocol things that others don't even notice or pay attention to. Things like opening the car door or bringing me something to eat or drink, carry shopping bags after I hand them over at a store counter, push me in a wheelchair if needed.
Also if we were not at home, I require that subs asked their hosts if smoking was permitted. To me, it is part of my duties to ensure your physical, psychological, and emotional health and stability. If needed by you safe words will be used. Hard and soft limits will be honored, part of a safe environment.
I dislike eating alone when there are others around. In my home, meals such as early dinner/late supper are eaten together, unless circumstances like work outside of home or breakfast not eaten though I consider that the most important meal of day. You will not eat after me, but sit at table together with me if we're at a table or the like and when there are any others around that want to eat. Snacks as needed or available for health reasons. I will try to ensure healthy food choices for you.
I demand the sub be alert to surroundings, and problems that may need to be addressed.
To me it's vital that there are NO speech restrictions, unless ordered. For the gods sake, Tell ME and others immediately if you see danger coming or that something is wrong.
Feel free to ask questions, because if you don't, how will you learn? If you can't talk to me how can we know what the other wants to so we can continue towards mutual fulfillment of goals? Also, when I talk to someone and we're face-to-face I look them in the eye and expect it back. So someone expecting any eye restrictions will not get that from me.
It would not be a requirement that you sit or sleep on the floor unless ordered or in High protocol situation where the sub will use no furniture unless it would help me.
You accept me the superior, with the understanding that you are now my property. You will remember your role in regard to me at all times in and out of my presence.
You will keep your body maintained to assure good health as much as possible,
keeping the body clean, hair and nails trimmed, and pubic area shaved.
I insist that you tell Me immediately that if you are experiencing a medical issue, you take care of small cuts and the like ASAP.
A list of your hard and soft limits will be strictly adhered to with Safewords used and adhered .
You will take your daily prescribed meds, go to doctors visits, medical tests.
If you are a tobacco user, you will go outside to smoke and in car, rarely inside the car, no matter how long the trip.
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You will be appropriately collared after a time period, full ownership at least after a year and then be considered by me as if a commitment ceremony, like a marriage .
Also, there would be no to me silly and stupid orders about asking for permission to self-toilet . If you need to then go, with a slight indication that there is a need. At home I know where the toilet is located and why someone is going there. In public, don't just walk away without letting me know where you're going.
When clothes outside our home are worn they are occasion appropriate. Clothing will be clean, not torn, wrinkle free, matched.
I do expect that you will adhere to High Protocol when needed. It would be my pleasure that you maintain a relationship, albeit a 'distant' one with immediate family members, very occasional phone calls made and received, attendance at very important occasions like funerals, weddings, etc. allowed. If needed I can be your friend that came with you.
Discipline will be applied at any time, to ensure that you fully appreciates your role of subservience, and to discourage unacceptable conduct.
I will have the right to use your body at any time, in any matter I see fit, sexually or otherwise. I will tell you right now that I do not loan out slaves unless there myself to others to be used and abused.
You will write a legible journal every day, detailing your feelings on what happened during the day. The journal will end with a list of three things you wants to work on regarding your sub duties that might include vanilla type activities that might enhance our relationship. You will also list at least three things you are thankful for, no matter how small they may seem.
Contracts
There will be no signed 'slave contract' that has legal validity. A general slave contract is only good if both parties will adhere to it. So a negotiated verbal agreement will be in place at the start of our R/T relationship as agreed to by both, with a written list of rules handy in the future. The agreement will not be in constant flux and will be applied without question. The only possible renegotiation might be release of ownership term that was negotiated, this done with valid reason and at my discretion.
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Hopefully, I can become The One Lady that will control and lead our mutual relationship, placing value on your surrender, trust, devotion, and willingness to learn the pathways of our life together accepting me as your own to control, dominate, and discipline. Your life with me will be ALL about me. I know you will literally worship the ground I walk upon doing whatever it takes to make me happy. As part teacher, part taskmaster, part deity, I will be fully your owner and goddess.
I can only place trust in the gods that I can be your forever Domme, a safe harbor where you belong because you are wanted, needed, and accepted,not a throw away goods.
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I seek the one who can and will and WANTS me to impose upon her 24/7 ownership and sensual, domestic servitude/subjugation. Then she is mine.
