My annual trip to So.Cal is coming up! Can't wait for the beach!
Chances are if your default picture is a cartoon, close up of your crotch, ass or balls, I will not take you seriously.
after several attempts to make a video introduction, I have decided that I am just too dorky for video.
Now back to your regular programming.
Me- in Las Vegas for 12 days for Thanksgiving, how much fun will I have? A whole lot.
Waiting…..
It can be such an excruciating thing. The unknown, the expected, the perceived ending, the known yet un-experienced conclusion of an event that has not happened, we all know the feeling. Waiting for an exquisite meal to be delivered to your table. Waiting to hear about that dream job. The build up that can drive people to madness, a crazed frenzy or perhaps even a peaceful Zen tranquility.
When waiting becomes a part of Dominance and submission, it can add that spark that fire, that desire to both parties. As a dominant female, it’s watching the submissive squirm both physically and mentally for the touch, the taste or release he desires from his Dominant. Waiting can bring around feelings that perhaps, without the anticipation being built up, would have never been experienced. Waiting can bring about creativity and a willingness to try things new just to distract from the feeling of having to wait.
If the sub is made to wait days, weeks or even months to see his Dominant can be a very slippery slope for the Dominant. How to keep him interested and on edge for just the right time before he gives up, after all these are men and they all have their points of boredom and need for some sort of conclusion. The better a Dominant knows her sub and his limits the better longer and brilliant the ending of the wait can be. This can mean knowing him outside and inside of the d/s scope as well as learning and pushing his limits with in the scenes.
To be continued…………I need some coffee, I am tired of waiting. ;)
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[PM- Writing now later in the night, I am always fascinated with how different things come out of my head at different times of day.]
The best part, for me, making a submissive wait for—what ever I decide that is, that he absolutely knows with out a doubt, when the waiting is over, it will be blissful. How does he know? Because I continually tell him, I tell him, sometimes sparingly sometimes with great detail of how his waiting will end. Perhaps it’s a bit like leading the witness, suggestive without saying too much, let them tell you their own perceived conclusion and by doing this, you also gain information that could help in the torment. Either use it or don’t, he still will be waiting for that ending.
Binding and blindfolding, sensory depravation, is a wonderful way to torment your submissive, waiting. Waiting for you to touch, spank, pinch, the next quiet movement, or the next kiss or command.
I do believe the writing of all this has made me a bit antsy, as I have to wait for my next encounter. I am sure it is much harder (haha) for him. But I enjoy the build up just as he does. My mind swirls with ideas, plans, and technique of what will happen. I find scenes I plan are more of an outline, and just let them flow freely and most importantly they are fun and sexy.
"Subspace or as I like to call it, the submissive zone, is a tranquil and somewhat hypnotic state that comes from the absolute surrender of the human will. I analyze subspace from a psychological perspective, not from a biological perspective. Men who are masochists claim that they enter subspace via endorphins that are released in the brain to block the pain and this causes the man to obtain a sort of a high from the endorphins. Endorphins are hormones that bind to opiate receptors and they reduce the sensation of pain and can affect the emotions. I do not doubt the validity of the high that endorphins provide to a masochist. Runners who push themselves beyond their threshold claim to have a runner's high from endorphins. However, I feel that this is different from subspace. While a masochist may indeed enter subspace, I believe this is due to the mental stimulation that he encounters as he surrenders his will over to the female when she is being sadistic.
The reason I do not believe in the correlation between pain and subspace is because different D&S activities will transport a man to the submissive zone, and most of these activities do not involve physical pain. A man need not be a masochist to enter subspace. Humiliation play will transport a man to sub space. Being cuckolded transports men to subspace. Strap-on play, light discipline, worshipping the female body, even the sight of a woman in fetish attire will transport some men to subspace. So what do these activities have in common? The mental stimulation of a man surrendering his will over to the woman.
The D&S activity is what triggers the mental stimulation and it is the mental stimulation that transports the man to subspace. There is also a dominant zone that women enter into through the mental stimulation from the dominant energy being released within them. To women, this energy causes an intense sexual arousal and fulfillment. Women need foreplay for sexual fulfillment and the dominant zone transports a woman to the highest level of arousal and sexual stimulation. But that is another topic. Lets stay on the male and the submissive zone.
Subspace is also a spiritual experience. Without going into this too deeply, we are triune beings. We are a spirit, we have a soul (the mind, will and the emotions) and we live in a body. The mind is the gate to the spirit. The conscience mind guards against thoughts and experiences that it does not want. It is like a guard that is programmed and will only allow pre-programmed and pre-conceived ideas and experiences to enter. Anything that does not fit the programming of the conscience mind is rejected and blocked with skepticism and a defense mechanism. This guard is programmed primarily in childhood and through early adolescence. (That is why it is so hard for some women to be open-minded about this lifestyle. They have been programmed by parents, teachers, society and religion to reject certain thoughts and to accept certain thoughts).
Our true natures come from the inside out but unless one opens their mind, our natures can be held captive and thus remain dormant. When this happens, our natures try to break forth via the sub-conscience. That is why a man will be going along in life and all of a sudden a scene in a movie or a story in a magazine about female domination will trigger something within his sub-conscience (bypassing his conscience) and he will experience desires he previously had no idea were there. Dreams will also express thoughts of the sub-conscience mind.
