LadySavant

Female Dominant, 37, Lincoln, Illinois

Female Dominant, 60, San Antonio, Texas

Female Switch, 47, providence, Rhode Island

NEW THOUGHT! I find it odd when people threaten you with reporting you because you've made the decision to snub them, not give them the time of day, or, ignore them.  As of any of the latter are a violation of the Terms of Service or Terms of Agreement for collarme.com. What I find even more unbelievable are those who actually fall for this threat and then have the nerve to write about it in their journal.  "...and those few who have reported me because they didn't like my responses" or, "...for that guy who got pissy because I wouldn't send him any nude pics..."  and of course my favorite, "...so here I am using this new profile because my last one was shut down by CM because I was reported by someone for not agreeing to prove I'm real." Wake up everyone...if you're gullable to be fooled about that silly threat, and you are now, when the engagement is strictly cyber, how do youthink you'll be treated in real time?  One of two things is happenning...you're just as guilty as playing a game as the men and women you're complaining about, or, you need to forget about this lifestyle because if you can't handle this pettiness, how in this made world could you be able to handle the petty nature that the human side of a Master or Mistress is likely to dish out when they're having a bad day?

I find myself wondering why people go out of their way to use labels like "True Dominant" or "true submissive."  Becuase we live in a world where definition is so subjectve and almost never objective.  So I wonder who it was who decided what a True submissive or Dominant was?  No one of course.  All the various definitions I've read from so many different people are just that...definitions that work for them.  I guess what is so disturbing is that many of these individuals try to "pimp" their defnitions as the rule of thumb.  They will actually go out of their way and dispute any definition that is contrary to theirs.  What ever happened to the individuality of this lifestyle?  While I'm sure the men are not as innocent as they would confess themselves to be, alot of the barking is coming from submissive women who have had their egos or hearts broken.  Why?  because they themsleves allowed behavior to exsist that perhaps should not have taken place.  They themselves, rather than say no, assumed that by saying yes, they would keep someone closer for that extra day or hour.  Of course this leads to chapters and verse of how the Dominant they were with was so unsafe, dangerous and not a "true dominant." I guess what we should always keep in mind is that what ever may be true for you, may not be for someone else. Once again...to each their own, right?

SERVED OR BE SERVED!!!! That was the one line profile entry for a 19 year old female who labeled herself as a switch.  Now with an openning line like that...doesn't it make you wonder why?

NEW RULE!!!! If you're transgendered in any way, don't list yourself as female.  Also, have the decency and practice some full disclosure and advise the reader of yoru profile that you are transgendered at teh beginning of your profile.  How can you be taken seriously if the simple act of honesty can't be practiced while engaging the simple act of creating profile that is suppose to tell the reader about you.

Food for Thought -- I've found it odd that CM has so many Dominant women who are only 18 or 19 years.  Each espousing vast amounts of experience and claiming to be the toughest and roughest Mistresses that any man or woman would encounter. One has to wonder if a woman at 18 or 19 simply has the mental wherewithall to not only have defined her own Domination but also to have learned to master herself and her ability to keep control. I think often times many who enter this lifestyle are so caught up with the notion that controlling others is the key.  Well...it may possibly be.  I know for me controlling others is tons of fun.  But it will never work unless you've been able to control one's self first.  I've had several of these examples contact me for some advice; and to each I've given the requisite time to answer question and address any issues they may have had when contacting me.  However, when posed with some really questions about themselves and the order that is present in their own lives I'm shocked to hear that most are still living at home.  Some still taking the bus.  Often times many are still arguing with their boyfriends or girlfriends about how they were reacting to others at a party the attended the night before.  It's almost as if these young ladies just aren't done growing up.  I guess to be fair, my latter statement is true of anyone...do we really ever stop growing up?  I know I can be quite the dork and immature snot in this world. On the other side of the power dynamic, are those submissive women who who are 18-22 who are seeking Dominant Men who are no older then 23.  Even more alarming is that these young women expect them to have the experience of a well seasoned Dominant males who say is in their 40's. Perhaps this is merely an issue in reality.  I definately am not questioning intent or willingness to experience.  I think my need to question comes from a place that begs to ask..."what in the world are you doing on a site like this?" Oh well...to each their own!

NEW RULE!!! If you're planning to lie about who you are make sure no one else is using the picture you will claim and swear is you.  After all, 7 different profiles this evening each with the same pictures and each from various geographical locations. Common sense people...

NEW RULE!!! If you're going to list yourself as a Dominant Woman, Domme or Mistress please oh please don't come to me asking to bottom to me.  Oh, and then do not get pissy if I respond with, "thanks, but no thanks."

I have a curious question.  It's obvious that I'm naieve when it comes to issues of gender, other then those that affect women directly (and even when it comes to women issues, I'm really not that up on the whole gender identity issue...I just like living my life without worrying about someone elses), but why is it that transgendered individuals who choose to use their sexual preferance to cross dress are now lesbians?  I just don't it.

NEW RULE! If a profile makes no indication of interest in men and states the interest is strictly in women, then men should stay away. No couples...no submissive men, no dominant men trying to convince me that they are the light; and again, just because you're a TS, TV or CD doesn't mean you're a woman or that I will want to engage you.

Why oh why would a Dominant man chose to view the profile of a Dominant woman?  Is it some veiled need they're hiding?  Or is it that they have no respect and simply chose to view pictures for their amusement? Oh..transexual and transfestites...what make you think that I would have a need to engage you just because of your sexual gender orientation?

okay...NEW RULE! no matter how confidant you may be or how proud you are, some women are simply not meant to be seen nude!

I'm utterly amazed.  Of the 128 views of my profile, only 8 were from women.  The others were from submissive men oh...and my favorite...Dominant men who think they have the skill to turn me out and make me submissive to them.  You gotta love those kind of guys, right?  Will it ever end?

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