Does she exist ?
Am I likely to find her if she does ?
Hope springs eternal I guess. Keep reading
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To save my time, and yes, yours in your search for your Domina, read my journal. It will answer many questions you have and encourage thought. Get yourself a cup of coffee,soft drink or glass of milk and cookies and be comfortable as you read my thoughts. I warn you, the journal is long. The journey begins.....
About Me
Who am I ?
Maybe better to start with what I am not. Not a findomme, humiliatrix, not an extreme sadist, let alone a sadist in the 'usual' definition of one. I remember reading a term somewhere that struck me as a good deion of a character type. I am not a 'bitchy ice queen'. I am not a Lesbian, am bi.
Actually some would not consider me a mistress, a dominate for I believe that one can get more with honey than vinegar. I am not into hard punishment, and I do prefer that my servant, my sub, knows what I expect of him. I will remake and remold you to my personal tastes, not yours. I am a loving person and to some degree, the kindness and care I receive will be returned to you. I am somewhat strict when appropriate with you, my sub, at the end of a chain.
That being said, I'm not a pushover, because people know it when I mean business or am unhappy about something. Neither am I a drama queen, though I am a very good, award winning actress. When I am happy and content, so are you. I realize that a sub can only be happy when I am happy and content.
Neither am I a drama queen, though I am a very good, award winning actress. When I am happy and content, so are you.
First.My style - a sensual Dominant, not extreme sadist. I wish I knew where I saw this deion : a Sapiosexual. A person that finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.The mind is the most powerful sexual organ. I want to get to know you .Stimulate my mind and I will engage in conversation. If you try to stimulate what is in between my legs when we first meet, I will look right past you and not acknowledge you at all.
I prefer sensual control and the use of words to help guide and train my sub over harsh sadistic use.
Second. I am a Yankee transplant that moved to the mid-south mainly for the weather (a gentler winter) and am living in a small-to me-town east of Memphis in northern MS.
Third. I am disabled due to a car trauma about 15 years ago. That left me with some nerve damage to left leg where I have trouble walking without support such as a rolling walker, especially on uneven ground like grass, and climbing up/down stairs with no handrails and walking distances. Wheelchair at times, yes in 'long' walk situations Yes, actually wheelchair usage when done is the perfect protocol place for sub, behind me or to the side when with walker. I do walk with one or cane. In big box stores - yeah I use their scooters. Otherwise, I'm usually good to go. A few years ago suffered a brain aneurysm, a stroke, which left me with a 'mushy' left hand making it difficult to type, without typos, two-handed. and horrors, the inability to mentally make my hands tie knots, fold clothes. Nothing else went wrong. If that doesn't scare you off, continue reading.
Yes, I have pictures and they will be made available to those with a pertinent need for them. I am not here to win any beauty contests, and have found that looks often muddy the waters, making people focus on their ideal of Me, rather than the Me that I am. A few have said they use the picture as a focal point when they masturbate, And who gave them that right? Oh yes, must have been me tacitly when I had actual facial picture. Yes, I have a picture of me and it (they) will be made available to those with a need as determined by me. There is also a need for privacy due to the nature of this site. Likewise, would not insist on pics or webcam from you.
Pictures
I believe that matches between a dominate and a submissive should be based on common interests, for looks fade and perceptions of beauty change as time marches on. And realize that I or another person might have need of privacy from plastering their face on the internet so I do not demand to see photos before we meet in real time. Alttraction to another is not based solely on looks. There is the aspect of intelligent conversation, the finding out of likes and dislikes. I don't really care what you look like , even if you think you look like Sasquatch, that's OK for no one is ugly. The rest you'll find out later if we connect.
Many ask me what I look like, so will keyboard this: I know many are tired of meeting Dommes that lie about themselves, thus the disclosure that follows. Looks: I am a plus size woman- liking to wear loose clothing so size 18-20, 5'6", formerly dark blond hair short-cut now salt-pepperish, green eyed, nice smile. The rest you'll find out later if we connect.
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Household
Be aware that if you are expecting to be the only adult living with me 24/7, read no further. I live with my Significant Other, a former male sub of mine, now a vanilla type of relationship with me as room mates.
