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	About Larubia I DON'T WANT TO ERASE ALL I HAVE WRITTEN BUT FOR RIGHT NOW, I AM ONLY LOOKING FOR FRIENDS. I am still looking for a new Dominant friend/companion (50-65) who is moral in character, imaginative and responsible. No custodial parents, non-smoker preferred. Good looking and fit a plus. Please be financially secure. I offer a life mate who is capable, responsive, intelligent, well groomed, pretty and funny. I offer personal service such as personal care (grooming, manicure, pedicure), cooking, home management and other skills. I am retired but have taken a part time job. Okay so I have to go into bitch mode now. Please no men with toupees, there is not one which looks good. No nose hairs, ear hairs or dirty nails. Freshly washed and groomed is expected. Don't meet me in sneakers unless we are going for a hike, especially after you made numerous requests for my apparel to be such and so. No grossly overweight men, there will be no sex. Be educated, urbane and sophisticated. Sorry to be so negative, but for goodness sakes men, have some pride in self and at our ages, some self awareness would be good too.

Hello all and sorry I haven't written or answered e mail. I almost never go online. I am not being rude I just do not answer e mail much these days. I am so sorry. I do not mean anything by it, I am just turning into a recluse.

I am sorry I have been out of circulation. I have a new job, a new dog and lately these two things seems more important than anything else. I would still like a slave to train who is very service oriented, not sexually oriented but that seems like a dream. i am trying to be good. I have so little time and so many things to accomplish. If I could have my way, I would just live in an RV and travel the states and Canada and meet people and have a good time. Anyone on a pension like me who wants to travel and be at my beck and call?

For the last few years we have all been complaining that there is no where to hang out with our own kind, a place for the mature and bona fide members of our community. Well there now is. The Iron Bell Academy is a lushly decorated play space with all the amenities one could want. There are toys and apparatus in virtually every corner of this large loft apartment. The owner has spared no expense in providing for your playing pleasure. The couches are comfy the equipment clean and well maintained and varied. Some pieces are indeed unique. I had a very intense suspension scene with a young man half my age. The fact that I did is telling as to the vibe in this space as I hadn't met him before, but was formally introduced by the manager. This place feels like the overly decorated pro dom houses of the late 90's and early 00's. I recommend that you connect to them through their own website. www.IronBellAcademy.com to check out their calendar and their party schedule. I promise you, you will be charmed and satisfied. La Rubia

Please support them. They are located in Queens, NY Address will be provided once you are verified and become a member of the academy.

So here I go again. I turned on my profile again. Heavenly enough the first man I went on a date with (the only man actually) really seems nice. He is adorable by the way which doesn't hurt and 15 years my junior. Let's see if we are a match. We are still talking, I hope he isn't married. I am also talking to a few other men but I haven't gone out yet on another date. I met a nice boy, college grad student and we seem to be a match. Let's see if that pans out. August I am gong RVing from LA to Vancouver. Let's hope that we have no break downs and such.

Dear wonderful verterans, Happy Veteran's Day. I am so happy you are home safe to enjoy it. i salute you and thank you for keeping me safe and secure. I hold you all in my prayers every day. Bring the troops home soon. Kisses and hugs, La Rubia

I just had to get away from NYC so when my cousin offered a few days in Maine I went.? Screw United airlines and their blackout dates for frequent flier miles.? However I got a good deal on Orbitz and flew to Portland in a little over an hour.? It is so beautiful there and there was no need for air conditioning most of the time.? My cousin's? house is adorable and all on one level.? The ranch felt like a very big apartment.? She showed me her basement and then joked about what a good dungeon it would make.? We both laughed because BDSM kind of fascinates and freaks her out at the same time.? So along with Denver and the Southwest, I am adding Portland and it's environs as a potential retirement town.? By January 2011, I am done. ?

Happy Easter to all my friends.? If you want to meet up, we are going to be hanging out in front of St. Patrick's Cathedral.? Just look for all the tall drag queens and I will be the tiny woman with a bejeweled dragonfly on top of my top hat. ?

I have been reading some wonderful profiles from very appealing Dominants.? While I find that I cannot respond to most of them because of my issues, I long to.? On one level though I will serve.? If anyone out there would like me to edit or otherwise proof his profile for grammar, spelling, and syntax, I would be more than happy to.? Since to command, one must command on all levels, to have errors so blatant in your profile would undermine your purpose.? If you can't control yourself, how would you control another?? Just my two cents and my offer of assistance.

I had a wonderful time at Night of a Thousand Gowns.? It was so nice to see so many volunteers I knew from last year.? It was also nice to see so many leather people volunteering.? If you want to see me and the wonderful outfits of my friends you must go to Facebook.? However you must know my real name to find me. ? You could type in NOATG too.? It is also rewarding to see so many men still viewing my profile and sending me messages.? I really wish I were healthier and could respond.? In all fairness thought, that is not possible.? Truth in advertising what?? Anyway, to all you men who find me still attractive thank? you and I hope you find the one for you.? Happy Lashes and stripes.

