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	About LadyCatie Hello there. My pictures show my rope work. One or two of them even show me. Yes, I'm told a lot of flattering things. Flattery gets you nowhere. Sincerity and honesty do. Right now I am looking for those interested in spankings and beatings. Ones who are looking to show their appreciation for the work I put into your ass warming. Either online or in person. If you're interested in a little bondage, a lot of pain (sometimes combined with the sensual), a little roleplay (though I'm short on costumes, I do my best with what I have) and can understand that I do not do sex, feel free to message me either here or through the link below. http://catiescanes.angelfire.com/about-lady-catie.htmlhttp://catiescanes.angelfire.com/index.html I WILL ask questions to see if you've visited my site. I WILL be very clear and picky in the negotiations. And you WILL be honest with me. The more references you can provide, the better. http://catiescanes.angelfire.com/about-lady-catie.htmlhttp://catiescanes.angelfire.com/index.html If you're thinking that you can have a relationship with me, think again. I have a boyfriend. I have a slave - they are not the same person. I love both of them VERY much and no one will ever take me from them. Please don't waste my time. Yes, I have a lovely smile and nice eyes. Jerk off to thoughts of them, I don't care, but don't approach me thinking you can take me from my Loves.

Today I sit here with carnal cravings and children on March Break. The two don't mix lol

I am looking for people who want their asses beaten and are willing to show a Domme an appropriate tribute. I suppose I should do the live chat and stuff but I'm not really the type. I am good for a lot of things but chatrooms are not one of them.

I figure that those million subs out there who want spanked, who self-spank and are looking for guidance, know what they're looking for. I make it quite clear that's what I do. If you're interested, drop me a line. I tend to respond immediately.

There are moments when I absolutely love life.

Things are pulling together and by the Gods, for the first time in my adult life I am truly happy.

I hardly know what to do with myself.

There are a wall of Men standing between me and the rest of the world. Good luck getting past them.

For those of you who are looking at me with interest, there are a few things you need to know.

One, I have 8 Guardians, 7 of Whom are VERY possessive and protective. You want anything with me, you're going to end up talking to them at some point.

Two, I'm not looking for long distance. If you've plans to come to me, that'd be one thing, but long distance that remains long distance is unacceptable.

And finally, I'm as submissive as I am Dominant and I give my all to both states. And which I am in any given moment is a toss up. Right now, there is so much I have to have control over that I prefer being a lapslut and cuddlebunny. Can't deal? Go away. I'm trying to get my shit together and I don't need life more complicated than it is.

That shit I was talking about being mired in?

Almost drowned in it.

But it's over and I can begin to move on. In a weird way, I feel lighter. It doesn't hurt as bad as I thought it would. Which says something I guess.

Anyway, life shall move on now. I'm not mired in the shit anymore. I gave up hope some time ago, it's time I gave up on the what I should have been hoping for. It's done. It's time to get on with life.

I've been looking at the profiles of those who look at mine. Just out of curiousity at the kind of people who think that I - at least at first - appear interesting enough to check out.

I wonder, at times, why it is that they do not message. Am I intimidating? Too weird, too forthright, too demanding?

Friends are a good thing. I love to talk to people, get to know their points of view, life and kink experiences. And I like finding kindred spirits.

I was reading one such profile, a Daddy Dom (which is kind of titillating, I'll be honest) and I love what it says in His profile. The fact that He agrees with it affords Him a certain level of respect I don't often hand out before getting to know someone. That is the kind of thinking I like. The kind of forethought and time I like. It is that kind of Person, one who knows that a slavie heart is a fragile thing and that trust, once given, is a committment for that girll/guy. I like it alot. He knows who He is, and as much as I'd like to share the words with you all, I'll not put His name down without His permission. Nor will I repost them, without the permission of the author. I AM an author (published, tyvm) and I demand the same courtesy.

Respect. Honesty. These are things I value.

Once again, weeks pass without an entry. -.- Life is full of shit sometimes.

Sometimes you get mired in it.

Sometimes it's just fertilizer. .......okay, so that's a stretch but really, any time you can turn a negative into a positive it's a good thing.

