kittykatmonroe

I am actively looking for a personal submissive(s). I have found that I actually need a companion in my frequent outings in the local scene and with various tasks around my home, not to mention someone to relieve sexual aggression.

My requirements for a personal submissive are going to be very specific and please, if you don't fit those requirements, don't be insulted. I sew custom fetish wear, I am active in the local scene, I am not just looking for a submissive play partner, but a model, and a companion when I vend events, etc.

Physical specifics: Male, ages 22-40, Caucasian, Middle Eastern, Spanish, Eastern European preferred. 5'6" or taller. Thin to athletic to slightly stocky builds. Must be attractive. I notice I go for dark hair, dark eyes, dark complexions. Longish hair a plus if you can pull it off. Tattoos are great, some piercings, again, if you can pull it off.

Personal specifics: This person must be comfortable with going to public (like munches or sloshes at bars/restaurants, the most public event would be Indy Pride, where the local bdsm groups set up booths and I usually volunteer in some capacity) and semi-public bdsm and fetish events (private play parties or weekend events that are open only to registered attendees). These can occur any night of the week, so someone local is preferred. Traveling to me on the weekends or once a month isn't very ideal for my schedule. I might consider you, but you probably won't get elevated to a primary status and just be an occasional visitor/play partner. You must be comfortable with being photographed and posted on my personal social profiles or website if you are wearing a custom creation of mine, face photos can be optional. Must be comfortable in attending things with a social person, be able to maintain conversation, not be too much of a wallflower, but also be able to let me network. Social intelligence is an absolute must with me. I'm extremely socially aware and I prefer partners to be as well. I do not want to have to deal with your social faux pas. I'm a dominant, not a parent.

You must be comfortable with public play, if not immediately, then after a time going to local events. Public play does not include sex and rarely includes full nudity. It is very d/s b/d oriented. You also must be comfortable with seeing me engage in public play from time to time as a bottom, especially in a demo situation. Must be comfortable with being present while I possibly engage in extreme play, ie. needle, staple, fire, cutting.

Duties/Expectations Specifics: Private play will be as I have the time and inclination, expect private play to be more sexual in nature. Must be comfortable with experimentation. This is a personal relationship, not a client/pro-domme situation, and I'm a sexual being, who does a lot more playing than she does having sex, and would like to change that in the near future. If you are a submissive who does not like to fuck, you aren't the right personal submissive for me. I do not want to keep you in chastity all the time, I do not want to sissify you, I do want to use you for my sexual pleasure. I don't see much point in a penis on a personal submissive if I'm not using it.

Any candidate must be a very clean person, both in personal hygiene and respectful of a person's space and be able to pick up after themselves/leave things as they were. This person must be very able bodied and willing to do "manly" household chores. Again, I have no desire to sissify someone, dress them in a maid's outfit, or make them do housework. I have no problem with doing housework. I want someone who can bring things up from basement storage or down from attic storage, carry out trash, carry laundry from the basement to the second floor, change lightbulbs, help with summer chores like raking or bagging grass clippings, things of that nature.

Handyman skills earn bonus points, especially any knowledge in carpentry. I've had zero luck finding people to help with dungeon furniture and it's getting frustrating. But small handyman skills are valuable as well, hang a shelf, put up some curtain rods, all things I can do but prefer to hand to someone else.

You must be very okay with cats.

Financial expectations: You must be able to pay for yourself for all social activities and possibly me, depending on the event. I don't like to look like I'm paying my own way, or god help me, paying yours. Furthermore, I do absolutely expect contributions to the toy, lingerie, and bdsm playthings budget. I'm not supplying it all for you to get your freak on, and I guarantee it costs me more to dress in fetish wear than it does a man. This is an expensive lifestyle, I'm still trying to work with it myself.

[I would take this time to say I am not here to financially dominate anyone. I charge for my sessions to reimburse my time, skill and materials, which I think is very fair. I would not abuse anyone financially in a personal situation anymore than I would take advantage of a client. I am realistic in my ideas about what a person can afford in a social situation. Usually I am a $20 date, if we're out drinking, which is the majority of the social activities I attend, sometimes dinner, maybe once a month, would be more and public events with fees, range from $20- up and occur a few times a year. I believe I have realistic expectations about what a person should be able to afford to attend events with me. Also, I am the biggest spendthrift ever when it comes to buying anything. I am a religious sale shopper, coupon clipper, Craig's List watcher, crafter, frugal gourmet, and whatever else. I'm a high maintenance girl who really knows how to stretch a dollar, so my toy/lingerie expectations are not ridiculous.]

