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Male Dominant, 23, Altamonte Springs, Florida
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Male Dominant, 54, Florida Panhandle, Florida
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About MasterRaid
BDSM Dominant for 20+ years I believe in Old School ways of BDSM. If you are going to message me be genuine. If you have questions be realistic and able to take straight answers. I have NO time for fakes and tourists. I dislike little girls who think BDSM is only about sex. I cannot stand boys who want sex and cannot be of service. If all you think is you are here to find a hot body, great sex, or some soulmate who will wisk you away and take care of you forever so you can sit on a fat ass all day then I would not bother speaking with me. |
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Been away for a bit. Back now. Read profiles and read messages. seen the people on here who claim to be Dom's subs' and slaves. Really people? Get a fucking clue already. About 2% of you are real and about 98% of you need a reality check. Get some learning, find a mentor to teach you that you either; A) need to sit down and shut up so the adults can talk. or B) you should wear a collar because you acting like a childish sub and your giving the good subs a bad name. I mean really, "I'm a Dom wanna see my cock?", "I'm a Domme, look at my titties and give me your money." Oh and just a sidenote to the switches, GET BACK IN A COLLAR! Your ruining my view of the good looking redhead down in front. |
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Now that is the reason why we are here.
I post to My journal every so often the fancy strikes Me. Usually, it is because something I see irritates Me or causes Me to pause to think on a specific matter and I wish to share it. Well this is one of those times. This is collarme, a place where like minded people come to share views and opinions about the lifestyle and meet new friends, subbies find Master or vice versa, couples find playmates, and? Dominants find property. But other than the message boards I have seen little communicating done on here. Yes yes the chatrooms are here to lurk and prey upon many subbieflesh but moreoften than not it usually winds up with some waste of time due to a troll or predatorplayer. I am gettting off base of My thought here.? What I am referring to is people who are willing to have the balls to simply send a quick message and then.....get a response back. Wow what a concept! Yes, I know, "I get people sending me messages all the time Raid, My box is full of them and I do not have time to respond back." Well good for you and your little popular self. But you are in the minority not the majority I assure you. I have many friends on collarme and I hear the complaint that they sit with no messages to them and their messages to others go unresponded to. Myself I usually get messages sent to Me and when I respond to them it sparks either good conversation or a friendship that is enjoyable to both parties. I suppose what I am saying here is I would hope that if people come to this site to meet and greet then either get off yer collective arses and start meeting and greeting or just erase yer profile and sit at home in the dark and don't use up My valuable air.????????????????????????????
???????????????????????????????????????????? Nuff said I am done.....(steps down and pushes soapbox under the table)
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Slavery, Submission, and Bottoming......
Ok, this is a thing that really urks Me, I tend to let it slide but I should not as it tends to allow the wrong idea of one's status within the lifestyle, reflecting poorly not only on the individuals who wrongly claim to be things they are not but also it insults the ones who are truely what they say they are.
Lets start of with the simplest and most obvious status within the lifestyle. The slave. A slave is a simple status easy enough to explain and categorize. To be a slave you have no choice or rights in the relationship and most obvious and (there is no way to change this one people) YOU HAVE TO BE OWNED BY SOMEONE! You cannot just walk into a room and claim to be a slave then turn around and say "and I am looking for a Master"? To many of the Dominants and Masters who have been in the lifestyle this basicly sends the message of "I do not have any training and I am just really looking for a kinky life without any real submission.
Sumbmissive is a very broad description in the fact that it can be what you prefer in a relationship or? what want to become. Here you can use this title to describe yourself when you are looking for someone or if you are simply stating that you have a specific personality trait. While submissives can be owned they do not have to be slaves. submissives still retain choice and rights and can often talk back without reprocussions from their Dominants.
bottoms are the base of this spectrum in descriptions. Now a bottom is just what the name states. The lowest thing on the totem pole when it comes to the relationship. Now I do not mean that in a bad way, what I refer to is that this person prefers only in a sexual or play experience to be not in control. But, being a bottom does not mean they wish to live the lifestyle it merely means they wish for the moment to not run the show. A bottom seems to be more of what I see alot of people want to be rather than claiming to be slaves or subbies and still having all of these restricitons or denials in what they want or are willing to do. There is nothing wrong with restrictions mind you. I just think that if your going to claim to be something you had better be exatcly that and not something else. Let the deceptive ones remain in the predator category.
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To Whip or Not to Whip?
