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I am a 63 year old straight male, overweight, (need to lose about 80 pounds), married, (wife has no knowledge of my interest in BDSM), and retired for the last year and a half. Since 1997, I have been into nudism, have done the swinging scene, and didn't really care for it (swinging). I am new to this lifestyle, and am still in the basic learning process. I am not sure what I want from the lifestyle, or for that matter what I can offer. If anyone has any suggestions or constructive criticism to offer, I will gladly accept it. I do not learn well from subtle hints. Please be very clear with your suggestions, even blunt if you must. I have a pretty thick skin, so it is pretty hard to hurt my feelings. My only exposure to BDSM is from watching videos, which I am sure are for the most part done by actors, not everyday people (ie. amateurs). Some of the things I have seen in videos look pretty scary to me, and some look pretty tame, but since I have no first-hand knowledge, who am I to judge. I am trying to learn what I can from the message boards and chat areas, and am sure I will probably either anger some people or make them laugh at me for my naivete', but that is how I learn. I will not post anything on the boards from now on until I get a better understanding. As was once said, It is better to keep silent and be thought of as a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
4/15/2011 8:26:57 AM

Being new to this, I am trying to learn as much as possible.  One of the things I have learned recently is that a loving, caring, respectful and trusting relationship MUST be formed before a good d/s relationship can be formed.  Previously, for some reason I always thought the relationship could be formed beginning as a d/s relationship.  Now that I have thought about it, it is only common sense.  Would you want to have a d/s relationship with someone you don't know?  I think not.  Would a dom care about your well-being and safety if he/she didn't know or care about you?  To me, doing a scene with someone who is not a friend that you have a relationship with is like playing russian roulette with only one empty chamber.

 

I am still learning and any advice anyone would like to give me is welcome.

4/12/2011 7:39:49 PM

Thinking about my little cock and what use it could possibly be to anyone.  I believe it should be put into chastity and displayed to show everyone what happens to useless, impotent little cocks.  For some reason, i find it much less humiliating showing it to another man than to a woman.  For some strange reason I feel that a woman who is used to only seeing normal or larger cocks would enjoy laughing at it.  I think if my balls were a little smaller it might look a little bit bigger, too, but i also realize that rulers don't lie.

tiffanyandco
 
 Age: 26
 Hoboken, New Jersey