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As
a natural submissive, i ultimately seek the right One for a long term
relationship. In the mean time, i'm seeking to develop friendships and
learn from others in this lifestyle (Dominants or submissives).
What i am trying to say is...that i will only completely submit to One...the One that is a good fit and trust is built with...it won't happen right away, and we'll only know if we are right for each other through being friends first.
i
understand that many here don't care about true and permanent
relationships...and are therefore willing to jump in one with anyone
that happens along...thus, what i call the “Velcro Collar Syndrome.” That just isn’t for me. i'm not looking to just fulfill fantasies online, either.
i've
been officially in this lifestyle for almost 6 years now, though am
fairly new to and curious about the bdsm aspects of it. It is my belief
that a D/s type relationship is natural and the way it was intended to
be. i suppose i am somewhat old fashioned and conservative in ways, but
am also open to new ideas.
The Dominant i seek is genuine
& sincere, trustworthy & honorable, has a sense of humor &
self confidence, and is capable of being completely in control...in a
responsible way. This includes control of Himself, as One can't handle
control of another if He can't control His own self. The right One that
i give myself completely to, takes good care of Himself and what
belongs to Him...in all ways, not just physically. The One i seek for a
long term relationship is single, with or without kids, and enjoys
being around them (though i don't have any). He is intelligent, and
willing to learn and better Himself, as well as to guide me to do the
same. He will not be stagnant and satisfied with mediocre in Himself or
His submissive.
my desire is to be pleasing in my submissiveness
in all ways...and to surrender completely to the right One, but to also
have a companionship in other activities outside the lifestyle. i
desire to grow each day, to be stronger with each lesson.
The
One i decide to give myself to will have earned the respect, trust,
submission, and devotion that i so willingly want to give.
i
love the outdoors/ being in the country, and have always thought that
setting would be enjoyable/intense for some lifestyle related
activities...as well as vanilla fun. Sports, camping, hiking, walks,
music, card/board/video games, movies, puzzles, traveling, history,
reading, and learning new things are just a few of the activities i
enjoy outside the lifestyle.
Friends
have described me as spirited, easy going, shy and quiet at first, fun
loving, daring at times, having a good sense of humor, caring, giving,
and down to earth. Those who know me well also know there are
certain areas i have to work on constantly, and am always seeking ways
to better myself.
In
time, i'm open to trying most (safe) things, and to having soft limits
stretched with the One i trust. The One i seek will plant seeds for me
to try new things and draw me slowly to the edge, yet be sensitive to
my needs...gaining trust and understanding through various forms of
communication.
In the beginning of a
relationship, communicating limits is a MUST for safety reasons...and
any Dominant worth His salt realizes this and expects a submissive to
communicate these things to Him. Those who claim a true submissive
should never have any limits at all are not grounded
in reality...but more into living out some fantasy, and asking for
trouble. Yes, in time...the relationship changes and grows...and
trust develops to a point where there can be a total exchange of
power. This does not happen overnight. A Dominant has every right
to draw you beyond your comfort zone and expect complete
obedience...but a responsible, caring Dominant would never cross a line
that would cause harm to her...physically or emotionally. It takes
a wise Dominant to know the difference, and one who uses His power in a
responsible manner, rather than selfishly.
Hard limits that are NOT negotiable are blood, bodily wastes, animals, and drugs/smoking.
If
You can relate to what i've written, and are sincerely seeking the same
type of friendship or relationship, i'd love to hear from You. On
average, i am only here once a week or so, just to briefly peek in...so
be patient if You write here and i don't respond right away. my real
life profession keeps me extremely busy, especially during the week.
Will send a picture after we’ve talked some, but real life dictates the necessity of keeping it private until that time.
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