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Ok I get alot of Tops and subs that complain about punnishment and pleasure derrived from flogging or whipping. "I can't flog, paddle, or cane her when she's bad, she likes it for pleasure." or subbies complaints, "when He's flogging me it hurts too much I don't like it for pleasure and I get turned off."
Ok these are valid,and luckily, easily avoidable for those of you that are still learning as Tops or subs. First off you need to set forth what is pleasure and what is punnishment. Punnishment is not always physical and pleasure is not always sexual. Flogging or caning is NOT always meant to be painful. When done properly at the end of the session your sub should have the deep muscular feeling of a good massage. Unless of course, she wants it to feel differently. But that is for more advanced lessons.Now Back to punnishments and optional punnishments lets talk about those first.
Obviously a caning can be a punnishment since the cane is a sharp stinging senstion upon impact. But with a proper stroke and the proper location it can warm the upper skin and prepare it. Its all about control Tops...... Learn the areas of the body that hold more nerves and thinner softer areas of the skin. Now for punnishment you do not need just the cane, a flogger, yardstick, crop,or any other striking instrament can provide adequate correction. But do not limit yourself there, especially if your sub likes pain or if your sub uses those items for her/his pleasure. Mental punnishment is just as or even more effective at times. Deprivation can be a wonderful tool. Taking away privilages, or attention can provide the result you look for far better than the physical side. Additional chores work well also. My own girl hates when I have her scrub the floor on hands and knees then I simply walk outside water the lawn and walk on the clean floor and calmly tell her "Clean it again". Now that may be cruel to some but it also gets the point accross of displeasure. Another way to instill correction is to address the thing that caused the problem. I like My subs to be ladies when in public. I had one that liked to stick her tounge out and act immature at inappropriate times. The punnishment derived for her was simple, each time the tounge came out a clothesin went on, (make sure to not use the kind with metal spring so the circulation is not cut off) each time she was immature in public she was given time outs and corner time at home just like I would do with a child. Pretty demeaning for a grown girl in her 20's to be treated as a child. So reaching for the whip to punnish off the bat is not always your best option. Use your mind, seek out the alternative to the problem without going too far for the sub. As for you subs who complain about improper punnishments I only give a few words of advice, Don't get in trouble if you do not want the punnishment and before you move into that field of control you give over to your TOp take the time to talk about what is too far to go. Not What you would want but what is too far, remember, Punnishment is DESIGNED to be unpleasant otherwise our kids would love gettting in trouble. Now, for the pleasure side of the whip.
The most common complaint new ones come to Me about the Whip (i.e. What they dislike about flogging, paddleing or beatings for fun) is I really do not like pain or it felt wrong so I don't let My Top do it. From the Tops, "I am afraid to hurt them". Ok, first off remember earlier I said you need to learn the body and look for those sensitive areas and avoid them. You want a warming feeling brought out. A cane with a lighter tap on say the buttocks or the breasts can warm and prepare the skin for a paddle, flogger or whip. *Point of interest: Whips are not for the new they can cause serious damage so seek training with them first.) A Flogger to the buttocks, backs of the legs, breasts, stomach, and upper back can bring the skin further along and you want to make sure you let at least 3 to 4 inches of the flogger strike the skin as More surface of flogger impacting absorbs more of the kinetic energy and less sharp pain transferring into the sub. Also after a few strokes from what you are using a good rub with your hand to let the area rest and the blood flow through the skin helps. It also helps your sub's mind to adjust to the stimuli they are recieving. Now any good Top will test a blow on themselves before they try to do it on someone else. If you have never used a cane or flogger before take the time to test it on yourself for awhile first. See what feels like first before you make others feel it. I remember when I was 17 and I had a girl who loved paddles I walked around with a ping pong paddle for 2 weeks just whacking My legs, buttocks, chest, hands, anything I could think of before I started using it on her. Same thing for Flogger and canes. Hell I still walk around with My crops and canes and occasionally test a blow or direction of a blow on My own self before I do it to one of My girls. Now for you subs you need to be vocal about this to your Tops as well, they are not mind readers. Tell them when a blow feels bad, and when it feels good. They need that interaction from you to know what works. Don't just sit there and not think and then when done you say "uh, that was ok". The Top will have nothing to work with later. If a certain stroke felt ok but you think another way may be better then tell them. Its all about preperation and communication.
More to come later.
