If you're currently involved in a relationship and your partner is not aware of your extra curricular activities then you are cheating.  I am not interested in cheaters or liars.

And, since you decided to be horribly, horribly rude I'm going to call you out.  "Animalneed" - you are a cheater if your wife doesn't know what you're doing.  That's not an opinion or judgement, just simple fact.