MasterErrant

Have you ever been on a rollercoaster?  or even just driving on a hilly road realy fast?  You know that Fluttery whirling sensation you get as you crest the top?   Take that and mix it liberally with the most exceptional kind of sexual arousal, (you know the squirming gasping rubbing up against things like a cat kind? )  Mix Them together and make it last for Hours!

and then you get to wake up safe and warm in arms that belong to one you know cherishes you...

And all you have to do is ingore the dickheads and chudwahs...Good luck

While I'm thinking about it Myopinion on the Lifestyle vs roleplayer argument


All Bdsm be it casual kinky sex play or the deepest imaginable TPE is a Game! it IS roleplaying


No contract of slavery ever written is anything but possible evidence of guilt in a criminal  case act and as for punishment, discipline and physical play...well assault and battery are some of the words used to refer to things like that.  And you cannot consent to giveing up your basic rights.


A few years ago my wife and I ran a group (RMPE) and helped out with the Labyrinth Here in denver.  And I clearly remember the lawyer talking about waivers of liability and how their primary use was to show juries that someone was doing something dangerous and knew it.

I guess I'm to opinionated...but here's another

BDSM IS SEX!

Somewhere along the line people forgot that the whole "What we do isn't sex" mantra  was a public propaganda effort to distance the NYC (If I remember correctly TES) community from swingers and sex buisnesses. which were in bad odor at that time.

that being said play isn't Fucking and doesn't have to involve any kind of intercourse...Pleasure is merely another tool in the arsenal of a well rounded Top.

I see a lot of stuff on here about "lifestyle"   vs play, "I'm a sub not a slave"  "i'm not into 24/7" ect.  what does this stuff really mean?
  Not a whole lot acutally.  We kinks are pretty sloppy (As a group) about labels.  Afterall if you have so much as one little rule which is always in effect you are a 24/7 lifestyler!

Now As for Top/Dom/Masterand bottom/sub/slave
These are just as vague. 
but to define them for myself...Well look at it like this.

"A bottom gets on her knees to get what she wants.
A submissive is put on her knees because being put there is what she wants.
and a slave is on her knees bscause that is where she is happy."

funny thing is you can be one two or all of these things.   a slave is not automaticall a sub.

My personal philosophy on BDSM and relationships.

  Trust, trust, trust and trust.

1:  Trust is to be earned not taken for granted.  nor is it implied.
2:  For a relationship to thrive trust must be nurtured and strentghened.  Not only does my lady need to know she is safe in my care.  She needs to know that I will take her only to those places I can bring her back from.  
only then can she fly high and free!
1:  Trust goes both ways.  Not only does most of Physical BDSM play constitute abuse ib the eyes of the law.  But to do my best I have to know you the good and the not so good...It is an unpleasant truth that many of our brothers and sisters in the BDSM family craved and needed these sensations we revel in for years before they discovered the rest of us.  and that there are many predators who have taken advantage of this.  Perhaps the hardest to earn trust of all is that which allows you to open these wounds to another...But it is vital that a partner especially a Top/Dom/Master knows these things.
4:  we must trust our community.  That they have our back.  We need to watch for predators, as well as posers.  No one else can police out family.  And if we observe something bad enough we need to go to the law...

"all that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing"