MasterSun1

I have been approached and asked many times over the past two years about people searching people.

First of all, my interaction here is only to meet friends and share common kinks.  Friendships should be equal... they should never be thought in terms of "sub" or "Dom" or "sub" and "Domme". 

Can you maintain a BDSM relationship without being lovers with someone?  Most certainly.  however, it is my believe that you must be friends.  You must be willing to trust, communicate from your heart and be true.  You cannot step foot into BDSM activities without trust.  If you cannot trust someone.... you as well as your partnerships are worthless, nothing.

I'm sorry if you don't agree with that.  Can play be edge play and still be trusting and between friends?  Most certainly!  But, friendship and the care of one another must be forever in the minds of both activity players.

For those of you, both male and female, who seek the cherished long term friend.  That friend who will become your lifelong mate.  Don't give up.  it is true that some of us never meet that lifelong kinkster.    Sometimes it's enough to confide in a friend, even a playmate for life....

I understand and recognize the social paradox about human mates and marriage.  I will never disregard nor disrespect that sanctity.  But, I will never disrespect someone's wishes to explore and be discreet and respectful of privacy and one's wish to explore beyond the social norm.  It is not my position to judge.

Follow your heart.  Follow what takes your lead.  If it is kink, that is fine, you don't have to abandon your values totally.  Most of us respect those and honor those values more than you can imagine.

I'm a big fan of journals, but, for myself... not something I do.  I DO think it has value as far as being reflective, being introspective and just over all, slowing down and looking at yourself and your life and your circumstances.  It can be cathartic and it can be helpful for others.

Why isn't it something I do on a regular basis?  Well, I don't know.  I used to write regularly in a notebook several decades ago.  Short observations, short stories, poems and one liners were my habit back then.  But, I suppose I have become victim of what many become victim of... life.

Life, is it a bad word?  No.  Life, though, tends to be the temptation to pull you outside of what is your normal or "natural" path... your normal "even keel" so-to-speak.

The past couple of years I have been reading several books.  Those few who DO know me that I do believe in a higher power.  What draws me to this belief is the fact that several religions all have the same root and foundation of a "God" who created this earth and the creatures on it.  Even the American Indians share stories which reflect stories in the Christian Bible.

Some of the books I have read as of late involve the Amish.  I will go out on a limb here.  I don't believe there's that many Amish who have a thread of kink in them.  Perhaps there are and I'm being narrow minded.  But, I digress.  The books I've read have helped me examine my life.  The books I've read have helped me step back and take a breathe and be more "simple", thus the "Amish connection" here.

One has to ponder; do the modern day-to-day gadgets and opportunities of we Americans cause a fog to obscure and influence or opinions and every day judgements?  Consider this.... all American politics aside; even many at the "ceiling" of what is considered the poverty rate in this country are in the top percentage of the "rich" on a global scale... stop and think about that.... 

Even IF you don't believe in a higher power, you have to agree, then, that to be in America we are blessed or fortunate to be where are and when we are in the timeline of human history.  Our lives in America are fortunate.  Yet, many of the modern conveniences are conveniences for some, and handicaps and obstructions for others.  While, at the same time, they are far from reach from the rest of the world.

Again, American politics aside; we should think about that.  We should be more humble, more forgiving, more GIVING, more open to those in our daily lives.  Our "world" may not extend beyond 1 mile, 5 miles, 10 miles or 100 miles.  If that is your world, so be it.  But, stop and think... how selfish are we in our day-to-day lives?  If we spend $100 on groceries at any store, do we even stop to consider buying a few bucks of groceries on that budget to give to a local food bank?  Do we stop to consider holding our temper when someone cuts you off in traffic?  Do we stop to consider forgiving each other without strings attached for the slightest and the worst of what we consider wrongs?  Are we willing to bend at the waist and shake the hand of the man or woman in the wheelchair and just say a SIMPLE hello?

I challenge you, anyone who might read this.  It doesn't matter what your political leanings are; stop, think, forget politics, forget everything.  Examine our lives and open them, even the slightest amount and go outside your comfort zone.  Even if it's a smile, even it's a handshake, even if it's simply to hold the elevator door for someone you do not know.

We are only on this earth for a short time in relation to the whole perspective.  Our existence is truly insignificant.  But, while we are here, can we consider that we might help the existence of others?