I am at it again.? I have been asked to "consult" about Philadelphia Leather Pride Night which is coming up November 7.? If you are in the Philadelphia area, be sure to come by.? Contact me for further information.? I have a lot of admirers and that is so kind of you all.? It is kind of sad that my health forbids me for pursuing D/s or S/m like I used to when I was younger. ? Hugs to you all.? rubia sucia?

Leather Pride Night is fast aproaching, June 20 at Splash in NYC.? If you would like to present (it's an auction) or volunteer ( We need your body and your muscles, and your brains.? LOL ) contact me here and then I will redirect you.? Rubia Sucia, MC and one of the Co Chairs of LPN

I am watching super bowl.? Why on earth am I doing that? I can't follow it, don't know how and am generally bored by it.? The only thing I ever liked is Alan Michael's voice as he was my across the street neighbor when we were both little and before he moved to LA when he was in Junior High School.? I cleaned the house.? I did play with my previous Dom on Saturday and that was wonderful and nice and familiar.? Again though I was alone on Saturday night.? I love my charity work and I am so busy, but I realize I do really want a Saturday night guy.? At least for starters. ?

I am so very sad, I feel as if my house has burned down.? I lost most of my photographic work from 2003-2006 with first a PC failure and then my external hard drive failure.? I think it was my own fault and that makes me want to beat my head against the wall.? I guess I will have to go back to Alaska and do it all again.? Problem is, I can't afford that trip again as I went on a small ship of 88 people.? It was the absolute best. ?

Happy Holidays to all.

Dear Readers:? This year I am in charge of the volunteers for Night of a Thousand Gowns, which is a gala charity event put on by the Imperial Court of New York.? I would love the leather community be represented.? The Empreror who is stepping down is a well known leather daddy from South New Jersey.? I want volunteers in full leather (formal wear or tuxedo, or any outrageous but gorgeous outfit) to help make our night wonderful.? You won't be in the ball itself, but out front or behind stage or at the ticket booth,? The event is $300 a seat so volunteering is a good deal and we will feed you.? If your are at all interested, please contact me.?
The ball is on March 21 at the Marriott Marquis in Times Square in NYC.? Help me out, let's be a wonderful presence.? Viscountess Rubia Sucia, Imperial Court of New York,? Yours in leather and for the Crown

The next event I will have the privilege of coordinating (along with the terrific Sigrid) is the Leather Pride Flea Market being held on Saturday, Nov 15 at The Center.? It is an all day event put on by GMSMA. (GayMen's SM Association) They have generously given LPN space on the third floor for the second year in a row to do their flea market.? We made $2,000 last year so come on down and pick through our kinky wares and bargains.? While there visit the new vendors and take the classes offered during GMSMA's Leather Fest.? See you there

So I put red rinse in my hair,? it stays about two weeks or so.? It has come up kind of magenta pink, but funky.? We will see tomorrow if the students like it.? I am already planning my new gown for NOATG.? Seafoam green silk charmuese with a lime green raw silk coat with stand up collar.? I saw a pair of over the elbow leather gloves with four buttons in seafoam green at J.Crew.? Anyone have a spare $130 plus shipping for these gloves?? Any amount would help.? LOL? I am kidding of course.? Still...

I have three people for blonde but mostly people think natural is better.? So far, I have had another haircut and am very happy with it micro short.? Even women on the bus have told me I look fabulous and that few can carry it off but I can.? I have also heard that I look very "downtown".? That's a plus in my book, but funnily enough I thought of myself as a kind of downtown girl inside although I looked like an uptown girl on the outside

Okay now some folks are saying I should go blond again.? Anyone care to chime in about whether I should do anything to my hair?

A man called an Unmarried Dom saw fit to write me a note and say I was too f*** fat.? What a disgusting person, I hope something horrible happens to him soon and he suffers greatly.? I have never spoken to this mouseburger, written to this slimy toad, nor interacted with him in anyway.? Why he would choose random women from this list and send ugly notes just amazes me. He will get his, karma is absolute.

so the auction for my hair fetched $270 for NCSF.? Check back in two days for the photo of my shorn self.

There seem to be a whole slew of local men who are viewing me.? I wonder if I should change my mind and start to talking to any of them?? I am thinking of the sultry August nights and how nice it might be having a romantic dinner with someone.? I am probably being silly though.

Sunday night next week, during Floating World, I will be doing a Chinese Auction to raise money for NCSF.? I will be auctioning off the right to cut my hair off (or not).? The reserve is $200.? The amount for a crewcut is $500.? The time is 6:30 in the dungeon.? Bring cash if you are interested in being part of the bidding.

One week until Thunder in the Mountains. I am wandering around the National Parks in Colorado and Utah. It is so beautiful there are times I am moved to tears. It is so quiet when you get to the end of some trails. I just have to sit and realize there are some places in this country which are unspoiled and you can hear yourself breathe and think. I need to get out and do this more often. Yeah, for Pagosa Springs Spa, a wonderfully restful place. Kudos to Rhonda who unknotted my body and made me black and blue too.

I will be on photo safari for the next several weeks, so if you write and I don't write back, don't take it personally.? I will also be going to Thunder in the Mountains the end of July,.? Have a great summer everyone.