Subspace is a tranquil and near hypnotic state that is a balance between the psyche and the spiritual. It is obtained within males when they surrender their will and their power over to a female. When a woman dominates a man (be it physical domination or mental domination) there is an energy and a power that she releases. This power is sexual and spiritual. This energy demands and desires submission. When a man surrenders to this power coming from the female, he enters into the submissive zone (or subspace). As he lets go and yields himself to the woman, he disarms his conscience guard and he allows his submissive nature to be released. This causes him to enter into that tranquil and near hypnotic state. That is what is known as subspace. It is hard to explain and describe but men who go there will testify that it is wonderful.
Women love what subspace does to men. It makes them meek, obedient, loving, and worshipful. A man in subspace has touched the spiritual and he can then worship a woman on a spiritual plane. This feeds a woman's true dominant nature and she feeds off of the submissive energy coming from the man. Not every scene is of equal intensity or power but when that chemistry is there, it transcends ordinary sex. That is why I have said that D&S and particularly Female Domination touches more than the sexual. It also touches the mental and the spiritual.
Subspace is different for each male. Every man is unique with a unique nature, a unique personality and with unique life experiences. Depending on his nature and his experiences, a man's sexuality is developed and is stored within his mind. It often takes experimentation to explore and discover exactly what will trigger a man's submissive nature. It is initially explored through the sexual but once touched and released via sexual and mental stimulation, it will cause a man to lay down his guard (his human will) and if he lets go and surrenders himself to the female, he will enter into subspace. The D&S is a merely a tool that a woman uses to explore the hidden areas of the man's mind, looking for that trigger that will cause the man to surrender his will to her. Once he does, it opens them both up to embrace their true natures.
Subspace can last a few hours or it can last for weeks at a time. It depends on the trigger and the depth of that trigger. That is why I tell women to play (have a D&S scene) with their submissive man at least once a week. The male psyche is like an onion and it needs to be peeled back layer by layer. That is what I mean when I talk about taking a man to a deeper level in his submission. The deeper you go, the more intense the scene and the more potent the trigger. Once you discover these triggers, they can be touched and stimulated with the expected results. If is it a negative trigger (childhood hurts, abuse, etc), a woman can bring healing to it through nurturing and love. The trigger remains and the woman can use it to take her submissive to subspace, thus she can turn the negative into a positive. If it is a positive trigger or a trigger with an unknown origin or quality, she can use it to her advantage to further her control and power over her submissive.
In my opinion, all men are capable of achieving subspace if they will let go and if they will surrender to a dominant woman. It need only be a short and temporary surrender if it is a man having a scene with a Dominatrix or a Professional Mistress. A man can surrender, enter subspace, and worship a woman whom he does not have a relationship with. The subspace will last for the session and perhaps hours after the session, but then he returns to his normal life.
However, if a man is married or in a permanent relationship with a dominant woman, he can experience an even greater level of submission by surrendering his all to his wife or lifestyle Mistress. His time in subspace will vary and although he will still live most of the time out of subspace, the dynamics of an ongoing relationship (combined with orgasm denial) will enable the man to live a life of worshipful and meaningful service of his dominant woman. His time in subspace will be multiplied and weekly sessions will ensure the power exchange and the power dynamics of the female domination relationship.
I have given you a very lengthy answer to your questions. Forgive me if I have confused you more than I enlightened you. I have examined and researched subspace in great detail. I understand this phenomenon but it is still hard for me to explain it. It is almost like trying to explain faith or other spiritual things. Those that have experienced it, know what it is. They may not know how it is or why it is, but they know what it is. Subspace is like a trance and being hypnotized only the man is fully awake and fully aware of what he is doing. It is a place of absolute surrender and a place where the female rules supreme. It is a magical place within the psyche of a man where he worships a woman with his spirit. It is powerful and it is beautiful. For only a man who surrenders his will to a woman and enters the submissive zone, can fully see a woman in all her beauty and glory.
My advice to you is to let go and surrender to your wife. Don't fear the unknown but embrace your submission by yielding to her dominance. She yearns to take control over you but the chemistry and power of this lifestyle will not happen if you hold back. Neither the submissive male nor the dominant woman can hold back if they want to experience the fullness of the FemDom lifestyle. Both must let go of their inhibitions and embrace their true natures.
You feel like the air is being squeezed from you because you are anxious and fearful. You are looking at things in a purely natural and physical state of mind. Freedom does not come from trying to maintain control. Freedom will come only when you surrender. That which restricts and confides you is your analytical and logical thinking. Your wife will restrict you and confide you but it will be freedom to you if you will surrender to her and worship her. A train is restricted by its tracks but that which restricts it also allows it to freely move. Take the train off the tracks, it is no longer restricted by the tracks but it also cannot move at all. That which restricts it is that which frees it. Your wife's dominance and control will restrict you and confide you but if you yield to her power, you will find that you enjoy more inner freedom under her control than you ever did under your own control."
Sometimes I hold my very large coffee mug like its a stein ,guzzle the coffee and pretend its beer. Which is funny because I don't really drink beer.
Imma Dork
I realize that all women and dommes, have different needs and wants. Just as I know all men and subs do. You just have to be yourself and not try so hard to be anything but that. I,personally, despise when subs tell me what they think I want to hear... They should ask ...not assume. They should act how they are around vanilla women until a relationship is formed and both parties have a trust ,with great communication and an understanding of what they expect, to see if each of their true desires can be met with in the relationship.
