MasterValdis

I am often asked about the various "types" of slave roles, so for my latest journal entry, I will outline what I consider the primary types.

In the world of BDSM, slave roles are diverse and cater to a wide range of preferences and dynamics. Each role comes with its own set of expectations, responsibilities, and power exchange structures. In many, if not most, cases, any given slave role will be a combination of some or all of the types I outline below:

1. 24/7 Slave:
• Description: A total power exchange where the slave is always in a submissive state, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
• Expectations: Constant availability and submission. The slave's life is completely controlled by the Master.
• Benefits: Provides an unbreakable bond and a deep sense of purpose. Allows for complete immersion in the dynamic.
2. Service Slave:
• Description: A service slave is dedicated to fulfilling the Master's every need, often focusing on domestic or personal services. This can include tasks like cooking, cleaning, personal grooming, and errand-running.
• Expectations: High level of availability and responsiveness. The slave must anticipate and meet the Master's needs proactively.
• Benefits: Provides a sense of purpose and usefulness. Can deepen the emotional bond between Master and slave.
3. Sex Slave:
• Description: Primarily focused on sexual service, a sex slave's role is to satisfy the Master's sexual desires and fantasies.
• Expectations: High sexual availability and willingness to engage in a variety of sexual activities as directed by the Master.
• Benefits: Can lead to intense physical and emotional intimacy. Allows for exploration of deep sexual desires and fantasies.
4. Discipline Slave:
• Description: This role emphasizes obedience and discipline. The slave is trained to follow strict rules and routines, often with a focus on punishment and correction.
• Expectations: Strict adherence to rules and protocols. Willingness to accept and learn from punishment.
• Benefits: Provides a structured environment that can be comforting and rewarding. Helps in developing self-control and discipline.
5. Impact Slave:
• Description: Specializes in receiving impact play, such as spanking, flogging, or caning. The slave derives pleasure or fulfillment from the pain and sensation.
• Expectations: High pain tolerance and willingness to endure intense impact play.
• Benefits: Can lead to a unique form of emotional and physical release. Builds trust and communication between Master and slave.
6. Sensory Slave:
• Description: Focuses on sensory deprivation and stimulation. The slave is trained to heighten their sensory awareness and respond to various stimuli.
• Expectations: Willingness to engage in sensory play, such as blindfolds, bondage, and temperature play.
• Benefits: Enhances sensory experiences and can lead to profound emotional and physical connections.
7. Pet Slave:
• Description: Often referred to as "puppy play" or "kitten play," the pet slave takes on the role of an animal, usually a dog or cat, and is treated as such by the Master.
• Expectations: Adherence to pet-like behaviors and commands. May involve wearing pet accessories or engaging in pet-like activities.
• Benefits: Provides a playful and often cathartic release. Can be emotionally fulfilling and fun.
8. Property Slave:
• Description: Considered the property of the Master, this slave is often collared or branded and treated as an object to be used and displayed.
• Expectations: Complete submission and availability. Willingness to be used for the Master's pleasure and display.
• Benefits: Can provide a deep sense of belonging and security. Reinforces the power dynamic and the slave's dedication.
9. Torture Slave:
• Description: Specializes in enduring more extreme forms of torture, such as waterboarding, electrical play, or intense bondage.
• Expectations: High pain and discomfort tolerance. Willingness to push physical and mental limits.
• Benefits: Can lead to a unique form of emotional and physical release. Builds extreme trust and communication.
10. Cuckold Slave:
• Description: In a cuckold dynamic, the slave is often humiliated and used for the Master's sexual pleasure, sometimes in the presence of or knowledge of a third party.
• Expectations: Willingness to endure humiliation and sexual denial. May involve watching the Master with others.
• Benefits: Can provide a deep sense of submission and humiliation, which some slaves find highly arousing.
11. Financial Slave (WARNING!!!):
• If you are ever asked to enter this kind of role, I recommend that you DO NOT AGREE. Or, if you are determined, then speak to a properly qualified lawyer first!
• Description: In a financial slave dynamic, all (or some) assets of the slave are legally transferred to the Master's ownership and control.
• Expectations: Financial destitution. The slave is left penniless and utterly dependent upon their Master for financial support. If slavery ends, assets are not returned.
• Benefits: I've never understood the benefit for a slave in this role, though some claim that "trust-fund babies" who feel guilty over their "unearned wealth" like this kind of arrangement.
• WARNING: This type of slavery role is often part of a larger fraud, such as cults or Russian frauds.

Each of these roles can be tailored to the specific desires and needs of the individuals involved. The key to a successful BDSM dynamic is open communication, mutual respect, and a clear understanding of boundaries and safe words.