While we do not have the figures yet for the night, LPN was a resounding success from my point of view.? We would have liked more volunteers as we were about 40 short this year.? This was most unusual, but the ones who helped out were extraordinary individuals who deeply care about community and it showed on saturday night and again at Folsom Street East on Sunday.? Hugs to all, Rubia

Anyone want to volunteer for Leather Pride Night?? Anyone have anything to donate? ?

I sit on the organizing committee of Leather Pride Night, which is the largest S/m related auction in the Northeast, perhaps the nation.? Anyway, it is held on June 21, 2008 at a club called Splash on 17th west of 5th Avenue on Manhattan, NYC.? So if you are going to be around come on out and support some well deserved charities.? La Rubia

I read with interest a post by a gentlemen who was very eloquent and who has correspondended with me before.? I revisted his profile, because he revisited mine.? He has not inititiated anything this go round.?

He was somewhat frustrated by "edge play" and I believe in my humble opinion that he is confusing "edge play" with "hard, pain play".? One is indeed walking to the edge of ..., you fill in the points, and pushing boundaries both physical (death) and mental.? I think that everyone before starting should understand if they are one or the other.? I always consider myself an edge player and yet hate to be hit by flails, canes or paddles.? I adore whips however, so I always explain before I meet someone.? It really eliminates a whole lot of excessive verbiage.? the gentlemen aforementioned talks of tens of thousands of cane strokes which actually has nothing to do with anything but numbers.? Ultimately funnily enough, he suffered to the extent that he had to refrain from caning.? I wish all of you luck in refining your profiles to the point that you get the right combination of desires and turnoffs written down.? I also hope that it reads well enough to get you the appropriate partner.? In addition, I hope that with the right partner you may grow and expand all your horizons.?

Volunteer, support the community.? Leather people should really support one another.? don't hide in your house thinking of kinky sex, live the lifestyle as openly as possible for your job security.? We are not a dirty little secret, we are an alternative way of loving.? Grow up!!!

Also please realize that we are so much more than a desire for kinky sex.

Oh, I just came to a very astute realization. Hear me girls. If a man lists flea markets or garage sales high on his list of fun things to do or high on his interest list, he will not take you to dinner after the first date. He will never part with a penny. He is either too cheap, didn't manage his money well or generally is very selfish. Now if you are 20 something he might be excused but if he is over 55 watch out. Soon you'll retire and he will expect you to start paying for him if you have managed your money well. I don't usually get very negative here, but wow this just dawned on me. On my list, this is way up there with married guys cheating on their wives and expecting you to okay it.? R

I am staying home this weekend and going to do vanilla things.? I might on the off chance go to Weehawken for a dinner party, but vanilla it is.? Musica Viva society is having a wonderful Bach concert on sunday and I am their "box office"? They called and begged so since I mean to be of service, there it is.? There is a college night TES party at Paddles tonight.? Boy is that something I want to miss.? I adore the hostess, Antonia, but even she couldn't entice me to an evening of spankers and such.? Early on there will be things about piercings and I love that, but the elevator is broken in my building so up five flights of stairs is enough once a day for me.? Hope you all have a glorious weekend full of the things that? you long for.? Rubia

So the Shirley Temple (oy) routine went over very, very well.? We performed for the residents at Rivington House on Rivington and Eldrige street.? So many very ill people, it was nice to make their Sunday thrilling and the cake was good too.? It is true that giving to others makes you get back twice.? What a joy to make people smile, laugh and be happy.? R

I am so proud, I was made a Baroness on Sunday, that is a move up of one level in five months. That's kind of a record. I will be performing on Saturday and on Sunday. Yeah. Funnily enough, considering I don't do age play, daddy little girl or any of that stuff, I am going to be performing as Shirley Temple on Sunday. On Saturday, I am going to be a sexy nurse. I get to wear ny scene nurse's outfit for my gay friends. They all love to see my real tits in a down and dirty push up bra. LOL I also am bringing some of my medical toys for the act. Hey, these people are dying of A.I.D.S., they are entitled to all the bawdy they can get. Hugs to everyone, Rubia

The fashion show was rocking and raised a lot of money.? Kudos to Doc Hoskins the MC.? I do love that man.?

It is my birthday on Friday,? Ugh, do I hate getting older.? Rubia

?GMSMA Fetish Fashion Show tonight.? yeah, a great chance to wear my chaps and leather vest.? I get to kind of go out in drag.? Maybe I should wear my mustache as well.? LOL? Hope everyone has a great weekend.? Don't drink and drive or throw that flogger too hard when inebriated.? Tee Hee??

all of the response to the new photo is positive. ? I guess it is because of the journal entry.? Anyway, no overly aggressive men lately, but no men who move forward either.? Sad.? I am still hanging out with the girls most weekends.? I am greatly looking forward to Night of a Thousand Gowns on March 29.? New gown, new jewels, hopefully new title.? Wish me luck, drop me a line and if you want to contribute to our charity please go to double you, double you, double you dot ICNY dot org and contribute in the name of Lady LaRubia Puttanesca.? BTW the crazier your court name the better it is.? Why not think of what? yours would be and send me a note about it.? My best friend HRH Prince Jiffe Lube wants to be amused also.? Hugs

I changed my photo to reflect one taken last week.? I was girding my loins for some negative responses from men who think, I think I am a princess.? Actually the photo is for a charity event for Imperial Court of New York.? This is a huge national charity which provides aide, comfort and charity to dozens of adults and children living with HIV and AIDS.? If helping others makes me a princess, I will accept the title, but for me it is just serving the community.? As I have no Master at the moment, serving the community is what brings me joy.? Rubia

YES GIANTS, YES, YES YES NY. ? WE BEAT THE PATRIOTS!!!!!! ? NONE AS PATRIOTIC AS WE.

