happilysubmissiv

Ok now taking my answers from some of the most commonly asked questions as well as others that struck me as ones that others may benefit from knowing the response prior to writing me and inadvertently sticking their foot in their mouth. (See, I?m not so mean so as to not give you a leg up in getting positive replies from my end. *wink*)

 What type of Dominant do you seek? 

I look for the type of dominant that is comfortable with a sub that respectfully speaks her mind, doesn?t see that as a threat to his control, and listens to what she has to say before making his final decision, someone that has a desire to better his own life as well as the life of his submissive. I am looking for a friend who is comfortable taking control a dominant that respects and cares for his submissive. In short, some one who is not only after control, but also friendship and communication and mutual happiness.

What do you like to do?

Outside of BDSM, I enjoy things such as watching movies, traveling, reading, singing, skating, and swimming. Genre of music, reading and movies that I enjoy are vast. I'll start with the genres that I don't really relish. I don't like most rap, most biographies (although a few have been very entertaining), and horror/gore. My favorites are show tunes and classical music, sci-fi and fantasy books as well witty books (which can be found in most any genre), and classics and action/comedy are my preferences when it comes to movies.

With in the realm of BDSM my interest revolve around the mental and physical as well as sexual aspects of activities. I enjoy things such has flogging, wax play, bondage etc. but those activities without the mental aspect while still enjoyable are not nearly as exciting as when the mental factor is added.

An example of this is once I experienced a bit of play with the violet wand at the hands of a friend. This was an interesting experience in and of itself. Not necessarily something that I would actively seek again, but...Because, I did so at the request/direction of my Dom, the mental aspect of the activity and constantly knowing that I was experiencing that for his pleasure made it such that I would have leapt at the opportunity to do so again.

What do you seek from CollarMe, life, and yourself?

My hope from CM is that I can find people with whom to converse, possibly build a few friendships and avoid those that use this site for other less pleasant means. So far it seems to be serving me well. It is a real possibility that eventually I will want to take things into something more, but first and foremost I seek friendship. I think that that is a vital stage in getting to know someone and seeing if things will work beyond the realm of friendship. If you can't be friends how can you be more than friends?

From life, I seek to learn from life's lessons, to bring a bit of happiness wherever I go, ultimately I seek happiness. Sure I would like a big house, a new car, a couple of acres where I can have a few horses and a garden. I would like to learn at least 10 languages.... But if I can't have those things, that's okay as long as I can find happiness in whatever I do have. (I guess that kind of answers what I seek from myself also.)

What are three of the most outrageous things that you have been asked to do as a submissive?

1. Submit to someone without knowing them. 2. Change the way I refer to myself for someone who is not my dominant both in speech and in type... ie Speak in the third person and use i instead of I etc. While in the chatting environment I can understand this to a degree but beyond that... well I like to speak properly and I think that that can be done and still reflect respect and submissiveness. 3. Being given the mandate of submitting completely to a leader of the group in order to attend local BDSM meetings/classes. (I did not attend)

What are the things that really make you not wish to be friends with another?

Deception, mind games, and drama.

Would you tell me a bit more about yourself?

 I am single and have been interested in and learning about BDSM for a few years now. I am not loose nor do I view my submission or relationships casually. When I enter into a relationship it is with a clear conscience, understanding and commitment towards it.