MasterDomm

A. No. This is not about sex.

Q. I notice your slaves are a variety of ages and body types. All other things being equal, do you have a preference?

A. My preference is more intellectual than physical. I do not look particulary for meek submissive ?doormat? types. That doesn?t work to well for Me, especially when it comes to anyone I would collar as a slave. They really have to be strong, assertive even. And there is a very important reason for that; when a mousy sub submits, it really doesn?t mean much if she is submitting to pretty much everyone. When a strong woman submits, that means something. Like all relationships, it all starts with the brain. I expect intelligence and I also expect a slave to have her own thoughts. I realize this may not be the way people think I would be, but this is real life for Me.

The submissives who I have been involved with who are meek, I have always tried to help them find their voice. I insist on education and self enhancement.

Sorry if that bursts anyone?s fantasy bubble.

A. Well, you know, a lot of true subs,  slaves & masochists want to beg, that?s part of it for them, part of the rush they need. That also falls into the category of reading a slave, knowing what she can really take. One of the most masochistic bitches I have ever used would plead and beg and cry all through a scene. The instant it was over, she would beg Me to start again.

A. No. of course i welcome a subs input, for the most part. I mean, if a sub has asthma, I would expect her to tell Me that. And I do ask if she has any physical or health issues that I should know about. But, remember, the subs who come to Me know what they are getting into and know what they need, so in some ways, this issue about not voicing limits is not nearly as much of a big deal as you might think. And, as you know, I am very up front about it. When I tell a sub My rules, if she has a problem with that, I certainly respect it and suggest we are not right for each other.

A. That is when a slave or sub essentially gives a universal consent, turning over all power. In most cases, when doms and subs get together, or are planning to get together, they sort of negotiate things in a point by point way. You know, spanking is okay but whipping is not; that sort of thing. As I mentioned earlier, i am open to conversation on the subject as long as things dont result in the  slave or sub topping from the bottom.

In My case, I simply don?t allow that.

Q. Do you respect limits and  use "safe words."
How do you view the subject?

A. I go to a few events, but not many. I?ve been to Swamp in bristol and a few in nottigham when i lived there, When i travelled a lot due to my job i was lucky to find Beat Me in St. Louis and the Fetish Flea in Boston. I have also been to some private parties on occasion, and I used to go to the Vault in New York occasionally.  Most people don?t really know who I am, so I can?t really say if I am accepted, although when someone finds out, they usually come over to say hello.

I?m sure there are some in the lifestyle who would suggest I am too extreme. The funny thing is, those people, if they take time to meet Me and get to know Me, are usually very surprised to find out I seem like a very normal guy, which I am, actually.

I will take this opportunity to say, I have always been truly astonished at the amount of bigotry and narrow mindedness in the scene. I mean, the general public is very ill informed about S&M. People who have no experience with the lifestyle have a pretty negative view of it. You would think that would lead those who are in the lifestyle to be pretty open minded about other peoples? kinks, but it appears that is not the case.

It reminds me of the alcoholic who gets drunk on beer criticizing the ones who get drunk on wine or whiskey; not that I would equate our lifestyle to alcoholics. But I use that levity to make a point. It is a failing of our society in general that we see far too much as strictly black and white when there are so many shades of gray.     

A. Honestly, I have never analyzed that very much. It is important to understand that I am in no way interested in inflicting pain on anyone who is not consenting. Actually, these days, a prospect pretty much has to be a true masochist or at least a pretty good painslut Sub

I mean, some people like Marmite, others don?t. I do truly believe that we are wired this way, dominant, submissive, sadist, masochist, whatever your particular flavor. I think I can speak with some authority about this, and in My experience, there is just no real universal trait that people in the lifestyle seem to have. All sorts of backgrounds, all walks of life, and yet, some seek pain, either giving or receiving, and others clearly don?t.

I will say, the one part I do truly love is the look on the face, in the eyes, of a slave or submissive, when she is really taking it, and she knows this is so real. I think a quote by  Umberto Eco, sums things up, who wrote that "the only thing that stimulates an animal more than pleasure is pain."

As for being wired like this, think about it, it makes perfect sense, especially for submissives and masochists. For thousands of years, there were very few people in charge and a lot of people who were just trying to survive. If the powers that be saw someone who was strong, who exhibited leadership, who was a threat, they would kill them, pure and simple. So, from a genetic perspective, being submissive and being able to take a lot of pain would be a great help in surviving. Of course, a few of the leaders did make it through, as well.

Q.  How do you acquire slaves and submissives? 

Q.What was your first BDSM experience?

Q. When did you first become aware that you were a sadist? Were your interests fueled by any fiction or pornography?