I am sure there are other details I could list, but I am at a loss as to think of what to include at this time. If you have any questions, feel free to message me. Please fit the criteria before messaging . . . I seriously can barely keep up with the amount of correspondence I have as it is. If you don't have pics on your profile, include several. I will not even consider speaking with you if you do not have multiple, recent photos of yourself, face pics, fully clothed and a few with less clothing.

Concerning my last entry: Thank you to everyone who have been messaging me concerning bdsm equipment. I'm rather pleased by the response, however, I wasn't prepared for the volume of messages I've received concerning this subject and in addition to my usual large amount of messages, it's gotten me a bit behind.

I've decided to write out a description of each of the pieces I'm interested in having and just send that standard document to everyone whose written and then from that information you can determine whether you have the ability/interest/skills to work with me and we can move forward from that point.

No, I haven't done this yet, yes I will be doing this ASAP, please bear with me. You will be hearing back from me very soon.

Also, please note: I'm not looking to purchase dungeon furniture or pay for materials. I'm looking for willing carpenters who will furnish their skill and materials (excluding stain, sealant and leather/padding, for I will do that myself) in exchange for sessions. If I was looking to purchase furniture, I would do it from the online vendors I have found. I cannot afford their prices.

[I'll again take this moment to say that I cannot afford those prices because I have so many problems setting appointments with reliable people, I lose as much time and money as I make on sessions. Money making business - THIS IS NOT. When you cancel or don't show up, you don't only cost me the session fee, but the time that I could have been booking someone else or working my home based business. I don't know how else to make that any clearer. I'm very near the point of asking for a PayPal deposit before each and every appointment, and I really don't want to go that route. If you have no intention of showing up, don't contact me. Period.]

If someone has a workshop, access to cheap/scrap/odds-n-ends materials, and free time, an exchange of materials and labor is an excellent way to book sessions with me if you cannot afford to do so otherwise, and helps me build up and flesh out my dungeon space, which you then get to experience in exchange for your labor and materials. It's a win/win situation. That's what I'm looking for, please don't contact me about selling me your items, see previous statements.

If you have carpentry skills and ARE NOT A FLAKE (the second part is very important), I will gladly arrange sessions with you in exchange for the building of dungeon furniture. Every person I have contacted and tried to arrange furniture plans with has completely flaked on me, it's been a year, I still have no dungeon furniture, and I'm sorry, I'm not willing to pay the prices online for these pieces. I also would like to do the staining and upholstery work myself, I just need someone with the skills to cut, sand and assemble. I can pretty much guarantee any of the pieces I am looking for will be $150 or less in materials, which works out in your favor if you are interested in sessions.

Note: I would be willing to pay those prices for furniture, unfortunately, I cannot afford those prices for furniture. I dedicate a huge amount of time and energy into doing sessions, but if anyone thinks this is a money-making business, boys, think again. I spend 10x times longer on a computer, fielding idiotic messages than I do creating awesome sessions. This is truly a labor of love. If I wasn't a lifestyle dominant, I wouldn't even consider doing this as a source of income, and it is not a worthy primary source of income for anyone. Too many people flake, cancel, no-call/no show, waste time, ask questions that are obviously answered on my profile, try to negotiate, offer me items in exchange for sessions (thanks, but I already have a 360, I do not need your barely used Wii) and just generally act foolish. 

So, before you do any of those things mentioned above 1) remember that you will look like an asshole, and even if you want to be humiliated by a woman, this is not the kind of humiliation you want to get from me and 2) have sympathy for the person behind the screen and remember, she is putting her time, effort and energy into trying to give you a great session, and she is making herself available on YOUR schedule. That alone is worth a session fee. Don't insult your neighborhood pro-domme by saying that it isn't.

I am actively looking to take on at least one but possibly more personal submissive(s). I have not had the time to dedicate to this possibility, but I have found that I actually need a companion in my frequent outings in the local scene and with various tasks around my home.

My requirements for a personal submissive are going to be very specific and please, if you don't fit those requirements, don't be insulted. I sew custom fetish wear, I am active in the local scene, I am not just looking for a submissive play partner, but very possibly a business companion, a model, etc.

Physical specifics: Male, ages 22-40, Caucasian, Middle Eastern, Spanish, Eastern European preferred. 5'10" or taller. Thin to athletic to slightly stocky builds. Must be very attractive. I notice I go for dark hair, dark eyes, dark complexions. Longish hair a plus if you can pull it off. Tattoos are great, some piercings, again, if you can pull it off.

