MasterHess

New Journal Entry October 30, 2011

Today I have decided to begin my search for a 24/7 live in submissive.  I am looking for a sub that wants the true 24/7 live in experience, they will be be trained to serve in the home and to serve the DOM as his house submissive.

My Thought for Today.

Punishment.  What is punishment and why do we use it?  When we speak of punishment it means different things to different people, it can be given in physical, emotional, or even in mental form.  The type of punishment truly depends on the type of Dominant you are and what you hope to gain from the punishment.  Is the punishment being used to instill fear into a Sub/Slave for some miss deed they may have performed?  Or are we using punishment for a sexual gratification? I can only speak for myself on this subject but I will say that if punishment is needed, it is because of a breach of protocol by the Sub/Slave.  And that this breach is usually from a lack of understand by the Sub/Slave to the rules that have been laid out.  Now I will admit that I have used punishment on certain Sub/Slave?s for gratification, this occurs when the Sub/Slave has a more masochistic side which I tend to enjoy. 

When we dispense punishment , we have to remember that the punishment is designed to break the Sub/Slave?s will to repeat the action that caused the punishment.  So in doing this we must always remember to reward the Sub/Slave, it is not enough to only punish them and break them down it is in my opinion of critical importance to remember to reward them.  I was told many years ago in Germany, if you beat your horse enough it will eventually die, but if you give your horse a carrot for doing what is expected he will strive to earn the carrot over the whip.  I find this line of thinking to be true in most aspects of my lifestyle unless I am dealing with a Sub/Slave that is in the lifestyle for the pain aspect.  When this is the case I employ the reverse if the Sub/Slave craves pain then the punishment will lack the pain that they crave.

I know that my thinking may differ from many, but please remember I was trained outside the US where the lifestyle is looked upon in a different light then here in the US.  If you have a comment please email me and let me know.

This is for a friend.  What is the difference between physical submissive and mental surrender. 

Physical submission, the submissive allows the Dom to have control over his or her physical action. To dictate how the submissive body is used by the Dom or acts per the Doms directive. This type of relationship is easy to partake in even the novice Dom is able to control the submissive.

Now Mental Surrender is the act by the submissive to surrender all control over personal thought to the Dom.  This type of control is not easy or simple if tried by the novice it is possible to damage the submissive.  If the submissive is suffering from any mental instability permanent damage is possible.  When attempting to mentally control the submissive the Dom must assume not only the Dom or Master role but also a father role.  It becomes the Doms responsibility to nurture and care for the submissive since the Dom is now assuming all control over thought and action of the Sub.  A true Dom will never allow his or her submissive to be harmed by his or her actions.

Good morning everyone, it?s 12:28am and I had to post this thought to my journal.  Real fast and to the point, can someone please tell me how a F**King 19 year old little girl can call herself a DOM.  Most of these female DOM?s are young enough to be my daughter, all they have going for them is their looks.  And I see that some of the dumb ass subs are even willing to give these little girls money.  Guy?s wake up save your damn money buy a ticket to Germany , go to the red light district in Berlin and go to a dungeon you will see what a real Female Dominant is and can do for you.

Sensory Deprivation Training

A few months ago I was asked by a friend who is also in the lifestyle, to create a sensory deprivation training program for one of his slaves.  Unfortunately my friend thought it would be a quick training experience; at first I asked the two of them what did they want out of the training experience.  And what type of results did they desire?  Did he want to break the slaves will or something other?  I was able to spend the weekend talking with both and explain the different types of training that could be done and at long last it was decided I would write a two tier training plan.  The first a rapid total emersion plan that has worked for me in the past in the lifestyle and in my work.  The second is a longer approach that could takes weeks if not months to accomplish.  I will lay out the plan first used by my friend and the results that were achieved.

Plan One (Rapid Total Emersion)

Sensory Deprivation to deny the subject use of one or all senses i.e. sight, hearing, touch, smell, and taste.   The training plan I wrote for Rapid Total Emersion attacks the subjects senses to the point that their senses and eventually their ability to make logical mental responses impossible.  This type of rigid control has worked well for me in the past with few exceptions.  This type of training and exercise should NEVER BE ATTEMPTED BY THE UNTRAINED PERSON.

First before any training is attempted the subject should be examined and deemed medically fit for such training.  To avoid any type of required explanations the average couple can simply ask their primary medical provider for an annual physical, full blood lab work up, and cardiac stress test.  Any person suffering from depression or other type of mental disorder should not partake in this type of training. 

After the subject has been deemed medically fit the DOM and Slave need to set aside 3 to 4 days for total emersion.  The area used should be at least 10? x 10? room (Sound Proof is Best), with a secure chair or table for the subject. 

Now I won?t get into exact details of the training because I don?t want some dumbass running off and trying this at home and hurting his or her slave, but I will give a snap shot of the training. 

1.       Subject is blindfolded or masked with adequate airway.

2.       Subject is secured to chair or table with padded restraints (Rope should not be used for this training).

3.       After subject is secured the Dom will no longer address the subject his or her voice should not be heard.

4.       At this point we will deprive the subject visual senses only.

5.        Dom will begin to play a repeating audio CD of white noise, or other type of recording.  This may include voice, mechanical, or some other audio.  I find human and animal screams work best for rapid emersion.  With females the sound of a babies cry is rather unsettling.