Please tell me the purpose of including a submissive of the opposite sex in your profile's picture.? Is it to prove you can get someone?? A photo like that doesn't effect me one way or another.? Your face is the most appealing, preferably with a smile.? It can't hurt to smile unless you have just had surgery. ?

Funnily enough, I have been talking with several very interesting people lately. Let's hope it continues and that I remain as interesting to them as well.

If anything about me is objectionable, why in the world would you contact me? Just another example of something the cat could eat. LOL Now I am not disappointed, I am fully amused. You all have a lovely, lovely weekend and I hope you find a great match.

Mouseburgers!!! If interested what that is, write to me and ask.

I will be 56 this February. No, I don't look it, even with the under eye wrinkles. I have delicate health and the wear and tear on my system shows there more than anywhere else. However, this entry is not about me and my trials, it is about the liars online. Some men state their age on their profiles, okay, good and honest. NOT!!! Because when you send me your photos, (won't continue correspondance without a photo) it is so clearly your lie made manifest. Oh, perhaps I shoudn't say you lie about your age, but if that is what 50, 52 looks like, (more like 60, 62) I feel pity for you. Clearly you look years older than your true age. Guys, guys, truth is everything. Come on, don't lie about anything. You're a dominant, goodness be a man. If I meet you, I will know, as you will know when you see me for the first time. Have a Happy New Year!

Holiday season is so upon me and I am so busy I have not had a moment to breathe. All of this is good so far. I am not one to casually play, but I am doing some scenes with old friends. Not generally of a romantic nature, but great fun. The woman who I played with on Friday night toward the end of the scene invited a former Top of mine to join in and that was fun. Earlier in the evening I met a new friend who had a whip around his neck. Sometimes that is all it takes, little negotiation but lots of heavy play. It happened that I went one scene to another. I was flying both times, but I snapped myself out of it as I didn't belong to them. Interesting. The last three times I have played, I have flown, but snapped myself out of it. I realize that unless I am romantically involved with the person, it isn't that fun to fly unless they are there and all solicitious to you. All in all, I have been having a wonderful time and On New Year's Eve I will play with the same people again. I say play again, but unless my breasts get a little less red and black and blue and turn to green and yellow, I think I won't play. To all my readers and fans, the best in 2008. I wish you the partner of your dreams and barring that, I wish you the play mate of your dreams. If that is not your thing either, I wish you a help meet to listen to your every order and perform flawlessly. To all my submissive friends I wish you the Master/Mistress who can read and know your soul and your slaveheart. Love, Rubia

So I made my debut as a lip sync tonight and it was so much fun. I actually saw people crying at my song and that was wonderful. I sang to Nancy LaMott, "Just In Time for Christmas". I really love doing the charity work, so much more fulfilling serving community than serving one man just for the hell of it. These people in hospice and such are so worthy of my time and effort. I hardly even miss the sex, LOL. Right

Query? If you say Thank you, no thank you, why must the correspondant keep writing back insulting you. Why not never write again as clearly you two are ill-suited? As long as I live, the questions of things between a man and a woman will forever remain a mystery.

Paddles last night was weird. One minute 100 people, then after the Jay Wiseman talk, perhaps 20. I had brought rope because I thought it would be a practicum, so since I had rope lots of folks asked me to tie them. I do rope very prettily, too bad I couldn't have done a suspension scene. (On me not the people I tied.) Shibari Warrior had to leave to go home early and several of the other knotmen left immediately afterward. Paddles is not a very inviting place and every year it gets less so. Soon there will be no public place to play in NYC.

There were a few 20 somethings who refused to put away their personal electronic devices even though there are signs everywhere. I hate rudeness and entitlement especially from those who have paid no dues, have no manners and are entitled to "sh...". Just my two cents.

It has been more than six months since I have been online. I have gone on a great journey of the soul and have found that well, there are no new answers for me yet.

Just got back from Black Rose in DC and it was terrific. The cuts I have from those whips will last for weeks and that is good. Funny though, when I am home I can hardly play because of my ailments but at an event, well I am amazed at my masochism. By far the best scene was the one on Sunday night when Steve B, (Knot Steve) suspended me to the ceiling and then Lord Sedoh threw his bullwhip up at me. He got me so good, over and over again through my thong onto my clit ring and directly to the secret target. Rob The Bruce got me good on Friday and on Saturday nights and the bondage in the room was degrading and fulfilling. Thanks for letting me come. I don't usually talk about these kinds of things on my journal but I did have one good time this year.