I'm pretty sure I maybe insane, I couldn't sleep because all I could smell in my bedroom was the onions from last nights dinner. It's 5:30 am and I HAD to finally get up and light a candle. This is not the first time I have had this happen.
Completely unrelated to bdsm.(aside from Scarlet's Black Widow costume)........ CAN IT please be May??? I think I may loose my mind this winter waiting for The Avengers..
When you lose a pet (actual 4 legged kind), and you are unsure of what happened to them. If they ran away scared, new family,or dead. It really sucks when the weather is unfavorable.
Not knowing is the worst thing ever. Id rather have the awful truth than not knowing.
Microchip your pets, it could help someday. I hope it does for me.
I will always be looking for her.
OK, it has to be said....
if you are not with in 0-60 miles away from Cleveland, I am NOT INTERESTED.
IF you say you will relocate, then maybe it is TIME to leave your city and try some where new with OUT a person on the other end.
It is the eyes of a woman that do more to attract and allure a man to love than any other beautiful and remarkable part. Fix your glance lasciviously on her eyes because your thoughts will descend to the woman’s heart, penetrating through the entry way of her eyes to the most secret parts, almost as if they were poison, corrupting the blood, imprinting your name and your desire firmly in her heart.
~~~Federico Luigini da Udine - 1553.
Nothing turns me on more than a man with a big........brain. The ability to have a conversation on any subject without sounding like a know it all or dumbass. The balance of sexual kink chat that isnt overtly wanking material, I GET that it is a turn on, it turns me on too but there is a place and a time. Balance, give and take, ebb and flow. Its all important. It is not always ONE sided..
I found it highly erotic today, after a great conversation(not all d/s related) via chat all morning, to get in the shower and not have the water too hot nor too cold but tepid and refreshing. Like a warm waterfall.
Seriously dumfounded why are men such fucking babies when they are sick. Either suck it up take some drugs and go to work. OR Stay home, shut the fuck up, take drugs and just sleep?
"Why do people say 'grow some balls'? Balls are weak & vulnerable. If you want to toughen up, grow a vagina. Those things can really take a pounding."-- unknown
Man hospitalized with 6 plastic horses up his ass... the doctors described his situation as stable.
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I am a hopeless romantic. I like to be romanced, cuddled, and lots of PDA's. I also think its romantic to spank someone to tears and hold them tenderly after wards.
Its better to get hurt by the truth than get comfort in a lie.
What turns me on?
Intellect, a hairy chest, humor, not taking this whole "scene" so seriously, vocabulary skills, patience (since I have none), honesty, great kissing and oral hygiene. Willingness to try something new, in any situation.
-------------------------------- A few days ago, after a particularly exquisite evening with my wife Chameli, I put this post up on Facebook before going to bed:
"I have had many, many great teachers in my life. A super
abundance. No one and nothing comes close to the woman who is now asleep
in the bedroom. My marriage has become the guru, the salvation, the
muse, the crack through which the divine shines through."
When I woke up the next morning, there were the usual offerings of
people who liked the post as well as comments. One man had the
vulnerability and courage to post this on facebook:
"Thank you Arjuna for this sharing, I feel like [I'm] in front of a
choice which is between feeling envious of what you have and I don't, or
instead to decide that 'I want that too,' and, as you show, it is
possible..."
I was touched.
Over the next days, I got several more messages like this from men:
vulnerable men, honest men, rare and courageous men. They came in as
private messages on Facebook or through our website, and they all said
basically the same thing:
"I read your Facebook post. I want what you have. Show me how to get it."
So, friends, here it is. The short guide on how to worship a woman,
and why it's the wisest thing that a man can do. First of all, lets pop a
few very understandable doubts that you might have. I'm familiar with
all of them.
1. "I'm wounded and damaged in my relationships to the feminine."
So am I, dear brother, so am I. My parents divorced in a messy way when I
was four. I grew up alone with my mother. She did her very best to
provide for me, but she was unhappy and insecure. By the time I started
to have relationships with women myself in my early teens, I discovered
that I had a mountain of resentments, fears, and separation in my
relation to the feminine. The conscious practice of worship can become a
part of healing the wounds.
2. "Arjuna, you're lucky. You've got an incredible partner. I'm together with a woman who's not like Chameli."
I really don't have the ultimate answer to that doubt or question. It
certainly could seem to be the case that I've been lucky in finding a
great woman, but here's how it happened for me. I've had a lot of less
lucky connections in my life. I've experienced my share of the
manipulative side of the feminine: the victim, the rageful, the
revengeful. And I have seen the ugly side of the masculine psyche in
myself. A few weeks prior to meeting Chameli, my wife, something deep
and profound shifted in me, which I believe can shift for anyone in the
same way.
3. "I don't have a partner at all, and I sometimes doubt if I'll ever meet anybody."
Being with a partner where worship is not flowing, or not being with a
partner at all, are basically two aspects of the same situation: you've
had an intuition or a glimpse of the possibilities of a deeper love, and
you want more of it. The solutions are the same.
4. "I feel my heart is closed down. I live in my head a lot, and I
wouldn't even know what worship was if it broke into my house at 2
o'clock in the morning and held me at gunpoint."
That's where the whole thing starts for all of us, when we realize that
we don't yet know how to love. And that's that the big question that you
have to consider: "Is that okay with me?" Never mind how much money you
make, or how many friends you have on Facebook, no matter how nice a
house you live in, or no matter how big a car you drive, no matter how
impressive your partner's bust size, or how much you meditate and become
spiritual... have you loved for real, in a total and undefended way? If
not, and here's where you have to be honest with yourself, is that OK
with you? Is it OK to die one day without the heart's gift having been
fully given?
