Lilybear

I don't have a lot of experience making first contact, but I'm sure it's really difficult. It must be daunting to message someone you're interested in, and try to make your email stand out in some way, and then have her delete the email without reading it.

Rejection sucks. I can't speak for vaginas everywhere, but I appreciate that you want to approach me.

It's always flattering, and sometimes a little funny, but I get a lot of emails daily, and I can't respond to all of them. I want to, because somewhere deep inside there's an obedient little girl who can't stand the thought of turning her nose up at something someone wrote for her. I want to answer everything everyone ever sends me. 

This want usually turns into me falling behind on emails, and then I stop answering emails altogether because I don't want to reply to your email that you sent months ago just so you can remember you emailed me months ago and I didn't say anything.

So I started getting mean. I'm notoriously bad with light conversation. I don't see the point of it, and it doesn't come naturally to me. Someone I have a lot of respect for told me a few months ago that emails, phones, any way of getting in touch with me, should be used by me in my own convenience. So now I ignore 90% of my texts, and 95% of my emails. Unless I already adore you or you said something very clever, I probably won't answer.

This doesn't mean I'm not very flattered you wrote me. It means I get a lot of emails and honestly, I'm a terrible conversationalist. I'm doing both of us a favour by not replying :)

After this, if you still want to message me, I've realised somethings about me that may help you. 

• I respond well to short and sweet.
• I don't make light conversation, but I do answer questions.
• If I ask you questions about yourself, I'm sincerely interested.
• If you take awhile to answer me, I get intrigued.
• I don't mind if you get mean. I'll either laugh at you, or enjoy it.

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