Thunder in the Moiuntains was the best event I have been do in years. I only had two scenes but they were wonderful. Sir Talon from Nebraska suspended me on Friday night and that was terrific. I ran into Roger Stevens and Marci, "Singletails in the Scene" and he gifted me with a wonderful DVD of his video. Mine had about worn out. DVD's are easier to navigate around. He also gave me a good scratch on Sunday morning after a fierce scene with Fred Norman. Fred is not so popular on the East Coast but in Cali he is a 'god" He gifted me with a beautiful purple flgger with a myrtle wood handle. It was pretty nasty too on my back. He also hit me with a thinly braided cat with the suprpise of lead shot in the tips. Boy that scene on Saturday made me dissolve in cathartic tears. There were lots of wonderful scenes to watch. I like punching scenes and there were many. There were also a fish hook, mummification suspension on a cross that was humbling and quite spiritual. The space was great, the organizer Rich Doktor as gracious as they come and well it was Colorado, who can beat that? Even the talent show aws outstanding. The winner was the title holder Randall Kinnear, his interpretation of "Somewhere over the rainbow" was terrific even though he got some of the words wrong. Next year I recommend you all get to Denver to take part in "Thunder in the Mountains."

HMMM. I am not sure why I keep this profile up. Most notes to me end up in my bulk mailer as outside my parameters. Silly me I read and answer them anyway. Other men contact me, seem perfectly lovely, we even talk on the phone and then disappear. I guess there are a whole lot of other women out there, more charming, more accomplished, more giving, more loving, more obedient or just plain younger than me out there to do their bidding. Hmmm, More and more everyday I realize that my decision to serve the community instead of a Master is the right decision. If you serve they will come.

Off to Thunder in the Mountains in Denver on Thursday. My friends have planned lots of things for us to do, including some potential play dates. I have not been to Denver in 35 years. Mayhaps I will be sorry I ever left there. I will tell you how all went when I get back. rubia

The last two weeks have been a whirlwind. LPN was terrific or so I am told, I was so busy I hardly remember it. The after party was good too, lots of scotch, but no play. Alas. I decided to finally give up keeping a boy in my service. Or if I take on another, I would not do one without a formal contract with rules and regulations spelled out. Of course it is my fault for not being a better Top, but then again I am not a Top at all.

Several men have contacted me, but after the first e mail or so, they disappear. My decision to serve the community just keeps being proved to be the best course of action. Tonight I am going to do a walk through of the Dugout for our upcoming fund raiser for Gay and Lesbian Task Force. For those of you, who don't know, the Dugout is at the end of Christopher Street and is a leather, bear bar. They have a dress code, so check before you just stroll on over. Men have it easy, just take off your shirt and you're in. LOL

Yesterday was my last day of work and I have a blissful two months ahead of me for my leisure. I wish I could find someone to spend some quality time with during this idle.

Floating World and Thunder in the Mountains are going to be terrific too. If you run into me, shout out. r

Next weekend starts Leather Pride Week. Here in NYC there are events galore and the entire community comes together on June 16 to attend Leather Pride Night at Splash at 50 West 17th Street. doubleudoubleudoubledot leatherpridenightdotorg I have worked on this with about two dozen other people for a year. It's one of my favorite nights of the year. So those of the people out there who want to be real and truly support the community come on out. The doors open at 6:00 and the auction starts at 7. $15 before hand, $20 at the door. It is expected to sell out. We are invited to stay at Splash after to party, but there are at least half a dozen other events to go to after that depending on your preference. Come, have fun, help us raise money for good charities. rubia

If you lie about your age, I probably will know soon enough. Several men seem to be lying about their age, but they look so much older than their years, I worry about them. I just may take up the younger men on their offers, but that has never worked out before. I wonder how Demi and Aston do it?

Windows still not done, but all the laundry is done and the closet is full of spring clothes. If only spring would really be here. When friends ask me if I am trying to find another Master, I say I am retired. I like the sound of that. Funnily enough, lots of 30 something guys who want to know how to act toward possible Mistresses seem to be knocking at my door. I might help them. Teach em and send them on their way.

Finally the spring weather and every one out hand in hand. Sigh. Listening to Jonathan Schwartz and the American Song Book. Skipped church today and the MAST meeting but I am using it to catch up on things in the house and it feels good. Wish I had enough energy to wash the windows, but I don't. Trouble with me is that I believe every love song ever written. LOL

Hope all of you find spring is lightening your heart and your spirits.

I didn't realize how busy I have been until I saw how long ago it has been since I posted.

A fellow the other night asked if I had an agenda. I answered, not anymore than my profile suggests. In that, I have written quite extensively in that little blurb what I know I need and desire to be happy. Generally, I can provide for myself quite nicely you see.

So of course I thought on his words over a few days and I guess I have this vision of the way a sound relationship starts. If that is an agenda, then here goes: A few (not too many) e mails, perhaps an online chat or two, a few telephone calls. This portion could be a week to two weeks, prolonging it is just not necessary. Then comes a date or two. One is a date to meet and see if you have any chemistry, visual, sexual et al. Next comes a second date to see if the attraction sticks. Third for me would be a vanilla activity, again to see if we have something in common. After that I believe it is reasonable to see if the D/s, M/s or BDSM dynamic really works for us. I don't believe this time frame is unreasonable or unrealistic. I look forward to any responses to this journal entry. rubia

Time frame for all of this is perhaps about six weeks.