Eight or nine years ago, I came to that question in myself, exactly
that, and I discovered that the answer was, if I was was raw and
vulnerable and uncomplicated, that it was actually not OK. If I died one
day without having fully loved, it would not have truly been a life
well lived.
Many many years ago, I went to Bali for a vacation, on my own. I met
up with some other young travelers there and we hired a Jeep to take us
on a tour of the island. We drove up right to the highest point of the
island, where Tourists don't usually go. Our guide took us to one of the
most sacred temples. It was surrounded by a big brick wall with an
ornate entrance. After removing our shoes and wrapping scarves around
our heads, we stepped together through this entrance. Inside, there was a
short courtyard and then another brick wall with another entrance.
After more preparations of lighting incense and giving offerings, we
stepped through the second entrance. We were allowed to go through the
opening in one more wall, but that was it. All together there were ten
walls around the deity in the middle. Hindus could go beyond the fourth
wall. Devotees of that particular deity could go beyond the fifth wall,
and so it went on. The only people allowed to approach the deity
directly were those who had given their lives completely and totally to
its worship. Everyone else could come a little closer, a little closer,
to the innermost beauty, but not all the way to the center.
I'm not a big believer of the worship of statues, but there's a
beautiful symbolism to what I saw there, because a woman's heart is just
like that. At the essence of every woman's heart is the divine
feminine. It contains everything that has ever been beautiful, or
lovely, or inspiring, in any woman, anywhere, at any time. The very
essence of every woman's heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of
inspiration, the peak of sexual desirability, the peak of soothing,
healing love. The peak of everything. But it's protected, for good
reason, by a series of concentric walls. To move inwardly from one wall
to the next requires that you intensify your capacity to devotion, and
as you do so, you are rewarded with Grace. This is not something you can
negotiate verbally with a woman. She doesn't even know consciously how
to open those gates herself. They are opened magically and invisibly by
the keys of worship.
If you stand on the outside of the outermost wall, all you have
available to you, like many other unfortunate men, is pornography. For
$1.99 a minute, you can see her breasts, maybe her vagina, and you can
stimulate yourself in a sad longing for deeper love.
Step though another gate, and she will show you her outer
gift-wrapping. She'll look at you with a certain twinkle of her eye.
She'll answer your questions coyly. She'll give you just the faintest
hint that there is more available.
Step through another gate with your commitment, with your attention,
with the small seedlings of devotion, and she'll open her heart to you
more. She'll share with you her insecurities, the way that she's been
hurt, her deepest longings. Some men will back away at this point. They
realize that the price they must pay to go deeper is more than they are
willing to give. They start to feel a responsibility. But for those few
who step though another gate, they come to discover her loyalty, her
willingness to stick with you no matter what, her willingness to raise
your children, stick up for you in conversation, and, if you are lucky,
even pick up your dirty socks now and then. And so it goes on. You've
got the gist by now.
Somewhere around the second wall from the center, she casts the veils
of her personality aside, and shows you that she is both a human being
and also a portal into something much greater than that. She shows you a
wrath that is not hers, but all womens'. She shows you a patience
that is also universal. She shows you her wisdom. At this point you
start to experience the archetypes of women, who have been portrayed as
goddesses and mythological figures in every tradition.
Then, at the very center, in the innermost temple itself, all the
layers of your devotion are flooded with reward all at once. You
discover the very essence of the feminine, and in a strange way that is
not exactly romantic, but profoundly sacred all the same, you realize
that you could have got here with any woman if you had just been willing
to pass through all the layers of initiation. Any woman is every woman,
and every woman is any woman at the same time. When you love a woman
completely, at the very essence of her being, this is the one divine
feminine flame. It is what has made every woman in history beautiful.
It's the flame behind the Mona Lisa, and Dante's Beatrice, and yes, also
Penelope Cruz and Heidi Klum. You discover the magic ingredient which
has lead every man to fall in love with a woman.
When you learn how to pay attention to the essence of the feminine in
this way, you fall to the floor in full body prostration, tears soaking
your cheeks and clothes, and you wonder how you could have ever taken
Her, in all of Her forms, for granted even for a second.
So just a couple small questions remain. First, do you get what I'm
talking about? Does it jive for you? Does it make sense? And second, if
yes, how are you going to get from where you are now to being able to
the full capacity of your heart to love for real? I'd be glad to share
more about this if we get to know each other better, but here's how you
get started.
First, do what I did, and create an altar in your room dedicated to
Divine Feminine. Put only symbols of the feminine on it. I have a
painting called "Beatrix" by Dante Gabriel Rossetti. I have a statue of
Quan Kin. Populate your altar with anything that reminds you of the
feminine, and spend a few minutes of the day in worship. Yes, worship.
Adoration. Devotion. Offer up rose petals. Offer poems. Offer
everything, and beg Her to reveal Her innermost essence to you. This
will work miracles whether you're single and waiting to meet the right
woman or whether you're already in relationship and long to meet your
woman in a deeper way.