6.       The next few steps I?m not going to list again because I don?t need someone hurting their subject.

The results my friend received for his slave using a total emersion technique were outstanding.  After four days following all steps there was a noticeable difference in the subject, and she was more acceptable to the Dom?s future training but still able to function in public without a problem.  The Slave has also requested future emersion training and has since received two sessions. 

I assume no responsibility for the actions of others who may read my journal and perform the stated acts.  If you are not trained in this don?t try it unless you have supervision.

My thought for the day on Sub?s

If you are new to the lifestyle and this is one of your first attempts with a Dom there are a few simple things you should do. 

First as I stated before ask yourself a few simple question.

1: What am I looking for?

2: What do I want out of this?

3: And will I be able to live with myself when I get to the other side?

Second before you commit to be trained by a Dom ask the following of the Dom.

1: What are you expectations from me?

2: What rules do you have that I must follow?

3: Will you as the Dom accept a few simple rules that I have?

I know I will catch some shit for number 3 (I?m the Dom I don?t have rules).  If you think that way well sorry oh well, there needs to be rules set for both Dom and Sub/Slave.  We do unfortunately live in modern society where we can?t just kill our Sub?s/Slaves whenever we feel like it. 

Now back to the Sub?s if you can?t set the ground rules before diving into a relationship you?re going to be hard pressed to get what you need out of it.  If the Dom refuses to allow you as the Sub place a few rules of your own there is a problem (That is unless you as the Sub want a TPE).  The ideas I list are for the physical health and mental wellbeing of the Submissive.  I try to follow my own ideas as much as I can when I can.

On a personal note I had met a new Submissive on CM and was able to establish a good relation with her in chats emails and text but had to release her. I did not feel the lifestyle would suit her and may do more harm than good for her.  The lifestyle is perfect for some or a dark pit for others.

Please feel free to email me with your thoughts on my journal and any personal experiences or ideas.    

My Thoughts for the Day on Sub?s;

Take a step back before you enter this world, this lifestyle, this mad mad place that we Dom?s dwell.  First ask yourself.

What am I looking for?

What do I want out of this?

And will I be able to live with myself when I get to the other side?

Now there are a lot of men calling themselves DOM?s (me man me do what I want to you). If you're into the caveman thing go to Geico.  The honest truth is a lot of these so called Dom?s are just weak frustrated, horny, men who get their rocks off by degrading women and brutalizing them for their personal enjoyment.  Now if your thinking this is what a Dom is all about it?s not.  True Dom?s are not here to F**k and run we are here to guide you on your journey to open your eyes to what has always been inside of yourself but you have been to scared to let out.  Dom?s are nurturers we are gardeners we grow and cultivate what is inside of you screaming to be released.  You the submissive are the treasure chest we search for and crave, inside of you is the treasure and gift of true love and obedience.  The Dom?s is strong and stead fast, but it is you the Submissive that is truly strong.  Any Dom can strike with a whip but only a true and strong submissive can bite back the cry and pain and thank the Dom and ask for another.  And no matter how miserable or hurt the submissive is they always place the needs and the feelings of the Dom first.  So I tell you, to be a Submissive you must truly be strong, and for that reason I respect those who pick the path in life to serve their Dom or Master.

My Thoughts for the Day;

Today I was asked about my leather, is it the leather that turns me into a Dom do I feel more powerful when I wear the leather.  Or is it something else that gets me there.  To answer that I feel I must clarify a few things first.  I have had the opportunity to travel in my life and experience many forms of dominance and submission  from Germany where I was trained as a Dom to Japan where I experienced some of the finest forms of bondage I have ever seen.  In my travels overseas I learned that the lifestyle as we call it is more openly accepted and the people who partake in the lifestyle don?t fear the repercussions of their choices.   But here in America we find that people look upon us with disdain and hate for the life we want to live.  We are forced in some cases like in mine to be very careful because if my choices in life became public it would have a negative effect on my live and could cause a loss of employment.  In my case I have an on off switch when in the vanilla world I am calm, kind, and focused on work.  But when I get home I can turn the switch on and become what I love in life a Dominant personality.  It?s not the leather that does it it?s not feeling of power but the chance to be what and who I am on the inside.  Though our lifestyle is becoming more accepted in mainstream society we still have to be careful as not to anger the extreme conservatives in today?s America.

Submissive

You are my Submissive not because I picked you, instead you picked me.

You made the choice to follow this path, to serve as a submissive or a slave.

You desire to serve and to bring pleasure to the one who directs you.

You only ask to be loved in a way that you enjoy. You never ask for more then you deserve.

You deserve to be cared for and loved in a way that few people understand.

Meister

I look upon what I do as an art and what I am is an artist.  I find that most people fail to understand what the lifestyle truly is.  It?s not something to take lightly nor is it a chance for someone to jump into and call themselves a Dom and beat the shit out of someone.

I have a few simple rules that I follow as a Dom.

1: I am a Dom, and you are the Sub I will remember you are a living creature and as such it is my responsibility to care for and nurture you.

2: It is my job to lead you into a new world.

3: As the Sub I look upon you as a flower and I am the gardener who watches over the flower until it blooms. 

4: The highest honor to the Dom is see the Sub grow to his or her highest potential.