Going to Sir Morepheus's Aquarian Bash tonight. Although I had no thought of playing, it is my birthday in two weeks and how could one Aquarian say no to another? Do you hear that Sir Morpheus? Well old friends are gathering around and it feels nice, but wish I had the energy to really be on my game. I started iron pills today, old vanilla boyfriend's suggestion. Maybe later this week I will go for a B12 shot too. Ah old age, not for sissies. r

Disclosing to a potential submissive that you are married during the first real time, voice conversation is nice. But putting in your profile that you are married is the makings of a real Master. In my book, married men who have slaves who do not share the same space with their wives (blended household) are cheaters. IMHO

At this stage of my life I have no interest in being other than alpha in a relationship. I am looking for a partnership and particularly someone to retire with in the next ten years. If you are not headed that way, don't bother e mailing me. Please, please do not waste our time. r

Foreign films, the history channel, the science shows, knitting and working are about all I can handle these days. I am talking to a few good men ( I hope) but mostly I am enjoying the silence of only my thoughts and not someone elses. Every week I say I am going to go out on my own, but somehow it doesn't feel right. Funny how as I get older I am getting shyer. Even restaurant week finds me without any reservations, which is so unlike me. Not that I could eat a full meal. After the surgery I am still eating light which is good, I have lost 22 pounds since November 20 and it is okay. Birthday soon, three weeks. Perhaps I will throw myself a party, but we will see. r

My boy came over tonight but I wouldn't play with him. I just don't have it in me these days. I feel like I am going th rough a numb time. I have started to talk to people again, but it almost feels likes sleep walking. I seem to have energy for few things other than work and knitting. r

I did it, I went to Astor Place Barbers on Saturday and told Narcy to take the razor and chop off my long hair. It is now kind of an early punk grunge style. Those who have seen it, say it makes me look ten years younger. Hoorah!!!! The reinvention begins.

So New Year's Eve was fun. The party was strange but fun even though most of the guests were much younger than me. The vibes around town were really fine.

Now I wish I had a man here to add the correct punctuation to this Miles Davis CD I am listening to. I just can't get enough of MD lately.

Great, another New Year's Eve with friends and not with my happily, every after. In the last 8 years, I thought I had it twice. Both times it fizzled. All I want to do is love someone and have them love me back. For me D/s and S/m need to be combined with love. It wasn't always like that. I guess because I was so frivolous about love my whole life and didn't take men and relationships seriously it is now coming back to haunt me. I waited too long to settle down and now it probably will never happen. Arghh I have become what my grandmother always talked about, a maiden lady.

Well my ex came by and I gave him the last of his things. This has been a struggle for almost a year. I needed a kinky life coach to help me get out from under. If anyone needs some coaching I highly recommend Catherine Gross. Anyway, I told him that I would always be there for him no matter what but I said we were so not for each other. We had a different vision of life and besides according to him he already had several other regular subs. He doesn't need me. He looked at me and said, it was just a phase I was going through and after I got my health back, we would be back together. He was heading down the subway stairs to go in one direction while I was walking away. I just can't believe that after all the ugly fights, the realization that we were not at all alike, and were poison for each other, he would think that I wasn't serious. I looked at him with tears and disbelief in my eyes and then just crossed the street and disappeared. I didn't even try to find him on the platform while I was waiting for the train. How can you love someone so much it hurts and yet know that he is not for you?

Don't care if I don't find another Master, right now happy with what I have. I am recovering nicely from my surgery. I am involved in community again rather than in a relationship and that feels the best right how. Was talking to a new boy but that I am afraid will take more energy than I have. Helping organize LPN 2007 and moderating at DSF and going to events seems like a good fit right now. Can't wait until I retire and I can be out. Yeah!!!. This year is going so fast and I am sure the days will just slip by. Happy Holidays to each and everyone of you. r

How many out there want a woman for all seasons? Whenever I want to do something other than get beat (which is not that often these days as I am aging and ailing) my ex (yes we still fight for goodness sakes) calls me vanilla. That is his worse curse for me. He thinks that everyone who wants to do anything else other than beat women all day is not a Dominant and isn't doing Sm. He also thinks that the louder his voice is the more I will understand what he has to say. I am not a violent person but I almost smacked him up the side of his head with the remote about an hour ago. We are going to BR together, which was originally a "favor" from me (too cheap to get his own room, probably thought I would pay for it all) and now he is telling me I am extorting him. Meanwhile he is using me as a beard to act as his "vanilla" girlfriend to meet his sister next week. Imagine after two years of being together and now he is introducing me to his sister (after we broke up) so he has a pretty girl to show to her. His new sub ( who walks on water, the fat cow and ugly communist) is too ugly to be with in public. His words not mine. I wish I had never met this guy and yet something in me keeps me connected to him. I am just hoping I can get through the weekend at Black Rose without calling him out. The only thing I need him for now is to tote the luggage. Boy, I thought I was over making stupid mistakes in matters of love, but I guess women and me in particular are too giving and too stupid. I have three degrees and still men are the biggest mystery. I think I am going to pack it all in and start dating stupid young boys for their looks.