The men in my life have a habit of pissing me off. I'm not perfect, not a chance, I have a lot of baggage and I'm kind of high maintenance. Not in the spoil me with stuff kind of way, I like that but it's not a huge deal, I'd rather I got quality time. But they tend to forget that. I've been screwed over so many times by them that I now have a hard time trusting that I'm not being used or played or cheated on. I'm a stickler for up front and honest these days and horribly paranoid.

Ah well. We shall see what the remainder of this turn around the sun brings. Maybe by the time the Fall Equinox rolls around things will be more stable and a LOT less frustrating.

And maybe I'll have replaced Bob with a little slapping of flesh on flesh eh? (hahaha Good luck to whomever it is)

Well!

Here I am back in Canada.

Single.

Annoyed about it but perhaps it's a good thing.

The single-ness that is. I'm a hands on type of person and hands-on Me doesn't quite work consistently. The sounds and feel of flesh on flesh are more exciting than the sounds of Bob. (that's B.O.B. really)

However, I'm really picky lol It will be My downfall one day.

We shall see what life brings. Perhaps a lovely life making money with percussion play. Perhaps not. But first things first - health insurance, then an income and My own place. This staying with the ex-hubby blows.

We are moving to North Carolina. I will be offline from the first to the seventh. Give or take a day or two. Once We are settled I will perhaps be looking for a slave to train in that area, perhaps doing the Pro thing there. It will depend on how the reality of what We're proposing turns out.

And so the world continues to turn. The good news is that We're out of My mother-in-law's house. The bad news is that We're still not in Our own space. I have a lead on a place so hopefully it'll happen in July. ... This of course means the Pro thing hasn't happened either. I have, however, accepted someone for training, in case the big white words at the top of My profile weren't enough of a clue. ;-) And it seems I am making headway with the slavie I call puppy. Yay! *crosses My fingers* I'm glad, cause I miss him. Be good.

I haven't been around a lot because My situation hasn't been one where I can handle a slave. I live with my mother-in-law and two of My fiance's brothers AND a friend of theirs. THat makes 6 people in this broken down one-bedroom house. It's driving Me CRAZY. So we had a lead on a place, two bedroom trailer *rolls eyes*, for 350. Which fit in with Our income. But I talked to the guy about it today and he said no, he wants FIVE-fifty. Which doesn't work. So I've decided to go Pro. I still want a personal 24/7 situation but I'm going to go Pro because this way I can do what I need to do for Me (which is play with the kink) and make some money. I think I'd be damn good at it. I'm just trying to decide how best to go about it until We get our own place. Any suggestions?

I think that I will share a portion of an email I just sent a potential sub. (I do prefer slaves btw but I like this one, has several qualities I enjoy in the people in My life)   his views on the D/s relationship work for Me and encouraged Me to share Mine.   If you wish to know how I feel about My property, read on:     I was beginning to think for a moment, however, that we may be on two different tracks of thought completely but this:

Well I feel dom and sub are two sides of the same coin both with expectations and requirements.

is pretty much how I see things.   In a D/s or M/s relationship it is not all one-sided, not all about the Dominant. It is equally about the sub or slave, regardless of how much power is given up. Property or not, I view those who are Mine (or have been) as creatures entitled to consideration.   Whether it's to fulfill a fantasy of theirs or simply be praised. And I wholly agree that a sub/slave shows their pleasure with their Dominant by learning to grow and please and, I might add, take the initiative.

Balance in a D/s - M/s relationship is extremely important. One must earn the devotion and service, and one must be willing to prove worthy of the time, creativity and devotion any GOOD Dominant shows Their property.   One must make the effort to make the other feel owned in mind and heart and the other must make the effort to show that the time spent is not wasted.   In many ways, the balance of both sides of the relationship is far more intense and delicate than any Vanilla relationship.   The need for honesty is greater, the need for openness and communication is greater. The relationship will not endure if the balance is tipped too far on one side for too long.

Well, finally, I am back. I will take some time to answer emails over the next couple of days. Can't be on CM all the time ;-) I do have work to do. lol I'm glad to be back and as a reminder to those of you who thought it mattered: Yesterday was My birthday (the 5th).

I am unavailable until October 4th. Please excuse My absence, those of you who were talking to Me about training, please be patient.

Hello boys. I have told most of the ones I am currently corresponding with that My access is sporadic. Remember, if you don't get an immediate reply then wait. I have not forgotten.

