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About lapislazuli

This needs another update!

I am now settled in LA. And, ideally, I am now looking to train a true slave. Yes, the real thing. 24/7 TPE. I know what is involved; and I now have the time to dedicate to that. I am primarily looking to train a domestic/sex slave , but one that is also someone I can involve in my life more generally.

Bimbofication/trophy is something I'd be interested in too, but only if juxtaposed with someone of intellect.

(I am not editing out the below, as I think that it attests to my being a real person, albeit one who's interests have developed.)


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UPDATE: LONDON calling L.A. - London calling L.A. - Come in L.A.!

Yes, the rumours are true. I've just accepted a tenure-track job in Los Angeles (not saying which institution) and I'm moving out there soon. All the below still applies, namely that I am looking for that special someone (for want of a better phrase) but would also be interested in making some Angeleno friends. I hear you people are all very friendly...


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I've been on here for, like, what?, 6 years?! Amazing. (Is the internet even that old?!) I've met some wonderful people through this site and had some great experiences. (If you are new and getting bombarded with all kinds of crap, don't become cynical too quickly.) I've hit 30, everything else in my life has clicked into place, and - now brace yourself!, which is really just my saying to myself "brace yourself" - I am looking to find someone for a serious D/s (if you like the nomenclature) relationship. There, I said it.

Me: philosophy lecturer at top London uni. Naturally dominant but sane with it. Witty, charming, and unashamedly intellectual. Non-internet nerd and non-ugly. Of course, it's easy to say all that (though not as easy to have resisted the temptation of being self-deprecating in order to not come across as arrogant) but the proof is in the proverbial pudding.

Another thing that was hard to resist: not giving a list of things I like so as to signal that I realise that (giving) some such list is formulaic. (If you appreciated the "(giving)" in the previous sentence, then I'd like to hear from you. Of course, that's not a bi-conditional so even if you are totally lost at this point, keep reading!) Speaking of which: foodie; reading literature (heavy, melancholic - nothing frilly please); films (greatest film ever made? Mulholland Drive, although there are competitors); art galleries and museums (especially design and photography); ... I could go on but a little mystery and discovery aren't bad things.

You: naturally submissive and looking to be corrupted. (Details on request.) You must be skinny or be willing to become so. ("Oh how superficial!" Physical attraction is a pre-requisite for a good relationship.) Presentable, perhaps even hinting at "bimbo" in appearance. However, doormats do bore after a while (and frankly I want the mother of my children to be a woman of substance! But that's getting ahead of ourselves.) so interests and aspirations encouraged! Must be loyal (once it's earned), obedient (at least in a second-order sense), and wanting to please (simpliciter!) Shy girls are particularly welcome (modulo the problem of induction).


I want to find someone that I can take by the hand and share life with... Of course, cute little minxes that just need some attention are welcome in the interim. To appropriate a Guardian Soulmates category: Let's see what happens!





***Bed and Board in Exchange for Kinky Domestic Service***

Recently(ish - it's been over a now) moved to LA from London (UK), and all is settled enough that I can offer something that I've been interested in for a while: bed and board in exchange for kinky domestic service.

What I envisage is someone to take the (newly appropriated!) maid's room in my apartment, free of rent and bills (including a food budget), in exchange for some hours of kinky domestic service per week, three weekday evenings and Saturday mornings per week, say, but it's negotiable. The rest of the time you'd be off-duty, as it were, free to use the apartment as if we are housemates (although with some, erm, residual? boundaries). I guess this would suit someone who is working but looking for a financial boost, or seeking employment, or studying, for example.  

"Who are you?" I'm a 32 year old British university professor, who moved to LA to take up a tenure-track position. I'm intelligent, sociable, cultured, well-traveled, sane, and aware that writing such things seldom sounds good to the reader, lacking, as it does, modesty, but also that social norms are such that such self-deion is needed. I've been in the BDSM scene (dislike that phrase) for many years and I'm comfortable with my own sexuality, namely as a straight (alas!) male dominant. (That means that I'm only interested in female maids - shame to be missing out on all the male ones, I know!)

"Why only the part-time position as opposed to a 24/7 thing?" I think I would enjoy having this situation with someone who is pursuing things outside of the situation more than a 24/7 thing - I'm too career-focused at the moment for the responsibilities that would come with the latter, for one thing. Also, not all my friends know about my sexual/lifestyle  preferences, and I hope to have them around and to be able to introduce you as my housemate. You're to be maid for some of the week as per our agreement, and the rest of the time we'd be housemates.

"What do you mean by "kinky domestic service"?" The maid will conduct housework, mainly cleaning, ironing, and cook some meals, and further to this I'm particularly interested in someone who is a trained masseuse/isn't trained but knows how to get those knots out! The maid is not required to provide sexual services. "OK, but where is the kink?!" The maid will be suitably attired in outfits of my choosing, which will be revealing/sexy (does anyone still use "sexy"?!) but need not be fully nude. The maid's work will be maintained/corrected through domestic discipline, the specifics and extend/severity of which will be agreed ahead of the maid coming into service, but may include, for example, redoing of chores, verbal reprimand, and OTKs.  

"What do you mean by "bed and board"?" The maid will get her own room: a modest single-bed room, with shelves and clothes rack, and window. The maid may decorate her own room. Outside of service time, the maid is a housemate and may use the apartment in its entirety. The apartment is lovely. (If it gets as far as you being a genuine prospect, pictures/tour will be provided, of course.) The maid will not have to pay rent, nor any bills, and the maid will receive a food budget the details of which can be negotiated. The apartment is in Los Feliz, 90027.

"What are you looking for in a maid?" Someone who is naturally submissive and who envisages enjoying/feeling fulfilled by some such arrangement, but who also has a life outside of this situation. The maid must be discipline orientated, non-bratty, responsible, and sane. Off-duty: please be interesting!

I'm genuine, as I hope I've conveyed with the tone of the above if not the length alone, and I know what I'm doing. *coughs politely*  If you are interested or if you have questions pertaining to this, get in touch via ssages.

best wishes,
LL


I've recently been playing chess more regularly, and I had this idea:

Imagine some old country estate with a lawn, perfectly flat and of a green, infinitely dense. At the far end, there is a giant chessboard etched into a limestone patio; you know, the kind for which the pieces are almost life-sized.(This is all by way of setting the scene, clearly) The idea was that I had challenged a Dom/me to a game of giant chess, except that instead of the plastic pieces, we each had to field a set of real people to take their places. Of course, the "pieces" would have to be aptly dressed: I'm seeing Louis XIV-esque attire suitably kinked. With our "pieces" in place, the game would start. Each "piece" I capture in the game I shakle up at my end. Likewise my opponent. The winner, once emerged, gets to drag away his/her captives and do with them as pleased, perhaps in the dungeon of the aforementioned estate. The loser would, of course, return their captured "pieces".

Who's in?

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