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Hetero Male Master, 50,  North Carolina
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In a few months making the move back to northern Ohio . Looking forward to reaquinting with old friends and making new.

On again and off again on CM. I find what I think is going to work, so I get rid of my account, only to find that what I have found does not work out. Not to say all of the issues were the submissives fault, I have to assume some of the blame. For it is a two way street, and sometimes we all go in different directions. Mostly I am a simple guy that enjoys the mellow side of life. I am content sitting on the porch with my dogs, and watching the sunset over the water. In public I am very conservative, but like the spicier side of things once behind closed doors. If you want to know more ask, and I will probably tell you. If I sound interesting to you, then drop me a line. If not then good luck in your adventures, and may you find what you are looking for.

I figured I should add a little bit more to this. I am what some would consider a peculiar type of Dom. For me it is not all about kinky sex. It is about knowing ones partner and earning trust. With out trust one can not fully give of themselves. I do not live to be called Master, or Sir, or any other moniker people think gives them an air of dominance, as soon as we meet. If it is right between two people, then the titles will happen. I am not looking for a sub to be a weepy-eyed blithering mass that she thinks I want to mold. I am also not looking for the I can be the slave of your dreams type either. You do not know my dreams, how could you possibly be that. I am seeking a sub that is into the mental side of things, the kind that if we are out in public, can tell I am not happy, just by the look on my face.

What I am looking for is an independent strong-willed sub that knows when it is appropriate to challenge me, and enjoys the challenge of me being me.

If you have made it this far through this diatribe, I feel that it is imperative that I in you that I have discovered that I am attracted more to the full figured woman, not necessarily a BBW, though I am interested, but more what I consider Chunkalicious. One with some meat on her bones that can take what I have to offer.











 Dominant Male

 North Carolina

 5' 11"

 189 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

 Lives For:

 Mental Bondage


 Anal Play



 Breast Play

 Canes and Crops



 Masks (On Partner)

 Massage (Getting)

 Orgasm Denial

 Pantyhose Fetish










 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Hair Pulling


 Housework Service



 Massage (Giving)

 Obedience Training




 Vacuum Stimulation

 Wax play



 Body Worship




 Curious About:

 Electrical Play

 Fire Play

 Medical Play

 Needle Play

 Outdoor Bondage

 Plastic Wrap

 Public Play


 Genital Punishment

 Knife Play

 Masks (Wearing)

 Hard Limits:



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Journal Entries:
10/5/2016 11:40:36 AM
I just received a phone call from my father. My mother us in dire straights health wise and I am leaving for back home. My focus needs to be on my family not on my relationship status. I am not sure how long I will gone.

11/20/2015 12:06:05 PM
I have been conversing with a lovely woman who has my interest. She is miles away from me and I have shied away from long distance relationships. But she has me and my goal is to make her into my toy that I desire to come home to and play with daily.

4/16/2015 1:03:52 PM
Sorry to all I have been conversing with.  I haf a death in the family.  And will be gone for a bit.

3/2/2014 3:12:15 AM

With the recent passing of my grandfather, that lived with me, and I took care of, I have decided to reassess things in my life, and my standing in it. So with that being said I have decided to take some time away from my pursuit of a match for myself, and concentrate on re-establishing ties with my family. To all of my friends, I will be back once I have my own life straightened out.

10/23/2013 12:57:34 PM

Read in an others journal and found it to be so very true.

BEING A DOMINANT Being a Dominant is about being in control and making the decisions for your submissive, but its also about making her better. A better submissive, a better person, helping her become more than what she is. It's about encouraging her, teaching her, not tearing her down or belittling her. You are her Dominant because she chose to give up control to you, she deemed you worthy of her submission. Don't take advantage of that and abuse the power that she has given you. After being with you she should be a stronger woman not one that has been beat down and afraid. Dominants should take this as a challenge, how can I make my submissive better, how can I make her stronger, how can I make her life better? She gives us this power over her because serving is what she needs and desires, it's what makes her happy and fulfills her life. But we as Dominants should know that since she gave us this power over her, if it is misused or abused it can be taken back. Yes she is there to serve you at your will but not only because it's what you want its also what she wants. If it gets to a point where her serving you isn't making her happy and fulfilling her life then she isn't happy and why should she continue to serve you if she isn't growing and getting anything out of it? The answer is she shouldn't. To the outside world when they look at our relationship they see an all and nothing relationship. They assume because we the Dominant is in charge then we do 100% of the taking and our submissive are doing 100% of the giving. Well we know that isn't true, it's really 50/50 We as Dominants need to dominate and she as the submissive needs to submit. So as I said it's 50/50. Without both the Dominant and the submissive then there is nothing to be had. Just remember Dominants that we are to build our submissive up and make her better because without her we are just one half of an empty relationship. It takes both for it to work.