In my experience, some slave trainees are scared of being "broken." This is especially true when the trainee is more of an experimenter than a true slve candidate.  Nevertheless, I spent some time putting together my thoughts on the "purpose" and "value" of breaking a slave trainee:

In BDSM, "breaking" a trainee, also known as "breaking in" or "training," is a process where the Master systematically dismantles the trainee's existing mental and emotional frameworks to replace them with new ones that align with the Master's desires and the dynamics of their power exchange relationship. The purpose of "breaking" a trainee is multifaceted and serves several key objectives:

1. Establishing Dominance and Control: The primary goal is to assert the Master's dominance and establish control over the trainee. This involves stripping away the trainee's autonomy and decision-making abilities, replacing them with the Master's authority. The trainee learns to rely solely on the Master for guidance, validation, and even basic needs, fostering a deep sense of dependence.
2. Creating a Blank Slate: By breaking down the trainee's pre-existing beliefs, behaviors, and responses, the Master creates a "blank slate" that can be molded into the desired submissive role. This allows the Master to shape the trainee's thoughts, emotions, and actions to fit their specific preferences and the dynamics of their relationship.
3. Building Trust and Intimacy: The intense and often vulnerable nature of the breaking process can foster a deep level of trust and intimacy between the Master and the trainee. As the trainee surrenders control and relies on the Master for everything, a strong emotional bond can form, enhancing the overall dynamic of their relationship.
4. Teaching Obedience and Discipline: Through various techniques, such as punishment, reward, and reinforcement, the Master teaches the trainee to be obedient and disciplined. This involves instilling a mindset where the trainee prioritizes pleasing the Master above all else, even at the cost of their own comfort or desires.
5. Exploring Limits and Boundaries: The breaking process often involves pushing the trainee's physical, emotional, and psychological limits. This helps the Master understand the trainee's boundaries and thresholds, allowing for a more tailored and effective training regimen. It also teaches the trainee to communicate their limits and to trust the Master to respect and work within them.
6. Fostering a Sense of Belonging: For some trainees, the breaking process can provide a sense of belonging and purpose. By fully submitting to the Master's will, the trainee becomes an integral part of the Master's world, finding identity and meaning in their new role as a submissive.
7. Enhancing Sensory Awareness: Through various sensory deprivation and stimulation techniques, the Master can heighten the trainee's sensory awareness, making them more attuned to their own body and the Master's touch. This can enhance the intensity of their experiences and deepen their connection.
8. Instilling a Sense of Pride and Accomplishment: As the trainee progresses through the breaking process, they may develop a sense of pride and accomplishment in their ability to endure and adapt. This can boost their self-esteem and reinforce their commitment to the Master and their submissive role.
9. Creating a Lasting Bond: The breaking process, when done correctly, can create a lasting and unbreakable bond between the Master and the trainee. This bond is built on trust, mutual understanding, and a deep emotional connection that transcends the physical aspaspects of their relationship.
10. Preparing for Advanced Play: By thoroughly breaking in a trainee, the Master ensures that the submissive is well-prepared for more advanced forms of BDSM play. This includes understanding and accepting more intense forms of impact play, restraint, and sensory deprivation, as well as being open to exploring their own fantasies and desires within the safe confines of the dynamic.

In essence, "breaking" a slave trainee in the context of BDSM is a profound and transformative process that redefines the trainee's identity and their place within the power exchange dynamic. It requires a high level of trust, communication, and mutual respect between the Master and the trainee, and when done with care and intention, it can lead to a deeply fulfilling and intimate relationship.

The 2-Week TPE Slave Experience for Beginners

Embarking on a 2-week Total Power Exchange (TPE) scene as a slave to a BDSM Master is an intense, transformative experience that pushes the boundaries of trust, submission, and personal exploration. This type of scene involves a complete surrender of control, where the slave's every action, decision, and even thought process is guided by their Master. Here's a glimpse into what it's like to be a full-TPE slave for a fortnight.

Preparation:

Before the scene begins, extensive communication and negotiation are essential. The slave and Master discuss boundaries, safe words, and expectations to ensure a safe and consensual experience. The slave prepares mentally and emotionally, understanding that they will be relinquishing control over their life for the duration of the scene. The Master, in turn, takes on the responsibility of guiding, protecting, and caring for their slave.

The First Days:

The scene starts with a formal ritual, symbolizing the slave's complete surrender. This might involve a collaring ceremony, where the Master places a collar on the slave, signifying their ownership and protection. The slave is then given a set of rules and protocols to follow, governing everything from their daily routine to their manner of speech.