The second way to get started: make a practice, a discipline, of
telling your woman, or any woman, ten times a day something which you
adore about her. "I love the smell of your shampoo." "I love the way you
laugh." "The color of your eyes is so beautiful." Of course, you need
to keep it appropriate. You can go as far out on a limb as you like if
you're in relationship with a woman, but with anyone else remember the
gates. Keep you communication appropriate to the gate number that you
find yourself at. Appreciation the curve of a woman's breast, for
example, if she happens to be the cashier at the supermarket, would
equate more to harassment than worship.
So here's enough to get started. Of course, there's a lot more we can
say about this. Feel free to post your comments below, and I'll use
them as the foundation for future blogs.
I do love a good power struggle, as long as I win.
hahaha-- I have known some subs who could use this.
Romance and sumissive trust are the
two sides of the same coin, one can't exist without the other in any
relationship.
However in BDSM its open and clear
what the roles and rules are leading to a deeper level of love and
bonding that can't be explained. Ego is forgone to give true love and
passion.
It is not an experience to be taken
lightly but given wholey and forever, for you have given up part of
yourself to the one submitted too that is theirs to keep and cherish.
Pedicure + new tattoo + food = NAP TIME
I love shoes.
Dear CM men-
I do not do online, web cam? or phone sessions, so go ahead and fuck the right off.
Nor do I wish to start an online or any other kind of relationship if you are not with in 100 miles of Cleveland, Ohio. And even then, I may not want you.
So please if I fail to respond to your begging, that is why.
I think blue black hair color is perfectly acceptable for hair color for me, and its a perfectly acceptable color for your ASS. hahaha
I want what I want, and I want it right now!
Seriously- working out is supposed to relieve tension, but I swear I am more worked up after--- and when I say worked up I mean.. worked up.. nudge nudge..damn...........
What would you do for a lap dance from your Mistress?
Some of the responses I have gotten asking about vanilla relationships-- Goddess09, Ref Your journal 10/28/2009 5:47:16 PM, i have had 2 previous vanilla marriages, i tried and tried to rid myself of my natural submissive feelings, it doesn't work, they always come back and bite you in the butt, i believe You are what You are, and nothing can change that, or rid those inner feelings and desires. --------------------
Dear Goddess09,
I don't believe you can seperate your sexual fetishes and inclinations from yourself and suppress them, at least for the long term, especially if you want a relationship with intimacy and deep understanding. It can be done but only with some resentment and frustration on the part of the person withholding for the satisfaction of the other. It's difficult when you like so many other aspects about that person, but it takes away from the ultimate depth of the relationship and creates a need to fill a void. That's my two cents, maybe you think my thoughts are worth more than two cents ;-) Have a nice day.
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Can you ever really put your fetish/submission/ control away for another person?? Will that relationship work if one person denies who they are and what they need? If the vanilla person knows about your inclinations and tolerates or goes along for you, is that enough? Is seeing someone 'on the side' to get your fetish needs fulfilled is that really enough? Ultimately, will it work or is it doomed to hurt the vanilla and end the relationship?? Id like to hear opinions please. Thanks.
Seriously?? This is the kinda thing I get...
"I would like to ask you, can you watch me on the cam how i will hanging with a rope on my neck ? I would love to see your face too on the cam when i will do that from your eyes please ! How much money you need to watch that about 15 min please ?"
um how about NO you fool!
Wow, some men are really lame.
All
changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we
leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before
we can enter another.? ~Anatole France
I did a "stripper name generator"--
are you ready........
Chastity DreamSpank
LMAO
It takes your food seven seconds to get from your mouth to your stomach.
One human hair can support 3 kg (6.6 lb).
The average man's penis is three times the length of his thumb.
Human thighbones are stronger than concrete.
A woman's heart beats faster than a man's.
There are about one trillion bacteria on each of your feet.
Women blink twice as often as men.
The average person's skin weighs twice as much as the brain.
Your body uses 300 muscles to balance itself when you are standing still.
If saliva cannot dissolve something, you cannot taste it.
Women reading this will be finished now.
Men are still busy checking their thumbs.
Perfect Turkey
When I found this recipe I thought it was perfect for those people who just are not sure how to tell when the turkey is cooked thoroughly but not dried out.
Give this a try.
Turkey Recipe
12-15 lb. Turkey 2 cup melted butter 2 cup stuffing 2 cup uncooked popcorn salt/pepper to taste
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Brush turkey well with melted butter, salt and pepper. Fill cavity with stuffing and popcorn. Place in the oven. Listen for popping sounds. When the turkey's ass blows out the oven door and flies across the room, the turkey is done.
Women Are Evil By Nature...
A woman went up to the bar in a quiet rural pub. She gestured alluringly to the bartender who approached her immediately. She seductively signaled that he should bring his face closer to hers. As he did, she gently caressed his full beard.
'Are you the manager?' she asked, softly stroking his face with both hands. 'Actually, no,' he replied.
'Can you get him for me? I need to speak to him,' she said, running her hands beyond his beard and into his hair.
'I'm afraid I can't,' breathed the bartender.. 'Is there anything I can do?'
'Yes, I need you to give him a message,' she continued, running her forefinger across the bartender's lip and slyly popping a couple of her fingers into his mouth and allowing him to suck them gently.
'What should I tell him?' the bartender managed to say.