SUBMISSION Submission is not about sex. Submission is not something one can learn. It is not dirty, Submission is beauty. It is a beauty that comes from the very soul of a submissive woman. It is a breaking down of the walls built up in her lifetime, allowing the beautiful, sensual woman to come through. Submission is about sensuality, it is about trust, communication, vulnerability, caring, and honesty. It is about being the graceful,sensual, beautiful woman that resides within Submission is about knowing who you are, and what you want. A submissive is NOT a weak person, but just the opposite. She is strong in herself, and in the knowledge of who she is. She NEVER submits out of weakness or desperation. She submits out of strength, love, and trust.Submission is freedom. It is a letting go of one's self, knowing that the dominant is there to catch you if you falter. It is about pushing to be the very best one can be,

3/1/2013 2:05:59 PM

To all my friends, Sorry I have not been on in a while, I have been feeling under the weather, and with my job, there is not ample time to get better, so I drag myself through the day, come home, eat dinner and go to bed, Just to do it all over again. Hopefully I will fill better soon and be back to my old self.

8/11/2012 5:44:01 PM


Doing the right thing, even when no one is watching!

3/27/2012 5:25:43 PM

Drawing Flies from Soundgarden:


Sitting here like uninvited company

Wallowing in my own obscenities

I share a cigarette with negativity

Sitting here like wet ashes

With X’s in my eyes and drawing flies

Bathed in perspiration drowned my enemies

Used my inspiration for a guillotine

I fire a loaded mental cannon to the page
Leaning on the pedestal that holds my self denial

Firing the pistol that shoots my holy pride

Sitting here like wet ashes

With X’s in my eyes and drawing flies

I said, "Hey, what you yellin'?

About conditions, permission, mirrored self affliction

Hey, what you yellin’? About sadist’s co-addiction, perfect analogies

Hey, what you yellin’? About conditions, permission, mirrored self affliction"
Leaning on the pedestal that holds my self denial

Firing the pistol that shoots my holy pride

Sitting here like wet ashes

With X’s in my eyes and drawing flies
Sitting here like uninvited company

Wallowing in my own obscenities

I share a cigarette with negativity
Leaning on the pedestal that holds my self denial

Firing the pistol that shoots my holy pride

Sitting here like wet ashes

With X’s in my eyes and drawing flies

1/20/2012 4:59:52 AM

Have noticed something lately while browsing profiles. It seems to me that a good number of submissive/slaves put pictures of their feet, either bare, in stockings or in heels on their profile. I do not have a problem with this as I love the female body from top to bottom. And have been known to enjoy a good footjob. Was just wondering why they are posting pictures of their feet.

12/28/2011 4:07:18 AM

Was doing my usual this am browsing profiles and yet again it got me to wondering. I come across a lot of profiles from submissive women(the only ones I browse). I see a lot of them that state very big at the beginning Collared by (whoever). So what got me wondering about this is then why do most of them go on to state what they are looking for in a Dom? Is it because they were too lazy to change the rest of their profile, are they just doing it to rid themselves of the leeches that seem to send a blanket style message to every profile that pops up on the magical little screen in front of them, or are they not happy and are still seeking? I am not knocking those that do this, as I live by a do as you see fit to please yourself. I was just wondering.

12/17/2011 5:08:08 PM

Have not been around much the last few weeks. Putting in a lot of overtime at work, and trying to get all of my paperwork in order to switch careers. I am a retired sailor, that misses being on the ocean. So I decided that I am getting no younger, and the time is right(I am tired of being on land), so I soon will be back where I am the happiest, and that is on the ocean. I will miss conversing with the friends I have met on this site. I will still be around, just not as often as I once was.

11/22/2011 10:56:29 AM

When punishment is due to a sub, is it always the subs fault? Do we as Doms sometimes set up our subs for failure? I was thinking about this, this morning, and remembering back to different times that punishment was due. I came to the conclusion that not all failures of the sub I was with was entirely their fault. I had not given the proper and through instruction on the task at hand. Therefore I had failed my sub. Sometimes it is hard for a person with a Dominant personality to admit that they had failed. But the inner humility of admitting that perfection is never achievable, and to learn from the failures that we endure, will make us better in the end.