You would be my live-in service orientated ,personal service chaste slave.Thus it would be a 3 person, female led household.There are also two fur family members, a rescued small Toy Fox Terrier who now thinks she's a Rottweiler in a little body, and her new puppy companion, a German Spitz.
You're welcome to stop reading if you wouldn't care to be part of my household as it is now.... go separately on your own journey.
If what you have rea so far doesn't scare you off, continue reading.
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You're welcome to stop reading if you wouldn't care to be part of my household as it is now.... Go separately with good wishes on your own journey.
Protocols and Contracts
Protocols help in the growth of a relationship, giving a clear outline of what is expected and even when something will occur. Protocol is a way of doing things and I do have some. They simplify life for all parties. The rules and expectations and understanding of them makes life easier, makes it less gray. Protocols are in place to make things run smoothly. They make it easier for the sub because sometimes the subs expectations of himself are higher than my expectations of him in his search to be appreciated for the gift of servitude she gives me, happy, and comfortable in her submission.
It is almost a certainty that's not to say that one "Master or Mistress" won't do something one way and another quite differently. from me. One may line up "slave protocols" ad nauseum and Another may quite firmly demand that everything be loose and laid back. That's more like I am more a like a 'young' Guard.
To me the lifestyle is not about Old Guard, Victorian, or Gorean or someone elses protocols. It's about honesty, respect, trust, honor, respect, and integrity. That's all you have to remember with me.
I am not into hard, harsh punishment, and I do prefer that my servant knows what I expect of her. I am a loving person and to some degree, the kindness and care I receive will be returned to you.
Protocol
I do have some. They simplify life for all parties. The rules and expectations and understanding of them makes life easier, makes it less gray. Protocol makes things run smoothly. Protocol makes it easier for you, the submissive, to please me without always asking me if you can do something you know you have my permission to do.
I am listing some of mine.
I dislike being called or referred to as "Mistress". To me it smacks of the "other" woman. So, address me as Ma'am unless in a vanilla situation where my legal name would be more appropriate.
It's not a requirement that a sub always refer to him or (herself) in the third person, thus never using the word "I"
It would not be a requirement that the sub sit or kneel ,sleep for long periods of time on the floor or be locked in a cage. When receiving orders, the sub will be near me.
In a vanilla setting, my sub still does some subtle protocol things that others don't even notice or pay attention to. Things like opening the car door or bringing me something to eat or drink, carry shopping bags after I hand them over at a store counter, push me in a wheelchair if needed.
Also if we were not at home, I require that subs asked their hosts if smoking was permitted. To me, it is part of my duties to ensure your physical, psychological, and emotional health and stability. If needed by you safe words will be used. Hard and soft limits will be honored, part of a safe environment.
I dislike eating alone when there are others around. In my home, meals such as early dinner/late supper are eaten together, unless circumstances like work outside of home or breakfast not eaten though I consider that the most important meal of day. You will not eat after me, but sit at table together with me if we're at a table or the like and when there are any others around that want to eat. Snacks as needed or available for health reasons. I will try to ensure healthy food choices for you.
I demand the sub be alert to surroundings, and problems that may need to be addressed.
To me it's vital that there are NO speech restrictions, unless ordered. For the gods sake, Tell ME and others immediately if you see danger coming or that something is wrong.
Feel free to ask questions, because if you don't, how will you learn? If you can't talk to me how can we know what the other wants to so we can continue towards mutual fulfillment of goals? Also, when I talk to someone and we're face-to-face I look them in the eye and expect it back. So someone expecting any eye restrictions will not get that from me.
It would not be a requirement that you sit or sleep on the floor unless ordered or in High protocol situation where the sub will use no furniture unless it would help me.
You accept me the superior, with the understanding that you are now my property. You will remember your role in regard to me at all times in and out of my presence.
You will keep your body maintained to assure good health as much as possible,
keeping the body clean, hair and nails trimmed, and pubic area shaved.
I insist that you tell Me immediately that if you are experiencing a medical issue, you take care of small cuts and the like ASAP.
A list of your hard and soft limits will be strictly adhered to with Safewords used and adhered .
You will take your daily prescribed meds, go to doctors visits, medical tests.
If you are a tobacco user, you will go outside to smoke and in car, rarely inside the car, no matter how long the trip.