'Tell him,' she whispered, 'there's no toilet paper, hand soap, or paper towels in the ladies room. '
A male lesbian is a cross dresser or a male who enjoys wearing panties and maybe nylons under their clothes, "THIS DOES NOT MAKE THEM GAY" JUST BECAUSE THEY LIKE WOMEN'S CLOTHES!!!! Male lesbians are not attracted to men, let me explain something. Each man and each woman has a certain amount of male and female hormones, sometimes the balance gets tipped one way or the other, you have seen it, the effeminate man, the butch girl, Mr. Macho, Miss Sexy, this is hormones that have created this, and the associated behavior. A male lesbian likes feminine things, like's to dress up or just wear panties, AND THEY LOVE WOMEN! Their favorite thing to do would be to have a woman FORCE (I will explain this more a little later on) them to dress up like a woman, crawl in bed with you and give you oral sex until you can't stand it anymore. Make love to you the way a woman would. Have you make them roll over in bed snuggle up and lay that way, without you giving them a orgasm. HARD TO BELIEVE but its true. They would love for you to" MAKE" them wear a steel chastity device around their little dickies and lock it away, so they can let the feminine side of them loose. This kind of activity makes most women shutter and they think it is repulsive, this is because it has been beat into her head by society that this is wrong for a male to act this way, therefore it is wrong for me to act this way with him and do these things.
Let me tell you, this life here is no prelude to better things to come. This is it, so live it. What goes on behind closed doors is nobodies business but your own. Drop those old feelings and start having some fun, now I am not saying dress him all up and parade him down the street (unless you want to). Just sometime try putting him in a pair of panties use some wide medical white tape and fasten his little dickies back between his legs, put a bra on him, nylons, a wig and some makeup. You might be surprised at what you end up with, you need to understand that he only sees what his body looks like when he looks down he is not seeing 5 o'clock shadow, he sees breasts and nothing jutting out between his legs this is all the stimulation he needs to become feminine, he smells perfume and tastes lipstick that is on him, he feels feminine, now take him/her to bed help make him feel feminine, remember not to treat him like a male, you may want to have him use a strap on dildo for your pleasure if you like entrance. Never allow him to use his real thing. (you may never go back to straight sex again). Let him know this is for YOUR pleasure only, not his, that he can expect nothing more from you than what another women would get, like breast stimulation rubbing your hand down where his dickies used to be. He will fall in love with you all over I promise!!!
NOW I AM GOING TO REALLY CONFUSE YOU, SO STAY WITH ME HERE OK?? HE WANTS TO DO THIS FEMININE THING, remember when we talked about the hormone thing?
He has female hormones screaming at him to do this feminine thing, but the lack of acceptance from society is screaming louder, that this is not acceptable behavior, not normal. This is where the "FORCED WOMANHOOD" thing comes in, once the bedroom door is closed YOU become his society, if you can make him believe that this is something you want to do, this will remove the taboo from the act. If you can get past this taboo in both your minds you are on your way to having the most fun you have ever had with sex. He will be hesitant at first, because of the male libo. Coax him a little or demand that he do this (this works much better than coaxing) he needs to think that this is something you want him to do, this makes it ok in his mind, you have removed the taboo and you are his society his only audience. You may find this funny or repulsive at first, but you must not let on, you will not find it so funny or repulsive when he/she starts bringing you to some mind rocketing fantastic orgasms, the one thing you need to remember is to relax and enjoy this, it has been made plain to him from the start that all the pleasure is for you and he will not be having any orgasms. All of us women have had fantasies about doing it with another woman at one time or another or at least have been attracted and curious about what it would feel like to kiss another woman, to taste her lipstick, feel her breasts close to yours, what it would be like making love to her. Now is your chance, turn down the lights and start pretending, it is only you and him/her, two of you enjoying sex without all the judging that society does, let him/her please you, the more you get into it the more you will enjoy it. NOW IT IS OK TO DO, because it is with someone you trust. Ok, so now you know there is such a thing as a male lesbian, remember just because you dressed him/her all up in women's clothes he is not going to go out chasing men. Don't get me wrong there are gay men out there also, and gay men who like to dress as a woman, but there are also male lesbians. If he is gay you probably already know it anyway!!!! If you find you like this type of play you may want to take it a little further by boosting his female hormone level causing him to sprout small breasts for you to play with. NOT ALL MALES HAVE THIS IMBALANCE OF HORMONES and some wish only for chastity, for other reasons. MALE LESBIANS MAKE THE BEST LOVERS, THEY ARE GENTLE, LOVING, AND UNDERSTANDING, MY TWO PERMANENTLY CHASTISED FEMINIZED SHE/MALES ARE MALE LESBIANS, AND I WOULD HAVE IT NO OTHER WAY.
Mistress Lori
I will be the answer At the end of the line I will be there for you While you take the time In the burning of uncertainty I will be your solid ground I will hold the balance If you can't look down
If it takes my whole life I won't break, I won't bend It will all be worth it Worth it in the end Cause I can only tell you what I know That I need you in my life When the stars have all gone out You'll still be burning so bright
Cast me gently Into morning For the night has been unkind Take me to a Place so holy That I can wash this from my mind The memory of choosing not to fight
If it takes my whole life I won't break, I won't bend It will all be worth it Worth it in the end 'Cause I can only tell you what I know That I need you in my life When the stars have all burned out You'll still be burning so bright
Cast me gently Into morning For the night has been unkind
''Answer'' Sarah Mclachlan
Once upon a time there was a female brain cell which, by mistake, happened to end up in a man's head.
She looked around nervously because it was all empty and quiet.
"Hello?" she cried, but no answer.
