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If you are looking for a weekend of play, learning and making new friends in Madison, make plans for "Madtownspankfest" June 20/21.? Rayna and I will be teaching classes on edge play, and "The Perils and Pleasures of Online Personals"...a subject we have become quite familiar with lately.

I guess even an old pervert like me can learn? a few new things.? Perhaps others here might as well: http://www.wikihow.com/Respect-a-Transgender-Person

Good humor that all here will enjoy: http://www.theonion.com/content/news/description_of_sexual_fantasy

Ka...I'm not a big fan of the Lifetime channel. But, if you can get past the "Once upon a married cheater", "Rescuing my sex slave daughter from Pakistan" and "Tiffany's beating" crap, you'll find a new show called "How to Look Good Naked". Ladies...watch it, then grab a friend with a camera!

Had a bit of an epiphany today. I went with Rayna to her Doctor's appointment, checking out a pain she had been having for quite awhile now. Since her family has quite a "history", we were a bit anxious about it. I always try to be optimistic about these things, but when she laid back on the examination table, she looked so tiny and vulnerable to me. My next thought was how short life is for all of us, and how important it was for me ?to make her happy while she is with me. I also realized that any of the petty jealousies I may have struggled with in the past were just that, and wouldn't mean a damn in the grand scheme of things. We came out of the clinic with good news! But that feeling hasn't left me since. I suspect that it will be there still tomorrow. Sure hope so :)

I'd like to wish everyone a peaceful, joyous Christmas day, but particularly to those of you who might be spending it alone.? Never give up searching for "The One", because they are counting on you to find them...

It could be I'm the last one here to have finally seen the "Kinky Boots" DVD. But for those who HAVEN'T seen it, its time for a trip to the video store.

Sabbat de Sade, last Sunday... Thanks, to all you pretty ladies who made our night a most memorable one.

? I'd like to address the issue of age that I keep observing come up in the BDSM community. I keep seeing many older folks who are quick to regard their younger peers as lesser players, due to the fact that they are in their 20s. Often when a younger member is courageous enough to post a relationship problem on chat boards, you get caustic answers like "You are only 24? No wonder you are having problems." This is a the nadir of arrogance and ignorance to me. On the other end of the scale, we have younger folks who look at older players as nothing but senile, toddering invalids. They steer clear of them at events, and even form their own age restricted groups. ?Its a damn shame, really. Both camps are missing out on some tremendous opportunities to grow and learn from each other. ?If you are fortunate enough to meet one of the older leathermen like Jack Rinella, Guy Baldwin or Master Jim, your perspective on S/M will be a bolder and richer one. That quiet older fellow at a munch may very well have quite a story to share with you about his life...one that might move or inspire you. ?And don't underestimate the creativity of our younger generation either. Think of some of the most brilliant artists, writers and musicians in history. Most of them became famous in their 20s, didn't they? ?What if it were possible to bridge this age gap...for the older folks to share their wisdom and hard earned lessons, and for the younger pups to contribute fresh perspectives and new ideas for how we can play? ?Sounds like a win-win scenario for all concerned.

Okay...I've come to the conclusion that the primary use of the collar chat boards is for posters to attack one another ad nauseum. It's often so bad that the subject of the original post is usually forgotten, and contributions that are helpful and substantive are usually overlooked. Maybe its a symptom of the current obsession in our culture with confrontation and conflict.? Perhaps its the reason why we love TV shows that promise dirty competition, over inflated egos, and self assured assholes.? It also explains why folks who would never confront others in person, find it easy to do so from the anonymity of an online forum.

Hmmm....what to say about Sabbat de Sade at Inferno? Seedy, dark, loud, and a place where perverts and freaks can gather for kinky filled fun on a Sunday night. Goths, club kids, T- girls, speed freaks, posers, novice and seasoned SMers all in one place and getting along like some happily dysfunctional family. Can't wait to go back next month...

My weekend in St. Louis with Rayna was...amazing. Not all positive mind you.? There were painful fights as well as physical reunions that were tender and sweet.? There were good scenes coming after bad ones, which is always the preferred order of things.? Rayna and I are still struggling with our new roles and expectations.? She may not be the slave anymore, but she is still mine.? She still needs protection, still needs to kneel before me, still needs to know she is my #1 girl.? At times I think she has more freedom than she wants, or knows what to do with.? The journey continues...

Weekend DVD choice:? John Waters "This Filthy World". Check it out.

After a long talk with W I let Rayna spend the night with him last night. We have a drive to to Milwaukee planned for the night, so hopefully she actually got some sleep.

Three weeks have already passed since I released the slave from the rituals, from the service, from the comittment.? It was a period of change and agonizing uncertainty for both of us. But today I am amazed at the resiliency and strength of our relationship.? It is a time of growth and adventure, and I am looking forward to meeting the ones who will be a part of the experience. ?

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