.
You will be appropriately collared after a time period, full ownership at least after a year and then be considered by me as if a commitment ceremony, like a marriage .
Also, there would be no to me silly and stupid orders about asking for permission to self-toilet . If you need to then go, with a slight indication that there is a need. At home I know where the toilet is located and why someone is going there. In public, don't just walk away without letting me know where you're going.
When clothes outside our home are worn they are occasion appropriate. Clothing will be clean, not torn, wrinkle free, matched.
I do expect that you will adhere to High Protocol when needed. It would be my pleasure that you maintain a relationship, albeit a 'distant' one with immediate family members, very occasional phone calls made and received, attendance at very important occasions like funerals, weddings, etc. allowed. If needed I can be your friend that came with you.
Discipline will be applied at any time, to ensure that you fully appreciates your role of subservience, and to discourage unacceptable conduct.
I will have the right to use your body at any time, in any matter I see fit, sexually or otherwise. I will tell you right now that I do not loan out slaves unless there myself to others to be used and abused.
You will write a legible journal every day, detailing your feelings on what happened during the day. The journal will end with a list of three things you wants to work on regarding your sub duties that might include vanilla type activities that might enhance our relationship. You will also list at least three things you are thankful for, no matter how small they may seem.
Contracts
There will be no signed 'slave contract' that has legal validity. A general slave contract is only good if both parties will adhere to it. So a negotiated verbal agreement will be in place at the start of our R/T relationship as agreed to by both, with a written list of rules handy in the future. The agreement will not be in constant flux and will be applied without question. The only possible renegotiation might be release of ownership term that was negotiated, this done with valid reason and at my discretion. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
Hopefully, I can become The One Lady that will control and lead our mutual relationship, placing value on your surrender, trust, devotion, and willingness to learn the pathways of our life together accepting me as your own to control, dominate, and discipline. Your life with me will be ALL about me. I know you will literally worship the ground I walk upon doing whatever it takes to make me happy. As part teacher, part taskmaster, part deity, I will be fully your owner and goddess.
I can only place trust in the gods that I can be your forever Domme, a safe harbor where you belong because you are wanted, needed, and accepted,not a throw away goods.
.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
I seek the one who can and will and WANTS me to impose upon her 24/7 ownership and sensual, domestic servitude/subjugation. Then she is mine.
Does she exist ?
Am I likely to find her if she does ?
Hope springs eternal I guess. Keep reading.
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About Me
Who am I ?
Maybe better to start with what I am not. Not a findomme, humiliatrix, not an extreme sadist, let alone a sadist in the 'usual' definition of one. I remember reading a term somewhere that struck me as a good deion of a character type. I am not a 'bitchy ice queen'. I am not a Lesbian, am bi.
Actually some would not consider me a mistress, a dominate for I believe that one can get more with honey than vinegar. I am not into hard punishment, and I do prefer that my servant, my sub, knows what I expect of him. I will remake and remold you to my personal tastes, not yours. I am a loving person and to some degree, the kindness and care I receive will be returned to you. I am somewhat strict when appropriate with you, my sub, at the end of a chain.
That being said, I'm not a pushover, because people know it when I mean business or am unhappy about something. Neither am I a drama queen, though I am a very good, award winning actress. When I am happy and content, so are you. I realize that a sub can only be happy when I am happy and content.
Neither am I a drama queen, though I am a very good, award winning actress. When I am happy and content, so are you.
First.My style - a sensual Dominant, not extreme sadist. I wish I knew where I saw this deion : a Sapiosexual. A person that finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature.The mind is the most powerful sexual organ. I want to get to know you .Stimulate my mind and I will engage in conversation. If you try to stimulate what is in between my legs when we first meet, I will look right past you and not acknowledge you at all.
I prefer sensual control and the use of words to help guide and train my sub over harsh sadistic use.
Second. I am a Yankee transplant that moved to the mid-south mainly for the weather (a gentler winter) and am living in a small-to me-town east of Memphis in northern MS.
