LadyKim39

Seeking a final addition to my home, my pack, my fife. I want someone who identifies as submissive or slave. Someone who would enjoy being part of my kink friendly Famale Domme led pack of hubby and boy, enjoying life with us in our beautiful Florida home. I have a room waiting for you, set up to work from home as I do, and 4 friendly dogs who make life better. I still have my kink room and equipment and crave obedience and someone to use for my sadistic whims. There are not many skills in the kink world I am not skilled in, but there are a few I do not prefer to practice. If you are bi sexual that is great, boy is interested, if you are not that is fine too as I am more than enough Lady for everyone. 

I now have a brief chat and meet because waiting has not been productive, a lot of chating then ghosting when it is time to meet. I am real, I live the lifestyle 24/7 but of course I have my vanilla/professional side. I have lots of photos and am not afraid to give you my phone number soon. I do not chat on any of the platforms most seem to ask about. 

Reach out, your life can change this year. 

It is my birthday in a few hours. I will be 50. A number I never thought I woud see but I am happy with my life so far. Now I seek the houseboy to make the next years more comfortable and have yet another boy to serve me. Here is to feeling 50!

I seek a houseboy or a slave. Some crave this position others will lnever understand. I am specific in my needs but I am open to how they are met. Florida has not been good for me kink wise so far, but I have hope.

Lady Kim

Wow long time since I put anything here. Most likely because I have been busy being happy lol. THe move to Florida was the cherry on top. Lost my kinky family and friends from up north but ready to add to my kinky Disney and dog crazy family with a houseboy/slave. I will soon be working remotely and it's so funny I have put my office in the play room (dungeon does not fit the room here). I hope everyone is enjoying their summer. 

Lady Kim

I do hold a little of myself back doing the search for my submissive. Today I was accused of this and told I would never find what I seek. It hit hard and hurt like hell. But then this is the very reason I hold a little back. I hold back nothing that is vital to the forming and budding of the relationship. This lovely gentleman only met with me 3 times before accusing me of this. There is the NRS that so many get sucked into. I see my new potential submissive get into it, the shining eyes, all the texts and emails and wanting to be together all the time. I too enjoy discovering someone new, the rush of the NRS, but I know it fades and reality will hit.

I almost have a fantasy of a reality. I am a lifestyle Domme. My hubby is submissive cuckold and supports my desires in all ways. I have a home and a good career. I can afford to travel some and attend BDSM events. I have a dungeon in my basement, I mean how cool is that? I am skilled at most anything a submissive could want done to and with them. I am able to have a live in or weekend submissive. I would even have SEX with a collared submissive. I have and would attend sex events from house parties to hotel take over's with the right submissive. I live the fantasy.

When we meet I tell my prospective partner of this and a piece of who I am inside and a little about why I do this. I move slowly with someone new. I am not so picky as to looks or age those are what they are, I look for something more internal. I chat quite a bit first and then meet for coffee and away we go...slowly. As it is a BDSM one you actually get more of the real me before we even meet. You know that I want someone service oriented who will enjoy receiving some pain and attending events. Because I am seeking a "forever submissive" who will be very involved with me and my home and my "family" there is a lot for the new submissive to take in and be okay with. A husband, 5 little dogs 3 of which are on hospice, crappy work hours and weekends that include trips to the vet and all sorts of mundane errands. Sure I love dungeon time but guess what, 90 percent of our BDSM relationship is outside the bedroom and dungeon.

So as I introduce the new submissive to my world and watch him smile and nod I hold just a piece of me back. I have given myself completely before and I will again. As with anything it is earned. I am trying to live my life in the moment with an eye on the future. This is a relationship. Once you are collared you get all of me, but not until then. If you cannot wait until then or make it to then, perhaps I was correct in holding back that little bit of what makes me Lady Kim.

I need an elf to be in training for next holiday season and many many more...

Looking for a male elf that enjoys serving a Lady at her side.  I believe if we start now all will be well and in place by next holidays season with a few practices runs at summer holidays.  One special elf who enjoys serving for the sake of service but more so to see a smile on his Lady's' face. Reindeer fun and games will be part of the training. Swats with the spatula while baking cookies as well as snuggling on the rug by a fire are all part of the responsibilities.

The Lady is a sensual one looking for a companion and partner in crime elf. She is discovering her primal self, scratches and nips are to be expected. She is looking for someone who enjoys watching movies, eating good food, going out to events and must tolerate her being human as well as female.  They must be able to assist with making her ideas become reality with their elfin magic. 

This is a response to a boy I have met a few times and things have just not worked out the way we thought they might and he questions why. I just thought i would share here as well.

Dear XXX

I am not exactly sure why we dance around like we do. I think in some way we seek what the other has to offer but cannot get to that point, never had a chance to just spend time together, normal time just in each other's company. We get close, I feel us start to struggle for dominance in the relationship and I think "I don't need this". I just do things differently, my way, not better or different than anyone else, but what feels right to me. At the end of the day I have to be happy with myself and my decisions.