The first few days are an adjustment period. The slave learns to relinquish control over even the smallest decisions, from what to wear to what to eat. The Master takes on the role of caretaker, ensuring the slave's physical and emotional well-being while guiding them through this new dynamic. The slave experiences a mix of excitement, anxiety, and relief, as they let go of the responsibilities and stresses of everyday life.

Daily Life:

In a full-TPE scene, the slave's daily life is structured around serving their Master. This can involve a wide range of tasks, from preparing meals and cleaning the house to more intimate acts of service. The slave's body and time are not their own; they exist to please and serve their Master.

Communication is key during this time. The slave is encouraged to express any discomfort or concerns, and the Master listens and adjusts the scene as needed. The slave learns to communicate in a new way, often using honorifics and a submissive tone. The Master, in turn, learns to read their slave's body language and non-verbal cues, responding with patience, understanding, and guidance.

Emotional Journey:

The emotional journey of a full-TPE slave is intense and complex. There are moments of deep connection and intimacy, as the slave and Master navigate this extreme power exchange. There are also challenges, as the slave grapples with feelings of vulnerability, insecurity, and self-doubt.

The slave may experience a range of emotions, from joy and contentment to frustration and anger. The Master is there to guide them through these emotions, providing support, reassurance, and discipline as needed. The slave learns to accept and embrace their emotions, understanding that they are a natural part of the TPE experience.

Personal Growth:

A 2-week TPE scene offers ample opportunity for personal growth. The slave learns to let go of control, trust their Master, and find peace in submission. They discover new strengths and vulnerabilities, gaining a deeper understanding of themselves and their desires.

The Master, too, experiences growth, as they learn to lead, protect, and care for their slave. They develop new skills and insights, strengthening their ability to navigate power dynamics and maintain a safe, consensual scene.

Aftercare:

As the 2-week scene comes to a close, aftercare becomes crucial. The slave and Master take time to debrief, discussing their experiences, emotions, and any concerns. The slave is gradually reintroduced to decision-making and independence, with the Master's support and guidance.

Aftercare can involve physical comfort, like massages or warm baths, as well as emotional support, like open conversations and reassurance. The goal is to help the slave transition back to their everyday life, integrating the lessons and experiences from the TPE scene.

Conclusion:

Being a full-TPE slave for a 2-week scene is a profound, challenging, and rewarding experience. It requires trust, communication, and a deep commitment to the power exchange dynamic. For those who choose to embark on this journey, it offers a unique opportunity for personal growth, emotional exploration, and intimate connection. However, it's not a path to be taken lightly. Extensive preparation, open communication, and a strong foundation of trust and respect are essential for a safe and fulfilling TPE experience.

Because I get a lot of questions on this topic, I'm going to post yet another description of the difference between a slave and a submissive, from the context of BDSM:

In the diverse and intricate world of BDSM, understanding the nuances between different roles is crucial for safe, consensual, and fulfilling experiences. The two commonly misunderstood roles are the "slave" and the "submissive." While these terms are often used interchangeably, they represent distinct dynamics and levels of commitment. Let's delve into the differences between a slave and a submissive in the BDSM world.

Submissive:

A submissive is an individual who derives pleasure from giving up control in a BDSM scenario. Submissives enjoy following the instructions and commands of their dominant partner, often referred to as a "Dom" or "Domme." The submissive role can be situational or part of a broader lifestyle, but it typically involves a consensual exchange of power within specific scenes or sessions.

Submissives come in various forms, from those who enjoy light bondage and sensory play to those who engage in more intense forms of impact play or role-playing. The key aspect of a submissive is their willingness to relinquish control and follow the lead of their dominant partner. However, this does not mean they are passive; submissives often have clear boundaries and safe words to ensure their comfort and safety.

Slave:

A slave, on the other hand, represents a more extreme and often total power exchange dynamic. Unlike a submissive, a slave typically offers complete and unconditional submission to their Master or Mistress. This can include 24/7 servitude, where the slave is constantly in a state of submission, even outside of specific BDSM scenes.

Slaves often take on a more objectified role, viewing themselves as property of their Master or Mistress. This dynamic can involve rituals, protocols, and a deep sense of devotion. The slave's primary goal is to serve and please their Master or Mistress in all aspaspects of life, from mundane tasks to intimate acts. The relationship between a Master and slave is usually built on a foundation of trust, love, and/or mutual respect, with clear boundaries and a fully mutually understood set of hard and soft limits.