Third. I am disabled due to a car trauma about 15 years ago. That left me with some nerve damage to left leg where I have trouble walking without support such as a rolling walker, especially on uneven ground like grass, and climbing up/down stairs with no handrails and walking distances. Wheelchair at times, yes in 'long' walk situations Yes, actually awheelchair usage when done is the perfect protocol place for sub, behind me or to the side when with walker. I do walk with one or cane. In big box stores - yeah I use their scooters. Otherwise, I'm usually good to go. A few years ago suffered a brain aneurysm, a stroke, which left me with a 'mushy' left hand making it difficult to type, without typos, two-handed. and horrors, the inability to mentally make my hands tie knots, fold clothes. Nothing else went wrong. If that doesn't scare you off, continue reading.
Yes, I have pictures and they will be made available to those with a pertinent need for them. I am not here to win any beauty contests, and have found that looks often muddy the waters, making people focus on their ideal of Me, rather than the Me that I am. A few have said they use the picture as a focal point when they masturbate, And who gave them that right? Oh yes, must have been me tacitly when I had actual facial picture. Yes, I have a picture of me and it (they) will be made available to those with a need as determined by me. There is also a need for privacy due to the nature of this site. Likewise, would not insist on pics or webcam from you.
Pictures
I believe that matches between a dominate and a submissive should be based on common interests, for looks fade and perceptions of beauty change as time marches on. And realize that I or another person might have need of privacy from plastering their face on the internet so I do not demand to see photos before we meet in real time. Alttraction to another is not based solely on looks. There is the aspect of intelligent conversation, the finding out of likes and dislikes. I don't really care what you look like , even if you think you look like Sasquatch, that's ok for no one is ugly. The rest you'll find out later if we connect.
Many ask me what I look like, so will keyboard this: I know many are tired of meeting Dommes that lie about themselves, thus the disclosure that follows. Looks: I am a plus size woman- size 18-20, 5'6", formerly dark blond hair short-cut now salt-pepperish, green eyed, nice smile. The rest you'll find out later if we connect.
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Household
Be aware that if you are expecting to be the only adult living with me 24/7, read no further. I live with my Significant Other, a former male sub of mine, now a vanilla type of relationship with me as room mates.
You would be my live-in service orientated ,personal service chaste slave.Thus it would be a 3 person, female led household.There are also two fur family members, a rescued small Toy Fox Terrier who now thinks she's a Rottweiler in a little body, and her new puppy companion, a German Spitz.
You're welcome to stop reading if you wouldn't care to be part of my household as it is now.... go separately on your own journey.
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that I know. If that doesn't scare you off, continue reading.
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You're welcome to stop reading if you wouldn't care to be part of my household as it is now.... go separately on your own journey.
Protocols and Contracts
Protocols help in the growth of a relationship, giving a clear outline of what is expected and even when something will occur. Protocol is a way of doing things and I do have some. They simplify life for all parties. The rules and expectations and understanding of them makes life easier, makes it less gray. Protocols are in place to make things run smoothly. They make it easier for the sub because sometimes the subs expectations of himself are higher than my expectations of him in his search to be appreciated for the gift of servitude he gives me, happy, and comfortable in his submission. Note: if you are female sub, insert appropriate address, like she/her.
It is almost a certainty that's not to say that one "Master or Mistress" won't do something one way and another quite differently. from me. One may line up "slave protocols" ad nauseam and Another may quite firmly demand that everything be loose and laid back. That's more like I am more a like a 'young' Guard.
To me the lifestyle is not about Old Guard, Victorian, or Gorean or someone elses protocols. It's about honesty, respect, trust, honor, respect, and integrity. That's all you have to remember with me.
I am not into hard, harsh punishment, and I do prefer that my servant knows what I expect of him. I am a loving person and to some degree, the kindness and care I receive will be returned to you.
Protocol
I do have some. They simplify life for all parties. The rules and expectations and understanding of them makes life easier, makes it less gray. Protocol makes things run smoothly. Protocol makes it easier for you, the submissive, to please me without always asking me if you can do something you know you have my permission to do.
I am listing some of mine.
I dislike being called or referred to as "Mistress". To me it smacks of the "other" woman. So, address me as Ma'am unless in a vanilla situation where my legal name would be more appropriate.
It's not a requirement that a sub always refer to him or (herself) in the third person, thus never using the word "I"
It would not be a requirement that the sub sit or kneel ,sleep for long periods of time on the floor or be locked in a cage. When receiving orders, the sub will be near me.
