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About Maxmillian
First off-- no, the facial pic isn't actually me- for professional reasons I will not put my actual pic up- but I'm told I look a lot like that guy... while I am surely no male model sort, I'm not a bad looking guy- you'll have to make the final judgement yourself ;) The phrase "fireplug" has been used on more than one occasion to describe me. I am short and stocky- a bit overweight to be honest- this is something I'm working on- I bring this up for honesty's sake- I am not perfect, nor do I expect others to be.
At a glance: kinkster all my adult listyle" aspect of BDSM. You'll note that I'm a switch. In my experience it's common to think of switches as confused in their desires and needs, to automatically assume them to be bisexual/promiscuous/and quick to scene with or bed anyone. I'm sure someone somewhere fits that to a "T", however, it's not me:
-I'm very selective who I play with- there has to be a mental connection there- chemistry- before I'll scene or have sex with someone. In truth I am closer to celibate than promiscuous.
-I know what I am, what I am not: I know my strengths and weaknesses, and am ok with them.
I was looking for a Domina in the area to scene with- She would have to be understanding of my mundane life, a loving, sensualist Domina, and share my understanding of this lifestyle. Given the above, that relationship would obviously have to be one of playmates instead of Mistress/slave. I have found someone that seems to fit the bill, but owing to mundane concerns haven't had much time to talk with her of late.
Additionally, though She's not active in some aspects of the lifestyle, I am owned, by a very lovely woman who I love dearly. "Owned" may be the wrong word- people assume it means I am a sniveling slave that has no say in anything. In actual fact, I own her as much as she owns me, and not just in the way that refers to the leash going two ways when one collars a submissive. Our relationship is complex, deep, and intensely loving. In fact, I have never felt a more intense and yet deeply fulfilling love in my life. It's like the best of both worlds: the fiery-hot "flash in the pan" love of infatuation, with the history of shared experience and deep friendship of true, deep, emotional, romantic love. We started as Trainer/trainee, quickly grew into friends, and then out of the blue, this beautiful love popped into our lives without warning, after we'd been looking everywhere else for it. I don't regret any of the relationships I had in the interim- not even the worst example of a Domme I have yet found, who ended up being psychotic and a pathological liar to boot- because every step along life's journey teaches us something, and I have learnd much in that time. Apparently some people think I have now gone fully submissive- I have one person in mind, here, but will not identify them- but that couldn't be more false. I am still the Dominant male I always was- perhaps even moreso, as I now have my wife admitting to her submissive needs and am working with her to train her in that regard. My Mistress and Owner is the one woman and the ONLY woman to whom I've ever been able to fully submit to. Just because I am *Her* slave, does not make me *A* slave. I realize some folks have trouble grasping this concept- it is truly one of those things you either understand on some level, or you don't. I can't explain it. To try to, would be as trying to explain the sound of a child's laughter to a deaf man.
My limits:
-If you have a substance abuse problem, I will not be your crutch. Move along. Legal or illegal- if you need mind-altering substances to deal with daily life, I have nothing for you. No time, no attention, no inclination to help.
-If you're under 30, the chance of my being interested in you is rather remote. I wasn't interested in young women when I was young, why would I be now? Women really start coming into their own after 30.
-If you're looking for a sugardaddy to pay your way, or looking for a husband- keep on looking, somewhere else. I am married to a wonderful woman that understands my ways, and am not looking to replace her. What are "my ways"? I suggest reading "The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual possibilities"- it's rather complicated, like so much else in life. Suffice to say- I am VERY much an "ethical slut". Want to know what that means? Read, or message me. :winks:
-Most definitely, if you're a 20-something still living in Mommy's house and calling yourself a femdom/findom/Mommydom/string-of-15-other-things-you-found-on--and-thought-were-cool-dom, or a sub of similiar vein.. well I really can't be more clear than this: you need to look elsewhere, seriously. There's nothing for you, here. I am not here to play your game, nor do I suffer the idiots that play such games, well. I do wish you the best of luck finding what it is you seek, though.
-In a similar vein, if you claim to have been "involved in the lifestyle" since the age of 13- no way in hell I am going to be interested. That's not lifestyle, that's abuse, and I just don't have the time or inclination to address these kinds of issues.
-while I do respect the choices made by, and feel sorry for the travails experienced by, our transgender/transsexual brothers and sisters in the lifestyle, my personal choice is to only play with those that are as (god-of-choice) made them. I'll respect your choices, and if you respect mine we will get along GREAT. If not, well, not so great!
-this list is by no means definitive. I don't know everything, so reserve the right to add distasteful things to this list at any time... such as toilet play and pretty much anything that stinks.
If you've read this far and are still awake, please feel free to message me with any questions, comments, and the like. I only bite on full moons. ;)
In case it's not abundantly clear in the above- stereotypes do not fit me. Words and phrases that do fit me to varying degrees would be: pagan, Libertarian, Independent Conservative, masochist, ethical slut, sensual sadist, quiet Dominance, and there's certainly others- but I have to leave something out there to discuss, don't I?
One might wrap all that up by saying: I have loose morals, but strong ethics.
Not meant to be at all ominous, yet something some friends have recently put in my mind... things that require some thought to grasp:
**-Never say never- life has a funny way of taking up the challenge**
**-Take care what you ask for- you may receive it**
**-Ask for what you need. Accept what you are given** |
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