Part of it is I do not micromanage which I think you enjoy in a relationship. I need to say "make it so" and it is done, I care not how it is done, just that is is. Saying online that you are mine does not mean anything to me, it is the time spent and that look in your eyes that says you are mine. It is your hand in mine as we run errands, your kiss on my neck while we are waiting in line and your presenting your ass for another whip stroke when it is already red and raw.

Also, in this phase of my life I need things to be about me. I give and give and give, kinda like that book the giving tree, if I don't have balance I will end up a stump good only for a seat. I need someone who asks about my day, how I am feeling and knows me well enough to know what I mean when I say I am okay when I am really not. I need someone who knows they planted the flowers in the front yard because every night when I come home and see them it not only brightens my day but makes me smile and remember who did that for me.

I don't know if any of this answered any of your questions. You are a lovely boy (yes a man but all are boys to me), one with so much energy and potential that could be directed into making a woman very happy. Or a man, gender is fluid. I always want the best for those I meet. Those I chat with online, those I have coffee and laughs with, and those who I have had the privileged to actually have my hands on their bodies and touch more than their skin.

Life has a funny way of making us aware of what and who are important to us.

Lady Kim

It is good to be reminded now and then that you have touched someone's life in a good way and will be remembered fondly. There is a submissive that I was with for a bit over a year about 5 years ago. We enjoyed each other's company and played well together but we both knew we were not meant to be long term. He had been rather vanilla, but a swinger and wanted to experience some aspects of BDSM. He trained up rather well. I found a Lady and introduced the two and they were instantly in lust. They are actually now engaged to be married and I am to the the best man! I see the both of them a few times a year and it is always fun to catch up. She is now more of a switch and has Me "tune him up" on occasion and they have asked Me to do a session with the both of them submissive to Me. I am not sure how I feel about that yet. I guess what I am really saying is that I am happy that most of My boys I have spent any significant time with in the past in any D/s way I am still at least friends with. He respects Me as a Lady and treats Me as such when we are together. He and hubby and pet were all very attentive when we all were in Chicago this weekend. I could not have been happier (except if I had had a slave boy along as well, but that is a different story).

LADY KIM

Service

My pet and hubby know service and the rewards it gets them in the end to have a happy Lady. They spend all morning blowing insulation into the attic. To many this may not seem to be service or at least the service they think of when submitting to a Lady but to Me it is the perfect example. Both had many other things they could have been doing on a beautiful sunny Sunday morning (especially since pet did not get home until 3:30 am). They chose to care for My home, to help provide warmth in the winter and keep the house cooler in the summer. It needed to be done but was not a chore as they did it for Me. They always think of Me and put My needs and wants first. The smile I give them, the big hug and kiss would be enough for them...I plan to give them a much bigger reward later today...

Now where is My slave boy to finish off this lovely house?

Lady Kim

Finally the new pup figured things out. I had a day to spend with him. He showed up with stars in his eyes and went home with scars on his butt. He wanted to be a slave, I knew better but he was insistent and a bit bothersome with texts, IM's and emails. 

Here was the day... We ran errands, 5 or six stops including a box hardware store to get bags of yard supplies. He then had to unload the car and put the items away. Then he did the weed n feed for the yard. He spent well over an hour planting flowers in pots for Me. I had him clean up trade his undies for pretty purple lace panties, then we went to a local BBW swingers group munch. Where I embarrassed him totally by being there as My potential pet and definitely the youngest pup there. (It was not the group of people he had assumed it would be from his porn watching) We then returned home and I took him into the dungeon. He had never been in a dungeon or secured to a cross, or flogged, or bit, or marked. Well he has now. I then took him to the hot tub which burned like fire on his sore red bottom. I spent about an hour teasing him, edging him over and over until he was sore and begged Me to cum or stop (so of course we stopped) I sent him home, actually forgetting to send his undies home with him, and instructed him to text Me when he got home so I would know he was safe. 

Imagine this, I did not hear from him. A few days later I texted him to be sure he was alive and doing okay. He said he went home that night and slept for 12 hours, he was fine, and he would text Me when he was available again...

Still waiting to hear from him and NOT holding My breath. It was fun and I think I did the Dommes of the area a favor, he will not be begging to be a slave again for a long time I think.

In Kink and Kindness

Lady Kim

Well, I should have known better. 

I took My profile offline  and the submissive I was so in lust over is no longer an option. I knew it was not going to be long term but had hoped for a summer fling at least. It is better for Me over all though so I can focus on finding the slave that I will better fit into My life and home. he did remind Me that I am not going to separate My sensuality and sexual nature from that of My Mistress and Domme side of Me. I am a whole and I will find someone who appreciates that. If you serve Me you will serve all of Me. My sadistic needs along with My sensual ones. I am also demanding that he be willing and able to attend events and parties as Mine. I am now going to do negotiations as Florida Dom said at one of his classes at Kinky Kollege "My negotiations consist of do you want to do what I want to do? then we will play and move forward, if you do not want to do what I want to do then thank you for your interest and good luck.".