One week point recovery and still feel kind of achy, but not taking pain pills all day long. Looking forward to Black Rose, although just observing. this is my favorite event of the year. I hope it lives up to all the other years I have gone. This is BR number 5 for me, and the first year I am not DMing. Don't think I have the stamina to walk around intently watching for four hours. I hope the weather holds out and that I don't have any disagreements with my ex, who I am going with. Ah well. Life goes on.

I had gall bladder surgery on Monday, and even though it was laproscopic, it hurts like heck now. Not the happiest Thanksgiving I have ever had, no turkey for me, except for Gerber Turkey with turkey gravy baby food. didn't taste so bad, but 2.5 ounces of food just doesn't fit the season does? Anyway, come the New Year, I should be back in fighting form. Hope everyone had a great holiday. r

Web camers please do not e mail me. I will most definitely not be interested in watching you pleasure yourself, your ordering me around or any other activity that is your fetish. I don't own a web cam and do not wish to. Kindly respect my hard limits.

So here's the deal. I am actually thinking about all of this, you know, self reflecting and this is one of the conclusions I have come to. The problem with me is that I believe in all the things I grew up with. I would grow up and get a "Daddy" who would provide for me the same way my bio daddy did. I would do all the things my mother did in catering to my father. I don't mean I wouldn't take care of myself, hell, I do and more and invest my money well too but you know, all the other stuff.

The problem with me is that I believe in all the loves songs I have ever heard. I believe in the happy ending. Don't think I am a naive person, on the contrary I am a pragmatic optimist (sorry Wade, stole the title of your CD). Anyway, I am happy these days surprisingly considering I am topless in NYC and its getting cold and that's hard to be, but as always I will survive. Just my two cents again. r

A) What is the point of a short quip?
B) What part of no long distance is puzzling to you?
C) Why do you want to waste your own time?
D If you are new to this lifestyle I am not interested in you at all, for any reason. Previously I said I would mentor, but I have changed my mind about that.

I have had enough, there is no need for anyone to contact me unless you know me and are my friend. That does not mean for you to write to me to become my friend. Thank you for all the nice men out there who contacted me but for some reason I was not seeing the connection or potential for connection between us. r

Flakes flakes, flakes. Nothng but flakes the whole mess of them. You think I would have learned by now. Oh well, what doesn't kill me, or cause me to safe word can only make me stronger. At least I wasn't standing somewhere on a corner waiting to meet someone, or naked and tied up without my cell phone. LOLOLOL I guess I will hang it up in the trying department. Here I thought vanilla style dating to begin with would have been the way to go. Considering how adept, and capable on the job I am, it's still a shocker when I read men so wrong. Please, please those who might be considering contacting me, if you're not for real, or have any entanglements, clear them up before you start looking for a sub. rubia

1) Still too many men who can't read and as I am a child of the 50's I send thank you letters even to the inappropriate approaches. Damn I wish I could quit that!!!

2) I have made my hair platinum blonde, no longer honey blonde as in the photo, it covers the white/grey spots better. So those of you who might be meeting me for a coffee, you are warned.

Dear kind gentlemen, if you live out of the immediate area of New York City do not bother to contact me. It is flattering but it is a waste of your time.

Well, well I got only one response to my journal and it was a well thought out response not hate mail. A true gentleman.

I am going out on a limb here and perhaps it will get me a lot of mail in protest. What is up with men (nearly 100% over 45 who all have facial hair? Personally I find facial hair a huge turnoff. Is there some secret agreement amongst men to cover their faces after a certain age? Imagine if the females around decided to stop shaving their legs, underarms, or pussies? Yeah I know some guys like hairy but let's take that preference out of equation. I want to know why so many have facial hair. Personally I hate it and it affects whose letter I respond to. Anyway, just because you don't doesn't mean you interest me either. Just my own two cents. Hey its my journal.

I think that I am off men for a while since most obviously don't know how to read.

Vancouver and my cruise through the inside passage of Alaska was tremedous. If you want to really see Alaska, see it on a small ship (fewer than 80 people) to really appreciate the land and the animals. The big ships are a waste of money and all they are interested in is the ship and shops. If you want that experience go on a cruise to nowhere. Don't waste the resources it takes to move that monster. If you don't have a taste for down and dirty and in the land, go somewhere else. YOu should come home with hundreds of close up photos, dirty clothes and the look of awe in your eyes rather than perfectly folded clothes back in your luggage by your valet. Geesh. Just my two cents. Talk about sub space, one whale next to your zodiac slapping his flukes is worth being born.

I am off to Vancouver and then Juneau and then around Alaska for several weeks. When I get back I will reassess my direction. I will still work for the BDSM community at large, I will still keep my boys for company and will be working on my photography. Other than that, who knows. It seems so odd for a middleaged woman to be so out of connection with middleaged men. You think we would agree on a few more things by now. I guess it comes from the fact that I have been a part of this way of thinking WIITWD since 1972 and so many middleagers are just coming to terms with their sexuality and preferences now. Boy is that ever not a match. While I like mentoring young men 25-35, I don't want to train Masters. Is that ever an oxymoron?

