MasterTwisted

Male Dominant, 23, Altamonte Springs, Florida

Male Dominant, 54, Florida Panhandle, Florida

Male Dominant, 41

I'm looking forward to going SCUBA diving again. Like most people, I'm feeling the economy, and I probably won't be able to go diving in the ocean until this fall, but at least there is a local dive spot. And it's calling me. Because if you've never been diving, it's like flying. It's my second favorite thing to do.

Life is pretty good as I approach the big 50. I have my health, a loving family, and a great job. The only thing that would make it perfect is to find another submissive like my former sweetheart - who is now a happily married mom and lives in Atlanta. We are still all close, and see each other once or twice a year, but the dynamics of the relationship changed, mostly because she is so far away. I know there is someone out there for me, who is not afraid of a poly relationship. I know more about what I want and how to please a woman than most men half my age do.

Wow. Just browsing some of the entries as they show up, and I am amazed that some of these submissives don't have either a mentor or someone to run interference with the wannabe Doms. I understand the complaints, but I wonder how many of these female submissives understand that they aren't the only ones dealing with flakes and losers. Subs can be just as bad. And it's not just because I am a casual (as opposed to lifestyle) Dominant. Just because I am married and view scening as an enjoyable, occasional - as in not 24/7 - experience doesn't mean *I* like to be stood up or disrespected, either. Perhaps it's the internet culture of anonymity+forum=asshole. Give anyone with half a penchant for assertiveness a chance to say what they are thinking and all of a sudden a fairly decent person sounds like a total douche. That's no excuse for being a flake, though. My most recent relationship really hit the skids by the third time she "had something come up". If I am not good enough for a damn good excuse, say so and let me move on. Oh wait - I guess I just did.? ;) hmmm.? End of rant.

Still looking for a submissive and/or pain slut for scening.

Life is good. My wife and I discussed it, and the only thing that would make it better is if we could find a submissive to join us. We have few enough friends in town, despite being here for two years. Reading the posts here has made it painfully obvious that the world is full of players, and most submissives are afraid to reach out. That's too bad. But I've grown tired of searching and being ignored. If we find one, great. If not, ah well.

I guess the more things change, the more they stay the same. Yes, it's cliche, but so are most of the submissives I've met here. I know, ranting about subs is not the way to GET one, but come on. Those I've met in the past year have been pretty shallow, and are all too quick to fall back on the authority of the group they are in. I'd settle for someone who is not afraid to be herself. And by the way, if we don't hit it off, it's RUDE to just ignore someone - SAY SO. At this point I'm convinced there is not ONE submissive woman in Northern Alabama on this site who can speak in a complete, grammatically correct sentence that isn't topping from the bottom. You women that complain about the male dominant fakes should see what we doms have to put up with. *sigh* Okay, all done.

It's been busy around here lately. We have a new addition to the household - a wonderful little 3 year old girl has come into our life, and we are her guardians with an adoption likely in the future. I haven't found anyone yet, and am still looking, but there is no rush to find the right one. I really have missed scening, though. Hopefully a suitable partner will turn up soon; my floggers and rope are getting dusty... :)

I don't mean to be a smartass, but there are these things called profiles and journals. How are we to know what a potential match is looking for unless you spell it out? And if you aren't here to meet people, all it takes is a "Not looking" in your description.

I was reading a submissive's profile the other day and a lot of what she said really clicked with me. So I think what I wrote to her is worth repeating. I don't want a doormat, nor do I want to break someone or hurt/mark them. I want more than anything a strong and pliable mind to work with, because a mind fuck is more fulfilling than a simple sexual encounter. I suppose that's what draws me to S&M - the way a sensual setting can start the wheels in my head turning, and elicit the best reactions from my partner. The smell of incense, the feel of oil on naked flesh, the light touch of my lips on an ear or the nape of her neck. A blindfold is more conducive to putting my perfect submissive in the mood than a thousand commands. IMO, a Dominant who controls through excessive verbal commands is not in touch with the mind he seeks to control. Anyone who leaves a mark from spanking is either inept or ignorant of the best way to warm a woman's bottom. Nipples are meant for oil and tongues are the best way to torture them. Clamps are useful ways of sensitizing them. Stockings and garter belts are the way to a man's heart (among other places). And a woman in panties is like a present to be unwrapped. Limits are there for a reason. There is no play without negotiating them, and no scene worth ignoring them. I have stopped a scene without a safeword, because she was too mentally disassociated to realize the scene had gone too far. The only sexual thing I love more than receiving head is pleasing my partner orally. Several times. But a woman who gets aroused by giving head is a gift beyond imagining.

I guess I need to mention something I didn't say earlier, just to avoid confusion. If you are in a relationship with someone who does not know you are seeking D/s outside that relationship, please understand that I am not willing to accept your submission. Honesty is important to me, and if you are looking for a liason, I'm not your guy. I was burned very badly a long time ago with someone who was seeing someone else behind my back, and I am unwilling to do that to another human. I will chat with you, and I won't think terribly of you if you have needs that must be met. But they won't be met by me.

Ho-hum. Went to Dragon Con yesterday to help set up our booth. I used to enjoy it there, but it's nothing like it used to be - just a well-oiled money making machine full of hype and posers. Those morons are making people buy a badge just to access the public areas (I borrowed one). I just don't see any value in paying $85 at the door, and I never go to any panels or events anyway. Most of the guests are people with a little fame, a little exposure, and trying to preach that what they know is the way things are. I did meet Stephen from Fantasm there. Now THAT'S a fun convention. ropes and floggers and lots of people into wicked entertainment. He wants me to come back and do stuff for them. They really know how to treat their guests, and I'll probably do it. Maybe even write up some new Twisted Bedtime Stories for the fans.

Very strange - I started thinking about someone I had IM'ed and e-mailed a long time ago. She was very sweet, docile, and fun to chat with. Her name was Twila, and she went by the handle yummylilone on ICQ. Sadly, I lost her contact information with my last job, and I can't find her on ICQ. If you see this, please write. (HUGS)

Hrmmm... Something happened to my last entry. it was replaced with a copy of my first one. I don't even remember what it said. So far, I've had a couple of very nice contacts return my mail, and I'm looking forward to talking more with one in particular. It's really important to me to be able to get a good rapport going, and I think I may be on to something...

So far, things are going slowly, as I expected. I'm not some 25 year-old hunk or pale little goth kid who makes all the little girls hearts flutter because I can fit in their corsets. (sigh) I expect that it will eventually work in my favor, because the submissives I'll attract will be the ones who want experience, quality, and a heart - not flash and BS. I AM a little irked at all the bitchiness I'm reading in some of these so-called submissive womens' profiles and journals. I'm all for extroversion and choice, but since when did being a submissive mean you had the right to be rude out of the gate? Maybe they should just call themselves switches and buy gags and floggers for their potential partners. Or maybe, they could try being a little more polite, and I don't know... submissive? Who ARE you guys out there who act like such jerks that you have to ruin it for everyone? Sorry. [/RANT]

Well, I finally bit the bullet and started looking again. The sub I've had for 4 years is getting married, and though we will always be close, we probably won't be able to scene. :( So now I have to go through it all over again, hoping to find someone who is smart, funny, and loving. Someone who won't be freaked out that I'm married (happily - get over it), and in fact, will be someone who will get along well with my wife. Someone who likes to be bound, spanked, flogged, waxed, and subjected to my various tender mercies in a candlelit room. Someone who can love and be loved, and is as happy to sit and chat as they are to scene. Is that to much to ask? I don't think so, or I wouldn't be here. (sigh) Are you out there? Are you watching?

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