*rubs My face* Ok, it's late, I'm tired and I've been sick the last 3 days. (boy have I been sick, it's not fun) When I checked a moment ago I had 4 messages in My inbox - one from Ontario, one from Washington and two from Arizona. I am going to answer those 4 only. Anyone else whose message pops up above ringo's will have to wait until I'm here again. Toodles.

Well, hello from Arizona! Yeah, I said We were going to Texas, and We did go there. But now We're here in ...ah... I guess it qualifies as NW Arizona. There was one or two who seriously doubted I could do it; I'm too rigid in My routines, to possessive about My space, but guess what? I DID IT. I am now a million miles from home after a long ass journey and I like it. It's brown here in the little dip between the Haulapais (can't ever spell that proper), Cerbats and Peacocks, but I am enjoying the people We have here. Now, I think it's about time to look for a new pet. I'll have to give it some thought.

Tomorrow We are leaving for Texas. I will not be online for several days. Do not bother emailing Me, you won't get a reply. ~LC

I think it's about time I said: I AM LEAVING FOR TEXAS IN TEN DAYS. There. Now everyone knows. I am busy packing and trying to scrape the cash together to satisfy Border Patrol. I do not have time to pander to new slaves trying to figure out what they want.

Well, I now know why My pet disappeared, and let Me just say he had good reason. So he was forgiven and we'll see where things go from here. Hopefully, they'll go towards a visit soon and cementing what has the potential to be a very good relationship. People are a lot of talk and very few do follow through. But tell Me, is following through harder or easier when the connection is so intense it's almost all Yyou can think about? I hate long distance M/s...

It's been what, almost 3 weeks since My last entry? I have to say, the new pet is a busy boy and hardly seems to be willing to make time for Me. *shakes My head and drums My figners on My desk* Perhaps I'm not strict enough for the poor pup. I do prefer to do My punishing in person but it looks like I'll have to make an exception. *IF* he can ever find the time to appear online for Me. ... That's the problem, no one wants to commit the time. Follow orders, follow thru on their own statements. I ask for a daily email, it's a standard thing, because I want to keep track of you, of your thoughts and feelings, of your progress in any other tasks - why is it so hard to do? This way, I know if something has happened (even if daily wasn't a command, a note telling Me so would've been politic) that prevents one from following through. For instance, he was supposed to visit this weekend, and much to My deep disappointment, it doesn't look like he's going to. And I don't know why, because he won't tell Me. As much as I like this one, as much as he appeals to Me both physically and mentally, he may not be the one. Distance is a bitch.

Wow! That was immediate! I changed My profile and within an hour had 8 little boys dump messages into My inbox. As it turns out, the one I'm most likely to keep was one I messaged on a whim. he is perfect, just about...Actually, I haven't found anything wrong with him yet. I've already tested him twice and he passed, twice. Ain't it wunnerful? Now comes the waiting for the other shoe to drop, if it ever will. It's the it's-probably-to-good-to-be-true game. Is it? It has been in the past, but I have to say that My Mate was a too-good-to-be-true and He sure as well didn't fail Me. So hopefully My new pet-to-be won't either. ;-)

Today brings changes to My profile that I hadn't thought I'd make again. *shrugs* It happens. After much discussion, My Mate & I decided that We need a houseboy. No objections to a housegirl but We have found that most of the girls in this Lifestyle expect more from the Dominants than they're willing to give back. Not that We mind proving Ourselves, not at all, but to do so and then lose communication because the girl can't be bothered to respond is annoying. I will turn on the cam, or answer the phone to prove My identity, but only for serious comers. Anyway, yes, I am looking for a houseboy now (again). Within a couple hours of Me and willing to commit. Be prepared to prove yourself.

I have recently become aware of what seems to be a fairly common scam. I feel like an idiot and a fool. I am One who takes people at face value, believes that girls are girls and boys are boys (with the exception of the occassionaly CD or Tranny of course). I would never suspect that boys masquearade as Dommes and find other Dommes to lend themselves out to. What the f**k??? Seriously, how desperate do you have to be? I knew there are players out there, people looking for a quick screw, people who will 'belong' to several at once, but to set yourself up as a Domme when you're a male is outrageous. I am pissed. Especially since I suspect I have been played just that way for the last several months. I feel like a fool. Well, I'll tell you. Following my Friend's example, future (starting today) applicants to My service will have to prove themselves. If you are not prepared to prove that you are at the very least the gender you claim to be, don't bother messaging Me.