"Is there anyone here?" she cried a little louder, but still no answer.
Now the female brain cell started to feel alone and scared and yelled at the top of her voice,
"HELLO, IS THERE ANYONE HERE?"
Then she heard a faint voice from far, far away...
"We're down here"
I could never be vanilla because it never seems to go with what I am wearing!!
A sadist, a masochist, a murderer, a necrophile, a zoophile and a pyromaniac are all sitting on a bench in a mental institution, bored out of their minds. "How about having sex with a cat?" asked the zoophile. "Let's have sex with the cat and then torture it," says the sadist. "Let's have sex with the cat, torture it and then kill it," shouted the murderer. "Let's have sex with the cat, torture it, kill it and then have sex with it again," said the necrophile. "Let's have sex with the cat, torture it, kill it, have sex with it again and then burn it," said the pyromaniac. Silence took over... and the masochist says: "Meow.
Still not looking for a pet.?
Origin of Love--Hedwig and The Angry Inch
When the earth was still flat, And the clouds made of fire, And mountains stretched up to the sky, Sometimes higher, Folks roamed the earth Like big rolling kegs. They had two sets of arms. They had two sets of legs. They had two faces peering Out of one giant head So they could watch all around them As they talked; while they read. And they never knew nothing of love. It was before the origin of love.
The origin of love
And there were three sexes then, One that looked like two men Glued up back to back, Called the children of the sun. And similar in shape and girth Were the children of the earth. They looked like two girls Rolled up in one. And the children of the moon Were like a fork shoved on a spoon. They were part sun, part earth Part daughter, part son.
The origin of love
Now the gods grew quite scared Of our strength and defiance And Thor said, "I'm gonna kill them all With my hammer, Like I killed the giants." And Zeus said, "No, You better let me Use my lightening, like scissors, Like I cut the legs off the whales And dinosaurs into lizards." Then he grabbed up some bolts And he let out a laugh, Said, "I'll split them right down the middle. Gonna cut them right up in half." And then storm clouds gathered above Into great balls of fire
And then fire shot down From the sky in bolts Like shining blades Of a knife. And it ripped Right through the flesh Of the children of the sun And the moon And the earth. And some Indian god Sewed the wound up into a hole, Pulled it round to our belly To remind us of the price we pay. And Osiris and the gods of the Nile Gathered up a big storm To blow a hurricane, To scatter us away, In a flood of wind and rain, And a sea of tidal waves, To wash us all away, And if we don't behave They'll cut us down again And we'll be hopping round on one foot And looking through one eye.
Last time I saw you We had just split in two. You were looking at me. I was looking at you. You had a way so familiar, But I could not recognize, Cause you had blood on your face; I had blood in my eyes. But I could swear by your expression That the pain down in your soul Was the same as the one down in mine. That's the pain, Cuts a straight line Down through the heart; We called it love. So we wrapped our arms around each other, Trying to shove ourselves back together. We were making love, Making love. It was a cold dark evening, Such a long time ago, When by the mighty hand of Jove, It was the sad story How we became Lonely two-legged creatures, It's the story of The origin of love. That's the origin of love.
From a posting on a Chastity board.... Men's PMS
Written by my husband for another list:
When a man experiences an orgasm there is a release of various chemicals/hormones. These are what causes the sudden disinterest and "PMS" after your subs release. My wife has kept me chaste at different times for various lengths time. When I'm in a "pre-orgasm" state, I am focused. I am horny as hell and willing to do just about anything. I stay in an almost continual state of sub-space. My pain threshold goes WAY up and my interest in all things kinky is all encompassing. But when it comes time for release after a 1-2 week lockdown, my "mindset" changes almost before I finish my orgasm. Just before my orgasm, I would promise the sun and moon... I can take unbelievable amounts of pain and soak it all up. I will make all sorts of "promises" etc. But less than 10 seconds after orgasm, I just want to grab a beer and watch Sportscenter. All thoughts of kink are gone... all promises that sounded great not 30 seconds prior now seem absurd.
This is all a result of the various chemicals/hormones that are released when a male orgasms.
The interesting thing is that women are VERY different, and consequently, it's frequently hard for them to understand this concept. When my wife orgasms, she continues her level of arousal and interest. She doesn't experience the "click" of the arousal shutting down so suddenly.
So all that said, the question is how to avoid it? Well there are a couple of things that have worked for us.
Firstly, play with the lengths of time. I have found that if I have a nice powerful orgasm after 1-2 weeks, I will be disinterested for a couple of days... not wanting to play in the slightest... but if I haven't had an orgasm in 4-5 weeks, after I orgasm, I usually don't even go down. Less than a minute after orgasm I am ready to go again and almost as aroused as I was before the orgasm. And that arousal is the key element that allows your sub to stay in his submissive head state. The time it will take for him to not be "satiated" after orgasm is an individual thing. For me it's 4-5 weeks or more. For your sub it could be completely different... Just keep adding time until you find that you give him that "release" and within minutes he feels it wasn't enough... he wants another... that's the "sweet spot."
The other option is of course to perform prostate milkings. This is a little more difficult and takes some practice and a LOT of patience. As is not commonly communicated when reading about this process, is that it's a LONG process. 45-60 minutes. The best device is a good "G-spot" vibrator. One that is very hard. With the vibrator turned on, it usually consists of a slow methodical massage of the prostate. Frequently, you won't get any results until after the 45 minute mark. The other key concept to understand is that it gets easier as the muscles get more used to relaxing... In other words, the more you do it, the easier it will be and the faster you will get results. But start off slow if you sub hasn't done a lot of anal play. 45-60 min of anything up their can get your sub pretty sore if he's not used to it.