In a vanilla setting, my sub still does some subtle protocol things that others don't even notice or pay attention to. Things like opening the car door or bringing me something to eat or drink, carry shopping bags after I hand them over at a store counter, push me in a wheelchair if needed.
Also if we were not at home, I require that subs asked their hosts if smoking was permitted. To me, it is part of my duties to ensure your physical, psychological, and emotional health and stability. If needed by you safe words will be used. Hard and soft limits will be honored, part of a safe environment.
I dislike eating alone when there are others around. In my home, meals such as early dinner/late supper are eaten together, unless circumstances like work outside of home or breakfast not eaten though I consider that the most important meal of day. You will not eat after me, but sit at table together with me if we're at a table or the like and when there are any others around that want to eat. Snacks as needed or available for health reasons. I will try to ensure healthy food choices for you.
I demand the sub be alert to surroundings, and problems that may need to be addressed.
To me it's vital that there are NO speech restrictions, unless ordered. For the gods sake, Tell ME and others immediately if you see danger coming or that something is wrong.
Feel free to ask questions, because if you don't, how will you learn? If you can't talk to me how can we know what the other wants to so we can continue towards mutual fulfillment of goals? Also, when I talk to someone and we're face-to-face I look them in the eye and expect it back. So someone expecting eye restrictions will not get that from me.
It would not be a requirement that you sit or sleep on the floor unless ordered or in High protocol situation where the sub will use no furniture unless it would help me.
You accept me the superior, with the understanding that you are now my property. You will remember your role in regard to me at all times in and out of my presence.
Also if we are not at home, it is required that you ask our hosts if smoking was permitted. If something bad occurs, you will at least apologize and try to rectify if possible, something more serious, we'll work it out.
You will keep your body maintained to assure good health as much as possible,
keeping the body clean, hair and nails trimmed, and pubic area shaved.
I insist that you tell Me immediately that if you are experiencing a medical issue, you take care of small cuts and the like ASAP.
A list of your hard and soft limits will be strictly adhered to with Safewords used and adhered to.
You will take your daily prescribed meds, go to doctors visits, medical tests.
Also, if we are not at home I would require that you their/our hosts if smoking was permitted. Also if you are a tobacco smoker you will maintain the smoke-free home environment by going outside to smoke. You will be appropriately collared after a time period, full ownership at least after a year and then be considered by me as if a commitment ceremony, like a marriage .
Also, there would be no to me silly and stupid orders about asking for permission to self-toilet . If you need to then go, with a slight indication that there is a need. At home I know where the toilet is located and why someone is going there. In public, don't just walk away without letting me know where you're going.
When clothes outside our home are worn they are occasion appropriate. Clothing will be clean, not torn, wrinkle free, matched.
I do expect that you will adhere to High Protocol when needed. It would be my pleasure that you maintain a relationship, albeit a 'distant' one with immediate family members, very occasional phone calls made and received, attendance at very important occasions like funerals, weddings, etc. allowed. If needed I can be your friend that came with you.
Discipline will be applied at any time, to ensure that you fully appreciates your role of subservience, and to discourage
unacceptable conduct.
I will have the right to use your body at any time, in any matter I see fit, sexually or otherwise. I will tell you right now i do not loan out slaves to others to used snd abused.
You will write a legible journal every day, detailing your feelings on what happened during the day. The journal will end with a list of three things you wants to work on regarding your sub duties that might include vanilla type activities that might enhance our relationship. You will also list at least three things you are thankful for, no matter how small they may seem.
Contracts
There will be no signed 'slave contract' that has no legal validity anyway. A contract is only good if both parties will adhere to it. So a negotiated verbal agreement will be in place at the start of our R/T relationship as agreed to by both, with a written list of rules handy in the future. The agreement will not be in constant flux and will be applied without question. The only possible renegotiation might be release of ownership term that was negotiated, this done with valid reason and at my discretion. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
General Thoughts on D/S lifestyle
I am aware that what many submissive men especially the young bloods say and think they may want or need. They say: 'do whatever you want with me and I will be your slave forever, beautiful goddess.' Yes I am a goddess for we are all temples of Deity. Nothing is forever except the soul and pain inflicted to it. And how do you know this goddess is beautiful, never having laid eyes on me looking into the mirrors of my soul?