And yet, men still message. Seriously, get over it will you? Especially you frickin male Doms. NO!! I have a Man in my life and I am completely devoted. ~~~ I have been looking at profiles, still seeking someone there might be a mutal attraction with and I have to say that inarticulate people, people who do not edit their profiles or their journals, do not make the right impression. I mean really, your very first line is the first impression you make on a Dom/me so why you would make errors or use shortcuts? Inexcusable. I know at least *some* people are intelligent. ~~~ Two final notes... One, My health is always going to be crappy but at least we're finally beginning to slide towards a lull in the problems. Which is excellent. I am no longer on all the meds mentioned in the previous entries. I get by. Two, a very good Friend of mine is finally blissfully happy and to Him I want to say congrats! Whatotherstry2be is an amazing person and an incredible Dom. He taught me a lot, for which I will always be grateful. I wish Him and His pet all the best.

Well now, what does "Not seeking males" mean to you? hmmm? To Me it means that I do NOT WANT ANY MORE MEN IN MY LIFE. I have quite enough thank you. If you are male and you message Me, you will be ignored. Is that clear enough?

Hello people.

I'm back, for what it's worth.

My apologies for being gone so long, and to those whose messages I missed. I spent most of the last 8 weeks working on My book. Now that it's completed there is only the queries to do. And I'm ready for some fun.

However, I think I'm going to narrow My focus to female submissives and slaves. While I don't mind teaching/mentoring males, I'm not interested in owning any at the moment. Those males I've already responded to will be considered. New ones will not.

I do not think that this is the business of the general public, but since I am not here as often as I want to be and unable to respond with the regularity I wish I am going to talk about it.

I am disabled, I have major chronic pain issues. They prevent Me from much of the real time interaction I would wish. Believe Me, I enjoy forcing little boys to their knees at My feet, tying them up and tormenting them or using them in other, interesting ways. But My health is completely unpredictable and I do not believe it is fair, or kind, to have to reschedule because of it. Hence I prefer online submission.

However, the issues have taken a turn for the worse lately and I have been on heavy medication. It makes Me fuzzy and the issues that require the meds do not allow Me to sit here for very long. So, if I tell you to email or add Me to your yahoo, do so, you will get a more immediate response and many more chances for conversation. I am almost always visible to those who are Mine, or whom I am negotiating with.

~LC

I just wanted to post My apologies for not being around to answer any of the eager messages I recieved.

My health was hell this week and the last thing on My mind was appeasing submissives I don't yet know. I am not generally so cold but there are moments when One must think of themselves.

I am feeling better now, mostly, and up for conversation.

~LC

I recently read a vent about Mistresses who are out only to make money. I suppose it's true in some cases. In others, like Me for instance, I think We just want to know We're appreciated. And tributes are not just money.

For those of you who have always been submissive, do you have any idea how much work it is to be the Top all the time? *smiles* Not that I'm complaining, I don't mind and I'm damn good at it. But I think the next time you read that a Domme wants to be tributed, you stop and think that maybe there's a reason She should be paid tribute to - in whatever form that tribute may take. ~LC

Well now, I think it is time to list pet peeves. I only have two - in relation to first contacts anyway.

One, make sure your spelling is correct, even english as a second language is no excuse for poor spelling.

Two, do NOT call Me Mistress unless I have given permission. 'Ma'am' or 'my Lady' or 'Lady Catie' will do.

Emails that do not follow the 3 edicts I have outlines (incl the minimum word count) will either not be responded to or a caustic reply will be forthcoming.

~LC

As of this moment, I have 8 messages. I will view them all, then I'm done. If you have something really special to say try a chat request, maybe I'll accept it.

I will remind all you lil ones that I will NOT answer messages under 15 words, anything less than that is not worth My time, there are not many things worth saying in under 15 words.

I will answer 3 more messages out of the ones I currently have. Then I am off for the day. I may be back later, I may not.

Keep in mind that I will not answer poorly written messages, or anything less than 15 words.

A note:

Sessions are online only. If you wish to see about one, send Me something polite, spelled correctly, (especially My name!), and that tells Me about yourself. Anything less than 15 words will not be responded to.

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