Another fun option that which is a kind of happy medium for us is something that the wife and I have come to call an NPO (No Pleasure Orgasm). Which basically consists of edging your sub repeatedly and when he finally starts to go over the edge, either completely taking the stimulation away, i.e. your hand/mouth whatever, or immediately causing very intense pain...i.e. grabbing his balls/twisting a nipple... whatever you can do to eliminate as much of his orgasm as possible. This minimized orgasm lowers the amount of chemicals/hormones released and allow for a much shorter "PMS" time.
Just remember that this is a physical chemical/hormonal reaction that is brought on during the male orgasm.
Hope this helps...
written by .....Mistress Taboo
Hey all you married or attached men...
Try this, google key words
elise sutton, wife, femdom
she has a section on How To Introduce Your Wife or Girlfriend To The Female Domination Lifestyle
Good Gawd Men ( and I use that term loosely), before you invite me to a chat, how about a non-form, pre written letter of introduction???
I will not chat with you.
I'm not sure what I'm looking for anymore I just know that I'm harder to console I don't see who I'm trying to be instead of me But the key is a question of control
Can you say what you're trying to play anyway I just pay while you're breaking all the rules All the signs that I find have been underlined Devils thrive on the drive that is fueled
All this running around, well it's getting me down Just give me a pain that I'm used to I don't need to believe all the dreams you conceive You just need to achieve something that rings true
There's a hole in your soul like an animal With no conscience, repentance unknown Close your eyes, pay the price for your paradise Devils feed on the seeds that are sown
I can't conceal what I feel, what I know is real No mistaking the faking, I care With a prayer in the air I will leave it there On a note full of hope not despair
All this running around, well it's getting me down Just give me a pain that I'm used to I don't need to believe all the dreams you conceive You just need to achieve something that rings true
---Depeche Mode
Did she make you cry Make you break down Shatter your illusions of love Is it over now- do you know how Pick up the pieces and go home.
I love the way you look at me I feel the pain you place inside Lock me up inside ya dirty cage While Im alone inside my mind I like to teach you all the rules Id get to see them set in stone I like it when you chain me to the bed There ya secrets never shone I need to feel you You need to feel me I cant control you Youre not the one for me, I cant control you You cant control me I need to feel you So whys it involve I love the way you rape my skin I feel the hate you place inside I need to get your voice out of my head Cause Im the guy youll never find Im faking all of the rules Theres no expressions on your face Im hoping some day you will let me go Release me from my dirty cage I need to feel you You need to feel me I cant control you Youre not the one for me, no I cant control you You cant control me I need to feel you So whys it involve...you and me.. I love the way you look at me I love the way you smack my ass I love the dirty things you do I have control of you I need to feel you You need to feel me I cant control you Youre not the one for me, no I cant control you You cant control me I need to feel you So whys it involve you and me..
~Control~ Puddle of Mud
"Passive"- A Perfect Circle
?Dead as dead can be,? my doctor tells me
But I just can?t believe him, ever the optimistic one
I?m sure of your ability to become my perfect enemy
Wake up and face me, don?t play dead cause maybe
Someday I will walk away and say, ?You disappoint me,?
Maybe you?re better off this way
Leaning over you here, cold and catatonic
I catch a brief reflection of what you could and might have been
It's your right and your ability
To become?my perfect enemy?
Wake up and face me, don?t play dead cause maybe
Someday I?ll walk away and say, ?You disappoint me,?
Maybe you?re better off this way
Maybe you?re better off this way
Maybe you?re better off this way
Maybe you?re better off this way
You?re better of this?you?re better off this?
Maybe you?re better off!
Wake up and face me, don?t play dead cause maybe
Someday I?ll walk away and say, ?You fucking disappoint me!?
Maybe you?re better off this way
Go ahead and play dead
I know that you can hear this
Go ahead and play dead
Why can't you turn and face me?
Why can't you turn and face me?
Why can't you turn and face me?
Why can't you turn and face me?
You fucking disappoint me!
Passive aggressive bullshit
Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes. -Oscar Wilde
I give up. ---Never
Thinking Of You Lying all alone and restless unable to lose this image sleepless, unable to focus on anything but your surrender Tugging a rhythm to the vision that's in my head Tugging a beat to the sight of you lying So delighted with a new understanding Something about a little evil that makes that Unmistakable noise I was hearing Unmistakable sound that I know so well Spent and sighing with a look in your eye Spent and sighing with a look on your face like Sweet revelation sweet surrender sweet, sweet surrender Surrender... Tugging a rhythm to the vision that's in my head Tugging a beat to the sight of you lying So delighted with a new understanding Something about a little evil that makes that Unmistakable noise I was hearing Unmistakable sound that I know so well Spent and sighing with a look in your eye Spent and sighing with a look on your face like Sweet revelation sweet surrendering Sweet revelation sweet Thinking of you, thinking Thinking of you, Thinking of you, Thinking of you, thinking... Sweet revelation sweet surrendering Sweet revelation
Cast the calming apple Up and over satellites To draw out the timid wild one To convince you it's alright And I listen for the whisper Of your sweet insanity while I formulate Denials of your affect on me
