MasterPandy

I am Pandy, a 45-year-old dominant sadist who moved to Darlington from Sussex in 2024.

I have been with my wife, Kay (k) (36), since 2009, and we married in 2016. We have lived as Dom and sub or Master and slave to varying degrees throughout our relationship. After she experienced a mental breakdown at the start of 2023, we have been adjusting to the reality of her having several chronic illnesses—both physical and mental—and the BDSM aspects of our dynamic sometimes have to take a back seat.

I work from home for a Swiss company and regularly travel to Switzerland on business.

About Me

Music is a big part of my life. I love most types of music, though I definitely lean towards rock, metal, and blues. Kay describes my playlist as “bipolar” because it swings from death metal to country, silly songs, classical, reggae, ska, and doom metal. Queen is especially important to me, along with Pink Floyd, Metallica, Madness, and Space, among others. I love singing—even though I don’t have the greatest voice—and karaoke has been a passion of mine since I was 17.

My sense of humour is very important. I particularly enjoy the humour of Monty Python, Douglas Adams, and Morecambe and Wise, along with classic sitcoms such as 'Allo 'Allo, Fawlty Towers, Men Behaving Badly, and Red Dwarf. I’m a Humanist, not religious, and politically left-leaning—though I dislike oversimplified labels like “left” and “right”. That said, I find it hard to respect those who support far-right figures such as Nigel Farage, Trump, or Putin.

I also enjoy ghost-hunting and often join the Most Haunted crew at locations around the country.

My BDSM & Kink Interests

My BDSM and kink interests are varied. I am a sadist who enjoys experimenting and trying new things. I particularly enjoy humiliation, dehumanisation, and objectification, as well as various forms of sensation and pain play. I enjoy using the entire body—not just the “obvious” areas—and sexual penetration is not essential. When well enough, k is a masochist who embraces all aspects of her servitude to me. However, as her Master, I sometimes have to step in and make her take breaks, as I tend to understand her limitations better than she does.

Before moving north, I hosted the Eastbourne Munch and remain part of the organisational teams for the St Leonards Play Munch, Impact on Charity, and Reverence BDSM events. I attend local and national events, including munches, LAM, and BBB.

What I’m Looking For

I am seeking submissives and/or masochists who are local or able to travel for BDSM play sessions. Your age and appearance matter less to me than the synergy between us. Brats or those with brattish tendencies are not my thing.

Domestic Slave Object Role

I am primarily seeking a long-term or permanent domestic slave object who is ready to fully surrender and integrate into my household. The role focuses heavily on domestic service—you will be expected to handle all household chores alongside k; however, you will be solely responsible for cooking and laundry, as these are tasks that k is no longer able to perform.

Although k is responsible for the day-to-day care of her assistance dog, Damon, you will be required to accompany them on their daily walks and during public access training. Flexibility, reliability, and dedication to maintaining a well-run home are essential. I expect you to take pride in these responsibilities, as they form the foundation of my daily life.

You will also assist in caring for k when I am either too busy or away. This includes aiding her with self-care tasks, by agreement. These responsibilities are likely to change on an almost daily basis, depending on her level of need.

You will be regarded as a possession, with all aspects of your appearance, clothing, diet, and daily routine controlled by me. Hair removal, tattoos, and piercings may be required at my discretion. Your diet will be strictly managed, providing only basic nourishment. Regular exercise will also be part of your routine to maintain health and discipline.

Once all parties are happy, and all appropriate health screenings have been completed, sexual service will be expected for me (subject to change should k become uncomfortable at any point) and anyone I choose, regardless of gender. This may include k, as I wish for her to explore her sexuality further—but only if she is fully comfortable and consents. Pregnancy is not an option, and I plan to have a vasectomy soon.

Discretion is crucial. When vanilla guests visit, you will act as a housemate. If overnight guests stay, you may be sent elsewhere. You will also attend BDSM events with me and assist with their operation when required.

This role is not about constant excitement or fantasy—it involves dedication to real-life responsibilities. In return, you will have a stable home, food, clothing, care, and opportunities to travel with us. Above all, you will be valued for your complete submission and devotion.

If this resonates with you and you are genuinely prepared to embrace this lifestyle, I would love to hear from you.