Younger men fall outside my parameters and as such you are dumped into bulk mail. I do not generally answer bulk mail, so please realize this is why I haven't responded. I just answer regular individual e mails. No bulk mailers.

I never thought to look in the bulk mailer until a friend said I should. Oh my, almost 25 pieces of mail. Of course most of it was out of area, out of the parameters or otherwise inappropriate. So I guess some of you out there will think that I am rude and don't answer mail. Well if you are half my age, forget it, I delete you. Afte 50 life gets short guys. I had a particularly good chuckle when a 30 year old pro dommer sent me advise on how my profile should sound. Oh please darling little girl. That's like listening to my daughter on how I should have sex. Never, never, never. I think your heart was in the right place, but better to spend your energy on the submissive men who will come your way.

I am looking to change things in my life. It is so hard to end a relationship. No matter how right you may think it is to stop seeing someone, it still hurts and makes you feel lost. I wonder if I will ever feel comfortable to be with someone else ever.

Sir and i have again reached a milestone. After 10 months we still enjoy having sessions together but our view of what the future will look like differs. To that end, i am looking for someone else to become part of my life. If You think after reading my profile that we might be compatible please write to me. Please give me up to a week to respond as i don't always have computer access during the week. Cheers.

MY sir and i have worked out a new contract and i am not at this time answering or otherwise responding to any new notes.

I thought I was ready but obviously I am not. I am getting lots of nice letters from Dominants but somehow I am unable to engage in any meanful exchange.

I am flattered, really I am that you should find me enticing, pretty and exciting. Getting older and still being attractive is not for sissies. However, I wrote in my ad what I need and want. If we are not a match or you fall outside the parameters listed, please save your effort. Let me refresh your memory, (yes, subs may have demands) no married men (I don't care how bad your marriage is or its arrangement), no men with custodial children, no men outside of the age parameter. I have nothing in common with you youngsters. No response to ads without photos. If you have something to hide I don't want to interact with you.
I just broke it off with someone and am being very particular and particularly slow moving in pursuing a new relationship. If you are a real man you will understand.

Well the wonderful dream is over. I had to part ways with my Sir. It saddens me but I came to realize that it wasn't what I needed or wanted. I wish him luck as he furthers his journey.

Please do not contact me if you do not already know me. Pro dommes especially do not contact me as I find it offensive and it displeases Master. Even if you preface your notes with flattering notes it is still offensive to me, against my relationship with WIITWD and interupts my tranquility.

Happy holidays to everyOne. W/we are wonderfully happy with O/our lives. i have been released from Master to my Top and He is now mi Padron and my soulmate. Interesting how life works. i hope this year finds everyOne in good health, peaceful and well beat (slaves) or well sated (Masters).

Argghh, Sir and Top are either busy or out of town. This one is very lonely, who is she to serve? my collar is my comfort but my heart is longing to serve. Happy thanksgiving to all of Y/you. This one has much to be thankful for.

i was collared last wednesday. spent four glorious days at Black Rose, was the demo model in two medical play presentations. Sir has also let me have a lover who adores me and single tails me too, life is too sweet for words. Sir feeds my slave soul and my top loves me, what a wonderful life i now have. It has been years in the searching but for now i am on a wonderful path. i thank Sir for finding me again and my Top for taking me out to coffee that cold, cold night.

My petition has been accepted. The interviewing process has started and i am very pleased.

i have petitioned a wonderful Dominant to take me on for further training. i will find out this week if i am acceptable. To that end, kind Sirs, i will not be entertaining letters from new friends until further notice. Already established friends i will warmly and happily correspond with you until Master might change the rules or i turn off this ad.

Stitches are out, ugly scab but that will come off and yeah, I can comb my hair again. More mature subs should act as mentors for new dominants but boy it's hard to find one who is seriously into the lifestyle and doesn't just want to have more instances of sexual encounters. Each one teach one.

The stitches will come out on Monday, yeah. Went to the frog exhibit at AMNH and it was awesome, you all should go. they are the cutest, deadliest creatures on earth. Dating some but not finding the one, oh sadness.

I went to spend some time with my current Dom and friend and we had a terrible car crash. He tore a muscle in his arm and I had lacerations of my head and contusions of my head. Luckily not my face, but oh my goodness what a lot of blood. We are lucky to have come out alive and the guy who hit us tried to run away. Thanks to so many people in Fishkill, New York who came to our aid on Rte 9 on Friday night around 6. We are both recovering well, but alas I think the friendship has been sorely tried.

I am still dating and trying to be optimistic, which is not an easy thing for me. If you are out there and honestly fit into the parameters I have tried to describe, please write to me.

I am back from a week's holiday and looking forward to hearing from some special people. I hope you know who you are. I had some very erotic and sensual scenes at Summer Bash III. Those of you who live in the upstate New York area and Western Mass should look into going to Summer Bash IV next year. The hosts of the weekend Albany Power Exchange sure know how to extend hospitality. My grateful thanks to them for extending an invitation to come and play.

I am off to Summer Bash III with some friends and playmates this weekend and then to Tanglewood for a week of glorious sublime culture in a gorgeous place. I will answer any e mail sent to me when I return at the end of July. Have a wonderful summer.

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