Key Differences:

1. Level of Commitment: A submissive may engage in BDSM activities within specific scenes or sessions, while a slave often offers total and unconditional submission, sometimes on a 24/7 basis.
2. Power Exchange: Submissives give up control during specific scenes, whereas slaves typically offer complete control over their lives to their Master or Mistress.
3. Objectification: Slaves often view themselves as property, taking on a more objectified role. Submissives, while enjoying the loss of control, generally maintain a stronger sense of individuality.
4. Protocol and Rituals: Slave dynamics often involve specific protocols and rituals that govern the slave's behavior and interactions. Submissive dynamics may include protocols, but they are usually less rigid and more scene-specific.

Understanding these differences is essential for anyone exploring the BDSM world. Whether you identify as a submissive or a slave, it's crucial to communicate openly with your partner, establish clear boundaries, and respect each other's limits. BDSM is about consensual power exchange and mutual pleasure, and recognizing the distinctions between these roles can enhance the experience for everyone involved.

For submissives or slaves, the most critical aspect to enjoyment of either role is to be honest with yourself as to what you want and to understand what kind of person you want it from.

For Masters or Dom(me)s, the most crucial aspect to successful domination or enslavement is to know what the heck you are doing.  If you lack experience, reach out to a more experienced person and LISTEN to their advice.  Take what you think to be good advice.

I'm somewhat fascinated by the total lack of understanding many guys have about TPE.  TPE stands for total power exchange. It means exactly what it says. If a guy says he's into TPE, that generally means he either is or wants to be a slave to a proper Master.  If a guy is not into the total part of TPE, then he should just say that he's into D/s....which is perfectly fine! 

The side trend of the past few decades has been the inaccuracy in choice of terminology when discussing something as nuanced as BDSM.  To each his own, so I'm not attempting to judge anything. I'm just saying that it would be far more productive if people were more precise when using terminology relating to BDSM. Of course, there are zillion contradicting definitions if one Google's long enough, but what's a guy to do? 

Personally, I'm very much into the Master/slave scene.  I always pre-negotiate hard and soft limits, expectations, etc. I always respect those negotiated agreements. I take the duty of care very seriously. Beyond that, what turns me on is the total, and I mean total, power exchange of a slave or slave trainee who voluntarily gives up their free will and seeks to replace it with my control for whatever period of time we agreed to in advance. Yes, I believe in safe words and exit words and I respect them. 

Over the years, I have been consistently impressed with the ability of high powered guys to literally give up control. They like the respite from the expectations of their high pressure life. On the other hand, younger guys, especially those who lack any managerial experience tend to struggle with it far more. 

The purpose of my journal entry today is merely to air some thoughts, but I hope it's clear that any guy that wants to deal with me in the M/s context needs to be precise, or know when to ask questions--which I will happily answer to avoid misunderstandings. 

Now, stop reading my journal and get back to looking for connections here on this site.

Most Americans take great pride in the amount of freedom available to citizens.  Yet, most citizens cannot explain what freedom is or what it truly means.

The greater the freedom, the greater the personal responsibility that comes with it.

Robert Welch once said, "The real freedom of any individual can always be measured by the amount of responsibility which he must assume for his own welfare and security."

When a Master collars a slave, the Master must understand freedom and the slave must be willing to completely relinquish their freedom to their Master.

Thoughts?

I am often struck with how little some folks understand the differences in styles and tastes.  I mean no one any disrespect and I firmly believe in the concept "to each his own."  Nevertheless....

M/s (Master/slave) and D/s (Dominant/submissive) are DIFFERENT things.  I'll not claim that one is inherently better than the other, because that would be foolish.  But, each person has their own desires and they should be fulfilled without "settling" for something that is truly inadequate to their own needs.

Personally, I am into M/s because I view it as a lifestyle choice that interweaves kink into virtually every non-public portion of my life.  I find that folks into D/s are focused on scene-based role playing of dominance and submissiveness.  

When I train slaves, either for myself or on behalf of other Masters, it is all about full immersion and truly getting into the right headspace--and staying there.  If someone just likes to follow orders from time to time in a sexual context, that's not really for me.  I desire slaves who truly crave service and TPE.

Again, I respect everyone's right to seek what they desire and if we do not agree--so be it.  But, for those men who crave the same things as I do--let's talk.

For formality's sake, I hereby grant potential slave candidates permission to address me and explain what makes them appealing.

NOTE: I live on a ranch in the middle of nowhere, so any experience as a ranch hand or familiarity with horses will be helpful.  That, or the willingness to learn.

I took the bdsmtest.org test again today.  A few things seem to have evolved in my results:

• 100% Dominant
• 100% Master
• 100% Rigger
• 100% Sadist
• 87%Voyeur
• 75%Owner
• 69%Primal (Hunter)
• 64%Brat tamer
• 63%Experimentalist
• 58%Degrader

The surprise from the test was a significant rise in my sadist rating along with the appearance of brat tamer in the list at all.  Interesting how our tastes evolve over time, eh?