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=========Random Thoughts========
I am often in thought about the lifestyle and I poder wht it is to be a good Dominant and Master. I mean there are thousands of Doms and so called Doms who would tell you wht it is to be Master or Dominant. I have seen many who even with decades of time spent in the lifestyle and a whole followin of slaves and fellow Leaders still do not have a clue of how to deal with submissives.
Now in My small amount of time in this lifestyle I have found some simple truths to what it is in being a Dominant. Now many Doms I have met often ask why is it I feel that putting up with the crap that many subs deal out is ok. Well honestly it is not OK but as a Dominant you must be patient and understanding. I am not saying allow a sub to constantly be deisrespectfull or allow them to get away with everything. You must know that they will not be perfect all the time or even half the time. They are learning and learning is not easy. Firstly they have to unlearn everything that society and life experience has drilled into them. That is a major undertaking and incredibly scary. Second, and this is the hard part because primarily life sucks, they have to learn trust. I mean true trust, that comes from the subconscious and the spirit.
Now another aspect of Dominance that is overlooked is creativity. It is damn hard to be a Dom, lets face it we do all the work (and no I do not mean the housecleaning). We have to constatly be working on new ideas for training, correction, playtime, and devices. That is just the tip of the iceburg. The workload doubles if you have more than one submissive or if you live with children. So being creative and keeping things fresh is a major part of Dominance. I mean a great submissive does not just fall from the sky, you have to keep them enthralled as they keep you enthralled. Your mind must always be at work for new ways to impliment pleasure and pain, joy and sorrow, reward and punnishment.
Another of these things crucial to Dominance is Acceptance. Yu must be able to accept not only submissives for what or who they are but other Doms or even other lifestyles. (OH GOD He did not say that? Did He? I ean My Lifestyle is the only right one there is!) Yep I did. Now I will admit this is one I have a serious problem with and I am most Hypcritical about. Ask anyone that knows Me I cannot stand the word Domme, I dislike Butch Female Doms that try to be more of a Man than I am. And do not even get Me started on all the New Age Cyber Doms. But as I said if you want to become a great Dominant you have to have acceptance. Why? Without soe acceptance of others we fall into stagnation and walk around blind to the world and heartless to how things are changing. We fail to understand the minds of the submissives we are trying to control, or the way in which life and the lifestyle is changing. We become OUR PARENTS! AAAGGGGHHH! I am not saying Like what they do or invite them over for friday night dinner. I am merely saying accept that they are what they are and that somewhere in the world what they do has its place for someone. As long as they aren't out eating babies and killing puppies they hurt no-one.
There are many more points to being a good Dom. I am sure someone somewhere reading this will say (Oh this putz missed alot) But ya know this is My Journal and I am merely touching on the re=andom thoughts that have sprung into My head and I wished to put them to silicon Ink to retain them and perhaps make them grow more another day. |
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=========Master's Mayhem=======
Ok a few things that irritate Me just so you can understand the type of person I am. First off before you read anything from Me you should know I am a tolerant person by nature and an understanding one. Where I tendto be quite opinionated, I still attempt to be understanding of other peoples opinions and beliefs. ( I just may not like those beliefs very much)
First off those of you who consider yourselves DOMINANTS. If you are under the age of 20 and only have a year or few months of experience......you are not a Dom. You may have a Dominant personality or Dominant traits, but you are only a Top. A dominant would have taken the time to recieve training and have had the time to properly apply that training. It takes more than a few months.
Second If you claim to be a Dom/Master/Misstress and your profile pic is a cock/pussy/tits or you are dressed like a cheap whore waiting to get used. Trust Me you are not what you think you are. At best you are a confused submissive or switch. At best you might be able to call yourself a sexual Top. You want to claim to be a Misstress or Master....show some self control and discipline. Don't be an idiot.
Slaves...now I consider a slave to be the epitomy of the bottoms in BDSM. Don't you dare call yourself a slave and yet have I want this and I want that and I am in control and bla bla bla...shut the hell UP! A bottom retains control. A submissive retains control. And rightfully so, they are not yet ready for slavery. submissives desire to have some control left to them and ther is nothing wrong with that. But, slaves, they have found their nich in the design and they are content with giving up all that is them. Throwing caution to the wind and being totally at the whim of thier Master or Misstress. And yet they are quite inteligent and know to not be a slave to a psudo- Master wannabe. So do not insult the true slaves of the world with your false claims.
Again what I say may be harsh and seem cruel but first take the time to know the author, and also know what I speak while seemingly cruel is still the truth. .....no-one ever said I was a nice guy. Well they at least did not get away with saying it for long. |
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