Personal specifics: This person must be comfortable with going to public (like munches or sloshes at bars/restaurants, the most public event would be Indy Pride, where the local bdsm groups set up booths and I usually volunteer in some capacity) and semi-public bdsm and fetish events (private play parties or weekend events that are open only to registered attendees). These can occur any night of the week, so someone local is preferred. Traveling to me on the weekends or once a month isn't very ideal for my schedule. I might consider you, but you probably won't get elevated to a primary status and just be an occasional visitor. You must be comfortable with being photographed and posted on my personal social profiles or website if you are wearing a custom creation of mine. Must be comfortable in attending things with a social person, be able to maintain conversation, not be too much of a wallflower, but also be able to let me network. Social intelligence is an absolute must with me. I'm extremely socially aware and I prefer partners to be as well. I do not want to have to deal with your social faux pas. I'm a dominant, not a parent.

This person must be comfortable with public play, if not immediately, then after a time going to local events. Public play does not include sex and rarely includes full nudity. It is very d/s b/d oriented. You also must be comfortable with seeing me engage in public play from time to time as a bottom, especially in a demo situation. Must be comfortable with being present while I possibly engage in extreme play, ie. needle, staple, fire, cutting.

Duties/Expectations Specifics: Private play will be as I have the time and inclination, expect private play to be more sexual in nature than in a client session. Must be comfortable with experimentation. This is a personal relationship, not a client/pro-domme situation, and I'm a sexual being. Who does a lot more playing than she does having sex, and would like to change that in the near future. If you are a submissive who does not like to fuck, you aren't the right personal submissive for me. I do not want to keep you in chastity all the time, I do not want to sissify you, I do want to use you for my sexual pleasure. I don't see much point in a penis on a personal submissive if I'm not using it.

Any candidate must be a very clean person, both in personal hygiene and respectful of a person's space and be able to pick up after themselves/leave things as they were. This person must be very able bodied and willing to do "manly" household chores. Again, I have no desire to sissify someone, dress them in a maid's outfit, or make them do housework. I have no problem with doing housework. I want someone who can bring things up from basement storage or down from attic storage, carry out trash, carry laundry from the basement to the second floor, change lightbulbs, help with summer chores like raking or bagging grass clippings, things of that nature.

Handyman skills earn bonus points, especially any knowledge in carpentry. I've had zero luck finding people to help with dungeon furniture and it's getting frustrating. But small handyman skills are valuable as well, hang a shelf, put up some curtain rods, all things I can do but prefer to hand to someone else.

This person must be very okay with cats.

Financial expectations: You must be able to pay for yourself for all social activities and possibly me, depending on the event. I don't like to look like I'm paying my own way, or god help me, paying yours. Furthermore, I do absolutely expect a fair contribution to the toy, lingerie, and bdsm playthings budget. I'm not supplying it all for you to get your freak on, and I guarantee it costs me more to dress in fetish wear than it does a man. This is an expensive lifestyle, I'm still trying to work with it myself.

[I would take this time to say I am not here to financially dominate anyone. I charge for my sessions to reimburse my time, skill and materials, which I think is very fair. I would not abuse anyone financially in a personal situation anymore than I would take advantage of a client. I am realistic in my ideas about what a person can afford in a social situation. Usually I am a $20 date, if we're out drinking, which is the majority of the social activities I attend, sometimes dinner, maybe once a month, would be more and public events with fees, range from $20- up and occur a few times a year. I believe I have realistic expectations about what a person should be able to afford to attend events with me. Also, I am the biggest spendthrift ever when it comes to buying anything. I am a religious sale shopper, coupon clipper, Craig's List watcher, crafter, frugal gourmet, and whatever else. I'm a high maintenance girl who really knows how to stretch a dollar, so my toy/lingerie expectations are not ridiculous.]

I am sure there are other details I could list, but I am at a loss as to think of what to include at this time. If you have any questions, feel free to message me. Please fit the criteria before messaging . . . I seriously can barely keep up with the amount of correspondence I have as it is. If you don't have pics on your profile, include several. I will not even consider speaking with you if you do not have multiple, recent photos of yourself, face pics, fully clothed and a few with less clothing.

It seems this week, with the addition of the first actual picture of my work, I have been bombarded with quite a few time-wasters on this site. Boys, let me tell you something: If you contact me, send back and forth multiple messages, proclaiming your desperate need to session with me, only to "bitch" out at the last minute and not set an appointment . . . . I will not entertain the thought of setting an appointment with you later. You have wasted my time and displeased me and I will not trust you to actually show up for an appointment, since you obviously cannot maintain a simple conversation online.

So, don't contact me unless you are serious about experiencing my talents in real life. Anything else displeases me and once your on my shit list, it's very hard to get off of it. I have loyal clients who drive 4 hours or more to have a session, don't take advantage of one of the few satisfactory dommes in the area.