The list, much the one given for profile purposes on sites like this might read like a list of fantasies that many submissive men say they want, without meaning it, without having considered the actuality, the reality of it, the consequences, their future from the moment of possession. There are needlessly cruel, brutal things that you can read in femdom fiction and domes demands on-line and off that might be desired. So submissive, as the old saying goes, it’s not what you don’t know that will get you but what you THINK you know. Learn as much as you possibly can BEFORE you commit yourself to any relationship.
I won't make an entire list and won't say that all those things are or are not true wants and needs. After years of consideration of consequences, I can know and appreciate that fantasy and reality can be, and usually are very different indeed.
I no longer feel the need to often analyze the lifestyle style I live or myself, and have acknowledged and accepted that I live the life I want and need to live, that of a non-sadistic sensual Domina.
Looking for a sub who can and and wants me to rebuild him to my very exact liking. The one who isn't a pretender, who doesn't need a sadist, but needs the very essence of a true Mistress to live in a three person household.
The above is not everyone's opinion I know, but it is mine.
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Sometimes the subs expectations of herself are higher than my expectations of her.
"One of the few things I have left to me - my word is my bond. If I say I will do something - I do it. And I believe - no one can take this from me." ~~A quote from an old movie - "Rob Roy".
As Dave Ramsey says better than I ever could, that my guideline in for life has become: " The path to success starts with you. If you can manage the person you see in the mirror you can win at anything". So look into the mirror and tell yourself, you are a winner, a sub that is wanted and accepted for his desire to serve a dominant with the best she can give."If it is a true Mistress you seek, sit firmly in your own submission. Submit to yourself and to the idea of submission. Give in. Give it up. She will see it. She will be drawn to it. She will know. She will hear your cry and see your hunger and it will cause Her own to rise. Express it without hesitation and without vulgarity. And most importantly, express it with dignity and in a language of whispers only She will hear. Live it from your center, from your soul". (unknown author)
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To save my time, and yes, yours in your search for your Domina, read my journal. It will answer many questions you have and encourage thought. Get yourself a cup of coffee,soft drink or glass of milk and cookies and be comfortable as you read my thoughts. I warn you, the journal is long. The journey begins.....
I am not a sadist. Not a pretender or player. But a TRUE mistress as I define being one. I believe in honesty, integrity, patience, and respect for others as major virtues to try to live by and expect them of others, practicing SSC (Safe Sane Consensual). To me the lifestyle is not about Old Guard, Victorian, or Gorean protocols. It's about the aforementioned virtues. That's all you have to remember. The lifestyle to me is a loving, caring relationship. It is not a girl coming in, being abused, people not caring if she lives or dies and then being thrown away when she is no longer interesting or amusing to the dome she has pledged herself.
I am not a pretender or player. But a TRUE dominate as I define being one.
I believe in honesty, integrity, patience, and respect for others as major virtues to try to live by and expect them of others, practicing SSC (Safe Sane Consensual). To me the lifestyle is about the aforementioned virtues. That's all you have to remember. The lifestyle to me is a loving, caring relationship. It is not a boy coming in, being abused, people not caring if he lives or dies and then being thrown away when he is no longer interesting or amusing to the domme he has pledged.
This is a symbiotic lifestyle for both.
Hopefully, I can become The One Lady that will control and lead our mutual relationship, placing value on your surrender, trust, devotion, and willingness to learn the pathways of our life together accepting me as your own to control, dominate, and discipline. Your life with me will be ALL about me. I know you will literally worship the ground I walk upon doing whatever it takes to make me happy. As part teacher, part taskmaster, part deity, I will be fully your owner and goddess.
I can only place trust in the gods that I can be your forever Domme, a safe harbor where you belong because you are wanted, needed, and accepted,not a throw away goods.
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Pictures
Yes, I have pictures and they will be made available to those with a pertinent need for them. I am not here to win any beauty contests, and have found that looks often muddy the waters, making people focus on their ideal of Me, rather than the Me that I am.Yes, I have a picture of me and it (they) will be made available to those with a need as determined by me.
I believe that matches between a dominate and a submissive should be based on common interests, for looks fade and perceptions of beauty change as time marches on.
More later........
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