Lordofyou

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It really troubles me that so many people on here advertise stating what they are looking for, then never even respond when you reply to them. Common courtesy, normal human interaction, common sense, would all tell one that it takes about 10 seconds to do the right thing and reply to someone that has taken the trouble to write to you. Another pet peeve is so called submissives giving long lists of what they won't do. That conversation is for the 'negotiating session' after one gets to know someone on just a person to person level. Also, the main factor in bdsm is trust, submissives need to trust their Dominants to do the right thing for them. I think the reason for all these checklists of "I won'ts" is that too many submissives rush into meeting someone, get hurt mentally, physically or both, then don't look into the mirror and see where the fault often lies... themselves. They haven't taken common sense precautions before meeting people who in many cases, are total strangers not only to them, but also to other members of their local bdsm community. So first thing... get to know something about that potential Dominant (or submissive for that matter) then meet in a public place and not in some motel to get your butt beat the first night. If the Dominant is real, they will understand you caution. Second, if you want more real replies from real Dominants, don't start off by telling them what they can and cannot do, or what you will or won't do. Hopefully for both of you that conversation can take place later, once you know each other better. If you wait a bit and know the person, I am guessing the list of won'ts will be a lot shorter. Thanks for reading this if you have gotten this far. It is meant to help, not hinder.

I can understand a submissive advertising that they are  a 'brat', because that can be considered a challenge to a Dom. However, to say that one is a 'bitch' has an entire different connotation. I can't think of anyone who wants a 'bitch' or a 'bastard', for that matter, in their lives.

It has been brought to my attention that my comment on walking the talk may have offended some.. my point was, and I see now I didn't state it clearly was to point out some on here state they are bi and interested in a poly relationship, then back off when it is offered to them.. I just re-read my previous entry and I am not sure what I was thinking when I wrote it, seems I didn't complete my thoughts, maybe I was distracted by something at the time.. for all I may have offended, I apologize.. mea culpa..

Its odd to me that for all the bi-sexual ads I see on here, none wish the opportunity to serve an experienced Master and assist Him in bringing the joy of a girl-girl relationship to his absolutely lovely submissive. It would seem to me the chance of a bdsm lifetime for an attractive bi submissive. I guess few on here walk the talk...

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