I am struck today with how many messages I have received where a male who claims to be looking for slavery try to negotiate when asked for something as simple as a particular kind of photo.  While an uncollared slave can certainly decline or refuse any such request, to try to negotiate with a Master is a sign that he does not yet understand the nature of slavery.

If you do not agree with this, I suggest taking a moment to ponder whether a commanding officer in the military would tolerate a subordinate who tries to negotiate an order.  Any military man has the right to refuse an unlawful order, but attempting to negotiate would land him with charges of insubordination.  In the Master and slave world of BDSM, the equivalent to an unlawful order in the military would be any instruction by a Master which violates the prenegotiated slavery agreement, violates a hard limit of the slave, or which the slave believes would constitute a danger to himself which he is unwilling to allow.

If you are a slave type and still want to negotiate, the proper protocol is to ask the Master's permission to propose an alternative. The whole point of Master and slave power dynamics is that they are inherently and necessarily unequal.  Masters take pleasure in being obeyed and served where slaves take pleasure in the freedom of giving up control of themselves and submitting to the domination and control by their Master.  

If you find yourself unable to accept this, then I give the friendly recommendation that you reconsider whether the Master slave dynamic is really what you seek.  There is no shame in not being able to do it because we all have our own needs and expectations and we all should find what makes us each the happiest.

Perhaps I am stating the obvious, but I find some communication here to be challenging.  No reflection on the website, just a reflection of those who think of themselves as slave material yet not understanding protocol.  Rather, perhaps it is easier to say that if one fancies oneself slave materials, it makes sense to act accordingly.

In my experience, an unbound slave who approaches a Master online asks permission to approach the Master before even saying hello.  Perhaps they included a reason for approaching the Master or perhaps they simply relied upon their profile and photos to encourage a positive response.

Speaking of photos, since when did slaves wear clothing?  Sure, a clothed photo or two is fine for reference, but a slave needs to demonstrate their understanding of their place in the universe and show proper respect to a Master by being naked when presenting themselves.  Mind you, I would make an allowance for a slave who approaches me and says something to the effect of, "Forgive the interruption Master, but may I address you?  I mean no disrespect by having no appropriately naked photo available in my profile, but I will gladly provide it privately should you grant me permission to address you."

Another matter which seems to need clarification: Master/slave is NOT the same thing as Dominant/submissive.  I am not claiming that either is better than the other--I am simply stating that they are not the same thing and one should know which suits them better.

To oversimplify a bit...Master/slave is mostly about TPE (total power exchange) and service by the slave to the Master.  Yes, this certainly could include sex, but it does not always.  On the other hand, Dominance/submission is mostly about roles during sex play.  Sometimes this could look like M/s but is mostly characterized by a submissive who is unwilling or unable to achieve a slave's mindset.

My last note for now is that any successful M/s or D/s situation depends on honesty within the context of the situation.  A minor lie to me by a slave will result in severe punishment and if the slave does not learn from that, I have disowned slaves for lying.

Thoughts?

Thinking of my favorite memory from my 20s/30s... Once upon a time, I was extremely active in the Washington DC BDSM scene. I had two live-in TPE slaves.  Without fail, I would awaken every morning to their happy and smiling faces peering up while they knelt on the floor next to my bed.  Upon my command, my cafe breve would be prepared and presented to me while I prepared my agenda for the day.  Then they would attend me in the shower both for bathing the three of us and to relieve my emho. They would carefully dry me and clothes me before I left for my company...

On a gorgeous morning like this one here in Wyoming, I love to think back to those mornings.  It is the little things in a slave's service that I have always found the greatest mutual pleasure. 

It took quite a while to train them sufficiently where corporal punishment was not needed for correcting imperfect service, but it was worth it.  I have always found it fascinating how much happier a submissive man becomes after being broken, trained and then focusing solely on his service.  After all these years, I still enjoy the process.

On a rainy day like today, I like to sit and listen to the rain pattering on the roof while putting up my cowboy booted feet on the back of a bound slave at my feet.  If he's good and still, I might even allow him to lick my feet for a bit.  If he's bad, my 80-tail bison leather flogger would come in handy.  Meanwhile, it's time to stoke the fire a bit.  Happy trails...

There's no better place to live than Wyoming, although the challenge of befriending like-minded folks is a bit of a challenge.  While I certainly enjoy and crave the complete submission of a male slave, I would also like to find some friends, regardless of gender or orientation who share an interest in BDSM and would enjoy talking about it along with the normal chat of friends.