Okay done with My mini rant, they are not often or intense, but it just needed to be released so I can move forward and find My one...

soooo

I had a second meeting with a potential pet tonight. we meet a week ago for a meet and greet and hit it off quickly.

he has been texting every day, just the right amount of interest. (I love a good morning and good night text). he seems to be interested in the same play that I am. he seems to enjoy the more intimate side of M/s as well as the harder aspects. he seems to want to attend events on My leash. he has a life, a good one, as do I so we would be additions too and completion for each other, dessert of sorts.

soooo

We met tonight and I did everything "wrong" for a Domme. At least per THE DOMME RULE BOOK as everyone knows is out there and the only true way to do things. His submission called to the woman in Me. A big part of the reason I prefer boy pets is that I like boys. I am a very sensual and sexual Domme as well as sadistic and strict. I cannot and will not separate these part of Myself.

anyways he was a very good boy. he offered me a drink, he was patient as I chattered on while relaxing from coming from work. (not ever mentioning how I was late meeting because of that work). he was a gentleman. and underneath it all his sexuality and submission burned. 

I cannot tell anyone how hard it is for Me to relax My control to be able to enjoy being worshiped. When he looked up at Me with his bedroom brown eyes and said "what do you want Lady Kim?", I was lost. For some reason this boy was what I wanted and I wanted him to worship Me as the woman I am. A submissive meets his Lady's needs and this pet did that for Me. he had listened during our chats and texts to what I enjoy. he listened to My body and My subtle direction. As a reward he was able to listen to Me cum over and over for him.

Oh course My mind wandered to "oh, his chest is nice and smooth, I would love to do wax play with him, and oh, his ass is nice and firm, I would love to take My canes to it, and oh, I would love to see My rope on his body" and I hope that in the near future we do all of that and more.

Sooo

For tonight the insomnia does not chase Me. I am relaxed and ready to sleep. I will not focus on how I could have done things differently or taken him in hand right away to show him who is in charge. I will focus on the fact I felt like a Goddess and hope to hell I get to be a "wrong Domme" again in the near future.

Odd...

I have a young pup who is interested in being MINE. We have had discussions till the wee hours of the morning, and have met once or twice and enjoyed the time spent together. he insists he can be a slave, as that is what I desire. 

This weekend I have a lot to do, general spring chores, a few hours of work, and getting together for My next semester of school which starts this Monday. Of course pup wants to come over to be near Me (who could blame him?). 

So as I am running around the house he is doing little things I have asked him to do. We sit down to eat lunch and he looks at Me with his bedroom brown eyes asking what is next. I tell him I need to get online to start My new course for school and while i am doing that i want him to sit near Me and go through My change bucket to find state quarters I am missing as i have decided to collect them and I am missing several.

He had the nerve to balk. "I thought we would go down to the dungeon for a while..." In the middle of My day, middle of getting My home and Myself set for the weekend and next week, when I allowed him to be with Me under My feet as I go about life. He wanted to join My life, this is how it is. 

Needless to say he found some quarters for Me and then I sent him home. I had a nice play session of Easter colored wax followed by a good soak in the hot tub. Now I will sit in the hot tub alone tonight thinking up devious tortures for him and perhaps pup will learn that he earns My attention and play time. 

Lady Kim

It's My birthday. I have a lot of thinking going on. Who I am. Where I am going with My life, My relationships and My little corner of the world. I am now a woman of a "mature age" (says the medical field). I am still very young at heart, though I do have an old soul. How all of this will play out with My BDSM part of My life I Am not sure, but I am looking forward to the journey. 

For those of you that know and have asked...

My surgery went well. They had to do a bit more than expected but I was allowed to come home that same night (I think they were glad to be rid of Me)

Recovery is slow and painful. I am still playing the waiting game on the biopsy so I don't even feel as if I want to chat to move forward because I am not sure how much or what kind of a forward future is in place for Me at this time.  Once I am in the clear I will be back to My old self only better than ever I hope.

Lady Kim

Happy Valentines Day

I know it is a bit of a Hallmark Holiday but I think that in the middle of the cold and dark winter it reminds us to rekindles the flames of passion. I am still a sucker for flowers and a good meal. Time to tease and anticipate our intimacy later in the evening.

Then off to the dungeon to play. Red rope to decorate My pet in. The black and red collar around his throat. I bring out the original red leather flogger gifted to Me that started My journey into kink. Red and pink marks on his canvas offered willingly for My pleasure. Then cuddling together, wrapped up in each other, maybe a tear, his or Mine I am not sure. Forr Me this is Valentines Bliss...

Ok I know it is short notice but I would love to go to this event...

http://www.powerexchangesummit.org/

pet cannot go so if one of My boys on here is interested and can get the time off I would love to plan this with someone.

LK

SIGH

I am back home now. I loved the UK, the culture and the people. The sights were breathtaking. I have a busy week of catching up with work and then Kinky Kollege Spring Break is this weekend. Hopefully I will be able to take a breath next week and catch up with a lot of My friends on here.

Lady Kim

I am soooo excited. I leave for the United Kingdom in a day. I am there for a little over a week. I am at Durham and then London. Each day is just packed with activities. One I am really looking forward to it the London Dungeon Tour. Maybe I will come home with some wonderful new ideas for torture! So if I do not answer your emails, you know I am off having fun.