The thoughts about a subs failures, got me to thinking about the punishment that was given for the failures, that were partly my fault. Were they always a punishment to fit the misdeed? No they were not, so I have come to believe that I was administering the punishment for my own self gratification, not to remedy a short coming. As I look back at these episodes, I think I could have prevented future short comings with a sub, if the punishment fit the short coming, instead of for self gratification. I am not saying that all punishment needs to be in the form of a corrective action. But punishment for punishments sake is not going to go far in fixing a short coming.

11/18/2011 5:15:02 PM

Should someone have to put "Please read my entire profile, before contacting me"? I know why they do it, and it makes good sense. But my question was should they have to. I don't think they should, but unfortunately because of people who copy and paste the same message to every sub that pops up on the screen when they hit the little button that says home. They have to. It would seem to me that if you are going to contact someone on any site of this nature, then you would want to know as much as you could before you send the 1st message. If you are not compatible with that person, then why send the message. You will not know if you are compatible without reading their profile. But I digress and think about those that send the same message to all in the hopes of finding one that responds back so they can start a conversation, only in the hope that it will lead to them being able to whack off in mommy and daddy's basement.

11/17/2011 3:03:42 PM

As I look at profiles and read journals of submissives, I am astounded that repeatedly I see see the comment made "when contacting me be respectful". In my honest opinion this phrase should not be needed. But seeing the type of so called doms(not capitalized on purpose) that troll this site and other sites like it, I can understand why one sees the need to state this up front. If one has to start an initial conversation with a sub, by trying to exert their dominance, than I do not feel that they have any natural Dominant tendencies in them to begin with. A sub will submit to ones natural dominance, because it is their nature, and they have no choice when they find their Dominant. Not because one proclaims to be dominant, and tells a sub to kneel and obey.

11/13/2011 3:13:01 PM

Reading profiles and journals lately and have come across a good many submissives profiles and journals that state they will not send a first message. Why is this? Too me all of us our on this site to find that one particular connection that will fulfill us. Do not be afraid to reach out to the one that you find interesting. If you wait for someone to contact you, then you may not be getting the connections that will connect you with the one that can reach the deepest inside of you you, and pull out the true beauty that is in there.

11/6/2011 5:08:59 PM

Have been talking long distance to a very sweet sub from the other side of the world. The topic of limits was brought up, so I figured this would be a good time to express my views on limits. Too me there are two kinds of limits, hard and soft. Soft limits are usually limits that are there because of mental blocks. These blocks are usually caused by things from ones upbringing. Soft limits are approachable. One should not set out to approach these, but the are approachable. Most new subs will verbally say that they are enjoying an action that the Dom is doing, because they want to please. But their body is saying something completely different. The same concept can work in reverse. The sub is saying that I am not enjoying this, but the involuntary reaction of there body is telling a different story.


Hard limits are something that should never be approached. It takes a lot of time and many actions to earn respect and trust, but only a moment to lose it.

11/3/2011 2:43:11 AM

I have spent the last few weeks battling some minor health issues, so I have had some time to think about a myriad of things. One is where I as an individual fit into the grand scheme of things. I have been told that I am not your typical Dom(as if there is a master mold of what a Dom is). I take pride in being told that. If I fit into a mold, then there would be no quirks that I have, without quirks there would be no individual joys, just the joys of all, what fun would that be. Lets face it without joy why would we be here, we are all in search of the one or ones that make us happy.


I have found many on this site that can not see the joy for all of the pain and darkness that they seek. I am not against it if that is what you seek. But understand that you are seeking joy through that pain and darkness. Not all of us desire the same things, I understand that.


I had a conversation yesterday with a sub that was into breast torture, and we were not in complete agreement with the extent of visible damage(bruises and what not) that is agreeable among partners. Again one of my quirks, I do not mind leaving a light bruising on a sub, but do not enjoy seeing the deep purples and yellows of a deep bruising on a sub. I like to be able to go out in public with my sub wearing a low cut top(showing off cleavage), and not be thought of as an abuser. This is just one of my quirks, that I like the one I am with to be able to show off their body, with out people thinking they are be abused.

10/24/2011 1:40:51 PM

I have been asked recently what draws me to be a Dom. The response is varied but I think can be summed up by saying that it is the control. Not the physical but the mental. For example being out in a social setting, and changing my partners behavior with just a look. Her knowing I am pleased or displeased just by the look on my face.

10/11/2011 1:27:02 PM

Saw this on a submissives journal, and I could not have said it better myself.


It's very important to be a Responsible Submissive...   Choose your Dom wisely...   Trust your Dom, but know that 'trust' must be earned and NEVER given...   When in DOUBT, the answer is NO....   ANY QUESTIONS....See rule 1 again

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